You've probably heard of the “friend zone” before. If you’re a woman, chances are you may have even been accused of it. Popularized in TV and media, the friend zone refers to a situation in which one member of a friendship, most often male, wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other one doesn’t. Most importantly, though, it makes little sense.
There are a whole bunch of myths surfing around this concept, like sexual entitlement, assuming heterosexuality, and believing that platonic relationships are somehow lesser than romantic ones. But people on social media have armed themselves with a sense of humor and taken it to the joke level to make their point.
The result is a hilarious compilation of funny tweets and jokes about the FZ that should make anyone rethink the logic behind it.
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The term "friend zone," coined in a 1994 episode of Friends where Joey refers to a lovelorn Ross as the “mayor of the friend zone,” has become so deeply embedded in our society and popular culture that we almost never question it. Many articles put the friend zone into their regular focus, writing on how to avoid it and what to do if you’re being friend-zoned.
Sex is not a payment that you get for doing one thing. I’m 14 and I know this
I've been really "nice" to you, platonic relationships don't count, I helped you move once and getting in your pants is the ultimate end goal of every interaction we've ever had. You can't say "good morning" to me every day and then don't let me fondle you, you cruel deceptive cold hearted b**ch.
But when men refer to the term "friend zone," they are explicitly aiming at women to show how much they’ve hurt their feelings. These who are aware of the fact that the friend zone is indeed a flawed concept criticize it for taking women’s agency out of the picture by making the relationship transactional. If a man is being nice to a woman, it suggests that this feature alone should be enough to make the woman want to pursue their relationship in a romantic direction.
The friend zone only exists in the minds of men who want more from a specific woman, but cannot get it. The majority of men simply have female friends without any romantic interests.
I feel like the boy who wrote this could also be okay. Just because he used the friend zone word it doesn't mean he's a bad guy and we must admit that some girls just don't know how to choose well for themselves. That said, I don't mean to imply that guys getting angry at women for getting friendzoned are right
By 2020, we all should be aware that a woman has a right to say "no" whenever and to whoever she feels the need to. And while being a good friend is surely awesome, it doesn’t allow anyone to expect anything concrete in return. After all, even if being rejected can be truly dreadful, it can’t be demonized at the expense of a woman.
True friendships are few and far between in this crapsack world, so Dudes, pay attention: if this amazing person, who is so important to your life, who feels safe and comfortable enough around you to be her true self, and who has already been willing to share so much of her time with you, says she wants you as her friend...That is not her insulting you. That is a goddamned honor she is bestowing onto you. Treat it as such.
Honestly this is why I struggle having male friends. Every time I get close enough to a guy to be my true self, he develops a crush. I turn him down, tell him I value his friendship but have no romantic feelings, and he fades away no matter how hard I try to stay friends. The whole friendship was fake. It's so frustrating.
Had a school friend like that, followed me everywhere and couldn’t take the signal the relationship was done
THIS! this is a great point! our boundaries are there to give us comfortable experiences, not to see how many times they will be crossed.
I mean someone you regularly have casual sex with is called FRIENDS with benefits for a reason
Guilt tripping is really not a good thing to do in a relationship in my view
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Don't do it. They will start having stepson-themed movie plots in their minds.
Michal getting all creepy like he's about to kidnap some chick, amputate all her limbs so she can't escape, and keep her on a shrine-like plinth so he can cry at her while screaming "SEE EVERYTHING I DO FOR YOU??? WHY AREN'T YOU GRATEFUL???"
The friend zone is a place in the mind of men who want to have sex but do not want to have female friends. Men with female friends who do not have romantic interests do not know the place called friend zone.
read this along time ago, the offers of help you dare not accept for fear of contracting a sexual debt .
Ok then I’m just hearing Pokémon telling me “ this is not the time for that”
I don't know why, but titles of BP articles tend to change overtime. Maybe due to public opinion? As I write this, the title of this article is '36 Jokes About The “Friend Zone” That Show How Absurd It Is'. What I don't understand is, why BP thinks these are all 'jokes'. Granted, some of them are funny, but to me a lot of these comments seem to be just plain common sense.
The thing is, many people don't consider it common sense and if you ever had the pleasure of meeting them and becoming the center of their fantasy you get why it's a good thing to explicitly put it down in words.
