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You get into an argument with someone, the two of you are going at each other back and forth, and they get you so riled up that you suddenly can't think of a good comeback. Until you're taking a shower two years later.

There's actually a French term for this called l'esprit de l'escalier. It describes the feeling you get when you come up with the perfect reply after the fact.

We've all been there. It's devastating.

So let's take a moment and pay our respects to the people who can, in fact, deliver the goods on the spot. Taken from the appropriately titled subreddit r/MurderedByWords, here are some of the best ways to end a disagreement.

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    MilitantCentrist
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    2 years ago

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We use an ingrained sense of morals and ethics!! We don't need some threat of eternal damnation to do something good!!

    MilitantCentrist
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    If the sense of right and wrong is simply "ingrained," why do moral standards vary across cultures and across time?

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    Lee
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Atheists aren't hindered by 5000 year old beliefs that treat women worse than cattle and murder anyone who dare to step out of the narrow line your so called Book of Life so they can see what is actually good and what is a stupid moral with no bearing on the world today.

    General Anaesthesia
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only real Christians that I know identify as atheist. Actions, not words.

    Smalltoid
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This couldn't be more true! In my experience growing up in the deep south and raised in wacky churches, atheists tend to be the most "Chris-like" individuals I have known. So-called "Christians" most often represent the antithesis of all of Christ's teachings. Oh, the irony.

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    Al B. Wright
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This was the original purpose of religion, it's been going on for millennia. Even now, where fewer societies are strictly religious, fear is still used as a very powerful tool by governments.

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    RK Barbo
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The difference between Christians and Atheists is that Christians have to be told that killing and stealing is wrong. Atheists are smart enough to reach this conclusion on their own.

    propgamer XL
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    2 years ago

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    Christians are not that dumb and some were first atheist. No the difference between when I was atheist and when I got saved, was that I couldn't stand some of my friends. We were 14, girls. Lot of gossipping. Oh so and so is so bad. Did you know she gossips so much? Lol. So hypocrit. And 2 left me out and were (still are btw) besties, so I was jealous and mad. And then I got convinced that God existed. I went to a church. After a few months it dawned on me that I had to ask God to forgive my sins. I prayed a simple prayer. Forgive me for all my sins. I didn't even see it as a huge sin that I couldn't stand them, because I was in the right in my opinion. So after I prayed that, I noticed that I could hug them. The nastiness was gone. Now there may be atheists who aren't nasty anyway, but Corrie ten Boom had a good one. A guy said he never sinned. She said: oh you must be very proud of that. Yes, yes he was. Then I have found one sin, she said.

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    Libstak
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Once met a girl and her boyfriend who became baptised as newborn Christians after being evangelist on the street. Their reasons were that no matter what they did they knew they would be forgiven and saved. They were seriously nasty types that would laugh at others suffering and snicker if someone was in pain.

    Al B. Wright
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a flatmate at uni who lost the argument on why I should become an evangelical Christian like she was on this very point! She said if I convert and ask God all my sins would be forgiven. So I said OK, I'll do it on my deathbed and then I'll still get into heaven? She had no reply.

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    Belandriel
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Detective Rust Cohle (True Detective) : "If the only thing keeping a person decent is the expectation of divine reward, then brother that person is a piece of s**t" This is my absolute favorite quote from the series.

    CultOfBambi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many good lines in that show - that one is definitely one of the best. My fav is "Maybe the honourable thing for our species to do is deny our programming, stop reproducing, walk hand in hand into extinction, one last midnight - brothers and sisters opting out of a raw deal."

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Rats have empathy. Of course, I could be wrong... Maybe rats help each other because they fear eternal damnation after their 3 years are up.

    James G. Currie
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Morality and Ethics exist 100% separate from Religion. So, (s)he makes the choice the same way as a deist would...and for the same reasons - self interest, or benevolence. -- Regardless of my stance on Religion, I don't walk around raping and murdering people for a simple reason...it is Wrong to do so. Not because I fear the Legal System and Punishment, but because it is Wrong.

    propgamer XL
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    Everyone has a conscience. That's part of your spirit. It's God. Romans 2 for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, 15 who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them) 16 in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel.

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    Hobby Hopper
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do Christians think they have a monopoly on empathy and ethics? Even when I identified as a Christian, I wondered that.

    Chris S
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here, even as a Christian I question the complete a**holes that use religion as an excuse to do whatever they want. There's a lot of people that believe because they're "saved" they'll be fine, no if you just use your common sense and this thing called a brain. Personally I look to God and the bible when I need support and empathy, god knows humans have little to no empathy.

