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“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends

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Our friends have a far bigger impact on our lives than many might think. A massive 85-year Harvard study found that positive relationships keep people happier, healthier, and help them live longer. So there are very practical benefits to maintaining deep, strong bonds with an active social circle. However, real friends are quite rare. And in some cases, it can be quite hard to determine who’s only pretending to be your BFF.

We’ve collected some of the most dramatic stories from these two r/AskReddit threads here and here showcasing what finally made people’s friendships fall apart. Scroll down to read about some of the signs of fake pals, and it might help you evaluate your own relationships.

One of the authors of the captivating discussions, redditor u/fusillihair, was kind enough to answer our questions. Check out Bored Panda's interview with them about the most important qualities for a friend to have, as well as what to avoid, below!

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#1

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I was in a group of friends who started bullying a person I knew out of nowhere. I told them I was not okay with that. They soon started hanging out without inviting me. I am still very glad I did what I did.

SqueakyToy7 , Keira Burton Report

Final score:

367points

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#2

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I was living with my best friend. Her boyfriend told me he wanted to show me what he bought her for Christmas and that he wanted my opinion. So he trapped me in the bathroom then attempted to shove his tongue down my throat.

I knee'd him in the balls. Told him I was going to tell her. Then I left to go see my boyfriend. I told my best friend later that night what happened. She believed her boyfriend over me.

End of friendship. Many years later, she tries to friend me on Facebook. Are you f*****g kidding me?! Get bent b***h!

BubblyResident1855 , freestocks Report

Final score:

353points

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#3

I got sober.

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Final score:

346points

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According to Reddit user u/fusillihair, what made them create their discussion about friendships going awry on the r/AskReddit online community were real-life examples.

"I was inspired to ask the question after seeing a relative's long-term 'friendship' break down. It made me curious about other people's experiences," the OP shared with us that they sought common ground with others, online.

What someone looks for in a great friend can vary a bit from person to person. We were curious what redditor u/fusillihair prioritizes in their own friendships.

"The things I value the most in a friendship is honesty," they highlighted the importance of openness and transparency.

#4

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I lost 100 pounds. She didn't, and "accused" me of deliberately changing. Well, yeah...

BakeCrochetGym , Andres Ayrton Report

Final score:

284points

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#5

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends After trying for a child for years and years I got pregnant with twins, one of them was in my right fallopian tube and I had to have an abortion to save my life.

Called her to tell her what happened and she informed me that she regretted supporting me through infertility if I was just going to kill the first baby I got pregnant with and that getting the abortion proved to her I never really wanted kids and she couldn't be friends with someone who would kill their child without any questions asked.

I hung up and we haven't spoken for 12 years. I missed her for the first year but not anymore, I just feel bad for her daughters knowing she will do the same thing to them if they are ever faced with that choice, I have heard from mutuals she bad talks me every chance she can and says it was my choice to throw away our friendship over my pregnancy knowing her views on abortion.

AnnaVronsky , Leah Kelley Report

Final score:

272points

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#6

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She let her bf sexually assault me while I was heavily intoxicated, while she pretended to be asleep. She 'wanted to see what he would do', I was basically bait.

ViciouslyJaded , Clay Banks Report

Final score:

248points

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"Friends should be able to trust what their friends are saying—without trust, there can be no friendship," the redditor explained just how fundamentally essential trust is between real friends.

"Friends being honest shows they value their relationship with you," they pointed out that this sort of mutual respect shows a proper investment in the relationship.

Meanwhile, Bored Panda wanted to get redditor u/fusillihair's take on some of the signs that someone may not have one's best interests at heart and that it might be time to rethink the 'friendship.'

"The biggest red flag I’ve noticed in friendships is when someone constantly takes advantage of you," the OP shared with us.

"It’s because they’re not scared of losing you and you become a means to an end."

#7

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends When I stopped people pleasing and set boundries.

coconutrush90 , Briana Tozour Report

Final score:

247points

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#8

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I came out as bisexual and she accused me of having a crush on her (i didn’t) but she said i made her feel uncomfortable.