Load More Replies...Ugh, seriously some people read into things too much. Friend zoned (to me at least) does not mean someone OWES another any type of relationship. Friend zoned is when one party wants more than the other, so they offer friendship instead. And if the person who wants more can’t deal with just a friendship then bye bye. I will not stop using the term friend zone. It’s just ridiculous, they make out that all men can’t take no for an answer, whilst some men don’t most men do. downvote me all you want coz I don’t care.
It's something that girls are made to feel guilty about, though. It's happened to me and to many women I know, even as we get older and should be able to withstand this bullshit. Pressure to date somebody because he's ''such a nice guy'' (not just from him, he enlists his friends to help) then sulking and guilt-tripping. And we are the bitch who wouldn't give the nice guy a chance and then gets criticized for whoever she does choose to date. Ugh, indeed.
Load More Replies...No one gets "friendzoned", you decide yourself if you want to be friends with someone. Sexist little pr!cks invented the friendzone as a place where sexually frustraded guys hang out, waiting for a girl who wants to have sex with them. And obviously to those incels the girl is the evil genius here....
Why did I expect someone adapt the twilight zone intro. Imagine, if you will a supposedly adult male with so low a maturity, he thinks an appropriate response to rejection is name calling. You are entering: The friend Zone.
Friends good. Hubby was a friend two years before he and I went on a date, and we're now 30 years together. Friends from 1980s, still friends. Friendship is not a prelude to sex. It's what lasts. Friendship.
Conversly, if a man has sex with a woman, he does not owe her a romantic relationship. I have seen the other side of this too. Basically - men need to know women don't owe them sex for hanging out and doing things together and women need to know men don't owe them a romantic relationship or to hang out and do things together if they have sex.
Man, when I was in 5th grade, there was a really cute girl, she obviously liked me, same back. and yet, I never asked her out. which sucks, because next year, she moved, that was the last I hear of her, I was freakin sad on the inside. but then, I don't have to get teased for liking a nerd. But alot of kids this generation are d**ks.
Hon, a lot of kids in every generation are d**ks. :(
Load More Replies...Y'all I thought the friend zone was when it was your problem and not the problem of the person you like. Also I hate the idea that liking somebody automatically means sex. Why can't it mean somebody who you would like to spend your life with and maybe start a family? Why focus on the process of starting a family rather than the result of starting a family? I hope what I'm saying makes sense
To me, the "friend zone" happens when one person or the other gives signs they might be interested, or knows the other one is and doesn't say anything. I've been in the friend zone, I've had people in the friend zone, and what I've learned is that open communication is key. "I'm sorry, I'm not interested in you that way." Simple. No drama, and everyone's on the same page.
My husband was in the friend zone for about 8 years as I just didn't fancy him. He eventually moved out of the friend zone, not by being creepy, annoying and guilt trippy, but by being a good friend and me growing up a bit and realising his true worth.
My husband was in the friend zone for about 8 years as I just didn't fancy him. He didn't get beyond the friend zone by being creepy, annoying and guilt trippy though, just by being a friend and me growing up a bit and growing to love him 'like that' over time.
I've been in the Friend-zone since junior high school. -still single
Like sure it can be annoying but just don't give a s**t, be a bad ass and don't complain. Just tell them to f**k off.
I feel like girls are so dramatic in this situation like sure it's annoying but get over it. Plus there's lots of chill guys who aren't like that. They just look at the guys who ain't vibing and talk about them.
Did you not read the difference between unrequited and creepy? Unrequited means the dude knows his unreturned feelings are his to manage, creepy is when his unreturned feelings are her problem/she owes him/basically predatory lack of ownership of feelings or self control. Big difference. When you pine away with unrequited love it doesnt involve harassing/intimidating/putting down or even talking to the object of your affections.
Load More Replies...Lol nice guys don't start with "bitches" and "playing victim" in the first few sentences. Giant walking talking red flags do though
Load More Replies...I don't know why, but titles of BP articles tend to change overtime. Maybe due to public opinion? As I write this, the title of this article is '36 Jokes About The “Friend Zone” That Show How Absurd It Is'. What I don't understand is, why BP thinks these are all 'jokes'. Granted, some of them are funny, but to me a lot of these comments seem to be just plain common sense.
