Imagine choosing your crappy husband over your hardworking daughter...and then being brazen enough to give said daughter an ultimatum.

need to euthanize stepdad. if he is justifying his position based on financial strain, then i am pretty sure he costs more to support than the cat. And what Mother did is at minimum two fold, first by threatening financial blackmail, and second by choosing to punish her daughter's ethical actions, and then siding with the idiot stepdad. Not much else to go on besides what's in the story, but it points to a toxic home so i think she should stay away if she can. Assuming that she lives somewhere where 18 is considered an adult there may be complications, but for sure Mom is a bitch and psycho Stepdad cares for nothing but himself.

That poor girl! I hope she just stays at her boyfriends house (lovely people to have taken her in). I hope the cat can stay there when she leaves for college. awwww this makes me sad.

You are doing what is right for yourself and for Muffin. So what if your mom is pissed. Love is not conditional. She has made it so. Your step"dad" is an A&&, not you. Stay with your boyfriend's family. You will lose everything if you go "home." You gain everything if you stay away.

Thank goodness she got out. If he'd euthanize a cat, and scares his wife, then it's time to go go go!

I think that the daughter has made a very adult decision. It is very upsetting that her mom is married to a man she is afraid of and so sided with him. But then again, is that her reason? You don't really know that either, hard as that whole idea may be to accept. If she can handle the finances of school & keep & look after the cat, go for it. There are situations where the only & best thing you can do is to save yourself. At a later date check in to see where things are. It didn't involve a pet, but with my mom. Verbally abusive & controlling. I caved my whole life until one day she did something that made me draw the line & stand. She walked away from her abusive mother, & never saw her dad again. I communicated that if she wanted us to end up like she & her mom did, keep it up. But I won't make her mistake with dad. She knew I meant it. Seriously meant it. She backed down, & if she hadn't I would have walked. Right now, save yourself & cat. Deal with mom later.

What caught me off guard is the the bills for the Vet are expensive. We have government run veterinary hospitals with wonderful doctors. I never had to shell out a bomb to treat my pet. Coming back to the topic, she is definitely better off away from her toxic family.

I don't know the exact details, but, your step-dad AND your Mom sound like dangerous people. I would get the cat to a safe rescue, and then cut all ties with your Mom until she leaves her husband. Sometimes you have to do drastic things, and you did the right thing.

Your Mum should throw that bastard right out of the door! Attempts to kill a family member don't go well. He is a worthless pile of s**t. You mother has a choice to make - she either keeps her daughter and the cat ... or she keeps an unempathic SOB. I think he is too expensive anyway ... I mean, you see what his antics cost your family right now. Do you think people like that change? They don't. Heartless, cold, unable to feel. He has to leave. Don't go back as long as he is there. Never talk to him again. He deserves being cut out of your life - immediately, permanently, and without any reason to even consider a compromise. He's lucky you're not my girlfriend. If I imagine anyone attempting to have my cat killed, I can't give any warranties not to physically remove their ability to do so - I'm responsible for her wellbeing, and that, I take serious. She's worth more than that guy anyway, and so are you. Mum has to, finally, stand up for you. Allow her time, but never cave in!

SO NTA , this girl is the most responsible and loving person . Her stepdad is a A-Hole and her mom is sickening for choosing her emotionally abusive husband . The girl deserves happiness . Nta

NTA, but her stepdad sure is. And her mom is afraid to stand up to him? Does not sound like healthy relationship.

It really tells you something about how downtrodden people are if they are seriously asking if the are the asshole in these scenarios.

The husband is downright abusive. Harming pets is a form of domestic abuse. The mom is enabling the abuse. Possibly he threatened or put pressure on her when the daughter ran away but that’s no excuse for not protecting your child or pet. The mother herself is possibly a victim of abuse but it’s not on the daughter to fix that.

I have a context question here; is there a biological father anywhere in the family dynamic? If so, and if she has a decent relationship with him, she could turn to him for help. If he lives close to where she’s going to college, she may be able to stay with him, to help offset vet expenses for Muffin. I well understand her situation. My parents never divorced, but my father was mentally unstable and, instead of shielding us kids from him, our mother chose to side with him against us. What saddens me about it is, if you ask anyone who knew her when she was in high school, she was incredibly ambitious, wanted to have a career, and maybe marry after becoming established in it. Instead, her father had a stroke, divorced her grandmother, and scattered the family, so she went husband-hunting instead, made a bad choice, and married my father. Then she became helpless (actually learned helplessness, as she had once been totally self-reliant), and totally dependent in him.

I see it differently if the is so special needs that it is difficult to pay household bills and the vet bills the parents are being asked to choose a cat over their children and themselves. I know when it was time to put down my beloved cat Cinderella it was one of the hardest decisions. But she was in so much pain it was necessary. I am not heartless but if I have to choose the well being of my family over a pet. My family comes first. Maybe this young lady will one day grow up and have the responsibility of feeding, clothing and providing Healthcare for her own child. This might help her understand what her parents are dealing with. Remember guys we are hearing one side of the story from an emotional girl who now gets to live with her boyfriend. Let's hear all the facts before you bash the parents.

Ask your SD EXACTLY what the criteria is to euthanize Muffin. Then audibly translate those criteria to human standards. Ie, too old, each cats life equals X number of years, Muffin is x time y. Then mention how many years the a... SD has to go before HE reaches that age.

Once the mom realizes her daughter literally doesn't need her, I wonder if she'll come around

This is bringing up bad sh*t from my own childhood. My mom repeatedly chose her husband over her kids, still does in fact, to the point where she even forced me out of a moving car while telling me I was ruining her marriage before speeding off. He never threatened to euthanize any of my pets, but he did beat my dog on a regular basis and my mom just told me it was my fault for not training her better. I was 11 years old at the time. I loved that dog so damn much. She was literally my lifeline. I came really close to running away with her a few times.

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You did what was right. I'm sorry your mom can't see it or was too afraid, or whatever her problem, to back you. All the best for your college days!

Stepdad is the one who needs to be euthanized.

I agree that the step-dad is the asshole, and the mom is enabling him. And I realize the following detail is truly insignificant in the scope of things, but can we all agree that holding your cat while bawling is totally different from holding your cat while balling?

No dear, your mom is the asshole for laying that responsibility on your shoulders because she's too afraid to stand up to her husband.

I do not believe this at all.

The stepdads motive is disgusting the intent however to euthanise a cat that could not live without medical care can be the animal friendly sollution. Keeping a cat alive with a low quality of life because the owner wants to have it around for sentimental reasons sounds like animal abuse to me.

in case anyone is wondering, "euthanize" means murder it.

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