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Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.

We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.

If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.

It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.

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The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.

However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.

But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.

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Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.

Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.

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Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.

Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.

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According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."

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In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.

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Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.

"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."

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Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.

"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.

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But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.

"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."

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In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.

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There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.

"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."

Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!

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GoddessOfChaos
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on

Olivia Mansfield
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly!!! World is very overpopulated, so much abuse poverty crime ,destroying natural habitats

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julie son
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

From the head of a church who decided in 1331AD that their clergy should become celibate so their worldly possessions would revert to the church, rather than their families! Also, the Dalai Lama said that the biggest problem the world faces today is overpopulation. Guess which one has a clue?

Kiem Gallagher
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pope Francis needs to pipe down, get the insane riches they have hoarded and hid for an eternity in the Vatican's vaults, sell them to stupid rich people, and use the money to FIX this world he wants people to bring more kids into... it's literally falling apart. He also needs to stay out of my uterus, thank you.

Elizabeth Molloy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The animals are already there, they need loving homes. Humans are a pestilence on the planet; we don't need any more!

J.A. Rogers
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And why should anyone care about family-planning advice from an old guy who's never had a family of his own?

InfectedVoice
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The Catholic Church has no right to comment on kids anymore, they just want to f**k them.

Bri Lancaster
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ooh, ooh, ooh! [I'm raising my hand because my parents and siblings and I chose furbabies over grandchildren and children, and it's been awesome!!]

Iseefractals
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We have 5 cats inside all strays, 4 of which are related and taken in over the course of 10 years, and another 4 that live outside....which are also related to the 4 inside cats and are 20th generation. All 4 of the related kitties are sprawled across me as i'm writing this, despite the fact that they hate each other, they love me more. A child could never, ever bring as much satisfaction or happiness as the previous sentence.

Vinita Talaulikar
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I prefer being selfish than burdening the world with over population. What type of world are we giving our children ?

Kai David
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or people who bring kids into this world and not be able to afford it and rely on others to take care of their kids. Most of these adults can barely take care of themselves much leß a child.

Micah
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This from the same institution that said babies who die before being baptized go to Limbo...then changed their minds.

Smilejustbecause
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like that my cat has her own thing to do and doesn’t want to be bothered sometimes! We have an understanding.

Brian Bennett
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Proud and Selfish! You cant even protect children for some of your wonderful priests!

Bacony Cakes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The pope be like: "no you can't have pets that's cringy you gotta f*ck because i'm a virgin stop calling my car the popemobile it's not the popemobile my chair should be recognised as a country i definitely don't touch kids and my hat is stupid"

Kim Kermes
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When he orders on pain of excommunication all business owners, directors, CEOs, what have you, to pay employees in accordance with their value and not take pay above their value, and make them prove it, maybe he can speak.

Valentina Toloy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I really want to know why a dude who is not allowed to have children (legítimate ones at least) believes he can tell others that not having them is selfish.

Andy Hinds
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bringing kids into the world when you are the prime example of the product of a lousy upbringing is way worse.

Niall Mac Iomera
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"you're being selfish" he said from his gold throne in the country he owns.

Gavin Johnson
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is his virginity or ability to drive relevant to the things he makes proclamations on? Do we know if any other religious leaders can drive or if they are virgins? I have major issues with the Catholic Church, I could suggest some better lines that are both relevant AND true, perhaps ask ‘should we listen to a Pope who has covered up the sexual abuse of vulnerable people, both adults and children?’ That speaks more about his judgment than driving and sexual relationships.

K Witmer
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's a quote from the movie clueless. It's supposed to be a sarcastic response. We all know the pope is a hypocrite and a child abuser. That btw chooses not to have children

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Matthew Howard
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cut the poor man some slack his body technically belongs to the catholic church so he isn't allowed to.

Sum Guy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People assume that he should be a virgin when that's not true... what is important is the vow of celibacy when he decides to become a priest. what happened before is irrelevant. As for driving, he drives himself around vatican city all the time in some old renault

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