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You've swiped right, exchanged witty banter, and landed yourself a coveted first date. Excitement fills the air, and warm butterflies fill your tummy as you imagine the possibilities of a potential connection. But before you dive headfirst into the love pool, it's important to not get ahead of yourself, since there might be a deal-breaker just around the next corner.

In fact, the success ratio of the first date is so low that nowadays people often find themselves contemplating an escape plan before even stepping foot into the rendezvous. Startlingly, a recent statistic revealed that nearly 60% of single individuals openly confessed to resorting to an escape plan to extricate themselves from the clutches of a nightmarish first date.

#2

O 🦌

How about when I was invited out with a guy I met online to a nearby sushi place. Wed texted and chatted for about a week til I finally felt comfortable meeting him.

Date picked me up. The conversation on the drive there was great. Seemed like we were connecting.

However, while at the restaurant, he proceeded to order about $100 worth of sushi, while I ordered maybe a roll and some appetizers. My total would have been about $30, at most. I tried to engage him, but quickly realized the conversation was lacking, because he was... uh. busy.

He proceeded to text on his phone the entire time at dinner, ignored me and took pics of his food, posted that the place we were at was amazing. He. Ate. Everything. In. Front. Of. Him. Ok. Gotcha.

At this point, I knew what was going on.

And... when the bill came, he was still on his phone, posting, texting, laughing at the response to his posts. He ignored the waiter, plus the bill. The waiter politely left it on the table. I looked at my date, then the waiter. Date never looked up from his phone.

I then quietly, and politely asked the waiter to split our bill (since date was so consumed with his phone, he didn't notice). Waiter retrieved the bill, adjusted it, then came back. With separate bills this time.

The look on my 'date's face when he was handed a $100 bill for his food was priceless. I paid mine with my card, plus a hefty tip. Date asked me 'uh, oh c**p, I forgot my wallet! Can you spot me?'

I just pretended I was on my phone and left him there, and walked out the door.

I'd already ordered an uber at this point (since he drove us there).

(And yes, don't worry, the waiter got a massive tip, about the amount of my bill - it wasn't his fault that the date was an a**hat).

justanaccount80 Report

Final score:

121points

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DrLivingstonipresume 1 year ago

This is fantastic! I love people like you; no hateful words, yelling, or dramatic scenes. You just left the dope at the table and with a bill he couldn't pay. That is brilliant.

52points

According to a study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, researchers provided a list of 17 negative personality traits to over 5000 single adults. Participants were asked to indicate whether they would consider these traits as deal breakers in a long-term relationship with a potential partner. While the Independent reports that more women than men considered these traits as deal breakers, the study revealed that there were more similarities than differences between the two sexes.

When it comes to deal-breakers, both men and women agree that a "disheveled or unclean appearance" takes the top spot, with 71 percent of women and 63 percent of men considering it a major turn-off. Additionally, 72 percent of women and 60 percent of men cannot tolerate a partner who is deemed "lazy."

#3

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Anyone who doesn't understand why a first meeting in public is best for women

PenTease , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

120points

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Jared Robinson 1 year ago

That's not a red flag, that's a f*****g alarm bell, and klaxon sirens all at once.

65points

#4

Trump supporter.

Seriously. It means their moral compass is so diametrically opposed to mine. their is 0% chance we would work out.

g_pelly Report

Final score:

118points

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and_a_touch_of_the_’tism 1 year ago

Political differences are a big thing you should sort out early. This person disagrees with trump, a trumper might disagree with them. It’s not something to freak out about! It’s just logical thinking.

31points

When it comes to deal-breakers, both men and women agree that a "disheveled or unclean appearance" takes the top spot, with 71 percent of women and 63 percent of men considering it a major turn-off. Additionally, 72 percent of women and 60 percent of men cannot tolerate a partner who is deemed "lazy." Being "too needy" is another deal-breaker, with 69 percent of women and 57 percent of men opting to walk away.

#5

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying They only want to talk about themselves.

