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Man’s “Sister” Is Actually His High School Ex, GF Confronts Him After Friend Reveals The Secret
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Man’s “Sister” Is Actually His High School Ex, GF Confronts Him After Friend Reveals The Secret

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Secrets have a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. It’s like life’s little way of keeping things interesting. Whether it’s an ex popping up out of nowhere or a past fling that refuses to stay buried, those pesky secrets smack you in the face faster than you can say, “high school sweetheart”.

That’s exactly what happened to one Reddit user who thought she was living her fairytale with her supportive boyfriend, when she found out that his “sister-like” friend is actually his ex.

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Woman suspicious of her boyfriend who keeps hanging out with his “sister-like” friend who he swears is just his childhood buddy, later finds out she’s actually his ex

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After a few too many drinks at a regular Friday get-together with friends, one of the man’s buddies revealed a secret, saying the “sister” is the man’s high school sweetheart

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“I’ve seen the way he looks at her”: The woman suspects her boyfriend still has feelings for his ex, as the way he looks at her seems more than “friendly”

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The woman confronted her boyfriend after finding out he dated his “sister-like” friend in high school, and he admitted to it but still swears he doesn’t have feelings for her

So, here’s the tea: 21-year-old Olivia (not her real name, but let’s roll with it) met her boyfriend fresh out of high school, all thanks to a mutual friend who had just gone through a rough time. Her boyfriend, who works in healthcare (so yeah, total nurturing vibes), quickly won her over, and before she knew it, they were deep in a two-year romance.

Life was great—they had their little Friday night rituals with friends, she was working two jobs to support herself (even though her boyfriend was more than willing to help out), and things seemed picture-perfect. Until, well, they weren’t.

Here’s where the friendly “sister” comes into the picture. You probably know the type, the one who’s “practically family” but not exactly. As soon as they met, Olivia had a weird feeling about this woman, but she just ignored it. After all, her boyfriend swore up and down that this friend was nothing more than a childhood buddy.

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But seriously, when someone keeps making snarky comments about your age, like asking if you’re old enough to drive, it’s hard not to raise an eyebrow, right? And, as it turns out, Olivia was right to have a few suspicions about this “friend”.

On a typical Friday night get-together with friends, one of her boyfriend’s old buddies decided to let Olivia in on a little juicy secret. After a few too many drinks, this guy spilled the beans. Turns out, the so-called “sister” was actually her boyfriend’s high school sweetheart. Wait, what?! High school sweethearts? The same girl who couldn’t resist tossing snarky remarks her way? Yup, that’s the one.

Olivia was shocked, but she somehow managed to keep it together and waited until they were back home to confront her boyfriend. And guess what? He confessed. Yep, they had dated way back in the day, but he promised he was over her. Sure, okay, but there’s just one teensy problem—Olivia had seen that look he gives his “sister.” You know, the one that says, “I’m so over you…except, maybe not”? Yeah, that one.

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Now Olivia feels stuck, wondering if she’s overreacting or if she’s totally justified in feeling betrayed. Two years is a long time to keep something like that on the down-low, especially when he’d assured her from the start that there was nothing romantic between him and his “sister” friend. So, was this a secret or just a boyfriend keeping his love life private?

When it comes to relationships, the line between privacy and secrecy can get a little blurry. Therapists agree that, while everyone deserves a little privacy, hiding something as juicy as an ex turned “sister” is more like a ticking time bomb than harmless discretion. Sure, you might think you’re dodging drama by keeping that little nugget of history under wraps but, when the truth finally spills, it can get pretty ugly.

It’s important to ask yourself why you’re keeping something secret. If it’s to avoid conflict or protect your partner’s feelings, it might actually be causing more harm in the long run as it can lead to trust being broken.

Trust is the backbone of any relationship, and when it’s cracked, well, good luck standing tall. Once trust takes a hit, you start seeing red flags everywhere and suddenly, those innocent gestures between friends don’t seem so innocent anymore.

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You know that feeling of betrayal when you find out your partner has been keeping secrets from you? Well, it can create doubts that are hard to shake off. And the result? Constant suspicion, second-guessing, and anxiety. Rebuilding trust after a secret like this is going to take a whole lot of honest conversations, and maybe a few less “sisterly” hangouts.

What’s your take on this mess? Do you think Olivia’s right to be suspicious, or is she reading too much into it? Drop your thoughts in the comments below!

Netizens urge the woman to dump the boyfriend who lied to her for over 2 years, arguing that keeping his ex around is not ok

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Momma Jess
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being friends with an ex = not an issue. Lying about the past with said ex = DUMP THE LOSER.

Nikole
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my exes did that. I came to find out he’d been involved with EVERY SINGLE GIRL HE WAS FRIENDS WITH. (And I didn’t find this out from him.)

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Child of the King
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are worth it to be on a honest relationship. This guy lied to you for two years. It's better to dump him now than years down the road.

Ni Na
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1f7pfsn/aita_21f_for_confronting_my_bf_29m_after_finding/ (She ended things and he revealed the ex was with him when he was alone at home all the time)

SuperChicken
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay, update! Thank you, Ni Na. Good to know that OP stood her ground and broke it off with that lying cheat. She's better off with somebody who will respect her and someone whom she can share a happy and loving life.

