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Person Gives Friend One Last Chance To Prove They Matter, But She’s Late As Always
“Time isn’t the main thing. It’s the only thing.” However, Reddit user LateSchlate began to think that one of her friends probably wouldn’t realize this if she didn’t take drastic action. The woman was constantly late to all of their meetings!
So, the Redditor told her to be punctual if she wanted to preserve their relationship. At first, it looked like the message got through, but when the two of them agreed to have brunch, the friend reverted to her own personal time zone, and all hell broke loose.
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So this woman decided to stop giving her friend a pass for being late everywhere they go
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Image credits: freepik (not the actual)
Image credits: LateSchlate
The actual number might be different in other cultures, but Americans believe the woman would have been late even if she arrived only 15 minutes after the agreed time
A study of 3,000 American adults discovered that “early is on time,” with more than half admitting they consider themselves “obsessed” with timekeeping.
The Redditor’s friend got offended because she didn’t wait for her for half an hour, but the survey revealed that anything past 13 minutes is usually considered “late,” and 56% of respondents said they plan ahead to ensure they are never running behind schedule.
However, the data also revealed that seven in ten friend groups have a person who is notorious for being late (even though less than a quarter admitted they are “that friend”).
And, on average, it only takes being late five times for people to be upset with you.
Many tried the tactic proposed by the Redditor’s friend — 47% have even sneakily told a friend that a meeting time was earlier than it was, so if they showed up late, they were actually on time. But, the “solution” is questionable at best since it addresses the result of the problem and not its roots.
The study found the most popular excuses for being late include blaming the traffic (37%), a morning alarm not going off (33%), and the car not starting (32%).
There’s a good chance the friend isn’t fond of her old habit either, as Americans typically feel anxious (43%), annoyed (36%), and concerned (28%) if it’s looking like they’re going to be late somewhere. But, of course, that doesn’t give her the right to repeatedly disrespect others like this.
People said the woman had every right to enforce her boundaries
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
Selective lateness (as in, OP's friend is always late to hanging out/casual stuff, but never to work/catching a flight/etc.) is so incredibly insulting to the people who are waiting. And one doesn't get to pick and choose the times one blames ADHD for lateness. A grown adult deserves to be treated like a kindergartener if they demand that the OTHER PERSON "remind" them of the time - if OP hangs out with this friend in the future, she should text her like she's a toddler. "Did you put on your shoes? Did you wear a jacket? Snack time is at noon." However, since the friend begged OP not to stop hanging out with her, methinks that the friend has burned time-bridges with all her OTHER friends, who now refuse to hang out with her due to her lateness, and OP is the last bastion.
Amelia Jade 5 days ago
I'm trying really hard to have some grace for people who have excuses like ADHD, anxiety, etc. But I have an anxiety disorder and OCD. It can be a b***h to get out of the house because I have to do checks, and sometimes those checks require me to circle the car back around to the house to do more checks. It's a whole process. And yet, I'm never late. I'm so worried of letting people down, or missing an appointment, etc that I can't be late. And I certainly would never leave my kids waiting. I'm usually early if i have to pick them up from somewhere because I hate the idea of them standing there, wondering where I am.
Amelia Jade 5 days ago (edited)
I dropped a friend due to her lateness. It just got to be too much. We'd make plans and she'd be 30 minutes to an hour late. We once had plans to have a picnic at a lake with our kids. I showed up, set up, and then we waited. She shows up over an hour late, we've been waiting to eat. She apologize for being late and says they stopped and got lunch on the way there since they were late anyway. So, we haven't eaten because we were waiting on them, and now we don't want to eat because they're just sitting there. She'd invite me over and I'd show up and she'd be like, "Sit down and relax. I need to shower." You knew I was coming over. You couldn't have showered before I got here? I realized how much of my time was being wasted always waiting around for her, so I stopped making plans with her.
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LakotaWolf (she/her) 5 days ago
Selective lateness (as in, OP's friend is always late to hanging out/casual stuff, but never to work/catching a flight/etc.) is so incredibly insulting to the people who are waiting. And one doesn't get to pick and choose the times one blames ADHD for lateness. A grown adult deserves to be treated like a kindergartener if they demand that the OTHER PERSON "remind" them of the time - if OP hangs out with this friend in the future, she should text her like she's a toddler. "Did you put on your shoes? Did you wear a jacket? Snack time is at noon." However, since the friend begged OP not to stop hanging out with her, methinks that the friend has burned time-bridges with all her OTHER friends, who now refuse to hang out with her due to her lateness, and OP is the last bastion.
Amelia Jade 5 days ago
I'm trying really hard to have some grace for people who have excuses like ADHD, anxiety, etc. But I have an anxiety disorder and OCD. It can be a b***h to get out of the house because I have to do checks, and sometimes those checks require me to circle the car back around to the house to do more checks. It's a whole process. And yet, I'm never late. I'm so worried of letting people down, or missing an appointment, etc that I can't be late. And I certainly would never leave my kids waiting. I'm usually early if i have to pick them up from somewhere because I hate the idea of them standing there, wondering where I am.
Amelia Jade 5 days ago (edited)
I dropped a friend due to her lateness. It just got to be too much. We'd make plans and she'd be 30 minutes to an hour late. We once had plans to have a picnic at a lake with our kids. I showed up, set up, and then we waited. She shows up over an hour late, we've been waiting to eat. She apologize for being late and says they stopped and got lunch on the way there since they were late anyway. So, we haven't eaten because we were waiting on them, and now we don't want to eat because they're just sitting there. She'd invite me over and I'd show up and she'd be like, "Sit down and relax. I need to shower." You knew I was coming over. You couldn't have showered before I got here? I realized how much of my time was being wasted always waiting around for her, so I stopped making plans with her.
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