Diana Divecha, Ph.D., who is a Berkeley-based developmental psychologist focusing on the science of how children, teens, and families grow and develop, told Bored Panda that “developmental scientists consider adulthood to begin when the prefrontal cortex, the front-most region of the brain, finishes developing, at around 25 years of age.”

“This area is most well-known for its ‘executive function,’ or being the ‘manager’ of oneself. It supports abilities like planning ahead, regulating emotions and impulsivity, complex thought and reasoning, problem-solving and decision-making, and managing one’s attentional focus,” she explained.

Dr. Divecha pointed out that in WEIRD societies (Western, Educated, Industrial, Rich, Democratic), the onramp to adulthood has become very long—about 10 to 15 years. She thinks of ‘entering adulthood’ as having three phases:

“The first phase begins with puberty, when the sex hormones begin their real job, to remodel the brain to prepare for adulthood. This is when respect from the peer group takes on new importance as nature prepares young people to leave the nest and eventually form new social groups.”

“But this can be a bumpy period at first, so it’s helpful for teens to stay open and optimistic and to have a few different peer groups. It’s also easy to be impulsive in this phase, so cultivating discernment (wise decision-making and action) and taking a moment to think before acting can be helpful, and at times, even life-saving,” Dr. Divecha said.

According to the developmental psychologist, the second phase is identity exploration—when we ask ourselves questions like: ‘Who am I?’ ‘What’s important to me?’ And ‘Where do I fit in?’

“This is a period of great creativity, so to the extent possible, it’s helpful to try new things and explore possible interests,” Divecha explained. “Some will fit, others won't, but all will be helpful information about what matters to each individual. Learn how the world works: Get real-world work experience, learn how corporations and social media manipulate the public for profit, work on real-world problems, and find adult mentors—they offer crucial bridges to adulthood. And finally, learn practical skills like cooking, laundry, cleaning, and personal finance, as well as interpersonal communication and emotion-regulation skills.”

The third phase is early adulthood, usually defined by first commitments to jobs/careers and relationships. “Learning from mentors and gaining emotional and interpersonal skills are important. Flexibility and adaptability are key, too, as young adults frequently change jobs until they land one that feels like a good fit or create their own independent/entrepreneurial path,” Divecha said.

Some scientists who study the brain and nervous system say the age at which you become an adult (which is different for everyone) might even be your 30s. One argument they use is that people around 18 years of age are still going through changes in the brain, which can affect behavior and make them more likely to develop mental health disorders.

“What we’re saying is that to have a definition of when you move from childhood to adulthood looks increasingly absurd,” Professor Peter Jones, from Cambridge University, told BBC News. “It’s a much more nuanced transition over three decades.”

Jones thinks that structures like the education system, the health system, and the legal system simply make it convenient for themselves by having definitions. Strange, isn't it? How many countries consider their citizens mature adults when they reach the age of 18 and allow them to vote, buy alcohol, and get a mortgage, even though hitting that number doesn't automatically transform you into a reasonable human being?

However, Professor Jones believes experienced criminal judges recognize the difference between a 19-year-old defendant and a “hardened criminal” in their late 30s. “I think the system is adapting to what’s hiding in plain sight, that people don't like (the idea of) a caterpillar turning into a butterfly,” he said. “There isn't a childhood and then adulthood. People are on a pathway; they’re on a trajectory.”

Reaching adulthood doesn't mean we stop changing. “Some core aspects of personality, like sensitivity, reactivity, or easy-going-ness, tend to be pretty stable from early in life throughout the lifespan. But your ability to know yourself and learn to express and manage your personality in fulfilling ways can improve a lot over time,” Divecha said. “You can learn when and how to modulate your personality to fit a situation better, or on the other hand, change your situation to fit your personality better.” 

“And yet, outside events can still come along and radically change you. For example, if you had a rough start in life, a good relationship or therapy later in adulthood can transform the rest of your life for the better. On the other hand, if your life has been going okay and you suddenly experience great adversity, that, too, can change you forever. The brain remains flexible throughout the lifespan but is more easily adaptable early in life.”

So continue scrolling through the pictures, and maybe they will entertain you and teach you something.

How Can I Share Adult Memes Without Causing Offense?

If your audience is someone you just met, a couple of icebreakers may be a better choice. This way, you’ll get to know them and eventually will be able to decide whether or not they’re the right audience. If you’re really itching to share some adult jokes, do so with friends you know best and only if you’re sure they will appreciate it.