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Some are more excited by the prospect of a party, a night out, or even small talk, than others. Understandably so; what might sound like fun for a social butterfly can turn into a nightmare scenario for someone more introverted. In environments that favor the butterflies, introverts might face certain challenges or situations quite a few of them can relate to.

Finding something relatable is always nice, whether it’s a person on the same boat or online content covering something so familiar, it feels like a hug. This type of content can be found on the ‘Introverted Struggle’ Instagram account. Using jokes and memes, it covers everything from social anxiety to spending days on end in the living room, and beyond. We have gathered some of their best examples on this list today, so wait no longer, scroll down and enjoy.

Bored Panda turned to a licensed clinical psychologist, Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., to learn more about being introverted, and he was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. You will find his thoughts in the text below.

As the description reads, the ‘Introverted Struggle’ Instagram account is dedicated to relatable introvert memes, and the fact it has over 450k followers already—created just a couple of years ago, in February, 2021—proves that people must indeed find them relatable. Or funny, at least.

The account boasts a collection of nearly 2.7k posts, depicting the everyday struggles of introverts out there; and, according to Verywell Mind, they comprise roughly 25-40% of the entire population.

Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung is the one who distinguished introverts from extroverts in the early 20th century. He suggested that extroverts tend to direct their attention toward others and the outside world, while introverts do it toward their own feelings and inner state.

Licensed clinical psychologist Leon Seltzer discussed the differences between the two with Bored Panda. “Because interacting with others drains an introvert's energy, they need to follow their socializing with solitude—a much greater need for them than for extroverts, who are energized through interacting with others. If introverts are less social than their counterparts, it's because of the associated costs of such interactions.”

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Mel (All pronouns)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me trying to think of the little fact to tell about myself: *sweats*

Ashley Schriber
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gad, why do people do this "go around the room" shite? Most people are too absorbed with what they're going to say to pay any attention to anyone, and people say such generic stuff anyway. There's not much "getting to know" each other at all.

Zodiac
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Worst is when you are the first person, you cant even think about what you want to say and end up saying : "i was born at a very young age".

Strawberry
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

me irl: “erm… i have a dog” me in my head: WHY DO YOU HAVE TO SAY “ERM” YOU COULD’VE SAID SOMETHING WAY MORE INTERESTING LIKE HOW YOU ARE AN ARTIST NOW PEOPLE PROBABLY THINK YOU’RE BORING

StrangeOne
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate it when everyone is just looking at you with a blank stare and all quiet waiting for you to say more, and then the host is like "Okay.... How about you?" as they go to the next person and the whole time you're just thinking how lame and stupid you come across.

Duckie Measles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Back in college, I was scrambling to come up with an answer for this while another girl simply said there's nothing interesting about her. She's my hero.

Chewie Baron
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Last time I had to do this, I was applying for a job with Apple. And they said this and I just wanted to c**p my pants.

Monday
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hi I'm Chewie Baron and questions like this make me want to c**p my pants!"

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jdtimid123
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hadn't done this in years, then joined a community enrichment hiking workshop (was basically just a group hike with a list of things that are good to have in hiking pack given out at the beginning) and the instructor made us (all full grown, half the class was older couples) say our name and why we're taking the class. There were a lot of "because I love nature" answers lol she was a nice lady, I just don't think the roll call was necessary.

Tee Rat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"A little about myself, I really hate when we go around the room telling a little about ourselves."

ShyWahine
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaack, my recurring nightmare! Me: mentally/desperately/frantically rehearsing over and over what to say... *slowly getting light-headed and ready to pass out*

Kimbowa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Getting increasingly worried as I see they’re about to come around to me.

Nature Gal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just say your name and then sya something basic like "I'm funny" or crack a joke

Shelley DuVal
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi my name is (name), and I hate people. Why? Because you all suck the energy out of me.

