My experience in life--and my advice to my (now adult) kids is this: Smart and funny wears better than cute. Words to live by.

Dump her, I am a women and I say Dump her you deserve better

Hon, she has absolutely nothing nice to say about you or to you. She only came up with the " you make me feel safe * comments to save her a** . She treats you like an emotional/ verbal punching bag and ridicules you. She's shallow. She's superficial and phony. You want someone who will treat you right and who is a genuine caring person. Get out of the relationship. Look,if you think she hurt you now, believe me, she's going to do a lot more. You deserve better. Let her and her stuck up " mean girls" walk off into the sunset. They all will one day face the consequences of their bad behavior. Say good bye and Good Riddance.

Sounds like she's stuck in high school, looks only go so far, and fade away, and her inner ugliness will age her prematurely. OP is NTA, but he would be TA if he stays, to himself. No one deserves the c**p she put him through.

Tell a joke, bu‍tt of the joke is genuinely laughing = joke. Tell a joke, but‍t of the joke is not laughing or tells you they are hurt by your words, and you sincerely apologize = joke that fell flat. Tell a joke, bu‍tt of the joke is not laughing or tells you they are hurt by your words, and you call them a child or too sensitive or the like = bullying. (Edited to correct grammar)

The true mean girl way, they love to highlight the exact things you are most insecure about. Congrats on your first ex!

You would have to be a real idiot to not dump a Bi@tch like that!

She verbally abused you (yes, constant insults are abuse) and then gaslighted you instead of acknowledging her treatment of you. As someone who was trapped in a cycle of abuse for 10 years before escaping, THIS IS HER TRUE FACE and it will not get better. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect. Dump her, learn to be happy with yourself, and the right person will be there when you least expect it.

I bet she was a bully in high school and never grew out of it. She probably thinks it makes her look good to her friends. If that is the case, they're probably just as awful as she is.

Don't date someone who treats you differently based on the company they are re keeping. Don't date someone if you don't like their friends, who they choose to love and who chooses to love them is the best indicator of a person's character. It doesn't sound like they're compatible. It also doesn't sound like he's punching bove his weight.

I don’t care if she’s drop-dead gorgeous on the outside, her personality is absolute mean-girl sh¡t. Dump her!!!

When someone tells you who they are, believe them.

Mean girl called out, gaslights, next step should be gets dumped.

Her beauty is only skin deep! You are way above such infantile behavior.....she revealed her true self; and it is ugly.

It sounds like she's dating out of her league. There's a reason she has so many exes (going by context). She's with him because she can only date 'down.' After all, anyone with legs should be walking out of her toxic miasma.

I remember a line from The Office where Michael was asked to list pluses and minuses about his girlfriend. One of the minuses was "I'm unhappy when I'm with her". It's weird when a sitcom teaches an invaluable life lesson...

Sounds like her inner mean girl comes out around her friends. Now ask yourself, do you want to be with a mean girl? Maybe have some adult conversations about your feelings, and boundries, how her friends treat people, why she treated you like that around her friends, and where she sees this relationship going? It sounds like she's embarassed about your status/hotness not being up to her friends standards. If she's not like that when they're not around, it may be highschool mean-girl habits that she's growing out of. If she can do some introspection, apologise, and distance herself from toxic friends, she may be a nicer person. If not, there's no point in being with someone who makes you miserable, hot or not.

Actually you should have told her she was free to leave at the bbq in front of her friends. That would have had the most impact (for better or worse) then waiting until they were alone as it seems she was trying to somehow impress her loser friends.

There is no excuse for insults, dump her a*s.

This expression "out of my league" never sat right with me. You are either a good person or not. Looks matter, but are always trumped by personality, character, kindness, and integrity. If anyone is going to be "out of their league" it's the one who lacks these things.

"Anyways, afterwards I asked her why she took so many shots at me and she said she was just joking and I was being a child." Ah yes, if you take it the wrong way it's a "jjjoooookkkkeeee." Whenever they say they're joking, they're not. All that s**t she rubbed in your face as a "joke" does bother her, but she has to address it like she's the good person for looking beyond all of it.

When men choose solely based on looks, this is what you get. Either put up with it or walk, your choice