There are over a thousand books written on parenting, but nothing can prepare you for the real thing. Magical, exhilarating, confusing, and downright funny, kids always manage to surprise their parents who can just sit back and document their own feelings for posterity.
Parents on Twitter share their hilarious, relatable, and wholesome thoughts and experiences about having kids. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and be sure to comment your own thoughts and stories below. We got in touch with educational psychologist, best-selling author, and TODAY show contributor Dr. Michele Borba to learn a bit more about raising a child.
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Bored Panda got in touch with educational psychologist, best-selling author, and TODAY show contributor Dr. Michele Borba to ask some questions about parenting, particularly with troubled children, and she was kind enough to answer our questions. Firstly, we wanted to know if there were cases where a child’s bad behavior was not a result of poor parenting.
“Yes! Too many reasons for misbehavior: need for attention, boredom, fatigue, hunger, not sure of expectations/fear, or the environment doesn’t support the child,” she shared with Bored Panda.
Naturally, we wanted to hear her thoughts on what resources parents should look into if they are struggling with keeping their children in check. “We do know that parent training works, the caveats: the training needs. To understand child development the parent must be committed to learning and change. It is possible but it needs to be done in small nuggets with consistency.”
“I love the parent training approach that teaches new behavior management in chinks like a tantrum and then discuss or try to apply that one strategy at home. and then go back to learn the next and next steps. Breaking change into smaller more manageable pieces and putting each step to practice is more likely to reap positive results.”
Of course, there are, unfortunately, enough cases where the parents really are at fault, so we wanted to know what are some common mistakes new parents make when raising a child. “We forget to recognize how stress mirrors down to our children. We need to watch our own selves. Kids are copycats!” she shared.
Honestly that's the coolest towel I've ever seen. That kid and their parents rock.
“Too often we react, not respond, to a child’s misbehavior. Calm responses instead of reactive yelling get better results. I tell parents to watch for reoccurring problems. Or sometimes we are most likely to get upset and then plan OUR new response to our child’s misbehavior. It’s hard to think about calm responses in the heat of the moment.”
I am soooo not looking forward to school traffic. Morning school traffic is the worst 🙄
“We often don’t have a thought-out response to misbehavior that lets children know what we want them to do instead. So they continue with the same inappropriate behavior. We fail to pass on our new behavior plan on to others who care about your child or see them regularly. Grandparents, your parenting partner, the daycare workers, teachers, etc. if you all respond the same way to misbehavior the child is more likely to change their behavior. Consistency counts!”
“We forget to reinforce the child’s good attempts. “Thanks for stopping to listen,” or “I appreciate how you picked up your toys.” We’re far more likely to point out what the child is doing wrong and forget to share what we appreciate. Kids act how they see themselves. We fail to Identify the misbehavior - the aggression, talking back, rudeness, etc.”
My uncle passed away when I was 4-5 years old and was buried in a cemetery that we had to pass by every time we traveled between my grandma’s house and ours. When driving past the cemetery my sister and I would roll down the car window and scream “Bye uncle *name*”. Looking back I don’t think we kids understood what a cemetery is.
“Watch the pattern and track it without the child knowing you’re doing it. I always suggest parents put a calendar in front of them. Then mark the time and place the behavior occurs. And what is there? Kids don’t misbehave all the time. Tune in and you'll see a pattern that you may miss. Like: It’s every day at 3. Maybe the child missed the nap. Or it’s on Tuesday and Thursday when the new daycare worker is there.”
We all have a nearby corner store with blue slurpees... we just need to find it.
"Who does the child not misbehave with? Watch how the adult responds to the child and adopt that response. Make sure to teach a replacer behavior. Some kids get in the habit of misbehavior. And we assume they know what to do instead. Don’t assume. For instance, Instead of their rude response, stress “please” or “thank you.” But SHOW the new behavior in a calm moment, don’t lecture or tell it. Kids learn behaviors better by showing not telling them. And then practice practice practice until the child adopts the new behavior. Sometimes we try to teach too many new behaviors and it backfires."
I do this but leave out the insults. Just say "SOON YOU WILL BE DEFEATED!! MWUHAHAH"
“If the misbehavior continues and you’re not seeing positive results, don’t wait! Seek the support of a professional in child development. And if the behavior continues every day for two weeks, spills over to other areas, or you are too concerned talk to a child psychologist or your pediatrician, don’t wait. We’re seeing an upsurge in depression and anxiety amongst even our youngest children. They won’t come and tell us they feel stress but act it out. Behavior can mean a cry for help.” Dr. Michele Borba is an educational psychologist and author of "Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine."
Actually, the first line should read: "5 yo: Mom. Mom. Mom! Mom! Watch this! Mama! Are you watching? MAMA!!! *Begins to cry* MAMA!!! LOOK AT ME!" Rest checks out.
Rest assured, people realise that a real kidnapper would be doing it in a hurry. So just slow down, relax, cry and yell out " I'm never having another child". No one will ever suspect you.
Obvious! And you are very lucky, at least you belong to historical times. When my sister was four of five she told me mom she was lucky because she could see dinos in the zoo when she was a little girl.
So now that this has been cut down to the top 50, how do we see the rest BP staff? The link is still not there?
So this week my son and I had this conversation. SON: "Daddy, is 57 a prime number or a composite number?" ME: "Err...Prime?" SON: "No, it's a composite number. Daddy, do you know the factors of 57?" ME: "I have no idea." SON: "They are 1,3,19 and 57" ME: *head explodes* He is 8, autistic and obsessed with numbers in general and has a natural aptitude for maths that we don't have so he seems to have taught himself factors. He did this with other random numbers I threw at him. Here he is "hiding in his new hat" hat1-64f04...f-jpeg.jpg
So now that this has been cut down to the top 50, how do we see the rest BP staff? The link is still not there?
So this week my son and I had this conversation. SON: "Daddy, is 57 a prime number or a composite number?" ME: "Err...Prime?" SON: "No, it's a composite number. Daddy, do you know the factors of 57?" ME: "I have no idea." SON: "They are 1,3,19 and 57" ME: *head explodes* He is 8, autistic and obsessed with numbers in general and has a natural aptitude for maths that we don't have so he seems to have taught himself factors. He did this with other random numbers I threw at him. Here he is "hiding in his new hat" hat1-64f04...f-jpeg.jpg