What does she even mean "in front of me"? If it was a gender neutral bathroom it would have stalls, no?

what an a*s hole

Burn 🔥

Nice burn! 😂

Don't forget Satanists. They blatantly use Alice Cooper to get their message out.

I'll be happy to pretend to be a fiancé/husband working abroad and do a video call giving my consent to anyone having this problem.

That escalated quickly

We are not friends, such a sad way to think of your own child.

You don't need to be a friend for your children. Just try to do it great as a parent. Friendship will happen during the process.

Oh, this sounds like my own abusive, toxic parents. I haven't visited them for years, and we only speak via text messages. They are genuinely wondering what they did wrong, since they "sacrificed so much" for me.

Sorry, but the guy on top is correct. "We're not friends" doesn't mean "I don't love you, like you, enjoy your company, care for you nor want what's best for you." It means, "we're not peers; I am responsible for you in a way you are not responsible for me, and I care more about what's good for you than what you like."

This one always trips me up. You absolutely can be friends with your children without being a permissive parent. In fact, become their friend!!!

"I won't let my children have basic human needs, cause I need to boost my ego somehow!"

If you don't trust your kids, you haven't done your upbringing well.

I hate that the OP put the word privacy in quotes. I hate that the first half of their comment is in proper, decent English and the second half is...I don't even know what to call it. Bad? Wrong? Horrible? I can understand if he meant "sh*t ain't negotiable" as in "that - me being your friend - is not negotiable" but the backwards order of words is confusing. Also, *we're* not friends. My mom is my best friend and the other people in our social circle (be they biological family or chosen family) who judge that fact are allowed their opinion on it, but I would much rather have an at times too bonded co-dependant relationship with my mom than resent her for being strict and horrible (even though I am 40, and she is technically done raising me). She was not strict or horrible, and I'm very grateful for that. I completely agree with the second half of the bottom comment above "Welcome to your future". I feel bad for that commenter as well as the child/children of OP in this post. Very sad.

Difference between loving demeanor and dictator demeanor though.

hi

My mom always said that she was my parent, not my friend. But she treated me with dignity and respect. She valued my options and acknowledged my feelings. Guess what? I never felt the need to lie, drink, sneak out etc. I have been wildly successful in my education, career, and personal life. And now that I’m an adult, my mom is absolutely my best friend and we have an amazing n relationship. It’s almost like respect goes both ways….

To a point (usually age), I don’t disagree. But it’s safer to extend them freedoms while still in a place of safety or they will be MORE at risk when truly out in the world.

In general, when you treat someone with respect and kindness and love them, you end up friends. My mom is one of my best friends and she didn't ever have trouble setting boundaries and disciplining in an appropriate way. You can be more then one thing at the same time...

privacy for some children is dangerous.

Seems like parents think their kids will forgive & forget the abuse & cruelty. Maybe some do. But some never forget & never forgive.

And worse, chances are they be as illiterate as they Dad.

Our sons were very well behaved compared to their friends and we did set boundaries early on that were based on mutual respect, logic and LOVE: always love. Now in their 20s, our sons are our best friends and they treat the other people in their lives with kindness and respect. Thinking back I can’t recall a single argument we had that descended into raised voices.

One way to separate you from your kids. Remember that when you’re 70.

One thing's for sure. His kids won't be spending their money on Dad of the Year mugs.

I think what he was trying to say was 'I'm their parent first, and it's my job to look out for their best interests, even when they don't like it'. Parents who try to be best buddies with their kids and give them everything they want often fail massively.

can you say compromise

Parents are not their child’s friend. Parents with guidance should be raising well educated, moral, kind, well behaved and strong adults. Parents being friends is the biggest problems in society today. Do not confuse being a friend with being a good parent. Sometimes parents have to make hard decisions for the sake of raising a good and caring adult.

He needs to go find a cotton field and stay there.

I didn’t want a friendship from my stepfather but - well, it would have been easier if he weren’t such s**t. After a verbal reprimand I walked down the hall to my room and closed the door - making sure NOT to slam it. It didn’t matter - the fact that I could shut the door and him out -- bothered him in a big way. He took the door off the hinges - not sure how long it stayed off the hinges but - needless to say I went to college to get away from that house.

My and daughter and I are best friends and it's a wonderful way to age.

Maybe your mother prefers it that way. Maybe she ain't the bit*h .

The OP is more than harsh and the responder put it so succinctly. :)

This is the problem with today. Parents aren't being parents. You can be friends with your kids, but you need to be the adult and be a parent too. My parents weren't my friend growing up. They set rules I had to follow. I credit them for making me a better human.

Loser thinking he owns his children because they came out of his b@llsack

I was happy when my mother died.

I grew up like this and I stop and visit my angel of a mother daily. I'm 45.

The original post is about an entire lack of: Respect, love, it basically means that the parent can do whatever they want and do not see their children as people.

Oh I can only hope.

Almost 23 years since I bothered with the b!tch who jokingly called herself my mother. Cut that piece of garbage out of my life a week after turning 16.

This makes me so glad my mom and I are best friends!!

I hope someone teaches them the English language, too.

We not... 👀 Hopefully the kids are at least in English class

after that I AINT SPOKENT O MY MOTHER FOR 10

Tim trying to show what a badass he is, instead he just showed himself to be a clueless a*s! Also, 12.4k people agreed with him, yikes.