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“AITA For Telling My Boyfriend To Order ‘Whatever He Wants’, Then Getting Upset With His Choice?”
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“AITA For Telling My Boyfriend To Order ‘Whatever He Wants’, Then Getting Upset With His Choice?”

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Many things are known from context and implied when we speak. However, if for whatever reason a person chooses to misunderstand something by ignoring the context, there may be no end to the level of absurdity it might lead to.

And this Redditor took the readers on one such trip, as she shared a story of her boyfriend, for whatever reason, ordering food she’s allergic to and expecting her to be happy about it.

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A man ordered dinner for two but left his girlfriend disappointed

Image credits: Ambitious Studio* – Rick Barrett (not the actual photo)

The couple often have meals together and the man knows his girlfriend’s taste, as well as her allergy to shellfish

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Sometimes when one of them is running late or is busy with something else, they have the other person order food for both

Image credits: Andie Venzl (not the actual photo)

This time the woman was in the shower when her boyfriend told her he was ordering Italian, so she asked him to pick something

A woman brought a disagreement with her boyfriend to the Reddit AITA community online, asking if she was a jerk to get upset with the man’s dinner choice after letting him pick.

The woman explained that she and her boyfriend of seven months eat together a lot and while they usually decide for themselves what to get, sometimes they order for one another, for example, when one of them is running late or is busy with something else.

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So it happened this time, as the woman was in the shower when her boyfriend told her he was ordering Italian and she just yelled for him to pick something. 

Yet, when the woman saw what the man had ordered, she was disappointed. Even though the woman is not a picky eater, she is allergic to shrimp and that was exactly what the man had ordered for the both of them.

One may think the man didn’t know about the allergy, yet he did know about it, in addition to knowing what his girlfriend likes.

The woman was upset; however, the man refused to budge and claimed that his girlfriend made it clear it was his choice, so that was what he chose.

The woman was upset to find soon after that her boyfriend had ordered shrimp scampi for two

Image credits: Anna Hill (not the actual photo)

The man still argued that he was allowed to choose, so he did

The woman’s post gathered 10.6k upvotes and people judged she was not a jerk in this situation. Commenters discussed the possible intentions and the reason’s behind the man’s behavior, and the suggestions included making a mistake and not wanting/being able to apologize, not being smart, or being completely selfish.

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There was also an honest interpretation presented in the comments, which goes as follows: “If I was dating someone as shellfish as he is, I’d be pretty crabby too. <…> His behavior is downright fishy.”

Not knowing where another person stands was listed by Verywell Mind among the red flags of one-sided relationships, explaining that when another person doesn’t put in much effort to be clear about it, it may leave one doubting their intentions, commitment, and investment in the relationship.

Similarly, poor communication manifests when another person does not listen or try to understand their partner.

Finally, they brought up making excuses and not owning up to one’s mistakes, noting that being in a one-sided relationship often leaves a person feeling anxious, empty, misunderstood, and insecure.

Coming back to the original story, the boyfriend’s behavior could be summed up as follows: the man didn’t consider the woman’s intentions and needs, finally trying to explain his rude behavior away. Given there is nothing left out, it may be quite easy to determine who is “shellfish” and who should be concerned.

What’s your take on the situation? Please, share your thoughts in the comment section below!

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Redditors shared their takes on the situation

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Aura Vyšniauskaitė

Aura Vyšniauskaitė

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Aura is a writer at Bored Panda. She finished her BA in Philosophy at Vilnius University. She lived in Prague for a few years, where she worked in Trade Compliance at DHL Express. Finally, she came back to Vilnius to continue her studies in Philosophy.

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Aura is a writer at Bored Panda. She finished her BA in Philosophy at Vilnius University. She lived in Prague for a few years, where she worked in Trade Compliance at DHL Express. Finally, she came back to Vilnius to continue her studies in Philosophy.

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Denis Krotovas

Denis Krotovas

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I am a Visual Editor at Bored Panda. While studying at Vilnius Tech University, I learned how to use Photoshop and decided to continue mastering it at Bored Panda. I am interested in learning UI/UX design and creating unique designs for apps, games and websites. On my spare time, I enjoy playing video and board games, watching TV shows and movies and reading funny posts on the internet.

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Nice Beast Ludo
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like a lot of times, people know they are NTA but seek out reddit for personal validation. I'm not criticizing doing that because I know when you are in a relationship and being gaslighted or the ones where the whole family is calling you an a*****e as well, it can feel really good to know that other people are on your side, even people you don't know. This guy is such a baby. I don't think he did it thinking she would eat it and get sick, but because he wanted it all for himself and by the time she found out, it would be too late. I could not date someone you need to babysit like a 10 year old.

Trillian
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my 8 year old ordered food she knew I could not eat to have it for herself and watch me go hungry I would seriously question my parenting

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Trillian
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11 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is wrong here? "You said I can choose so I chose something you you are allergic to which I know about". So unless he is incredibly dumb, he is an AH. Ditch him. This is not funny and neither is his reaction.

Tabitha
Community Member
11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He might also be one of those a******s who think, when someone tells them they’re allergic to something, that they’re lying and need to be tested by being fooled into eating something containing the food they claim they’re allergic to. Doesn’t matter if it kills that person. I swear anyone who tries this b******t “testing” should be held criminally liable if the person they “tested” was telling the truth and ends up sick or dead.

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Eastendbird
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11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. I have celiac disease. Mr Eastendbird would not order a big gluten filled pizza and then say "But you said I could order anything."

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Nice Beast Ludo
Community Member
11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like a lot of times, people know they are NTA but seek out reddit for personal validation. I'm not criticizing doing that because I know when you are in a relationship and being gaslighted or the ones where the whole family is calling you an a*****e as well, it can feel really good to know that other people are on your side, even people you don't know. This guy is such a baby. I don't think he did it thinking she would eat it and get sick, but because he wanted it all for himself and by the time she found out, it would be too late. I could not date someone you need to babysit like a 10 year old.

Trillian
Community Member
11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If my 8 year old ordered food she knew I could not eat to have it for herself and watch me go hungry I would seriously question my parenting

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Trillian
Community Member
11 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is wrong here? "You said I can choose so I chose something you you are allergic to which I know about". So unless he is incredibly dumb, he is an AH. Ditch him. This is not funny and neither is his reaction.

Tabitha
Community Member
11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He might also be one of those a******s who think, when someone tells them they’re allergic to something, that they’re lying and need to be tested by being fooled into eating something containing the food they claim they’re allergic to. Doesn’t matter if it kills that person. I swear anyone who tries this b******t “testing” should be held criminally liable if the person they “tested” was telling the truth and ends up sick or dead.

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Eastendbird
Community Member
11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. I have celiac disease. Mr Eastendbird would not order a big gluten filled pizza and then say "But you said I could order anything."

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