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Look, not everyone wants to spend Friday night partying. Some of us want to roll ourselves into a blanket burrito and watch a movie at home. Alone. And without having to justify ourselves for it.

We're not ungrateful if we want to avoid our friends for a day or two. Nor are we defective if our mind goes blank when we meet new people. We're just (a bit) antisocial.

If you're one of these people (or simply want to understand your introverted friend better), there's an Instagram account dedicated to portraying this life in memes.

It's called FOGO. The acronym stands for The Fear of Going Out, and the one running it says this feeling is completely normal.

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And This, My Friends, Is How The Irish Exit Was Invented
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. And I am not shy. Or arrogant. Maybe a bit. The point is, it's okay not to talk.

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The term introversion was popularized by Carl Jung and describes an inwards orientation to one's own mental life rather than the outward orientation of extroverts to social life. Introverts gain energy from reflection and lose energy in social gatherings.

However, it's important to point out that most people are neither total introverts nor pure extroverts but display features of both—they are the so-called ambiverts. Almost everyone needs occasional solitude to replenish their energy.

But cultures differ in how they value certain personality traits, and America, for example, likes its extroverts. This society rewards assertiveness and encourages people to speak up.

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Experts are guessing that the number of introverts as extroverts is the same, but the former is less visible and certainly less noisy so it's easy to think they're the minority.

Introverts are drained by too much social interaction and are the first to leave a party. Even as children, they usually observe first and act later.

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Yes 😭
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I'm ever in one of those horror movie/ thriller situations where my life depends on how quietly I can breath, I'd like donations to charity in lieu of flowers.

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Some research claims that the inherent differences between introverts and extroverts lie within the dopamine system in the brain, which makes pleasurable rewards (including social interaction) more salient to extroverts. This suggests that extroverts may be more likely to experience positive emotions.

Even though introverts are generally likely to report lower levels of happiness than extroverts, this does not mean that they are destined to be miserable. The good news is that a consistent theme in happiness research claims our choices and behaviors (the ones that are in our control and changeable) have significant effects on our well-being.

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*promptly Exits*
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely! It triggers my sarcastic teacher button and prepare to be subtly sabotaged wherever I can do so.

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May You Go To Work Tomorrow With The Confidence Of A 4 Year Old 🙏
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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is acceptable for adults too. I did this today to someone. I didn't scream it, but still.

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According to Derrick Carpenter, a positive psychology coach at Happify, a helpful tip for those with introverted tendencies is to try to see their whole self. "It’s important to note that the scale on which introversion and extroversion are measured is just that: a scale," Carpenter wrote in VeryWell Mind. "Within each of us lies some tendency to recharge our batteries through social interaction and affiliation with others and another tendency to recharge on our own. Be honest with yourself about what you need in a given moment and allow yourself permission to have it."

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In other words, when calling a friend to hang out feels right, make a lunch date. But if you’d rather curl up with a good book, go for it.

Carpenter also thinks introverted behavior has an upside that often gets overlooked. "Introverts tend to be better problem solvers, perform better academically, exhibit stronger regulation of their behavior, and are less likely to take risks that may cause them harm," he said.

"Research shows that introverts may experience these benefits as a result of having more gray matter in their prefrontal cortex, the area at the front of the brain that controls complex and abstract thinking, emotion regulation, and decision making."

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My Ability To Care For Succulents Is Proof That I Should Not Be A Parent
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Teenagers are like the moles in your yard and raccoons in your trash can and ants in your kitchen and yeah, I'll just take the plants and pets, thank you.

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Remember that in many classical and theological perspectives on happiness from Aristotle to the Buddha, spending time alone and contemplating the meaning and purpose of our lives is a necessity.

"Learn to embrace your unique introvert qualities and tap into the happiness they bring you, whether that’s teaching yourself something new, exploring nature on a solo trek, or cultivating your creative side," Carpenter said.

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Let’s Circle Back In The New Year
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But when you feel like leaving your safe little cave, own it. "Particularly when you are already going to be socializing, act the part of an extrovert," Carpenter suggested.

"This doesn't mean you should be inauthentic. Just bring more of your real self. Be an extroverted introvert. Harness that rich inner world of yours and jump into the conversation more, share your opinion, crack a joke, and take the spotlight every once in a while."

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It Is 6° Out And I’m Going Back To Bed #toodaloo
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kind of like the things we all should be doing right now, but here we are reading BoredPanda.

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In fact, studies, where introverts were instructed to act like extroverts in a group of people, showed they ended up experiencing greater positive emotion than introverts acting normally (in fact, they rated their positive emotion higher than the naturally extroverted people, too) and reported feeling more authentic at the moment.

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Nicole
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an uncle that does the same thing and I use to think it was strange when I was a kid. Then adulthood hit and I got it.

Bobby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What about the father who hasn't replied yet? Do they have father's contact#? Who's the father?

Jaithesaint
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is me. Currently. No wonder my nephews love me lol. I just pop up

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There are plenty of ways to go about it. "If you're not socializing much, encourage yourself to connect with others in the ways that work well for you," the psychology coach said.