I once had a 2-hour blind date. By the end, I knew everything about this girl. I knew all of her cats by name, *and what their favorite movies were.*

She asked me literally nothing, and just kept jumping from topic to topic.

At the end of the date, she wanted to trade numbers, and I couldn't help but ask "What's my name?" and she didn't know. So I just paid for my meal and left.

Luckboy28 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

116points

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Alexia 1 year ago

I had such a date. The guy talked only about himself the entire time: his college, his job at a supermarket, his crappy boss. All my attempts to change the subject were promptly met with: "No, no, let me tell you!!" At the end he told me not to pin my hopes on a relationship with him, because his "dream girlfriend" would be a blue-eyed blonde (I am brunette, green eyes).

51points

#6

Complimenting me by trashing my entire gender. "You really know your s**t, I've never met a female who knew so much about politics". Yeah Bud, you sure have you just didn't listen.

ADorkyRedhead Report

Final score:

107points

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Tracy Wallick 1 year ago

Also, calling women "females" like a f*****g incel.

69points

"If you've been on one or two dates with somebody and then they suddenly start to love-bomb you with loads of texts, loads of emails, telling you how much they like you, making loads of plans for the future - that is a big warning sign," Laura Buckley, a certified matchmaker and the founder of Secret Alchemy, told Bored Panda in a Zoom call.

#7

The amount of guys who think negging is a good flirting technique is ridiculous. Contrary to what you read on WikiHow, insulting a girl doesn't make her want to impress you, it just makes her realize you're a d**k.

emiserable Report

Final score:

104points

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Henry Myers 1 year ago (edited)

Do people actually do this? Edit: wow I didn’t realize how many people do this. That’s messed up

23points

WolfsLairAbyss , cottonbro studio Report

#8

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying On their phone the whole time. If you can't disconnect for an hour or so to engage with me then it's not going to work.

Final score:

103points

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Amy Smith 1 year ago

This happened to me once. She spent ages looking at her phone, kept me out for a couple of hours and then jumped out of her seat and claimed she had to meet her best friend for dinner (was about 9.30pm) and walked out. Must have gotten a better offer. I wasn't overly interested in her either so I deleted her number, met my friends for one last drink and went home to bed. Heard from her about a month later at which point I'd mostly forgotten about it telling me that she just hadn't felt it. Why explain at all at that stage. I laughed it off at the time, this reminded me, so laughing it off again now. But yes, agreed, this is super rude in my opinion. What's the point in going on a date with someone if you have zero interest in talking to them? Unless they're creepy and you're texting for rescue

5points

Love bombing, though it may appear innocuous in certain instances, actually encompasses a more severe 'red flag' within a relationship. It involves the use of seemingly lavishing gestures like sending presents, flowers, constant communication via texts and calls, and other behaviors, as a means to establish dominance and control over the other person. If you've seen Netflix's 'The Tinder Swindler,' you know what we're on about.

#9

Flat earther believer, anti vaxxer, rude to staff, tries too hard to look quirky or talks like an anime character.
Also waterboarding conversationalist. Like you have to torture them to hold a conversation.

Call9wanwan Report

Final score:

93points

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1AlphaGeek1 1 year ago

Waterboarding conversationalist. LOL. I am definitely stealing that one.

26points

#10

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying When she puts her smoke out in her baked potato.

cjheaney , lil artsy Report

Final score:

86points

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Sue Denham 1 year ago

Tell me she didn't then eat the potato? Also: do people still smoke in restaurants somewhere in the world?

24points

"If you've been single for a while and you meet somebody who seems really lovely, treats you with affection and attention, it's really difficult to take a step back and go, 'What's that all about?'", Buckley explained, admitting most single people have fallen for this at least once in their experience. "Obviously, now we know that love bombing can be quite psychologically damaging and it can lead to abusive relationships."

#11

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Heavy breathing, open mouth chewer or close minded

MailroomMorty , Samson Katt Report

Final score:

79points

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Alexia 1 year ago

Same for coughing or sneezing in your face, chewing fingernails, smelly breath, or nose full of secretions.

