As kids, many of us looked up to adults in our lives as role models. It is possible that you were inspired by your parents or grandparents or wished to be like your teacher when you were younger. Children often follow things adults do because we aspire to be like them.

However, what happens when grown-ups behave in an irrational manner? Their actions can impact a child’s overall growth and development. As per a recent study published in the journal Psychological and Cognitive Sciences, negative experiences that occur between the ages of 0 and 18 years cause cognitive deficits, particularly in the area of decision-making.

When parents experience unpredictable mood swings frequently, they might create a hostile environment for their little ones. Children feel anxious when they don’t know how their loved one will react from one moment to the next.

Imagine a child who is super excited to show their good grades at home. However, when they enter the house, they can hear the adults arguing. In such a situation, chances are the mom or dad might initially show affection but later act irritable or withdrawn, projecting their anger on the child. This state of uncertainty makes kids feel stressed in their own homes.

The American Society for the Positive Care of Children points out that poor parenting can also lead to misdemeanors amongst kids.

“Children who are rejected by their parents, grow up in homes with considerable conflict, and are inadequately supervised are at greatest risk of becoming delinquents. There appears to be a cumulative effect such that the presence of more than one of these negative family attributes further increases the likelihood of delinquency.”

Parents play a crucial role in shaping a child’s future. When they are overprotective, they may be able to shield their little bundles of joy from all potential harm. But in the process, they also prevent them from learning important life skills.

If you want a kid to be independent, you must let them have their own experiences and form their own opinion.

There are times when adults just neglect the emotional or physical needs of children. Yes, you are trying to make them strong, but you must also pay attention and support them whenever needed. If your kid comes to you with a problem, you should address it. Don’t just brush them off instantly with a quick "Deal with it yourself" statement.

If you have felt unloved or unworthy of attention as a kid, it can quite possibly lead to attachment issues as an adult.

Clinical psychologist Carla Marie Manly, PhD from Santa Rosa, California says, “Given that children look to their parents and caregivers for a sense of who they are, parents who do not show their children genuine, unconditional love tend to create lasting harm to their children’s sense of self.”

Forcing your opinions and views on a vulnerable kid is never a good idea. As adults, you have seen the world and formed your own thoughts based on your experiences.

For instance, if the parents belong to the science field, they shouldn’t burden their son or daughter with picking the same stream. You shouldn’t pressure them. Show some trust and faith and let them make their own choice.