"Join a group to take part in an activity you already love, like a choir, book club, or fitness class. Even though initiating these decisions may feel like an extra effort, the payoff should be noticeable. When you realize you acted more extroverted in a way that felt good, keep it up."

Whatever happens in these settings, you will always be able to retreat and find memes to scroll through instead!

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#lifegoals

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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I aspire to be this much of a character in my senior years.

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#34

*spends 3 Hours On Google Maps Assessing And Memorising Parking Situation*
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When it comes to unknown parking situations I'm ALWAYS nervous. Especially in busy inner-city areas. That's why I love my bike...

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#36

*randomly Meows*
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agree. Never appreciate them and also not any good at giving them because I feel like who the f am I to be judging anyone and throwing critiques at them. Always told my immediate supervisors, no praise needed, just throw money

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#39

I’m Just Gna Start Shaving My Head. Can’t Take The Small Talk.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I preemptively ask them a broad question like "What's your favorite vacation spot" and then just relax and occasionally mutter "oh nice" and "cool"

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#40

Off You Go
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Early on in the pandemic a woman (typical Karen-ish Anti-Masker) asked me why I moved so far out of her way while walking down the pavement towards her and I said "Oh it has nothing to do with COVID, I would've done it anyway"

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#43

It’s Good To Have Purpose, Y’all
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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now you tell me! It's already the 10th! How can I plan for this without notice???

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#47

I’ve Been Called Worse For Less, Boo. #okaywithbeingselfish
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You know what is selfish? Bringing children into this mess of a world that we are destroying and doing nothing to help fix it just so they can suffer later on

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#50

*leaps Onto Passing Boat*
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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just be a bleached almond like the rest of us, huh? Then people just comment on bare skin exposure instead of bare skin with ink.

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#54

Because We Were Once Young & Full Of Hope
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When you were in school you didn't lose sleep over worrying about bills, employment, relationships and the world burning. That's why so many adults are exhausted from just walking to their car for the daily commute.

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#55

I See No Crime
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ChimeraBubbles
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Those male authors have obviously never met a woman let alone seen one at rock bottom. This ain't it.

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#57

It’s My Journey And It Is *exhausting*
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Elliot Fowler
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my mind if a person compliments me then that means they aprove of what I did, so now I have the crushing weight of expectaion and trust on me. (Compliment = expectation = stress) (No compliment = indeffernece = no stress)

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#64

… We Don’t?
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

doctor is totally lying. I literally do not know anyone who is not anxious and depressed.

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#67

But Why Are Rates Of Anxiety And Burnout At An All Time High? 🥴
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

After I chose to stay uninformed about current events, my will to live has increased significantly.

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#72

Well One Thing I’m Absolutely Certain Of Is That I Am *not* In My Neighbor’s Yard, Tfg
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Madison Feehan
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It took me far too long to realize this wasn't some twisted form of poetry.

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#75

Modern Technology Designed To Help Us Avoid Small Talk Is My Everything
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

More likely, "take a picture of it' and send it to you, saying it is delivered. then stealing it lmao

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#76

#twinning
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of the time between Christmas and New Years, where everyday is Sunday

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#77

Essential Language 🙌🙌
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Too easy for the other person to say; "No, no, I've got all the time in the World for you." What the hell do you do then?

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Shower seat is underrated! Gonna just rest while I wash. And still be exhausted when I'm done...

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#89

Both *twerks*
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Call it what you want, it's drama free and I'm loving every minute of it! 😃

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#92

I Just Want Someone To Make My Phone Calls For Me
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relate to both sides. I'm an introvert when I'm sober, but extrovert when I had my first bottle of wine for the evening.

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#93

The Early Bird Can Have The Worm, I’m In It For The 3 Hours Of Extra Sleep 🙌🙌
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just finished reading The Art of Rest. Honestly one of the hardest hitting sentences in it was along the lines of "it's not morally superior to get up early" and I felt so much tension leave my body. Also the other sentence: "rest is essential".

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#95

Don't Need This Kind Of Negativity In My Life *buys 72 Notebooks*
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But I do use them. I am that kind of person. Errrr, well, clearly this message isn't for me. Moving on...

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#98

Plz Normalize This Form Of Communication For In Person Interactions Moving Forward Plz And Tysm @badrundoesntrun

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's how life works too. If someone is talking bullshyte, you can compliment them on the absence of brain activity and move on.

#100

If That Number Is Significantly Higher, Does That Mean I’m Doing A Good Job? Did I Win Something?
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#101

What Do They Do With All Their Free Time?????
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I always thought the inner monologue thing was a movie trope. I think in images and sounds and smells and really short movements from place to place, unless I'm writing or reading something then I think of the words.

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The Fact That I Once Was The Kind Of Person Who Willingly Went To Clubs On Nye… 🤯🤯🤯
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have only ever gone out on New Year's Eve one time. I really regretted not driving myself.

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#105

Awkward Af Is My Autopilot Setting
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, I wouldn't have thought that either. Don't people usually ask for make and model? Edited:spelling

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