16points

eternalrefuge86 , cottonbro studio Report

#12

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Constantly talking about their exes

Final score:

77points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

They're auditioning you to be one of them.

18points

According to a recent Forbes article, the TikTok hashtags #lovebombing and #lovebomb have gained significant attention, accumulating 329 million and 133 million views, respectively. Users are utilizing these hashtags to share their own personal encounters with the manipulative phenomenon of love bombing.

#13

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying They end up being 3 badgers in a trench coat.

Scoob1978 , Arina Krasnikova Report

Final score:

76points

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troufaki13 1 year ago

3 badgers in a trench coat are so much better than an a*******e

56points

Well_thatwas_random , Lisa Fotios Report

#14

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying If they are hard to talk to. Might not make them a bad person, but obviously there is no chemistry if all I get are one word answers where they also don't reciprocate questions.

"So you're a teacher right?"

'Yep'

......

"Well that's cool what grade?"

'2nd'

.....

"Aw what a great age! That's like the perfect time cause kids still kind of like school!"

'uh huh'

....check please!

Final score:

74points

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Jared Robinson 1 year ago

this

13points

As one of the most upvoted comments in the list suggests, having your date speak about their ex won't lead to a second date. "If I'm on a first date and a person is chatting away about their ex and they're calling them crazy or a crank, that's going to be a no for me," said Buckley.

#15

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying If she has kids or wants to have them, I'm out. I want nothing to do with parenthood.

thequietone710 , Elina Fairytale Report

Final score:

73points

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Sue Denham 1 year ago

And if you tell her that up front she'll probably appreciate the time you've saved her.

113points

#16

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Being a know it all. I had lunch with someone who called the table salt “sodium chloride” and used the bread as a way to tell me everything he knew about complex carbohydrates (some of which wasn’t even correct) and their connections to evolutionary theory. Just felt like he was compensating for something

useless_grape , Alex Green Report

Final score:

71points

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Sue Denham 1 year ago

Think I know what he was compensating for . . . a personality.

54points

"Learning how relationships ended (and even began) and how long they lasted can tell you a lot about a person," Yuko Nippoda, psychotherapist and spokesperson for the UK Council for Psychotherapy, recently told Refinery29. "It can reveal red flags, especially in the way they talk about their exes."

#17

For me. During at least some point during a first date I think hobbies or passions are brought up.

I really dont care what hobbies you have. You could be into the dumbest s**t ever. As long as you are into something. Anything.

My red flag is when she says she goes to bars and clubs. And thinks thats a hobby.

I nope the f**k out.

CaliBuddz Report

Final score:

70points

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Nezuko_chan 1 year ago

My friend says watching YouTube is a hobby I din’t know if it is but I don’t think it is

3points

#18

Children. I wish all the best to all the single parents in the world but I am not signing up to be a step-parent.

avlas Report

Final score:

69points

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Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago

And that is perfectly OK. Not everyone wants the responsibility of extra kids, especially when those kids aren't their own.

48points

Politeness, grace, and a dash of table etiquette have the power to make a lasting impression. Imagine, if you will, a romantic dinner transformed into a sideshow spectacle by the sound of soup being slurped like a blender and hands being used as excavation tools. It's no wonder that researchers have identified certain food habits as the biggest pet peeves. In fact, a staggering 68% of people consider talking with your mouth full as the most unforgivable food sin.

#19

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying If they call me "exotic." If they make repeated remarks on how *BeAuTiFuL* my skin tone is. Even worse when they point out that they've never "been with" anybody of my ethnic heritage.

Or, when they've *only* dated women of ethnicities with a similar appearance to mine. Feels a bit fetishizing.

leiladobadoba , Alex Green Report

Final score:

69points

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1AlphaGeek1 1 year ago

🚨🚨🚨

11points

#20

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Lying. Even, if not especially, about small things.

anon , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

65points

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David 1 year ago

YES YES YES. Liars are a big trigger for me. Probably due to a stepfather for a few years who was a habitual liar and I watched how it screwed up his life

10points

Navigating the treacherous waters of politics, then, is like walking through a minefield on a first date. It's fine to have passionate opinions, but turning your dinner into a heated debate on global policies can be a surefire way to extinguish any romantic sparks. Nothing dampens the mood faster than the sudden realization that your date's political beliefs are on the opposite side of the spectrum, and neither of you is willing to back down. Unless, of course, you have a bizarre fetish for fierce political discussions.

