This is so cool. Both.

Finally, someone who gets it!

Thank you dear! Not alle men - we know that. BUT: ALL women I know have had unwanted experiences with men. Thar's why!

To avoid being seen or being labelled as anything, I consciously avoid ladies at my workplace (17M working in retail) whether they're co-workers or customers. I'm still polite and all but I don't do small talk. My other male colleagues keep calling me out saying I'm gay for doing that. In their words, the women want a man on their necks. And where I live, I think it's kinda true cos a month ago I was stuck in an elevator with this lady due to a power outage for 30 minutes or so. She was shocked by how calm I was, then proceeded to get offended and report me to the manager when I refused to give her my number. No joke, she said I didn't know how to make small talk with customers and all that bullcrap. Luckily, the manager just played it off but I was so confused for the rest of the day. What should I have done in that situation? Didn't mean to write this much guys lol

How does this count as "funny" or "unhinged"? It's absolutely right. I used to take it personally when women crossed the street to avoid my walking behind them, because *I'm* not one of the bad guys...until I realised that the woman in front had no way of knowing that.

Brilliant to read this from a man who actually understands :) Thank you

A trick that a lot of guys do is when you are walking at night behind a woman who is alone, pretend to be either talking with somebody on your phone, or be otherwise engaged one way or another in something harmless. Don't change your speed until you pass her, and then speed up, unless she is very obviously speeding up, in which case, slow down. Remember, though, that you should still pay attention to your surroundings. Men are mugged too.

Pausing for a few moments and playing with your phone or making a phone call can help to relieve anxiety too I think. I try to slow down or stop and give space if I see a lady look back anxiously

Oof, some of these comments are just moronic. It doesn't matter that a guy *shouldn't* have to be aware that they might be seen as a danger, it doesn't matter that women *should* feel safe walking alone at night - the simple fact is they don't. And you can b***h and whine about that as much as you like, rail against the world that makes people feel this way, but that won't change the simple fact that, as a man, I *will* be perceived as a danger in some situations, irrespective of whether I am or not. You can't change how people react. But you can change your own actions- such as crossing the road, playing a game on your phone, etc- to help out someone a bit more at ease. Doing so is a minor inconvenience to me, but if it helps someone feel safer when they're walking home then it's inarguably worthwhile.

Everyone seems to miss the obvious; granted, he understands, I understand, however, the point is, is that women shouldn't have to feel that way in the first place. A male presence shouldn't be a reason for a woman to feel anxious....

I always cross the street at night so women won't feel anxious.

I respect and appreciate this man! Too many times I've been followed home, cornered and harassed by strange men so I'm weary of them all

I hate getting off the bus in the dark when the only other person getting off is a lone woman. I deliberately walk the longer way round to my home incase she thinks I'm a danger to her. It takes me an extra 10 minutes of putting myself in danger but as long as she has peace of mind then that's all that matters. Men can be utterly vile creatures.

Tis a shame too! I feel weird when I am the only one walking somewhere and a woman steps out in front of me and gives me a weird look!

Yes, women are prey.

Yes! Thank you!

Thank you for understanding this. It means a lot!

I wish it could be different but some men are dangerous...Most of the men I know are good kind men but....

A few bad apples spoil the bunch-

See enough people get bitten by a pit bull, you'd be a bit foolish not to avoid the.

Thank you Matty

He gets it!! Thank you Matty!!

I prefer to hoof it past a lone female, even if I end up out of breath, rather than follow behind at the same pace.

0Thank you for your heightened state of awareness and your Consciousness-raising statement. I am a Survivor, and you are correct. All men are a threat.

It's "all men" until it is "no men"

Well said. women, all types are always anxious, even in crowds.

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this is so stupid, is like "not all woman are child killers, but all child killer are woman"

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If I'm a male and walking alone, how do I know a female won't attack me?

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This is poor risk assessment and I will not accept inherent blame for sharing a body part with a tiny number of the overall "male presence" of the actual problem. We should be the most concerned about people we interact with regularly, statistically speaking that is.

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dumb

There are many good reasons to not want kids (most of them problems for one self, the kids, the world...) so in my book not selfish. It's more selfish to want kids just to procreate. What could be more selfish than that? That being said: it's ok to sometimes be selfish.

I got so tired to being the one to put in then mental effort and planning for ordinary every things. My husband and I talked about it, and now whilst I am planning the menu, composing the shopping list etc, he is washing dishes, doing the laundry, vacuuming the stairs... What I am doing has not changed, but it is being recognised as being part of the housework. It's being valued and appreciated. We each have our own tasks, and it feels like a balance has been reached.

Sounds like the type to start a juicy rumour if there wasn't one going round, true or not.

I'd far rather a very simple wedding, and use the money as a downpayment on a house.

This.

Yes, and I also have books I've read more than twenty times.

I think tax avoidance is trashier when the rich do it because they're just being greedy monsters

Yzma from Emperor’s New Groove