Some are more excited by the prospect of a party, a night out, or even small talk, than others. Understandably so; what might sound like fun for a social butterfly can turn into a nightmare scenario for someone more introverted. In environments that favor the butterflies, introverts might face certain challenges or situations quite a few of them can relate to.
Finding something relatable is always nice, whether it’s a person on the same boat or online content covering something so familiar, it feels like a hug. This type of content can be found on the ‘Introverted Struggle’ Instagram account. Using jokes and memes, it covers everything from social anxiety to spending days on end in the living room, and beyond. We have gathered some of their best examples on this list today, so wait no longer, scroll down and enjoy.
Bored Panda turned to a licensed clinical psychologist, Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., to learn more about being introverted, and he was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find his thoughts in the text below.
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As the description reads, the ‘Introverted Struggle’ Instagram account is dedicated to relatable introvert memes, and the fact it has over 450k followers already—created just a couple of years ago, in February, 2021—proves that people must indeed find them relatable. Or funny, at least.
The account boasts a collection of nearly 2.7k posts, depicting the everyday struggles of introverts out there; and, according to Verywell Mind, they comprise roughly 25-40% of the entire population.
Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung is the one who distinguished introverts from extroverts in the early 20th century. He suggested that extroverts tend to direct their attention toward others and the outside world, while introverts do it toward their own feelings and inner state.
Licensed clinical psychologist Leon Seltzer discussed the differences between the two with Bored Panda. “Because interacting with others drains an introvert's energy, they need to follow their socializing with solitude—a much greater need for them than for extroverts, who are energized through interacting with others. If introverts are less social than their counterparts, it's because of the associated costs of such interactions.”
Me trying to think of the little fact to tell about myself: *sweats*
Contrary to popular belief, introverted people are not opposed to socializing. They simply need time to recharge their ‘social battery’, unlike extroverts, who get energized by social interaction.
“It's not that they don't like people or need to have relationships. It's that they don't depend so much on these relationships to accept themselves or experience fulfillment,” Dr. Seltzer told Bored Panda. “If, in general, they prefer solitary activities, it's because these solo pursuits are ‘quieter’, and more meaningful to them than engaging with others.
Similarly, while they can enjoy talking to others, they're less engaged with them unless the subject of conversation dovetails with their interests. Extroverts can enjoy small talk, for it's compelling enough for them just to be conversing with others. But introverts dislike small talk for it doesn't seem to be worth the substantial effort to participate in it.”
idk if yall can see it but in the painting behind her it looks like it says something. idk i see the name john
Leon Seltzer expanded on the topic of popular misconceptions about introverted people: “It's typically assumed that introverts lack social skills, presumably because they're likely to pause more in talking to another (to collect their thoughts) and also to avoid conversing about topics that have little appeal for them. But in fact introverts' skills in appropriately discussing various matters with others are typically as good as—or better than—extroverts because they think before they speak and take the time to size up the situation more carefully, and thoroughly, than do extroverts.
“Also generally not recognized is the fact that if the conversation relates to something they deeply care about, it may be hard to get them to stop talking because they so much want to express all that they've (internally) been thinking about. Garrulousness isn't usually associated with introversion but in just the right situation they can be as talkative as extroverts, though they're far more selective about just what they talk about,” he added.
Some say that the western cultures tend to favor extroverted people. Licensed therapist Blake Griffin Edwards pointed out that, according to studies from 2014, 87% of people in the West sought to become more extroverted. Award-winning author Beverly D. Flaxington suggested that people in the US also tend to praise extroversion more, some even stating that it’s the superior type, compared to introversion.
However, one is not technically better; they’re simply different. Beverly D. Flaxington emphasized that the differences between the two lie on the genetic level, and manifest through different reactions to external stimuli.
“It's crucial to realize that introversion is not a one-dimensional topic, as so many assume it is,” Dr. Seltzer pointed out. “According to the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory, introversion has five separate dimensions, and each dimension exists along a 1-10 continuum, suggesting relativity within relativity. And, by implication, it also suggests that the way most people perceive introverts can't help but oversimplify them.”
According to Seltzer, the first dimension emphasizes that as opposed to congeniality and actively introducing themselves to others, introverts consider social amenities unimportant, leaving them to others. “They are seen as quiet and shy, even anti-social (though they're better seen as asocial, for socializing is simply less meaningful to them) and dislike being interrupted by others and having to talk spontaneously to someone without knowing in advance that they're going to be contacted. Essentially, they live inside themselves, so it takes longer for them to come out of their cocoon.”
Nope not the same prefer the planking because that does something for my figure.
The second dimension refers to them being self-contained rather than expressive or demonstrative, open, and self-revealing. “Introverts tend to keep their feelings and interests to themselves and are often seen by others as difficult to get to know. They also deal with their emotions internally, prefer to solve their problems on their own without asking for help, and find it hard to discuss with others what's upsetting them, so they're less likely to reach out for support when they're distressed,” clinical psychologist Leon Seltzer pointed out.
Then you get dragged to all the parties and sit there being socially akward while they talk to everyone and you´re just there exsisting :D
The third dimension relates to introverts being intimate versus being gregarious: seeking popularity, having a broad circle of friends and acquaintances, and joining groups. “Introverts prefer relating to a few significant others rather than being part of a large group. They need to establish trust in people before sharing much about themselves (and not out of distrust as such but for emotional comfort). They also seek close, one-to-one, in-depth involvement with others and recognize people more as individuals (expecting to be recognized as such themselves).”