#21

If all they talk about is how bad all their exes are.

If all your exes are psycho, the chances are the problem is you.

02K30C1 Report

Final score:

64points

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Nimitz 1 year ago

You run into an a*****e in the morning, you ran into an a*****e. You run into a******s all day, you're the a*****e.

24points

Patrik_Fucking_Elias Report

#22

you know how people joke that buying a dog is just buying a tragedy in 10 years?

that's basically how i feel about dating a smoker long-term

Final score:

62points

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Nimitz 1 year ago

I was a smoker but I met an amazing guy who was allergic to smoking. I asked him out in two weeks, he said yes. During our date he asked why it was two weeks later and I told him it was so I could quit smoking. He said that was so hot he immediately asked for a 2nd date. We had an amazing relationship

28points

#23

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying That she doesnt accepts my racoon pet named Stuart

DegoEatingPancakes , LK MJ Report

Final score:

62points

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Sue Denham 1 year ago

I don't know you. I don't particularly want to meet you. But I completely and utterly accept your racoon pet named Stuart.

22points

SuddenTerrible_Haiku , cottonbro studio Report

#24

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying They talk over me and spend the conversation giving me unsolicited advice about how to live my life

Edit: I feel like I need to specify that I was thinking of one specific first date that did not become a second date When I answered this, lol. The guy didn't like that I had dyed my hair blond at the bottom and Spent a lot of the date telling me about the dangers of bleaching your hair and how I should learn to make better choices. I just wanted to have a good dinner man.

Final score:

60points

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1AlphaGeek1 1 year ago

Cutting someone off is rude even in a normal conversation. What are these people thinking?

6points

Markebrown93 , Karolina Grabowska Report

#25

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Hygiene, in general

Edit: yes, you guys.. "lack of hygiene"

Final score:

58points

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Depressed Owl 1 year ago

For a second, I thought that Image was someone holding a soapy hairball.

11points

#26

Why has no one mentioned “they litter”?

MrG Report

Final score:

55points

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Gypsy Lee 1 year ago

Right up there with serial killer.

3points

GustavoAlex7789 , Pablo Cortés Alegría Report

#27

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying I don't hate people who smoke particularly but my parents smoked so much that I promised myself to never date someone who smoked.

Final score:

53points

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Brian O'Grady 1 year ago

Deal breaker for me too

16points

#28

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying If a person tells you they are IN LOVE WITH YOU after one day together.

They might try to move into your house, then try to attack you when you ask them to leave!

But that's a story for another time...

leiladobadoba , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

53points

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meepmeep 1 year ago

Yep, had this happen once in my early 20s. The guy also said he'd been engaged like five times. I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I was young and I liked him otherwise. After a couple of weeks, I lost interest.

8points

#29

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying If they order shots.

I always do brunch as a first date because it places zero expectation on what happens after. So, if you order f*****g shots at 11:30am on a Saturday, we probably aren’t going to work out.

Final score:

49points

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Ivo H 1 year ago

I never though of it, but ordering shots can be a red flag, even during dinner. Beer, wine, cocktails, everyting is completely normal, but ordering shots during date is just weird

12points

#30

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying I know a girl who asks every guy she goes on a date with what his credit score is. She wants to make sure they’re financially stable. Also she’s 23 and doesn’t know how to pump gas.

throwmeawaypop , Pixabay Report

Final score:

42points

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Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 1 year ago

uh i think she might need to go back to her parents house lol

18points

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#31

If you smack your lips, or chew with your mouth open it's game over. Not sure I could even make it to the end of dinner.

Knashy Report

Final score:

27points

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nancy 1 year ago

This should be top of the list. I wouldn't even be able to finish a meal with someone who did that.