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    Deborah B
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We consider the effects of our choice on us and the people (& planet) around us today and in the future, rather than the consequences after we're dead.

    Jayne Kyra
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I flip a coin. Then I can blame it on the coin like some people blame what they do on a book.

    JayWantsACat
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS. Every time someone says they did something nice because it was 'the Christian thing to do' they just out themselves as a person in all other aspects.

    Mrs. Jan Glass
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The most horrific, cruel people I know are always Christians. Since their ideology centers on forgiveness, they think they can act like assholes, but it's okay if they say "sorry" after. Christians suck, and could really do with even a cursory read of the book they claim to love so much.

    BadCat
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ah, this is a great answer to clap back at my mom the next time she criticizes my spirituality choices.

    Nikki Sevven
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There it is! Pro Tip: if what you're planning to do will hurt someone, don't do it. If you make a mistake, and hurt someone accidentally, you should be utterly appalled and do whatever you can to make amends.

    Thomas Ewing
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's what church is for. To remind us of our fallibility. To deny eternal responsibility is unGodly. At least the faithful are striving for rightness instead of "it's not my fault."

    AnnwylTheBloodyLovesFerghus
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always believed that we should always try to do the right thing because it's the right thing to do. Not because some cult follower reading from a collection of badly, and oft translated, stories told from the antiquated, mysoginistic, and totally irrelevant point of view of long dead men, thinks it'll save my soul. I will live as I think best. In as ethical a way as I can. No doubt there's a lot of black on my soul. But, it for sure didn't get there because I thought I might be pleasing some mythological guy. I bet countless "religious" folk can't say the same.

    Random Panda
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Basix human empathy, dude. I treat others the way I wish they would treat me.

    Probably Legal
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    11 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, there are only a few Christians that actually behave like their supposed to.

    Lex
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Except if you actually read the Bible, you find out that hell is the common grave, and there is no eternal fiery torment. -Job 30:23. All of us go to hell when we die, because it's the grave.

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If your religion tells you you should hate someone for being different, you need a new religion.

    pusheen buttercup
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perhaps answer with less vitriol :) I believe that if one believes this is the only life, decisions matter very much. There's no forgiveness at the end. However, simultaneously... I don't care what makes a person make good choices and be a force for good. As long as they do so

    Raven DeathShade
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seriously, Blake? I've been raised Catholic my whole life. There's something called the natural law: what any human, regardless of religion, knows is right or wrong.

    Sue
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone making good choices helps further humanity & there is less conflict, both globally & locally. I know it's usually associated with financial issues, but a rising tide floates all boats.

    Lyone Fein
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. Both people i. This conversation have an eight year old's level of understanding of both ethics and theology.

    dude with fat japanese in pp
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i'm a real practicing atheist and to make choice and make difference beetween good and evil we just flip a coin so *coin flipping* yes its okay to eat endangered specie

    Jessica Cooney
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is honestly the best response I could have imagined for that question

    K Tigress
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The both sound like a bunch of morons. Blind leading the blind. 🙄

    I I
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    lol well said , im good because it's the right thing to do , not because i'll burn in some mythical place for ever

    Anna Banana
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favourite one in this vein is the one that asks "Without religion, what's stopping you from raping and killing everyone?" and the answer was "I've raped and killed everyone I've ever wanted to rape and kill. Which is no one, because I'm not a psychopath." Or something like that.

    SillyPandaBunny
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always wonder why a lot of religious people seem to have trouble deciphering between good and bad choices. Like, it’s not that hard

    Steve Ramaekers
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Blake’s comment is a perfect question. If there is no God, there is no absolute truth. No absolute rule of what is good vs. evil.

    Steve Ramaekers
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is total misunderstanding of God and Christianity. Unfortunately even many “Christian’s” still have growth to do in this understanding and some put fortH misinformation. TRUE Christians aren’t good bc of the “fear of eternal damnation”. Hell is separation from God. It is the natural consequence of choosing to not want to be with Him. There is No need for fear if you are in relationship with God. Christians dont need to live in fear and you don’t EARN heaven by good works. Its a gift. You either accept relationship with God and long to be with him or you dont. Period. God is love. We do good and love out of our loving relationship with God not out of fear of damnation.

    Ghostsauce
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes, I wonder if everyone who dies is like, "Omg. I knew it!"

    Ciara O'Brien
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think it's as simple as they just mean the Devil and Holy Angel on your shoulder analogy...good vs evil....wouldn't believe in them if Atheist.

