Man, Kim is ridiculous. I'm vegetarian by choice and gluten free definitely not by choice and my friends have always been super accommodating. Maybe I just have good friends but, in my opinion, if friends aren't willing to support your needs when possible then they aren't friends.

Whenever there are friends in my house I will make sure everybody is comfortable. It is not hard to prepare food without soy or tofu, you just have to be a little flexible. Pasta salad or potato salad without mayo. Bread with veggie dips. Tomato soup with roasted bread or rice or Pasta. Burritos or wraps. Some examples for not only soy free food, but also vegan. Surprise!

Typical vegan behaviour. They go on and on about their ~~~choice~~~ while most of them have zero respect for nut and soy allergies which are NOT a choice. I'm speaking from the experience of hospital visits after being lied to.

You cut relations soonest possible with any fanatic of any kind, politics, religious, vegan, whatever.

If you host dinner you accommodate peoples allergies. I have always asked peoples food requirements and cooked accordingly. What a pos the "friend" is because she had something with Mayo.

And how many people in her "vegan house" were wearing leather shoes, belts etc? This sounds like preformative vegan powertripping. Asking you to eat outside was rude and unnecessary. It sounds like she's happy to eat at the same table as non-vegans in for sushi and pizza. "I can smell you have non-vegan mayo", when you can't be bothered to make one safe dish for someone with allergies is BS.

WTF is wrong with vegans that makes them want to dictate to other people what they can and cannot eat? I am vegetarian, that is my choice but if I have guests over, I do buy things such as bacon and cooked meats because I know that that is what they like to eat. I would never stop anyone from eating anything they want in my house just because I choose not to eat it. The only exception to this is nuts or nut based products as I am extremely allergic to tree nuts and peanuts and I cannot risk having them in my house and causing a potentially fatal allergic reaction.

Telling you to eat in your car is telling you to leave imo. Bye Kim!!!

I have a friend who is allergic to soy & I was shocked at how many random things contain it but I was able to find lots of things that she could eat at my local health food store. This poor woman's friend is definitely the AH. There are still lots of soy free vegan things she could've made or bought if she cared enough to do so. Why let the vegan friend host a non-vegan's birthday anyway? I'm all for vegan food now & then but I want an actual cake with dairy & eggs on my birthday.

Some " friend"! You weren't dramatic. The party had nothing for you to eat. It's obvious that she was not too worried about accommodating allergies. That's what a host is supposed to do. She's not supposed to leave ppl out. You don't make ppl eat outside at a party just because you don't like the smell of their food. I'm sorry but this is a reason why I don't like Vegan ppl. They are always trying to make ppl feel bad for not being like them or shoving their lifestyle down ppls throat

As a vegan, that girl is crazy. Yikes. I let friends eat anything here, but if I serve stuff myself I will only prepare vegan, as this is the only thing I cook. The only thing not allowed is to prepare meat in our cast iron ware, those things accumulate the stuff cooked in them. So a very hard, firm NTA.

That's some extremist vegan there... Not even mayo "in the house"!!!

Soy allergy, fresh onion allergy, artificial sweetener allergy. It's hard enough to figure out where to go and what is safe to eat in public eateries and grocery shelves but it's doable once you get the hang of it. My friends are so great that they order their food when we go out without onions so there's no accidental cross contamination. They know my routine and are 200% supportive.

Her friend is very inconsiderate. Why would you want your friend to starve. I would have made a few options without soy. It's not hard. Mashed potatoes, butternut squash with olive oil. Beets, okra with olive oil. You can avoid animal and soy.

Neither OP nor Kim should ever be hosting. Both have food restrictions that are incompatible with each other. So much so that even a slight error could be detrimental for the guest. I have my own thoughts (not positive) about Vegans and the idea of a Vegan Household, but I can respect where that comes from. If you can't allow a guest to bring in non-vegan food, then you shouldn't be hosting people who can't eat your vegan food. That's ridiculous and makes for a terrible host.

Southern girls are taught from birth the importance of being a good hostess, Rule #1 is the comfort of your guests ALWAYS comes first! My mama would whip my behind if I ever asked a guest to eat in another ROOM, much less OUTSIDE! She also should have had several clearly marked dishes available without soy. What does she do at work if someone has mayo----tell them to eat outside? I'm sorry, she's a TERRIBLE hostess, and an even WORSE friend! You should never have been made to feel bad over an allergy! You're DEFINITELY NTA!!!

It's sometimes difficult to distinguish the difference between friends and acquaintances.

Why didn't she just use oat milk? That stuff is creamy deliciousness.

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Just to throw out there I don't think a vegan would bring a pb&j anywhere as jelly contains gelatin which is made from animal hooves and bones maybe she isn't as vegan as she believes she is