5points

kittenmittens4865 , Mikhail Nilov Report

#32

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Repeatedly interrupting me when I’m talking, especially when I’m answering a question they asked. It tells me they’re not actually engaged in what I’m saying.

Final score:

25points

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Max Fox 1 year ago (edited)

Look up "collaborative overlap". Very common in the Middle East and East Europe. Nobody ever actually finished what they're saying, but also, they expect you to jump in when you have something to say that is relevant to what they are saying now. It leads to very vibrant and exciting discussions, rather than the stiff and stilted Northern European style "conversations" that they have here in the USA.

4points

#33

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying their drinking manners. if they insist i drink, or suggest drinks/shots after i've declined multiple times, i'll either think you have a problem, or you're trying to get me drunk. both of which i don't want.

men who insist you come over, or they come over. i'm all about prolonging a good date, and would love to go to another spot, but i really hate when men invite me over to their place, or suggest coming to mine at the end of the night. even worse when they get super pouty when i decline.

jinblossomz , Tembela Bohle Report

Final score:

24points

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Nezuko_chan 1 year ago

“Have a drink!” Ok, can I have an apple juice

2points

wonderfullyforgottte Report

#34

Here is a great story, first date in college. I drive a truck and live in a city. So spots are tight. This spot is particularly tight. So I say, “this is a tight spot so watch your door when you open it.” Girl “are you telling me how to open my door??” Doesn’t pay basic attention and slams the door into the other car.

Final score:

23points

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Cathy Jo Baker 1 year ago

I would have told her to get back in and driven her home.

4points

#35

"Ah, women and their...."

Final score:

23points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

" ... bad choices in men."

13points

#36

Guys who make you feel bad about not going home with them. I was really excited to go out with this one guy, had excitement/jitters all day because we had initially hit it off super well, and then the date came around, but I decided not to go home with him *because I liked him* and wanted to prolong the courting stage a bit longer.

Not even 30 seconds after I drove away he sent me "🙃" When I asked him why, he started pushing me to turn around and come over to his place.

Noped the f**k outta that one real quick.

Chillephant Report

Final score:

22points

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Dustin Alcaraz 1 year ago

what is upside down smiley face mean to you? asking for a friend...

3points

BagelsAreStaleDonuts , Gela delrose Report

#37

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Too much discussion about money.

Wizzmer , Karolina Grabowska Report

Final score:

21points

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#38

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Referring to going to the restroom as "going make tinkles", I wanted to leave on the spot.

Final score:

20points

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Jared Robinson 1 year ago

I'd prefer this over "I gotta go take a massive p**s out my sweaty vagina" Yes that is a real thing a woman said to me. She thought that all men found being rude and vulgar hilarious, and I most assuredly do not.

9points

KronktheKronk , RDNE Stock project Report

#39

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying I've seen "being rude to wait staff" a dozen times in here.

Are that many people rude to waiters?

Final score:

19points

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TotallyNOTaFox 1 year ago

Working in customer service turns people into misanthropes for a reason

6points

#40

One of my best friends casually began to date one of my ex girlfriend’s friends.

He was really starting to like her and took her out on consistent dates, a few sleep overs, etc.

My ex girlfriend told me this girl was texting her about her date with my friend later that night. My ex asked her if she was into him as much as he was, her.

Her literal response was “no, but free food is free food.”

I was hurt for him. Devastated. I didn’t want him to feel what I felt and I wasn’t even the one dating her.

I took my friend (roommate at the time also) aside that afternoon and asked him to please delete her number and never talk to her again. I didn’t say why. I just asked him to trust me and to please stop seeing her. It’s for the honest best.

Knowing me for years & years, he politely accepted my request and deleted her, without question. He knew I knew something and understood I was helping him avoid emotional pain & disappointment. He is too nice of an individual to experience that..

Trust goes a long way.

WeDontNeed2Whispa Report

Final score:

19points

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Huddo's sister 1 year ago

I don't get why you wouldn't tell them why. Does it really avoid pain?