Specific_Shop_3975 , Vindhya Chandrasekharan Report

Final score:

231points

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#9

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends He tried to sleep with my wife. Knew him for 30+ yrs when he tried to sleep with my wife.

refugee1971 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

207points

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Real friendships, at their very core, are about mutual respect, trust, and empathy. One-sided relationships based on exploitation and manipulation won’t last and can’t really be considered ‘friendships’ in the first place. But the reality is that sometimes folks simply can’t tell whether what they’ve got is the real deal or just a facade until it’s too late.

Fake friends who are in the relationship purely for their benefit will always take more than they give and won’t give a damn about your boundaries. They don’t understand the importance of reciprocity and will milk you for favors and money and emotional support. But when you ask them for the same things, they’ll always find a convenient excuse about how they’re incredibly sorry but they simply can’t help you. And how they’ll totally make it up to you next time… only to come up with another excuse then.

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#10

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She found Jesus, then lost her mind. In that order.

shaylahbaylaboo , Karl Fredrickson Report

Final score:

203points

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#11

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I had 3 friends from high school, met up with them again in our late 20s. One was doing well financially, married a well off dude and had 3 kids. She looked down her nose at the rest of us, would insult us, constantly talk about how much money she had and would start arguments in the group chat.

She even told me that the way I dress, I will never get a husband. When I started dating my now fiancé, he'd get sh*tty with me for continuing to talk to her because she'd make me cry. She told me that because I had no kids and wasn't married, I was immature. I tried to explain to her how her behaviour affected me/the group, but she never changed. I cut her off a few times, but the other girls would guilt me back in.

One day, I was just over it. I blocked all three of them and iced them out. They tried contacting my mother, my partner, calling me from different numbers but I blanked them. The main bitch even messaged me and said "You're dead to me!"

Guess what, c*nt, you were already dead to me.

LandoCatrissian_ , freestocks Report

Final score:

201points

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#12

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends When I realized the friendship was toxic. Whenever I would hang out with her, I would feel drained. I became her therapist.

twhalenpayne , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Final score:

197points

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Not only that but fake friends are also often incorrigible gossips. A rule of thumb is that if someone’s spilling the tea about all of their social connections to you, they’re very likely to be blabbing all about you to their other buddies. Of course, gossip is a natural part of being a human being. But there are limits.

If someone asks you to keep a secret but you end up telling someone else, you’re effectively damaging your friendship. Everyone slips up from time to time, but it’s the bigger picture that matters here. Someone who isn’t able to keep private things private probably doesn’t deserve your trust in the future and likely doesn’t respect you enough. And you can’t have a genuine friendship without a firm foundation of trust and respect.

#13

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Ah, it was very simple. He was a MAGA supporter and we often talked politics and such. But that wasn't the cause for ending our friendship. I'm quite tolerant and I know how to separate people from their political beliefs. But come the pandemic, he starts promoting anti-vaccine stuff in his facebook. I lost both my in-laws to COVID and he knew that. I tried to convince him to get vaccinated out of concern for him, appealing to reason and empathy. He called me a shill for the pharmaceutical companies, a murderer and a co-conspirator for genocide.

So, that was the tipping point. I blocked him from all my social networks without any explanation. He can go get lost for all that I care nowadays.

Impressice-Ad6400 , CDC Report

Final score:

185points

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#14

She promised me that she would pay me back if I bought the tickets for a girls trip that she was desperate to go on. We had everything planned. I did all the work of looking and researching because that’s enjoyable to me and she hates it. She has 3 kids and they’re all smaller than mine - so I told her that I didn’t mind the planning as long as when it was done we would just go and enjoy ourselves since it had been 2 years since COVID.

I bought the tickets and wanted to use my new Amex plat for the hotel bonus points. Keep in mind she makes more money than me - 250K per year and her husband makes $150K. So money was not the issue. Multiple times we discussed the trip, her going on the trip, and that our husbands would hang out with the kids together while we were gone for 5 days over a long weekend + Monday & Tuesday.

