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Michael Kimmel, a sociologist and the author of several books on male identity, including Guyland, Healing from Hate, and Manhood in America, thinks there's really a lot of evidence that many men are suffering.

And many other experts in the field agree, pointing out that men are dropping out of the workforce in greater numbers, their addiction rates are climbing, and they're four times more likely to commit suicide than women.

We, as a society, can't ignore these problems. These are people's lives we're talking about. And it's in everyone's best interest too, because when men can be themselves and be happy, we all benefit from it. To show you just how contagious their smiles and kind actions can be, let's take a look at the Twitter account 'Bros Helping Bros.'

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Recently, scholars and the media have been suggesting that the Western world is experiencing a masculinity crisis. However, semantics matter and we may have been approaching the matter from a wrong angle.

Michael Salter, who is a Scientia Fellow and an associate professor of criminology at the University of New South Wales at Sydney currently serves on the board of directors for the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation.

He agrees that masculinity can indeed be destructive. However, Salter believes that both conservative and liberal stances on this issue commonly misunderstand how the term toxic masculinity functions.

"When people use it, they tend to diagnose the problem of masculine aggression and entitlement as a cultural or spiritual illness—something that has infected today’s men and leads them to reproachable acts," Salter wrote. "But toxic masculinity itself is not a cause. Over the past 30 years, as the concept has morphed and changed, it has served more as a barometer for the gender politics of its day—and as an arrow toward the subtler, shifting causes of violence and sexism."

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Amber The bear
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are called BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse) I have met a few like them before and they host summer parties and stuff and Christmas parties etc. they all are absolutely amazing people!

Sergio Bicerra
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These guys should be hired every time someone wants to leave an abusive home. "Brought some friends to help me pack, hope you don't mind"

Jen M
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are those same groups that advocate for kitten adoptions. Rad a*s biker dudes!

LeeAnne B
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why should children have to face their abusers. It's traumatic and arcane.

Lyoness
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA) and they're amazing.

Nonesuch
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I were a victim I would certainly feel comforted having these guys in my corner. Bless them

Mr.G86
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If we could working something like this out for our schools, might have a better chance at stopping more " shootings ".

quinn (they/them)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i see this story all the time and it never fails to bring a smile to my face

Jonny Wilson
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My old American bully Dora was specially trained for the same purpose. She would sit next to the kid so they could hold her and feel safe

Nice Beast Ludo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They would scare the s**t out of me that's for sure. GOOD. Mother f*****s need some fear into their lives get a taste of their own medicine picking on innocent and vulnerable kids

Little Johnny...
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

B.AC.A. Rocks !! Bikers against child abuse!! I know people in the local chapter!! These guys are so awesome!!

Strings
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What chapter? I'm currently in Titletown WI. Was the Wisconsin state P for more years than I care to count

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Nadine Bamberger
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They don't only show up in court, the kids can call them whenever they feel scared and they will come and stand guard until the kids feel save. And it's a lifetime commitment, even when the kids have grown up they still can rely on them whenever they need it most.

Binky Melnik
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I put on my face to go out to run errands and stupidly picked my iPad up. This one ruined my face. Don’t care, but not reading any more of these lest my makeup dribbles down my blouse. These men effing ROCK.

Kris “ADHD_Carrier” Dudoich
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I worked with a man who was a member of BACA and met some of his fellow members and there are few better people in this world!

RL R
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love that the judge would let them have "some...time" alone with the abuser.

Cindy Brick
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You go, Bikers!!! (Wear your Hell's Angels jackets for even more effect.)

Julieta S.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd feel like the king of the world with these guys sitting there

Velveteen Worm
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Local members of BACA used to come visit my elementary annually! I had a friend that was very close to many of them and thought she was so cool because of it! It wasn't until years later (and after she had moved away) I realized why she had these relationships with them and it made me sad to know I really knew so little about what she was going through especially when things came out later;( but those bikers made her feel safe and loved and it makes me glad to know there are people out there willing to do that

Glenn Milliken
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I need to know if there was one smug accuser while these gentlemen were sitting there I do believe the bailiff would say he has to take a s**t or something as well as the judge and prosecutor I had to edit after I thought about this for a few seconds this has never ever happened wink

Donna Reynolds
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this. Best show of force, and I do mean force. Wish my former BIL could have faced them.