    Katherine Boag
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh if the threat of eternal punishment works and they spend their life doing good, its fine. The problem is when the threat of eternal punishment DOESN'T work, and also the number of things christians are convinced are fine to do but are actually evil.

    Phred
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I'm an atheist and I don't understand all this right and wrong stuff." --Jeremy Hardy

    David Leick
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Personally, I use a magic 8-ball to make all of my decisions. Totally just as legit.

    Katinka Min
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is so easy. Just apply the 'Don't do to other what you don't want to yourself'. You can add 'Do to others what you'd like to have done to yourself' for extra creativity. Voila. Not holy scripture, weird rituals, cutting or piercing bodyparts or thousands of preachers, imams, rabby, prietsts and whatnot needed. Just be kind. Done.

    A. Jones
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a huge difference between being good for moral, ethical, and conventional reasons. Conventional reasoning being that of a threat of harsh punishment/reaction. ;J

    A. Jones
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a good person because I want to be (never a religious thing tbh), also respect is a thing earned not demanded.

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    Fo Fo
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No matter the reason, an increase in good person is welcomed, no need to feel "haughty" that you are a good person by birth

    Elliot Fowler
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is currently happening in the US has shown my that depending on an ingrained sense of right or wrong is not a good metric for defining what is good. Peopl have demonstrated that there definision of the concept of good is too varied

    Sel
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah but on the other hand I 100% know that I don't want the Christian God dictating my ethics and morals, but do I enjoy hanging out with people who do so.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's always get me.my good deeds feel invalid because I feel like I'm doing it for God not on my own volition

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    Witty comebacks can not be planned. They are made in the moment. In a heated argument, timing is everything and that means your answer must be as fast as the words that surprised you. But somewhat counterintuitively, the key to coming up with a winning retort is to hone your listening skills.

    According to Abigail Paul, the artistic director at the Theatre Language Studio (TLS) in Frankfurt, people think faster than others speak, giving the listener "extra time" to compose an answer, even while they give the appearance of still listening to what the other person is saying.

    Consider this: how many times have you been on a conference call and already had an idea to share, an answer to a question or a solution to a problem before the person on the line has even finished his sentence? The same listening skills and thought processes apply when a conversation turns sour and you need to defend yourself.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If two kids are playing and one has a stick( knowing sticks have the ability to be dangerous), don't you take the stick. If you give them both sticks, something bad will happen. Same with guns

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Preach sister. That's the sanest thing I've heard all day. Good for you

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    The question is how to refocus that extra time you have while you're listening.

    "Most of us don't listen to the whole message, we are just waiting to make our own points. There is no magic bullet to getting better at listening besides practice," Paul, who teaches improvisation theatre techniques, told the BBC.

    One strategy to perfect your listening skills is through a simple game of one-word volleyball, where two people build a story by rapidly taking turns to add a word to what the other said immediately before. The game forces you to listen actively and respond spontaneously.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feminism is doing what you want. Not whining about foetuses you don't plan to help raise. So tell the patriarchy were coming for it next.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a man, and I've loved fruity drinks since 1997. Since when has fruit been a problem?

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    "The goal is that we let go of our own ego and our own ideas because a huge part of listening is that you really have to be willing to be changed by what's being said," Paul explained.

    In the case of snide remarks, if you know your colleague has a tendency to make them, train your brain to listen to his or her words carefully and be prepared to quickly defuse the situation. "You take away the control factor," she said.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In that case we can take care of those pro lifers* loads water gun of grape juice* since none of them are civil

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    Dumbass. Couldn't Think Of Anything Wittier

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    If a colleague tells you, "Oh that’s real smart," Paul says she might try responding with this: "Thanks. I don't always receive praise for my intelligence."

    Or "That’s the best you can do?" But you can also try: "I'm afraid so. Where do we go from here?"

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    Djennie
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As well as creepy this would be mostly ineffective. Most of us have a specific number we use so we don’t get caught out on it. I used to use the number of an ex boss of mine who was a gross sexist creep. I figured they could flock together.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In parts of Africa we have harmattan. In the US you have " thousand are killed by a reckless government who is more like a corporation than a government" season. I'll take chapped lips over bullets in geometry any day

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh, I'm honestly so tired of these nutters coming in here and shoving their religion in our faces.

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    Another idea is to try and forget your pride and raise the status of the other person. "Status" used in this sense comes from the rules of improvisation theatre, where you have to make your stage partner look good.