AutumnSong2009
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Both my first and last name starts with C so I get lucky with this one

Marek Yanchurak
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"And it has to be something we don't already know about you!" Good, farking, lord....

Guest, Yall
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm ok cause I'm always last with a last name that starts with a v 😅 I have lots of time to prepare.

Silre
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Last time I had to do this it was right after my husband died and I just started crying. People don't ask me to do it anymore.

Lazarus Long
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even worse: “Everybody pick the next person to speak.” What, now I’ve got to remember who went already!?

UpQuarkDownQuark
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing worse in life. It should be acceptable to simply say, “I don’t want to talk,” and have them gladly move on to those that do.

Ansi
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi, my name is AnSi and once when I was five I accidently wacked my sister in the face with a potato hoe. She had to tell the story to every boyfriend she had when they asked about her cute scars on her nose and eyebrow. 😬

cartoon.ghostss
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Uhhhhhh I can tell you in depth about the native plants of the pacific northwest or how to tell apart birds instead maybe??

Justaboredpotato
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lmao at least my name starts with a Z so I'll have time to mentally prepare

Sean
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lucky my last name starts with b, so i had it over relatively fast

Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this happened today, bc there was a new student so we actually have to introduce ourselves. it was hell for me

Verena
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Most people do something wholesome on a regular basis, without realizing. Use that. Helping elderly persons with new technologies? Say so. That these are your (grand)parents, other family, neighbour is not relevant at this point. It is something good, so name it, without going deep into detail. Nobody will cross-check later on. Doing shopping for somebody else, collecting the bins, whatever. I let kids from our village ride our horses, under supervision in the pen. Most of them are struggling with something bigger or minor issue. They forget about it when busy with the horses and are just happy. It is no professional therapy session, but as long as they and the horses are relaxed -> "I facilitate horse sessions to give troubled kids and teens a good time".

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate this as I’m at the end, no matter if it’s first or last name!

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Contrary to popular belief, introverted people are not opposed to socializing. They simply need time to recharge their ‘social battery’, unlike extroverts, who get energized by social interaction.

“It's not that they don't like people or need to have relationships. It's that they don't depend so much on these relationships to accept themselves or experience fulfillment,” Dr. Seltzer told Bored Panda. “If, in general, they prefer solitary activities, it's because these solo pursuits are ‘quieter’, and more meaningful to them than engaging with others.

Similarly, while they can enjoy talking to others, they're less engaged with them unless the subject of conversation dovetails with their interests. Extroverts can enjoy small talk, for it's compelling enough for them just to be conversing with others. But introverts dislike small talk for it doesn't seem to be worth the substantial effort to participate in it.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

idk if yall can see it but in the painting behind her it looks like it says something. idk i see the name john

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Leon Seltzer expanded on the topic of popular misconceptions about introverted people: “It's typically assumed that introverts lack social skills, presumably because they're likely to pause more in talking to another (to collect their thoughts) and also to avoid conversing about topics that have little appeal for them. But in fact introverts' skills in appropriately discussing various matters with others are typically as good as—or better than—extroverts because they think before they speak and take the time to size up the situation more carefully, and thoroughly, than do extroverts.

“Also generally not recognized is the fact that if the conversation relates to something they deeply care about, it may be hard to get them to stop talking because they so much want to express all that they've (internally) been thinking about. Garrulousness isn't usually associated with introversion but in just the right situation they can be as talkative as extroverts, though they're far more selective about just what they talk about,” he added.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Stop looking in peoples windows at 3am , you total weirdo. !!

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Some say that the western cultures tend to favor extroverted people. Licensed therapist Blake Griffin Edwards pointed out that, according to studies from 2014, 87% of people in the West sought to become more extroverted. Award-winning author Beverly D. Flaxington suggested that people in the US also tend to praise extroversion more, some even stating that it’s the superior type, compared to introversion.

