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They say it's not where you are but who you're with that matters, and I think this phrase applies to weddings, too. Of course, there is a difference between a grand ceremony on the beach and quick get-together in someone's backyard, but a super tacky best man and a crazy alcoholic aunt could destroy the atmosphere of either event.

To drive this point home, the members of the subreddit 'Wedding Shaming' are sharing the cringiest moments they've witnessed on people's big day. Judging from their posts, it seems like there are endless opportunities to ruin not just photos, but the memories as well—if you're inconsiderate enough.

Continue scrolling to check them out and don't miss the chat we had with etiquette expert Diane Gottsman.

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Thinking Far Ahead For Wedding Drama Control…via Craigslist

Wedding date ad seeking attentive companion for mother-in-law, offering $1,000, with job expectations and perks listed.

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2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ok not gonna lie this is actually smart. some mils think their sons or daughters r still their baby and hate they r getting married. finding a distraction for drama making mils isnt a bad idea. it would actually take a huge weight off the bride and grooms shoulders and enjoy the day without family drama

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However, couples are often under a lot of pressure when they're planning and throwing their wedding. There's a myriad of decisions to be made, from choosing a venue to managing the guest lists, and the whole process can become (a little) overwhelming.

So, we asked Diane Gottsman, an internationally renowned etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Texas, whose clients range from university students to Fortune 500 companies' leaders, which of these challenges are the most pressing in 2025.

"Budget is always an issue because the number of guests couples want to invite may not be able to coincide with their finances," she told Bored Panda. "It’s important to not overextend yourself. Invite the people that are really important to you and don't feel pressure to invite those who are [merely] asking for an invitation, or that extended family suggest you invite."

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    Groom's Mother Photobombs The Newly Weds' By Sitting Between Them In Full Mourning Dress And Staring At A Bust Of Her Dead Husband

    Victorian wedding photo with bride, groom, and seated woman beside a bust, exemplifying unusual weddings shared online.

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    Flashback To When My Mother In Law Wore This To Our Wedding. You Could Also See Her Purple Thong Underwear Through The Material. See Her Hand Reaching Out! This Was During The Kiss When She Grabbed Him So She Could Kiss Him

    A couple embracing at a wedding ceremony with onlookers, highlighting a chaotic wedding moment.

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    #4

    Mil Hires Someone To Throw Red Paint On Bride's Dress

    Man sweeping red spill at chaotic wedding scene outside venue.

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    To avoid drama and some of the problems we see in these pictures, couples should remember to consider everyone else's point of view.

    "It's the bride and groom’s big day. It’s their responsibility, however, to greet every guest so each guest will remember the moment and feel welcome," Gottsman, author of the book Modern Etiquette for a Better Life, said.

    Smiling at others and enjoying their company is easier when you take care of your own needs first, so rest well before the ceremony and set yourself up for success.

    "Eat before the ceremony [too]. Have a little nibble so you aren't famished," Gottsman added.

    These things might seem inconsequential, but you know how grumpy we can be when we're not feeling our best.

    #5

    A Software Engineer Wore An Apple Vision Pro To His Wedding

    A groom in goggles at a wedding with a scenic mountain backdrop, bride holding bouquet, showcasing unusual wedding moments.

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    #6

    The Dress My Mom Is Planning To Wear To My Wedding. She Sent This To Me Yesterday And I Still Haven’t Replied

    A bride wearing an elegant, vintage-style white wedding dress with lace details and cap sleeves.

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    #7

    Bride Is On The Left, And Her Friend Is On The Right And Not With The Bridal Party So The Dress She Wanted Was All Her Choice

    Two brides in white gowns standing side by side on a wooden deck at a wedding ceremony.

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    Mari
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every day of the year you can wear a white dress, the only occasion you don't show up in a white dress is a wedding. It is just attention seeking and trying to ruin the day of the bride.

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    It's only fair to remain mindful of your wedding guests, as many of them make quite the effort to be there for you.

    According to a 2024 survey from LendingTree, 43% of wedding guests spend an average of $100 to $499 to attend each blessed event. Another 29% spend an average of at least $500, while 12% dish out at least $1,000.

    #8

    I Really Hope She Finds Someone For Her Wedding

    Social media post listing unrealistic requirements for a wedding photographer.

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    Panda-sized Potato
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope she doesn't find anyone for her wedding. This level of entitlement is frustrating, to say the least.

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    #9

    Not A Wedding I'd Like To Be A Part Of

    A tweet discusses disturbing wedding traditions, with a group of men in traditional attire attending a ceremony.

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    Gabriel Camomescro
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I wasn't so used to humans being horrible, this would make me very upset.

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    #10

    The Dress The Hair & Make Up Girl Wore To My Friends Beach Wedding

    Guest at a wedding wearing a bold, floral outfit with a tattoo visible, sitting in a row of chairs outdoors.

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    KazzaHazza
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She’ll be walking around with the pattern of the chair imprinted on her a*s for hours

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    #11

    Hot Tip - Save Money On Your Wedding By Defrauding Your Employer

    Email screenshot showing wedding photography negotiation about budget issues.

