I bet the people who called the OP TA are doing the same thing to their families (and their kids) that the sister is.

Not to mention the fact that all these young children have completely transformed her living environment and how much interaction she gets with her mother. Teens need their parents too, and it's so sad to think that the actions of one sister not even living in the house could essentially run the younger one out of it before she's ready.

The one who told her to stop using her autism as an excuse is also an AH. She isn't using it as an excuse. All she said was maybe she read the situation completely wrong due to her autism. Wtf.

I just love how Laura's dad is yelling at OP that Laury is a great mother, as Laury leaves *without* her children.

I also did not like the harshness over OP's autism in the commentary. She was speaking the truth. Maybe her autism helped her be more blunt about it, but it was the truth. And her life is affected by it, because she is also involved with taking care of the children (which can be really hard on some autistics), and her mother's finances are being drained. Having autism can make it harder to find/stay employed, and OP may need Mum's help at some point, as many disabled adults do. Responsible parents of disabled adults do what they can to ensure their future security. OP cannot control that she has a disability. Laury can completely control closing her legs. My sister wanted more kids, too, but she already needed financial help with those she had, and my parents told her that no more money was coming; they had to set aside enough for me (I have my own disabilities). So she did the responsible thing and did not have more kids. And she bought a house with a basement suite in case I need it.

The comment the person made which you referred to here about not your circus, stay in your lane was really nasty especially when referring to a 16 year old child. Some people either cannot read or have no sense whatsoever.

Laury's boyfriend seems to be another brainless a*****e, but what do you expect? Birds of a feather... However, the person who is ALLOWING Laury to behave like a brainless a*****e is clearly her MOTHER. SHE should have called her the moment she crossed the door and OBLIGE her to behave AS AN ADULT AND A MOTHER. Or tell her, as she clearly isn't looking after her kids properly, she'd call the Social Services. AND set limits. In my opinion, Laury is not a suitable mother. There is something fundamentally wrong with her. Either she has some kind of mental/developmental problem, or a very neglectful upbringing. Or both. She's clearly behaving as if she were five and wanted a new doll for her collection. Unfortunately, kids suffer, and this situation is not fair for them either.

Tell her sister to move out, with all 6 kids, by herself and her "bf" for a week, then come back and say if she wants the next baby

Often I notice this trend of separating families in small pieces. Like I can live in my home with my parents and actively ignore the problems they have. We are a family, we are in together.

We don't know that the current guy is also the father of the bun. Neither can he, unless Laury's mom comes up with money for a DNA test, anyway.

I was going to say EXACTLY what you said! OP wasn't wrong with ANYTHING she said, including calling Lauri what she called her! It's about TIME that people stop coddling this chick and her assembly line factory! And I'm sorry, but if mom is too dumb to say anything about being stuck with all of those kids, then that's on her! Laurie's dad... Well, 'nuff said about his sorry behind, and the boyfriend too!! GO OP!! P. S. Even though Lauri was all excited to make her big announcement, I bet she won't make ANOTHER one, lolol!!

Not guaranteed on either count of the childs paternity.

My thoughts exactly the hell its not her place to say anything. Its clearly effecting the whole family and shes apart of the family. It good that she spoke up cause it clearly needed to be said and no one else was going to say it.

Exactly!! You nailed it Perfectly!!

And it’s not like OP can just choose not to. It’s a forced ”we”.

When a person is charged with taking care of someone else's children, this opens up the parents to judgement of one's parenting skills. I did this with my half sister(18 and up) when I was 13, she had to deal with my comments of her lack of parenting skills, my nephew ended up threatening to cut a girl in kindergarten, later lived with his dad and became a great kid and now adult. This happened with my friend, "oh your daughter has ADHD?? It seems to magically disappear disappear after 3 days of her staying with me. Maybe you're not paying enough attention to her nor do you have age appropriate concepts of her concentration."

You are 1000% right! Some of those comments are pretty stupid...

Thanks for sumarising the plot here! 👍

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Yeah, but if the grandparents aren't complaining, why should she? Can they not speak for themselves?

There's also the financial aspect. OP is autistic. That may make it more difficult for her to find/keep a job. She may, as many disabled adults, need more financial support from her mum than the norm. Responsible parents of disabled kids do what they can to ensure their child's future security. Laury's clown-car uterus antics are draining resources OP may need in the future. OP cannot stop being disabled. Laury can certainly stop having babies she cannot take care of.

Also, OP loves her mom, and hates to see her being worked to death. Her mom is being abused and op is voicing her concern. I can not even imagine taking care of that many kids, as a mature adult ( over 40 you would understand.).

Glad to read your comment. Those who wrote it was none og OP's business have probably not read what she wrote through.

Unfortunately for OP, a call to child protective services would be pointless and fix nothing because OP's mother would just tell CPS that the kids weren't abandoned and that she was watching them. The situation OP is in exists because her mother has not held her sister responsible for anything, makes excuses for Laury's bad behavior, and has clearly never told her no. As long as the kids are safe and being taken care of by a responsible adult who is willing to do so, CPS won't intervene. Hopefully OP's autism will not impact her from moving out at 18, because this situation is outside of OP's control and not going to end any time soon.

Yes, that's interessting isn't it?

And is she getting child support?

And then the YTA telling her not to blame it on her 'disability' smh