The thing is, many people don't consider it common sense and if you ever had the pleasure of meeting them and becoming the center of their fantasy you get why it's a good thing to explicitly put it down in words.
Load More Replies...Ugh, seriously some people read into things too much. Friend zoned (to me at least) does not mean someone OWES another any type of relationship. Friend zoned is when one party wants more than the other, so they offer friendship instead. And if the person who wants more can’t deal with just a friendship then bye bye. I will not stop using the term friend zone. It’s just ridiculous, they make out that all men can’t take no for an answer, whilst some men don’t most men do. downvote me all you want coz I don’t care.
It's something that girls are made to feel guilty about, though. It's happened to me and to many women I know, even as we get older and should be able to withstand this bullshit. Pressure to date somebody because he's ''such a nice guy'' (not just from him, he enlists his friends to help) then sulking and guilt-tripping. And we are the bitch who wouldn't give the nice guy a chance and then gets criticized for whoever she does choose to date. Ugh, indeed.
Load More Replies...No one gets "friendzoned", you decide yourself if you want to be friends with someone. Sexist little pr!cks invented the friendzone as a place where sexually frustraded guys hang out, waiting for a girl who wants to have sex with them. And obviously to those incels the girl is the evil genius here....
Why did I expect someone adapt the twilight zone intro. Imagine, if you will a supposedly adult male with so low a maturity, he thinks an appropriate response to rejection is name calling. You are entering: The friend Zone.
Friends good. Hubby was a friend two years before he and I went on a date, and we're now 30 years together. Friends from 1980s, still friends. Friendship is not a prelude to sex. It's what lasts. Friendship.
Conversly, if a man has sex with a woman, he does not owe her a romantic relationship. I have seen the other side of this too. Basically - men need to know women don't owe them sex for hanging out and doing things together and women need to know men don't owe them a romantic relationship or to hang out and do things together if they have sex.
Man, when I was in 5th grade, there was a really cute girl, she obviously liked me, same back. and yet, I never asked her out. which sucks, because next year, she moved, that was the last I hear of her, I was freakin sad on the inside. but then, I don't have to get teased for liking a nerd. But alot of kids this generation are d**ks.
Hon, a lot of kids in every generation are d**ks. :(
Load More Replies...Y'all I thought the friend zone was when it was your problem and not the problem of the person you like. Also I hate the idea that liking somebody automatically means sex. Why can't it mean somebody who you would like to spend your life with and maybe start a family? Why focus on the process of starting a family rather than the result of starting a family? I hope what I'm saying makes sense
To me, the "friend zone" happens when one person or the other gives signs they might be interested, or knows the other one is and doesn't say anything. I've been in the friend zone, I've had people in the friend zone, and what I've learned is that open communication is key. "I'm sorry, I'm not interested in you that way." Simple. No drama, and everyone's on the same page.
My husband was in the friend zone for about 8 years as I just didn't fancy him. He eventually moved out of the friend zone, not by being creepy, annoying and guilt trippy, but by being a good friend and me growing up a bit and realising his true worth.
My husband was in the friend zone for about 8 years as I just didn't fancy him. He didn't get beyond the friend zone by being creepy, annoying and guilt trippy though, just by being a friend and me growing up a bit and growing to love him 'like that' over time.
I've been in the Friend-zone since junior high school. -still single
Like sure it can be annoying but just don't give a s**t, be a bad ass and don't complain. Just tell them to f**k off.
I feel like girls are so dramatic in this situation like sure it's annoying but get over it. Plus there's lots of chill guys who aren't like that. They just look at the guys who ain't vibing and talk about them.
Did you not read the difference between unrequited and creepy? Unrequited means the dude knows his unreturned feelings are his to manage, creepy is when his unreturned feelings are her problem/she owes him/basically predatory lack of ownership of feelings or self control. Big difference. When you pine away with unrequited love it doesnt involve harassing/intimidating/putting down or even talking to the object of your affections.
Load More Replies...Lol nice guys don't start with "bitches" and "playing victim" in the first few sentences. Giant walking talking red flags do though
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