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    Let's say a manager or colleague takes a swipe at you repeatedly. Paul suggests the "status move," which is best conveyed in tone of voice.

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    Kayjunmoon
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More humans to work multi jobs for less than minimum wage and live in misery without healthcare paid for. Maybe bring back child labour and really stop the rot of human rights. Next on the list stop women having property rights. In for a penny etc.

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't have to be part of the people to want rights for them, you selfish clodhopper

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    "You could respond to 'Would you suggest something better?' with 'Well, I see you've got some great ideas already, but I think we could perhaps make the whole thing work even better,'" said Paul.

    "Of course, with the wrong tone, they would all come out nasty. It's not really about the text, so much as it is the tone."

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Hunger Games was meant to inspire us...so let's let it. The elites must pay...us for our efforts

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Minimum wage won't cause inflation. Capitalist greed causes inflation. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk

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    There’s something to be said for killing someone with kindness and often the best retorts are comebacks that are witty, take the higher moral ground, are appropriate, and most importantly, positive.

    According to Belina Raffy, a business improvisation consultant who once worked with a condescending manager, when banter turns toxic, it kills all ideas in the office. Even worse, it leaves a negative drag on other people's energy and tears teams apart.

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    Random Panda
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone should be allowed to wear whatever they want whenever they want but the world is judgemental and so they criticise people just because of their clothing. People reading this, know that your body is your choice and you can wear whatever you want anytime. Feel free to express yourself, but please never judge people just because of their clothing.

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Bible is actually dated back to the HUMAN THAT WROTE IT. Moron, I tell thee!!

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe you should stop taking photos of this poor woman doing her job. What a pervert.

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    When a negative comment is made in a work setting — where, hopefully, everyone wants to see projects succeed and keep their jobs — those comments usually come from a place of insecurity.

    For example, a colleague may be unsure how to approach a particular task — he may believe that throwing the attention back to somebody else with a negative retort will remove the focus from his (real or perceived) ineptitude.

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    Weird Al Yankovic Destroys Kid Rock’s New Music Video

    Weird Al Yankovic Destroys Kid Rock’s New Music Video

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    Got Hit With The "Come See Me After Class"

    Got Hit With The "Come See Me After Class"

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    #32

    Completely And Totally Unnecessary

    Completely And Totally Unnecessary

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    Charlotte A.
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People who only consider their own survival from illness are both selfish and stupid. The point of vaccination is never for one specific individual to die or survive but to make sure a greater number total survives (and then there's all the people who won't have to live with whatever other issues the diseases might leave behind, like infertility, blindness, chronic fatigue and so on).

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    #33

    Millennials Are Ruining Population Stability

    Millennials Are Ruining Population Stability

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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    uh... climate change anyone? Why bring a new life into a beautiful world that we. are rapidly destroying?

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    Positive comments are generally a far better tool for keeping projects on track while showing your love of linguistic acrobatics. Others will find the humor in them and negative interactions quickly cease. If a colleague says, "this project is going nowhere fast," you could say, "at least it's going and I intend to steer it in the right direction."

    In fact, according to Raffy, positive witty comments build trust among colleagues, bosses, and subordinates, and they can turn a formerly harsh environment into an accepting one, where everyone’s opinion matters.

    #35

    Correlation ≠ Causation

    Correlation ≠ Causation

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    #36

    No Statute Of Limitations On Murder

    No Statute Of Limitations On Murder

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm just waiting for these pro lifers to have a loved one with a incompetent womb and no way to survive a pregnancy and see how they handle it

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    #37

    Don't Tag The Person You're Lying About

    Don't Tag The Person You're Lying About

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    Random Panda
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nothing burns more than the person you talked about actually confirming its not true

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    Negative comments, however, do the opposite. "They increase tension, make a person feel excluded or inferior, and as though they are not in the 'in group' which is in the know," she pointed out.

    Raffy recommends trying to reveal the "ridiculousness of the situation," without making the antagonist into the villain. It's much better to turn them into the "victim" of the absurd circumstances instead.

    #38

    Well Yeah, The Whole Thing Was Crap To Begin With

    Well Yeah, The Whole Thing Was Crap To Begin With

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    Impetus
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As someone who got in trouble in 7th grade after a boy followed her into the bathroom because I was "annoying" him with my bubble necklace (he kicked me, in the girls' bathroom, but he was a good boy and that couldn't have been his fault) I find it very depressing that this is still where we are. And incidentally, I think any trans ladies I've shared a bathroom with would've helped me kick his a*s.