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I want to shout at the posters "What's wrong with you?" But it's always so very much easier fixing other people's lives than our own.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He straight up LIED to her - To Her Face - about only being friends with this chick, for TWO years. Dump his a** + block him on everything.

Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When the ex is also the BEST friend l respectfully bow out. I'm not the kind of person to smile through that.

سارا ناز
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

stop labeling the relationship as 'like a sister' unless they grew up with close knit families. She is not 'like' his sister. He sounds very disturbed to have brainwashed you into this fallacy because you are repeating this nonsense as if it is true. He was 26 & manipulated a hs graduate to date him & has kept his ex around all this time, all while lying to you about the truth of their relationship. They are also probably still sleeping together. Move on as this all sounds sick & he sounds very disturbed. Unless you're ok with being lied & controlled, which is most likely what will happen if you stay together & have kids.

Don't even
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even *IF* there's nothing there between them life is too short to put up with c**p like that.

G A
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would they lie about one thing without lying about the other? Get rid.

Jorie
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he'd been truthful up front, then it would be a different story. The fact is, he lied to you. You will never fully trust him 100% about anything again, and that is not the basis for any kind of relationship. It's over. Face it and move on.

Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow.. what toxic, childish, stupid replies. Lol way more telling than the story

Julio Murillo
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hello. I posted here before. It's about I found out that my 10 yearlong partner is still talking to her best friend turned f**k buddy. I still have access to her phone and can see what she's been up to. I live in the Philippines where if the child is below 7 years old, law will favor it to the mother. But it finally pulled the last trigger when I read her messenger and saw they're having a video call, says "don't call now, I'm at home", and said "Thank you for the other day". I took a picture of those screenshots and sent it to her. To let her know that I read it. So I broke up with her last night. We're still on the same house while I'm looking for a place to stay. What hurt me the most is I'll be leaving my child. But yeah, it's relieving. Quite a toxic relationship anyway. I did not cheat nor thought about it. Now I think I'm free. I can play around or look for a woman who respect and values me. I can only thank Cybrespirit gmail com for giving me access to her device for this long.

Momma Jess
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Being friends with an ex = not an issue. Lying about the past with said ex = DUMP THE LOSER.

Nikole
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of my exes did that. I came to find out he’d been involved with EVERY SINGLE GIRL HE WAS FRIENDS WITH. (And I didn’t find this out from him.)

Load More Replies...
Child of the King
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are worth it to be on a honest relationship. This guy lied to you for two years. It's better to dump him now than years down the road.

Ni Na
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoHotTakes/comments/1f7pfsn/aita_21f_for_confronting_my_bf_29m_after_finding/ (She ended things and he revealed the ex was with him when he was alone at home all the time)

SuperChicken
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yay, update! Thank you, Ni Na. Good to know that OP stood her ground and broke it off with that lying cheat. She's better off with somebody who will respect her and someone whom she can share a happy and loving life.

Load More Replies...
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My!
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes I want to shout at the posters "What's wrong with you?" But it's always so very much easier fixing other people's lives than our own.

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He straight up LIED to her - To Her Face - about only being friends with this chick, for TWO years. Dump his a** + block him on everything.

Pittsburgh rare
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When the ex is also the BEST friend l respectfully bow out. I'm not the kind of person to smile through that.

سارا ناز
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

stop labeling the relationship as 'like a sister' unless they grew up with close knit families. She is not 'like' his sister. He sounds very disturbed to have brainwashed you into this fallacy because you are repeating this nonsense as if it is true. He was 26 & manipulated a hs graduate to date him & has kept his ex around all this time, all while lying to you about the truth of their relationship. They are also probably still sleeping together. Move on as this all sounds sick & he sounds very disturbed. Unless you're ok with being lied & controlled, which is most likely what will happen if you stay together & have kids.

Don't even
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even *IF* there's nothing there between them life is too short to put up with c**p like that.

G A
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would they lie about one thing without lying about the other? Get rid.

Jorie
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If he'd been truthful up front, then it would be a different story. The fact is, he lied to you. You will never fully trust him 100% about anything again, and that is not the basis for any kind of relationship. It's over. Face it and move on.

Fox with a Dragon Tattoo
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow.. what toxic, childish, stupid replies. Lol way more telling than the story

Julio Murillo
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hello. I posted here before. It's about I found out that my 10 yearlong partner is still talking to her best friend turned f**k buddy. I still have access to her phone and can see what she's been up to. I live in the Philippines where if the child is below 7 years old, law will favor it to the mother. But it finally pulled the last trigger when I read her messenger and saw they're having a video call, says "don't call now, I'm at home", and said "Thank you for the other day". I took a picture of those screenshots and sent it to her. To let her know that I read it. So I broke up with her last night. We're still on the same house while I'm looking for a place to stay. What hurt me the most is I'll be leaving my child. But yeah, it's relieving. Quite a toxic relationship anyway. I did not cheat nor thought about it. Now I think I'm free. I can play around or look for a woman who respect and values me. I can only thank Cybrespirit gmail com for giving me access to her device for this long.

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