6points

#41

I was on a double date with this one girl. She seemed really cool and I was having fun on the date. Then she stuck her pinky in her ear to scratch and pulled out some ear wax. That was a little gross. But then she ate the ear wax. I decided right then to not go on a second date.

czechman45 Report

Final score:

19points

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Spocks's Mom 1 year ago

Glad I was eating when i read that. No. I am not eating ear wax.

4points

#42

I've shared this recently, but one time I was out on a first date with this girl I met online. I thought she was very attractive and we seem to hit off well through texts.

We're at this bar and she suggests we play a people watching game where we try to make up back stories for the other people there. I thought it sounded fun, especially since I played a similar game with friends on the train sometimes. Plus it felt like a good ice breaker to get us talking.

Well, she managed to take all the fun out the game by being ridiculously cruel in all her assumptions for no real reason at all. It felt like she was projecting issues she had onto these people. Like one guy was sitting at the bar alone, could have been waiting for someone, you never know, but because he was alone he was a f*****g loser with no friends that hates his life.

Completely killed the mood and I lost interest in her after that. Couldn't see myself going on a second date with someone like that.

-eDgAR- Report

Final score:

19points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

Well, at least you had to make no assumptions about her.

5points

greenflowers88 , Kampus Production Report

#43

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Getting so drunk on the first date that you can't figure out Uber and I have to drive you home. No, you can't stay on my couch, I don't know you.

Final score:

18points

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Niki A 1 year ago

My son's father did this. He got so nervous he kept drinking and drinking. Luckily we were not out in public, but his best friend was with us. Now I know he has a drinking problem, but at the time it was actually a little funny.

4points

#44

Self-deprecating to the point where everything needs to be somehow connected in a negative way back to yourself. Like literally everything. While chatting it's even more obvious, sad faces all the time, "I'm dumb", "I don't deserve what I've achieved" etc.

AxillV Report

Final score:

18points

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Lama 1 year ago

Oh f**k yes, I find this so exhausting! A little insecurity is fine, I'm happy to give you an extra compliment or something, but I'm not here to validate you as a person.

8points

#45

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Someone who doesn’t ask about me. It shows that they don’t actually care.

Am_lock22 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

17points

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ERIKA H. 1 year ago

I wouldn't automatically say they don't "care", but they may lack self awareness (which is another red flag)

5points

#46

* Poor personal hygiene, or any other lack of basic self respect.
* Disrespectful to service workers (waitstaff, janitors, etc...)
* Harsh generalizations about different races/genders/nationalities/etc without verifiable evidence to back them up.
* Seems constantly annoyed or angry over little things.
* Victim mentality, or any other sense of entitlement.

EDIT TO ADD: Most of us who've been around a while might have that ONE "crazy ex," but if someone claims that most or all of their exes were "crazy" then that's your cue to run far the f**k away and never call back. THAT PERSON was the crazy one, nobody's luck is actually THAT BAD.

Egodram Report

Final score:

17points

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S Mi 1 year ago

There is never any 'evidence' to back up 'harsh generalizations'.

3points

EleanorRigbiesRice Report

#47

Being more that 30 mins late - With or without an excuse.

If you're going to be that late, you might just aswell cancel

Final score:

17points

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Lo Kindred 1 year ago

I get anxiety if I am late anywhere! I prefer to be early and wait.

4points

Hydrophobic_Dolphin , Andrea Piacquadio Report

#48

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Someone who makes me read their bad poetry. This has happened to me more than once...

I don’t hate poetry, I very much like it. Especially Vogon poetry. However, on a first date, there is a HUGE difference between; “Have you read this poem by x? What do you think of this bit...” and “Here is my notebook, read it all and tell me what you think.”

Story bits for those who asked:

The first time this happened I was 18 and we met through mutual friends. While it wasn’t great, it wasn’t emo angsty levels of bad. Unfortunately he then started sending me poetry he had written about me and calling me his muse. This after having met once. He then went full stalker. So yeah... nope.

Second time was some years later. It was bad, but I was not mean about it. We continued chatting then said goodnight politely and parted.