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    #39

    Languages Are Fun!

    Languages Are Fun!

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    BrookeBT
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sorry, letters start viruses that kill millions of people now? We're all doomed.

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    #41

    The Single Most British Murder I've Ever Seen

    The Single Most British Murder I've Ever Seen

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    "The best retorts speakthe truth — when a person calls something that the other people didn't see," Paul said. "That's generally what makes us laugh."

    And usually, that's the end goal of a witty comeback — to get people to laugh. A shared laugh is a great way to reduce tension. Of course, the "rules" for online banter are a bit different and you generally have more time to work with, but most of these principles still apply.

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    #42

    “Owning The Libs”

    “Owning The Libs”

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who do you think want your shiny, eco friendly, no need for oil or oil companies car

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    Win-Win Situation

    Win-Win Situation

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How pathetic. Just stop putting the rest of us in danger with your antivax b******t, ok??

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    #46

    Lemon Squeezy!

    Lemon Squeezy!

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    Impetus
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is a common thing for wealthy people to believe poor people "just don't want to work". If you're the sort of person who might feel bad that you have eight cars and four houses while some people are struggling to feed their children, this helps you feel better about it without actually having to acknowledge that you got lucky and other people didn't.

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    #49

    Facts Aren't As Important As Your Narrative

    Facts Aren't As Important As Your Narrative

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    troufaki13
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even if she was Egyptian, she still wouldn't be black, she would be tan. Americans need to understand that not all Africans are black and not all black people are African Americans.

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    #50

    Bro Hit Him With The Receipt

    Bro Hit Him With The Receipt

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    #52

    Well, In His Defense, He's An Idiot

    Well, In His Defense, He's An Idiot

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    Play Stupid Games

    Play Stupid Games

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    Miocha
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    God I hate such playing-hard-to-get person. They said they weren't ready for relationship and expect the guy to chase after them? Nope. Good for the guy to love and respect himself.

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    #56

    An Athenian Smackdown

    An Athenian Smackdown

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is dumb. Just because he looks like he was sculpted by angels doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy discussing Plato

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    #57

    Yes, Kids! Ask Me How!

    Yes, Kids! Ask Me How!

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Electric car? With what electricity prices going up. Get a bicycle from 1846, you entitled shlucks. ( Sarcasm)

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    #58

    Vaccines Cause Autism

    Vaccines Cause Autism

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The government also mandates you pay your damn taxes. Don't see riots about that

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    #60

    It'd Really Be A Shame If They Didn't

    It'd Really Be A Shame If They Didn't

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    Jrog
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because if you are immortal, and happened to invest 100$ the exact day USA became independent in a fund providing a 8% averaged yearly interest rate, compounded quarterly, today you would be a few cents short of 29.011.375.000$ (29 billions and change).

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    #61

    Taxation Is Theft

    Taxation Is Theft

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    Say It Louder!

    Say It Louder!

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    Ranger Kanootsen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The Founding Fathers, who... broke the laws the monarchy forced on them and fought a big bloody war. Yup, definitely a violent riot!

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    #63

    Now Wait Just A Goddamn Minute

    Now Wait Just A Goddamn Minute

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    AndThenICommented
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    2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep. That is the world we live. Remember when we thought knowledge and transparency would be our key to utopia? That the court of public opinion would influence companies to do the right thing? That the ‘market’ would keep large corporations in check and we’d all reap the benefits? Oh man, 🤦🏽‍♀️

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    #64

    No One Wants To Work!

    No One Wants To Work!

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The bar for employers is a tripping hazard in hell and they still think digging under is impressive

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    #65

    Double Standards, Everyone

    Double Standards, Everyone

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    FloC
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Having an 11 year old girl saying that kind of comment doesn't seem right to me. I would not boast about it on the net if I were the mother but reconsider what she is exposed to.

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    #66

    The British Sure Did That Well

    The British Sure Did That Well

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Searched the whole world for spices just to complain about the cultures that had the spices

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    #67

    Of Course She Knows That!

    Of Course She Knows That!

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    Suzanne Tilson
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wierd calling immigrants fleeing gun violence caused by American gun dealers arming gangs, illegals . Please tell me, who told you pilgrim you were welcomed on native soil

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    #69

    If We Could Reddit From Peloton, We Could Help Save Them

    If We Could Reddit From Peloton, We Could Help Save Them

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    Never Thought I'd Side With Kim

    Never Thought I'd Side With Kim

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    BrookeBT
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't like her for much - but this is an awesome reply to a incredible jerk.

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