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My friends are very active and reach out several times a day. Which is fantastic and I love being loved by them. But sometimes my little introvert self is exhausted. I'll just text them a picture of a rock. The implication being that I'm okay but currently hiding under my rock and will emerge soon.

I'm gen-x and grew up unreachable. I don't like anyone thinking I jump if I hear a phone beep. I may or may not return a text within 72 hours. And I spent my career in IT.

I wouldn’t even have a phone if work didn’t pay for it. I don’t have any social media presence except a few how to videos on YouTube about RV living full time. Don’t miss the chaos that comes with it.

My wife will answer the phone every time. She can't understand how I will look to see who's calling then just walk off to do something else if that's what I choose to do.

OMG, yes! I have had to explain this to friends, family and employers that MY cellphone is for MY convenience. Not so you can bother me in the toilet.

Well, it's just rude to respond days later. Especially when you are reasonably close and it's clear that you are spending loads of time on social media. I know you've read my message and are just ignoring it. I'm not stupid. I also don't get why. Imagine the backlog of messages you'll eventually need to respond to! Why delay if you’re going to answer eventually anyway? Especially if it's something important. You don't have to answer straight away, but within 24 hours is considered non-arsehole-ish.

If I don't reply straight away, I'm fine and probably very busy atm so I'll reply within a day or so. Now I usually text beforehand to ask the other person if a call is okay? If not? That's fine, it can wait. But bombarding my phone with calls and texts when I've said that I'm taking a few days off because I need rest? Or I need my phone clear from calls for a few days because I'm waiting for my specialists or doctors to call? If I don't reply? I don't reply. End of.

Hehe.. they get the perfect instant gratification and contact toy and then they don't reply until it is convenient. On the other hand, people seem to be perfectly fine with answering phone calls when they are sitting in a restaurant with friends, and blab on for 20 minutes, never mind it is not convenient to THEM. I agree that you should not be required to answer when it is not convenient but that also goes to extending the convenience to include your company. I remember when we had a landline, if we had guests we would tell the caller we would call back.

I have a separate ringtone for my parents. Everyone else gets answered when it suitable.

YES !!!!!!!!!!

Absolutely. I used to have a super toxic co-worker who would call multiple times and leave dozens of rude messages accusing me of ignoring her and "not treating [her] needs like a priority" WHILE I WAS SLEEPING! Kept telling me how selfish and narcissistic I am for wanting to relax on my day off instead of get up early to help her with her chores.

I keep my phone turned off when I'm out. I don't want to be found.

my dad hates electronics and still doesn't have a disconnect; he often only goes to the post office when the postmistress is away for lunch, so he doesn't have to talk to her. i keep telling him i rarely converse with her when i go in, and it's very simple to just drop a "hi julie!" or a "have a good day" and keep on moving. you don't have to talk to people of you don't want to!

Amen.

Exactly!

I'll be the devil's advocate. I'm a parent (and grandparent), and my Millennial kids and step kids frequently do not respond to messages. And I don't blow up their phones...just maybe once or twice a week, or less. But god forbid I fail to respond if they send something. Not saying it's this way with everyone, but I can't be the only one. It's okay to have "boundaries" (god this is such an overused term) but it's also okay to have a modicum of common courtesy. No, I don't expect a response every time I send something. But an occasional acknowledgement from time to time, even a simple thumbs up, wouldn't hurt. It's not an "electronic leash" to get a simple response every now and then.

YES! I have a friend who will text me " Are you okay?" if I do not respond right away.

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Adding a desired ETA to messages? So if I need to let you know I'm arriving I can put "now", but if I need to know if you are present for the Assumption then I can put "seven days" and you are reminded of the message leisurely

Northstarfan didn't need to include 'not feeling social.' You don't need to give a reason for not replying. The rest of her response was great.

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But you don't love me then!! I need that constant reassurance as it is what I have been given by gentle parenting and teaching. I don't have to grow up from my childish personalities because you told me I don't have to and I am jealous that kids get it and I don't.

Love this.

Srsly what a stupid advice

Or in a psych ward...

Awwww!

Because they tell us to!

Damn

Two words: compound interest.

Implying he's getting some

Okay, that's cool.

Drunk, certified bad word now. Freakin' dystopian.

hahahaha

This. This is the kind of man I need. The one I can be a best friend for.

It IS true though: keeping up with the Joneses doesn't make you any happier.

In the UK hospital parking charges are phenomenal.

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I swear there is a team of slow and omnipresent drivers out there that tag team stalking me. Most of them drive Subarus. But all of them have armor piercing headlights. I curse them with all of my hatred for having the audacity to also be traveling by car in my general vicinity.

Still have to mention Kung Fu Panda, who also did better.

Wait a HAND model for an ALCOHOL company is 100K!?!?! where do I sign up!?!?

It's on my to-do list. Actually, it's on several of my to-do lists, but most are buried under papers on my desk. Or in the stack of papers on the table. Or maybe on the chair next to my desk. I'll add "look for other to-do lists" to this to-do list.

And then I couldn’t text you because I realised I hadn’t answered your previous text and now I’m just waiting until I run in to you at the supermarket so we can laugh about it and start over?

I'll blindly side with this employee

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Oh, yeah, allotting time to having a good cry is awesome! If I'm sad, I'll give myself 10/15 minutes to cry and then snap out of it.

Love this!

Ah! This is the Colombian multicoloured tanager (Chlorochrysa nitidissima). Before googling, I just knew it was a bird. :)

That's what cat owners be going through, dogs are the best

Perfectly reasonable and succinct conversation

Wtf?!? Where was this when I was sweatin' geography tests in grade school? I want a do-over.

But then he needed a SHOE to identify her?

Lean into the conspiracy theory

Relationship goals🤭

Not for THAT van, they're way more than 45k.