Sadly, even after being married for 14 years with 3 kids AND husband's approval to have tubes tied, several doctors refused, because " what if you get divorced and your new husband wants kids". I wish I was making this up

I have a friend that has their tubes tied as well and they are in their late 20’s. No husband, no kids, living their best life as a dog mom.

I'm like 90% likely to be unable to carry a child to full term without significant damage to my own body or the baby's. If I don't take my medication every day, and get my jab every 3 months, I start bleeding like niagra falls (to the point i was near passing out in a&e) But yet.. "just in case" I still can't get a hysterectomy. Oh, and I'm also married. to a woman. ffs when does their b******t end.

No one ever talked to me seriously about tying my tubes. I was told I would change my mind. Welllll... I'm 46, going through perimenopause and STILL don't want kids! But I couldn't get the procedure done. My husband would have gladly signed anything if it would've helped, but no. I wish I could have asked these doctors what religion they were and then patted them sagely on the shoulder and said, "well, you'll be an atheist some day" or something anti whatever THEY believed in.

People always told me I would regret not having children, I don't. The world is over-populated. This world isn't safe for children. The planet is dying. I have a few more reasons but I'll stop here.

46, ready to convince the doctor, all arguments listed. First thing he says 'great idea!'. So maybe y'all should come to the Netherlands to have this done 😊 I have no children but a furry floof. Doc said 'while we're at it, shall we also perform this procedure so you will not have periods anymore?'. God I wish I'd done this 10 years earlier. Insurance covered most costs I think I paid 385 (standard pay determined by the government) of the €2500 it cost.

Yes! I totally understand this. My doctor won’t even DISCUSS sterilization unless you already have 2 kids and/or are 36. How is this legal? Especially now with Roe v Wade. It almost feels like we are breeding cattle with no thoughts or opinions or feelings

I was asked a lot of inappropriate and hurtful questions when I wanted sterilization. My body and my decision. I said the same to my husband, who was ready to undergo the operation himself because men seem to get it easier. I said no because I won't regret it and I don't want to take on anyone's regrets. I didn't want to take away the power of someone else to decide about their own body completely on their own. I knew that my decision would not affect the fact that my husband might someday want children and we should at least redefine the quality of our relationship, but I love him so much that I was ready to take the risk. I'm ok with that if he wants to reproduce, for example in the sense of co-parenting or start a traditional relationship without me. Love is sometimes a strange thing and sometimes giving up is loving.

"NoBOdY iS fOrcInG YoU tO hAVe KiDs!" 😑

Back when I got my tubes tied, women weren't allowed to have their own checking accounts or rental agreements. Despite being a few days from our divorce being finalized, my soon-to-ex signed the documents because he thought it was a stupid requirement.

Husband went to ask doc for a vasectomy as we have 5 children between us (me 3, him 2) doc refused 'in case we want one together' I'm freaking 45 years old!!! Same doctor gave me a lecture on taking the contraceptive pill be cause I'm overweight and in the 'mature' category.....literally can't make this sh*t up!

depressing

f**k that

I had to explain to several people very well why it was ME that was gonna have my tubes tied and not my bf who was gonna have his junk *fixed*. My reasons: I was about to have my 3rd child and I strongly felt that my body couldn't go through a pregnancy again not if I want to be able to walk when I'm retired, that is. Also... I mean... we now have 3 kids! And... IF my bf and I should break up some day and he finds himself a younger model he wants to have kids with he should be able to do that. Because this is ME not wanting to carry more babies in MY body. So yes... even when I was expecting child nr. 3 I had to argue my case of wanting to have my tubes tied. Lol.

I don't think this is a "temporary" lapse in judgement by the doctor.

Sounds about right. Live in Texas by any chance?

I talked to my doctor about it hypothetically. she said she wouldn't let me because I might want kids someday. I told her I'm trans and like women. she sat there quietly for a second before moving on.

Who wants to bring boo one more child into this ugly disgusting evil world????

This is, unfortunately, standard. Tried in my 20s, 30s, 40s, and 50s to get hysterectomy to prevent cancer. Then I got cancer. Still couldn't get the procedure. Misogynists chap my hide.... and there are far too many in medical professions. And political office.

The problem isn't that PO doesn't have a man to vouch for them. The problem is that our society allows someone else to have ownership of their body and exercise choices that should be theirs and theirs alone. F-that!