When it was time to pay me back she went dark. Refused to answer my texts. Ghosted me for weeks. Mind you, I’ve known her for 4+ years and she was always kinda flakey when it came to texting. So her flakiness was not entirely new- but this is not the way you treat people period.

I finally sent a Venmo request for the portion of the trip that was hers along with the message “please pay me back for your portion of the trip since you will not respond to text messages or calls.”

She then proceeded to gaslight me and tried to tell me via text that she never agreed to go and that I was just misremembering (KIM, our husbands had a weekend planned out with the kids for when we were going to be away, so obviously, I wasn’t “making this up”.)

After that I sent her a farewell and f**k you message and didn’t look back.

I took my other best friend on the trip instead. She couldn’t pay me for half - but she paid for the meals and taxis instead. It was super nice and I’m glad this c**t is out of my life.

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Final score:

180points

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#15

Me: Rocker chick outcast with purple hair and chain jewelry.
Her: Popular, beautiful, perfect soccer star jock with a new Jeep Wrangler.

We sat next to each other in geometry in 10th grade.
We started with giggling together at a fellow classmate teasing our odd teacher.

I lived far from campus. So one day, I meekly asked her for a ride home in said Jeep in exchange for the day’s homework answers.

We are almost 40 now. She moved to a new city. We became—and stayed—best friends. Real Fox and the Hound situation. I visited her at least annually in her new city. She has a guest room she called “IAlreadyOrderedPizzas’s room.” We’d stay up all night laying in it and talking.

She got into a bad relationship. Not sure if it was that, or her untreated depression, or her slow descent into alcoholism, or a combination. But I quickly became her punching bag when she was having a bad day. Everything from “I was always better than you” to “Well at least I’m not stuck in our home city.”

I recently had to cut her off. It is still the hardest and most painful thing I have ever done.

Yesterday was her birthday.

Happy birthday. I miss you and I love you.

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Final score:

175points

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The same goes for promises. We all probably have at least one person somewhere in our social circle who constantly overpromises and underdelivers. Someone who’s constantly offering to help or to meet up, only to cancel the plans at the last possible minute, isn’t someone who can be trusted. Good friends offer us stability and stay true to their word. Poor friends only care about their own pleasure and don’t give a damn about others’ time and feelings.

Finally, an absolutely wonderful way to know for a fact whether someone values your friendship is to see how they behave when life serves a bunch of ups and downs to you at high speed. A great friend will weather any storm by your side, shoulder to shoulder, and will celebrate your successes.

#16

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She was toxic and abusive to me for years but I made excuses every time. The last straw was when she was incredibly cruel to one of my other best friends who was actively dying of cancer and then painted herself as the injured party. I put up with being treated like s**t for 20 years, but to treat a dying woman like that? I was immediately done.

Extreme-Onion6731 , Jon Tyson Report

Final score:

174points

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#17

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She got married and cut all contact with me.

20 year friendship tossed aside like a used napkin.

generic_witch , Alexander Kolomin Report

Final score:

170points

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#18

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends They became homophobic, started misgendering our trans friend on purpose, and was overall very hateful and homophobic for no reason.

LongLiveGermans , Tim Bieler Report

Final score:

156points

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So-called fair-weather friends, on the other hand, will only want to be a part of your life when everything’s sunshine and rainbows. The moment things get tough, they’ll be nowhere to be found… only to pop back up again when you sort your problems out yourself.

It’s also worth noting here that folks who are jealous of you and try to put you down when you achieve some sort of success may not be worth spending much time around. And if you feel utterly drained, irritated, and upset after meeting up with someone, it may be worthwhile focusing on some of your other—healthier—relationships.

#19

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends After more than 20 years of being besties, she just ghosted me. After a year of not hearing from her, despite reaching out, I asked her husband if she was okay. He was confused because she claimed to be talking to me all the time. Whatever. It hurt for a while, but she honestly brought very little to my life in hindsight.