However, one is not technically better; they’re simply different. Beverly D. Flaxington emphasized that the differences between the two lie on the genetic level, and manifest through different reactions to external stimuli.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

First thing I do when I wake up is put my phone on ‘do not disturb’. I love it, it’s like when we used to leave the landline off the hook while watching a film.

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“It's crucial to realize that introversion is not a one-dimensional topic, as so many assume it is,” Dr. Seltzer pointed out. “According to the Myers-Briggs Type Inventory, introversion has five separate dimensions, and each dimension exists along a 1-10 continuum, suggesting relativity within relativity. And, by implication, it also suggests that the way most people perceive introverts can't help but oversimplify them.”

According to Seltzer, the first dimension emphasizes that as opposed to congeniality and actively introducing themselves to others, introverts consider social amenities unimportant, leaving them to others. “They are seen as quiet and shy, even anti-social (though they're better seen as asocial, for socializing is simply less meaningful to them) and dislike being interrupted by others and having to talk spontaneously to someone without knowing in advance that they're going to be contacted. Essentially, they live inside themselves, so it takes longer for them to come out of their cocoon.”

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The second dimension refers to them being self-contained rather than expressive or demonstrative, open, and self-revealing. “Introverts tend to keep their feelings and interests to themselves and are often seen by others as difficult to get to know. They also deal with their emotions internally, prefer to solve their problems on their own without asking for help, and find it hard to discuss with others what's upsetting them, so they're less likely to reach out for support when they're distressed,” clinical psychologist Leon Seltzer pointed out.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then you get dragged to all the parties and sit there being socially akward while they talk to everyone and you´re just there exsisting :D

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The third dimension relates to introverts being intimate versus being gregarious: seeking popularity, having a broad circle of friends and acquaintances, and joining groups. “Introverts prefer relating to a few significant others rather than being part of a large group. They need to establish trust in people before sharing much about themselves (and not out of distrust as such but for emotional comfort). They also seek close, one-to-one, in-depth involvement with others and recognize people more as individuals (expecting to be recognized as such themselves).”

The fourth dimension analyzes how reflective they are, compared to being participative and enjoying being around others. According to Dr. Seltzer, “Introverts are much better described as favoring detached observation and reflection over actively participating with the outer world. They learn best through reading and writing and, in fact, communicate best through writing (which isn't preferred by extroverts, who'd rather talk than scrupulously compose their queries and responses). They also feel more secure writing down their ideas than giving an oral presentation.”

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The final, fifth dimension covers introverts being quiet versus enthusiastic, as in lively, energetic, and seeking the spotlight. “Introverts prefer calmness, serenity, even silence,” Leon Seltzer pointed out. “They are disturbed by noisy circumstances and places, don't feel a need to talk in social situations, like being with other quiet people, and prefer to stay behind the scenes, in the background.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think deep down, some of us are just cats who haven't learned to deal with our human forms yet!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love this part and how he said it! Every time some one does something and and I think the f you are I always hear his voice!!! lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me when I’m talking and my mum asks me to speak in English 🤦‍♀️

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exercising makes me feel... like being in gym class and feeling humiliated because I can't do chin ups, climb a rope, do push ups and I hate menial pointless exercises. Gives plenty of time in my mind to imagine getting in fights with other kids who laughed at me and excluded me on their dodgeball team. And then after exercising I can go back to my regular program of remembering my mom's narc rages and body snarking me.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

okay i wont do it again im sorr- wait sorry..i mean sorry... no i bruh im sorry omg i am so sor-

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I relate to this and I realize I'm gonna need another case of duct tape.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I wanna tell my kids something I did when I was their age, then I remember it was all illegal and now I'M being trusted to set a good example. F$@k

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that is so cool. I wanna be that talented :( actually i don think its talent as much as it is patience lol

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m just built like that for some reason. I just cry for basic things like if someone gives me constructive criticism or when i have slightly more work than usual. I wish I cried lesser than I do

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I stopped sharing. Hearing "That sucks, anyway..." enough will shut up anyone.

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