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    Many weddings require guests to travel—an expense they're typically expected to shoulder.

    But most guests think their presence isn't enough to count as a present: 91% of such attendees say they feel pressure to get the couple a gift as well, and 67% did.

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    #12

    Saw This On My Way To Breakfast. Not Even A Please, Just A Demand

    "Car with 'Just Married' sign and honeymoon donation request, highlighting a unique wedding moment."

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    “Budget” Grazing Table - You Get What You Paid For

    Wedding buffet with snacks and fruits on two tables with white tablecloths in a rustic setting.

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    Influencer Bride-To-Be Begging For A Free Artwork

    Wedding arrangement message offering exposure instead of payment for art illustration services.

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    Mother In Law Wore A Tiara And Sash To My Wedding

    Bride in green dress and mother of the groom in purple at a wedding with blurred family members.

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    Such gifts are part of the reason why people even go into debt to attend weddings — and some take on quite the commitment.

    Of everyone who has taken on this kind of debt, 23% took on $2,500 or more. Fortunately, more guests (43%) took on less than $1,000.

    #16

    Saw An Acquaintance At A Wedding Last Night. Still Shocked At What She Wore

    Person in gold dress with mixed emoji faces at a wedding, indoor floral and pillar decoration.

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    Belamy
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Influencer? (they don’t care about anyone but themselves)

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    #17

    Another Gem In A Wedding Group With A Greedy Bride

    Bride feeling upset about wedding gift money, holding cash with a disappointed expression, text describing wedding debt.

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    13 Years Together And He Can't Even Manage Some Nice Jeans

    Couple at an outdoor wedding, one in casual attire and the other in a lace dress, under a gazebo.

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    lovemy suffolk
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, after 13 years, she knew who she was marrying and she was ok with his choice of clothing so probably all good.

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    But if there was one piece of advice Diane Gottsman would give to the engaged, it's to try not to stress too much.

    "All weddings have highs and lows and what makes it great is understanding the importance of the ceremony as opposed to it being a perfect Instagram photo," she said.

    If you legitimately care about the event and everyone in attendance, you will find a way to make it fun and enjoyable.

    For more wedding shaming, check out our earlier publication on the subreddit.

    #20

    Guest Dressed Like A Bride (Champagne/White)

    Couple at a wedding, woman in white dress holding a wine glass; a moment from unfortunate weddings shared online.

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    AD Sully
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of all the tacky choices to make, dressing like a bride at someone else's wedding is easily #1.

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    #21

    Gee I Wonder Why These And A Bunch Of Other Happy Home And Bride Groom Stuff Came In As A Goodwill Donation

    Wedding rules signs in a shopping cart, highlighting humorous bride and groom guidelines.

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    Bay Bo
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm going to guess the bridezilla wrote both the rules...

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    #22

    I Thought This Was A Troll Post But There Were Actual Real People In The Comments Agreeing With The Bride! 🤯🤯

    Text post discussing wedding attire issues with fiancé's brother's condition causing conflict.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say deal with it. It's his brother, it isn't something his brother has controll over, and it's his wedding too. Weddings are only stressfull and only suck when you try to make them perfect. Life is imperfect so celebrate it as it is or be misrable. Do you love your weding fantasy or your future husband more? Your choice.

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    #23

    Mother In Law Made It Obvious She Didn’t Want To Be There

    Woman at wedding wearing a frayed denim jacket over a peach ruffled dress, arm linked with a suited individual.

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    This Was In A Bridal Magazine. I Thought This Was For Suggestions On How To Have A Good Wedding, Not A Tacky One

    Wedding dollar dance alternatives list with humorous and interactive ideas for guests during the reception.

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    If Someone Sent This To Me I Would Simply Just Not Go

    Wedding rules list with humorous guidelines, emphasizing celebration behavior and dress code.

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    Na Schi
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean the wording could've been nicer, but in general the requirements are reasonable.

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    #26

    Saw This Today In One Of The Wedding Groups I’m In And Sprinted To This Sub

    Text about a bachelorette party disappointment at Disney World, shared in a bad wedding experience post.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People need to stop expecting wedding parties (and gusts) to put out lots of money for the pre-parties and/or wedings that are NOT theirs. Yes they are too expensive. Do you think you are their only friend/family they need to shell money out for at these types of events?

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    Cringe. I Don’t Know This Person… And I’m Glad I Don’t! Say You’re Full Of Yourself Without Actually *saying* You’re Full Of Yourself

    Facebook post describing a wild wedding with unforgettable moments, emphasizing its chaotic nature.

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    Bridesmaid “Brought Down” Value Of Wedding Photos

    Bridesmaid wearing mask in wedding photos, causing disappointment over indoor shots.

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    Andie Day
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So she may be immuno-compromised or living with someone who is, or has a new baby, or....But your big day trumps someone's health. WTF is wrong with people?