CunnyMaggots , Priscilla Du Preez Report

Final score:

151points

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#20

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Pathological liar. Told me he was dying. I was so distraught. Complete utter wreck. Nope. Not dying. Healthy af. He's still alive now 20 years later. Must be the miracle medical intervention he didn't need and didn't get.

KimchiAndLemonTree , Tima Miroshnichenko Report

Final score:

141points

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#21

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends My best friend for close to 15 years blocked me. When I got in touch with him I asked what was going on, and he said he was just purging his friends list. Said it was a mistake and unblocked me.

Well I happened to be dealing with the loss of my father (who basically adopted him) and was struggling with alcohol abuse. I reached out to him just seeking a friend cause I was in such a low spot, then he blocked me again.

I totally get cutting off friends who are alcoholics or toxic. But the only time I ever asked him for anything was "Hey man, not sure if you heard but my dad died. I've been drinking too much and could use a friend to talk to."

And he blocked me for that.

ASemiAquaticBird , Christian Fridell Report

Final score:

133points

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#22

She was unvaccinated and refused to take a covid test before seeing me. My mother was terminally ill and severely immuno-compromised, so I was absolutely trying to minimise the risk of getting covid so I could still see my Mum.

She refused to take a test, twice, despite kind and calm requests and explanations, on the basis that she "didn't want to get a sinus infection." (This was in the time of nasal swabs, not mouth swabs, for covid tests. You know, those nasal swabs that are sterile and can't cause infection.)

I'm 100% sure that it wasn't about a sinus infection. It was about control. She had been annoyed because I hadn't validated her anti-vax stance in the past.

Similarly, I know she wanted more validation for her religious views, which she'd acquired in her 30s and which I didn't share. I'd told her that I was happy her faith made her happy, but I think she wanted me to truly share her beliefs. I'd also said that her sister's bisexuality was "fine with me" when she'd stated that a wedding of 2 women was "not what God wants."

I think all of those different views just threatened the way she saw the world, and how she saw herself.

Her last texts thanked me for "sharing my views" re covid and it's potential to kill my Mum, then became pseudo-concerned when I didn't reply. I read the whole situation as "I want to say whatever I want to you, but I want to still feel like a nice person, so please reply and give me that validation."

I didn't reply to her, but I still ask myself whether the mature thing to do would have been to clearly reply and state that I didn't want to stay in contact. It's taken me until now (over a year later) to see through the pain and formulate what I might have said.

We'd been friends since the first days of high school. 20+ years. In essence we just aquired very different views from each other as adults, but I can't pretend her attitude towards my Mum, and towards the horrible journey my family had to take, wasn't devastating.

Life is a bloody painful journey at times, that's for sure.

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Final score:

129points

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#23

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She slept with my then boyfriend. The most boring tragedy of my life.

Particular-Natural12 , cottonbro studio Report

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123points

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#24

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Knew him since elementary school. Always abrasive but, that was just him. He went to Europe to go to college and met some really snooty Europeans and came back a horrible person. Like he used to talk nonstop about debt and how he wanted to start a business and only hire people with debt so that he could mistreat them and they couldn't afford to quit. Not joking.

So I tried my best to get him to come around, but he was so rude to grocery store clerks, etc. that it was almost a story that sounded made up for internet rage bait.

I was straight out of college at the time, and I accepted a night shift job. I compromised my sleep and I'll tell you, the job did not pay well. And he kept pressing me and pressing me to ask me how much I made. I finally gave in, and he lorded it over me.

So one night before I punched in for the night shift, we went for coffee and he casually said something like, "Yeah, anybody who gets out of bed for less than six figures is a sucker," knowing full well what I made.

After about 20 years of friendship, I said I have to go, said goodbye, walked to my car and got in. I turned the ignition and as the car was starting I said, this friendship is over. And I never, ever looked back.

And another friend guilt tripped me about it, said it was awkward that we're not all friends anymore. This bad "friend" walked into another friend's butcher shop, used his friendship with another buddy working there, to run up a tab of several thousand dollars and then never paid.