The next day he went from “I had a really nice time, give me a call.” To, “I am sure you are busy, but please reply.” To, “Clearly you are ignoring me so let’s never speak again” in the space of a 3 hour barrage of text messages. I was at work so I didn’t see the messages till lunchtime.

Final score:

16points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

Follow Queen Victoria's example and reply "We are not a muse."

10points

#49

Dirty clothes. Not showered. Dirty car. Loud booming voice so everyone can hear your conversation. Bad tipper. Being rude to servers

Final score:

16points

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Chexmy Licks/egg🇯🇵 1 year ago

stinky

3points

#50

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying Sloppy table manners.

eternalrefuge86 , KoolShooters Report

Final score:

16points

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LuckyL 1 year ago

Sloppy manners!

4points

orange_cuse , EKATERINA BOLOVTSOVA Report

#51

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying I was once set up to go on a blind date with this girl. We were given each other's email addresses and so I hit her up, we exchanged a few pleasantries, then set up a date/time to finally meet. The day of, I get an email from her in the morning with an attachment. I open up the attachment and there is a questionnaire with like 25-30 questions on it. She requested I kindly fill out the questionnaire before we meet. I quickly reviewed the questions before sending her a reply saying that it's probably best we don't meet.

I don't know what characteristic she embodied, but I'd say that was a deal breaker.

Final score:

15points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

I believe the characteristic you're trying to identify might be "controlling".

6points

PossiblyNeighbours , Andrea Piacquadio Report

#52

30 Times People Went On First Dates And Noped Right Out Of Seeing That Person Again After These Red Flags Started Flying reminding me of my dad. I love my dad, honestly, but I don't want to date him :D

Final score:

14points

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Michael Largey 1 year ago

I really depends what reminds you of her dad. I dated a woman who enjoyed the fact that her dad and I had similar senses of humor. We did, and it was no problem.

5points

#53

As a straight man the main deal breaker for me is when they are also a man

sugmetoes Report

Final score:

14points

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Ross “Sarcastic Dad” 1 year ago

Yeah, I'm straight too, but if Tom Hardy asks me on a date, I'm going to at least see where it goes, lol.

26points

#54

Bragging. Even worse if it's over the smallest things. A guy I was interested in kept texting me these (fake) brags about things that dont even matter e.g having a pet lizard that he brought home from his holidays??.

He also was a big fan of his own eyes? They were blue, but nothing out of the ordinary. He'd send photos saying they were unique and blue/grey and pretty. IMMEDIATE turnoff

EDIT: people werent getting the lizard thing. He did not have a pet lizard, I managed to get as far as being in his room at a party (a few days after saying he had the "pet lizard") and he was bragging that he managed to capture one whilst on holiday in Spain and bringing it home on the plane and keeping it. Which he did not.

Hopewolf115 Report

Final score:

14points

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SerumSeven 1 year ago

I'm guessing the lizard had brown eyes.

2points

#55

Asking me zero questions about myself while talking incessantly about themselves. It's alarming how many dudes do this. Why bother going on a date with another human if all you want is to hear yourself talk?!

celestialism Report

Final score:

13points

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Antonia 1 year ago

Because he is tired of listening to his own sh*t the whole time?

1point

PM_ME_UR_HIP_DIMPLES Report

#56

One-upping

Edit: When I lived in the Midwest it was literally just part of the culture. Telling stories and being one-upped was something you were desensitized to. I ran into a wall once I moved west where people pointed out that I did it, so I stopped. Now when I go on dates I usually get into things people are passionate about. If it’s all about one-upping experiences then it’s goals and meaning based on other people. Big turn off. There are a lot of people my age that are essentially living at a speed like Justin from Parks and Rec and it’s a shame. I learned and appreciated so much more slowing down and being present for things alone. The Midwest is also rampant with superlatives.