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    #29

    Bride Emails 6k+ Employees An Invitation To Her Wedding With One Month Notice To A Destination Wedding In Asia With A Screenshot Of Her All Cash Registry. She Reshares The Link In Her Ooo Email And Also In Our Organization Wide Presentation

    Wedding announcement email with key details pinked out.

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    “You Must Fit Into My Childhood Expectations + Give Me Money”

    Text about a wedding with strict appearance rules, highlighting colorful emojis and bold demands for perfection.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you celebrating your love or directing a broadway musical. Woman really need to calm down on these childhood wedding fantasies. Dang.

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    #31

    "You Can't Play That Song Because Ts Said So!!!"

    Text about a disagreement over playing "Lover" at a Taylor Swift-themed wedding ceremony.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Taylor will not be at your friends wedding nor will she or you be at Taylor's. It's OK to play it. Taylor isn't the wedding police.

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    #33

    They Say You Can't Steal The Attention From A Desi Bride…

    Emojis cover faces of three seated people at a colorful, decorated wedding.

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    Vogue Weddings: We "Sourced Parisian Cigarettes From Switzerland For Our Guests"

    Vintage melamine ashtray with cigarette butts at a wedding table setting.

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    UpupaEpops
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Imagine having the funds to pull off a wedding that makes it into The Vogue and this is what you come up with. 😭 And then you *insist* that this picture makes it into print. 😭 Even if you are in the tobacco industry, this is too much.

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    #35

    She Promises She Didn’t Wear White To Her Daughter’s Wedding…

    Text message describing a challenging wedding experience, mentioning being a florist and a cake maker for the event.

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    Roxy222uk
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not my business. If your daughter was happy with it, that's what counts.

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    #36

    My Friend Got A Late Diagnosis Of Adhd And Has Become Super Entitled With It Wanting Everything To Be Inclusive. I Am Ok With This Bit Feel His Demands Are Too Excessive And Demanding. For Reference I Haven't Seen Him In 5 Years. Got These Messages Out Of The Blue And The Wedding Is In A Week

    Text conversation about wedding preparations requesting pizza and specific bath products.

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    Wang Zhuang
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah, I would just tell dude not to come. The bride and groom have far too many other things to worry about than catering to a one dude they haven't seen in years

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    #37

    Bride Writes To The New York Times, Confused About Why Her Best Friend Wants A Plus One To Her Destination Wedding

    Text excerpt describing a wedding planning dilemma involving guest list issues and a friend's plus-one request.

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    ghost gurl
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ok but not everyone wants to go on a trip by themselves and spend the entire time alone aside from some socializing at the reception.

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    #38

    Rules For A Bridal Party That She Will Share Everyday Until The Wedding

    Wedding rules shared online; focus on bridal party etiquette and expectations.

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    I Won’t Attend Your Wedding But I Demand You Attend Mine

    Text describing complicated family dynamics and decisions around attending a sister's wedding.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Judge much? It doesn't matter if they ever planned to get married or when they planned the wedding or how well they knew them before marrying. Their life their decisions. If you don't want to go, then don't and pick a backup bridesmaid or just go for a different bridesmaid made straight out. You shouldn't go just so she'll go to yours. Shows no love, just selfishness that way.

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    #40

    “I’m Marrying A Cheater, Is It Ok To Feel Nervous” - Girl What

    Reddit post about wedding jitters with a user expressing nervousness before their upcoming marriage.

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    Kat
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If he was really "the one" your spidie senses wouldn't be tingling.

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    #41

    My Stepmom’s Totally Not White Dress At My Wedding…

    Wedding party photo with faces obscured, featuring people in formal attire and a floral archway backdrop.

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    #42

    Wwyd If This Was Your Bio On A Wedding Website

    Text from a bridesmaid speech with humorous remarks about friendships and family, shared from a bad wedding experience.

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    Huddo's sister
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is a wedding website and why do the bridesmaids need a bio on it?

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    #43

    Another Parent Acting Entitled And Weird

    Text conversation discussing father-daughter wedding traditions and walking down the aisle.

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    Bay Bo
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    2 weeks ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Um, this daddy has his own issues, his girl turned out just fine it seems

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    #44

    Sister’s Drinking Derails Couples Special Day (Dear Abbey)

    Text recounting a disastrous wedding night with excessive drinking and missed plans.

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    What A Whiney And Entitled Brat! Shame On You!

    Two dresses for a wedding: one labeled "Her Pick" and another labeled "My Pick" in a humorous wedding scenario.

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    #46

    Put On Your Best Black Tie Ensemble…and Bring A Pan Of Rice Krispy Treats To Share

    Wedding Q&A image with dress code, food, and drink details; semi-formal attire, hors d'oeuvres, desserts, and non-alcoholic drinks.

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    #47

    Not Me But A Text Invite My Friend Got

    Text message about wedding attire and gift preferences with QR code payment option.

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    #48

    Why….just Why…i Can’t Imagine Showing These To Family And Friends

    A bride in a unique pose with her groom in front of a vintage car, showcasing a memorable wedding photo.

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    Val
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    2 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can't...I just can't. Downvote all you freaking want, this is white trash.

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