Retro Dan™
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes, the threat of violence is absolutely the correct, ethical, and moral thing to do.

LumaLena
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bikers Against Child Abuse (BACA)!! Absolutely amazing people

Sharon Ingram
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

BACA - Bikers Against Child Abuse. And they are gentle giants (and giantesses).

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"Despite the term’s recent popularity among feminists, toxic masculinity did not originate with the women’s movement. It was coined in the mythopoetic men’s movement of the 1980s and ’90s, motivated in part as a reaction to second-wave feminism," Salter said.

"Through male-only workshops, wilderness retreats, and drumming circles, this movement promoted a masculine spirituality to rescue what it referred to as the 'deep masculine'— a protective, 'warrior' masculinity—from toxic masculinity. Men’s aggression and frustration was, according to the movement, the result of a society that feminized boys by denying them the necessary rites and rituals to realize their true selves as men."

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Salter explained that this claim of a singular, real masculinity has been roundly rejected since the late 1980s by a new sociology of masculinity.

"Led by the sociologist Raewyn Connell, this school of thought presents gender as the product of relations and behaviors, rather than as a fixed set of identities and attributes."

"Connell’s work describes multiple masculinities shaped by class, race, culture, sexuality, and other factors, often in competition with one another as to which can claim to be more authentic. In this view, which is now the prevailing social-scientific understanding of masculinity, the standards by which a 'real man' is defined can vary dramatically across time and place," he explained.

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Connell and others theorized that common masculine ideals such as social respect, physical strength, and sexual potency become problematic when they promote unattainable standards, since falling short can make boys and men insecure and anxious, which might prompt them to use force in order to feel, and be seen as, dominant and in control.

"Male violence in this scenario doesn’t emanate from something bad or toxic that has crept into the nature of masculinity itself. Rather, it comes from these men’s social and political settings, the particularities of which set them up for inner conflicts over social expectations and male entitlement," Salter continued.

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By the mid-2000s, despite Connell’s objections, her theories were being portrayed in ways that echoed mythopoetic archetypes of healthy and destructive masculinity.

In a 2005 study of men in prison, the psychiatrist Terry Kupers defined toxic masculinity as “the constellation of socially regressive male traits that serve to foster domination, the devaluation of women, homophobia, and wanton violence.”

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Referencing Connell’s work, Kupers stated that prison brings out the “toxic” aspects of masculinity in prisoners, but that this toxicity is already present in the wider cultural context.

Since then, the return to toxic masculinity has leaked from academic literature to wide cultural circulation, and the reason is understandable. It offers a simple diagnosis for gendered violence and masculine failure.

"New proponents of the concept, sometimes unaware of its origins, tend to agree that men and boys are affected by a social 'sickness' and that the cure is cultural renewal—that is, men and boys need to change their values and attitudes," Salter wrote.

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Yes, research consistently shows that boys and men who hold sexist attitudes are more likely to perpetrate gendered violence. But where do these sexist attitudes come from? 

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Are men and boys just the victims of cultural brainwashing into misogyny and aggression, requiring reeducation into the 'right' beliefs? Or are these problems rooted more deeply, and created by the myriad insecurities and contradictions of men’s lives under gender inequality?

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"The concept of toxic masculinity encourages an assumption that the causes of male violence and other social problems are the same everywhere, and therefore, that the solutions are the same as well," Salter said.

But material realities matter. "In one Australian Aboriginal violence-prevention program that I evaluated with colleagues, Aboriginal educators worked in partnership with men and boys to identify the key drivers of gendered violence and inequality. Solutions were rooted in cultural pride, tailored to local contexts, and underpinned by recognition of the intergenerational impacts of racism and trauma," Salter said. "The program understood that masculinity itself isn’t toxic, and instead sought to understand and change the roots of toxic gendered behavior."

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