“It was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen”
“Scariest thing that’s ever happened to me”

Really? Having your online banking freeze with the wrong balance on it was the scariest thing that’s EVER happened to you? F**k off

Don’t one up on dates. Hearing how your trip to Cali for Coachella was the best experience of your life and how Diplo was the most amazing thing you’ve ever seen is not what I want to hear when I ask about your future at Purdue studying liberal arts

Final score:

13points

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Rostit . 1 year ago (edited)

justin from parks and rec? I dont recall a justin. edit: oh justin theroux... I didnt consider him part of the show. he was only on sometimes.

3points

#57

Unidirectional people.

Only talks about work.

Only knows about sports.

Only cares about travelling.

Get a mix.

Edit: If you talk about travelling, sports and your job with passion it's definitely not a deal breaker. I'm talking about someone who can only do one of the three, not all 3 combined. Sorry maybe it came out wrong.

lordpanda Report

Final score:

12points

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#58

The type of guy who needs to flirt with the waitress or just be heavy

J-Erso Report

Final score:

11points

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Nezuko_chan 1 year ago (edited)

That reminded me of Tommyinnit

0points

#59

Treating service people poorly. You're rude or dismissive to a waiter or barperson, yeah, it's over before it's started - I know the kind of person you are.

kckaaaate Report

Final score:

11points

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3 pandas in a trench coat 11 months ago

Or when they snap their fingers to get the waiter’s attention. 😠

0points

#60

If they're going out with me, that's the deal breaker right there. Shows severe lack of judgement on their part.

AbyssalTuna Report

Final score:

10points

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Ross “Sarcastic Dad” 1 year ago

"I would never want to be part of a club that would have me as a member"

6points

#61

I went on a date with a girl, this date was a disaster. She got food in her hair and all over the place, she wouldn’t get off her phone, and she stabbed herself in the cheek with her fork because she wasn’t paying attention. I’ve never seen her since

Zapdocuno Report

Final score:

9points

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Spocks's Mom 1 year ago

Wtf? Were you guys toddlers when you went on this date?

10points

#62

Being too shy. I get it you're nervous going out with a guy you like, and I'm just as nervous going out with a girl I like. But when you barely say a word to me, and your body language is all tense the whole time we're out sends some bad signals. It makes me more nervous because I cant think of what's making you so uncomfortable, and now I'm panicking that you may not want to see me again. So ladies, please just try to relax. We're s******g bricks too

Final score:

9points

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Huddo's sister 1 year ago

Not easy to do if you have anxiety. I get it would seem like they don't feel comfortable, but if that is the only thing that is turning you off, I would hope you gave it another try at least once, when they might be more relaxed.

7points

#63

Had a first date with a guy from tinder. He wanted to play the “what celebrity do people say you look like?” Game. He told me, “Daniel Craig.” Uh no. Then I replied, “yea some people have told me Katy Perry but I don’t think so.” He said, “No! You know who you look like...BEN AFFLECK!!!”
I’m a woman btw.
Needless to say, there was no second date.

pippypup Report

Final score:

8points

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#64

Eating with their hands. I knew a girl once who would eat foods like spaghetti and fish with her hands, and if I were to go on a date with someone similar, I would end it as soon as possible.

Have you ever seen someone, a grown adult, eat spaghetti with their hands??? It's disgusting!

literallyatree Report

Final score:

8points

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Aqsa Azam 1 year ago

Lmao, we eat our meals with our hands! But I don't know about spaghetti.

4points

#65

Lack of trying. If I see the person is poorly dressed or chose a s****y place, I know they're putting the least effort possible. That tells me all I need to know.

SunnyCarol Report

Final score:

7points

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Strawberry Pizza 1 year ago

This seems vaguely classist.

20points

#66

Telling them you only wanted to date them because you recognize them from their GW posts.

The_ponydick_guy Report

Final score:

4points

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Huddo's sister 1 year ago

What's GW?

5points

#67

Mouth-breathers... or when they constantly have that foaming piece of saliva at the corners of their mouths.

HadukiBEAN Report

Final score:

4points

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Huddo's sister 1 year ago

That seems a bit harsh. They may have problems with their sinus' in which case they have to breathe through their mouth. This then would cause that saliva build up because their mouth is dry.

5points

#68

Fake laughs.