The fourth dimension analyzes how reflective they are, compared to being participative and enjoying being around others. According to Dr. Seltzer, “Introverts are much better described as favoring detached observation and reflection over actively participating with the outer world. They learn best through reading and writing and, in fact, communicate best through writing (which isn't preferred by extroverts, who'd rather talk than scrupulously compose their queries and responses). They also feel more secure writing down their ideas than giving an oral presentation.”
The final, fifth dimension covers introverts being quiet versus enthusiastic, as in lively, energetic, and seeking the spotlight. “Introverts prefer calmness, serenity, even silence,” Leon Seltzer pointed out. “They are disturbed by noisy circumstances and places, don't feel a need to talk in social situations, like being with other quiet people, and prefer to stay behind the scenes, in the background.”
Couldn’t tell you, haven’t had them for years XD I got acrylics put on a few months ago and it was like transcending to Nirvana just to be able to scratch my itches properly!
Load More Replies...My sibling, who wears fake nails seeing my decent plain nails, "Ewww!"
Some of my nails are long and the others are just lil nubs on my fingers
As a guitar player you want longer nails to pluck the strings and short ones to press the strings down. My nails grow OPPOSITE to this. 😩
Load More Replies...Can’t relate because I’m a perfectionist when it comes to my nails/makeup ✌🏻🥲
I love this part and how he said it! Every time some one does something and and I think the f you are I always hear his voice!!! lol
Exercising makes me feel... like being in gym class and feeling humiliated because I can't do chin ups, climb a rope, do push ups and I hate menial pointless exercises. Gives plenty of time in my mind to imagine getting in fights with other kids who laughed at me and excluded me on their dodgeball team. And then after exercising I can go back to my regular program of remembering my mom's narc rages and body snarking me.
okay i wont do it again im sorr- wait sorry..i mean sorry... no i bruh im sorry omg i am so sor-
that is so cool. I wanna be that talented :( actually i don think its talent as much as it is patience lol
I’m just built like that for some reason. I just cry for basic things like if someone gives me constructive criticism or when i have slightly more work than usual. I wish I cried lesser than I do
At least BP aren't claiming 'new material' as well. Things seem to come around a lot faster than they used to 🥱🥱🥱
Load More Replies...Is it just me, or the current title “introverted struggle” does not much align with the content? It’s more like mix of introvert/single/procrastination/… struggles mixed up. Hillarious though :)
"I'm slightly shy and socially awkward, if I call that introversion I don't have to learn the life skill of talking to strangers. " Sadly there's millions of people who will never experience the best things in life, people, travel, new experiences, just because they can't be bothered to feel embarrassed for a few moments. It's frustrating to see. Jump right in with both feet, be embarrassed, feel awkward, you'll soon get over it.
Load More Replies...This list doesn't make any sense, it has nothing to do with being introverted but instead ridicules people's looks? Not good, BP.
Learn what an introvert is before choosing the memes. Most of these may be applicable to persons suffering depression, not introversion. Introverts LIKE being alone. A lot of us can do whatever we want, including social events and gatherings. But we use up a lot of mental energy during those situations and need time to recover.
This is what Bored Panda introvert articles are like. I've been through the stages of grief and moved on to acceptance. Now I just enjoy them for what they are.
Load More Replies...1. Molly is right. 2. P's continuing series of pity parties might actually do harm by enabling and reinforcing behavior the might benefit from professional treatment. Also, it's reasonable to ask why the introverts here are so intent on getting attention. Some of these people, at least, are wallowing in their condition.
I think I counted 2 of these that were actually relevant to the term "introvert". And if I did miss a few, a few is not 45.
Okay, I know I'm going to get downvoted for this, but don't hate on the lists, please. Everything y'all keep saying is valid, yes, but I feel like complaining about the list just prolongs the negativity in your life, when you could just... move on, y'know? It's just a website, and just a list.
At least BP aren't claiming 'new material' as well. Things seem to come around a lot faster than they used to 🥱🥱🥱
Load More Replies...Is it just me, or the current title “introverted struggle” does not much align with the content? It’s more like mix of introvert/single/procrastination/… struggles mixed up. Hillarious though :)
"I'm slightly shy and socially awkward, if I call that introversion I don't have to learn the life skill of talking to strangers. " Sadly there's millions of people who will never experience the best things in life, people, travel, new experiences, just because they can't be bothered to feel embarrassed for a few moments. It's frustrating to see. Jump right in with both feet, be embarrassed, feel awkward, you'll soon get over it.
Load More Replies...This list doesn't make any sense, it has nothing to do with being introverted but instead ridicules people's looks? Not good, BP.
Learn what an introvert is before choosing the memes. Most of these may be applicable to persons suffering depression, not introversion. Introverts LIKE being alone. A lot of us can do whatever we want, including social events and gatherings. But we use up a lot of mental energy during those situations and need time to recover.
This is what Bored Panda introvert articles are like. I've been through the stages of grief and moved on to acceptance. Now I just enjoy them for what they are.
Load More Replies...1. Molly is right. 2. P's continuing series of pity parties might actually do harm by enabling and reinforcing behavior the might benefit from professional treatment. Also, it's reasonable to ask why the introverts here are so intent on getting attention. Some of these people, at least, are wallowing in their condition.
I think I counted 2 of these that were actually relevant to the term "introvert". And if I did miss a few, a few is not 45.
Okay, I know I'm going to get downvoted for this, but don't hate on the lists, please. Everything y'all keep saying is valid, yes, but I feel like complaining about the list just prolongs the negativity in your life, when you could just... move on, y'know? It's just a website, and just a list.