"Oh sorry that's business," was his reply.
I'll tell you, since cutting him out of my life I live much, much, much happier. Had I never stopped being friends with him, I would have never grown so much as a person.

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Final score:

120points

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#25

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I was in a horrific auto accident, coma for a week, ICU for a month. The person who was my closest friend never came to see me, when I finally got home, wheelchair bound, when he came over his first question was what kind of drugs did they give me. It was supposed to be a joke but I told him that we’re done being friends and not to come back to my house ever again. That was 17 years ago.

It was very difficult for me to sit there and tell the person that I no longer wanted to be friends and to leave and never come back. I was lucky to have support of close family which help ease the pain of losing a friend. I had a bunch of acquaintances that disappeared after my accident and during my recovery so I took the position of good riddance.

Tenchi2020 , Marcus Aurelius Report

Final score:

117points

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#26

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I had a mate that went through some tough times with his partner. I supported him with late-night chats, gave him a place to stay, and even kept my mouth shut when he cheated on her. Fast-forward a couple of years, I ended up going through some tough times myself and was on the verge of bankruptcy. He didn't give a s**t. Whenever we spoke, conversations always pivoted to how well he was doing and how much money he was making. I always got the impression that he was glad I was struggling.

Fast-forward another couple of years, and things have turned around for me. I'm doing well, have a new job, and was able to move to a great location outside of the UK. He came to visit once and spent the whole time slagging off where I lived, how s**t my job was compared to his, and even dropped a couple of hints that he didn't like my girlfriend (who's now my wife). He went back home, and I never contacted him again. Apparently, he posted something snarky on Facebook about not being invited to 'his best mate's wedding,' but I'm not on Facebook, so don't care.

Daddicool69 , Nicola Barts Report

Final score:

112points

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#27

Over 10 years of friendship. We travelled together, worked together, he was the best man at my wedding. We were best friends, the kind of friend you could call any time of day or night and he’d be there to help. I was there for him through difficult times and vice versa. Then he met his now wife…

Suddenly any gatherings at my house they couldn’t attend because she was always sick from “something she ate”…

She was from a wealthy family, the kind that literally owns a small island, and lived in an affluent neighbourhood. It’s not like I was poor or lived in a bad neighbourhood but by comparison, I’m sure the very thought of her being in my part of town made her sick.

Anyway, I moved overseas, received a save the date for their wedding but the invitation never showed up. He reached out asking if I was coming and was shocked I hadn’t got the invitation as he wanted me there but it was too late to make arrangements and a long way to travel.

I received an email from him while he was on his honeymoon telling me how jealous he was of me and my career and new life overseas.

I travelled back to see family and friends a little while later and tried to make arrangements to see him but he was “too busy”… I was literally in the same building as him visiting old colleagues.

I’m convinced his wife is the reason my invitation got lost in the mail and that it all came out on the honeymoon and now he can’t look me in the face.

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Final score:

111points

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#28

We booked a group holiday before we all went to University. She picked the place, picked our rooms, who was sharing with who, she planned the whole itinerary, she *told* one of the other girls in the group she was driving the 3+ hours drive as well, didn't ask, just told her to do it.

She then ditched us every night to talk on the phone with her boyfriend for 2 hours, then go to sleep without telling anyone and was generally a controlling, moody b***h the entire trip.

But the reeeaaal stinker: 2nd to last day she suddenly says work has cancelled her next 2 days of holiday and she has to go in. We all knew she was lying. Next thing she says is she can no longer take any of us back home. The other friend who drove there wasn't going home when we were leaving, she was driving onwards to see family elsewhere. B***h friend said best she could do was drop rest of us at a train station. Reminder we were 3+ hours *drive* away from home, which translated to 6+ hour train journey with multiple changes.

Ends up with b***h friend leaving 6am the next morning, without a word, and my other friend had to reschedule her plans to drive the rest of us 2 hours in the wrong direction to meet my poor mum, who drove 2 hours to meet us halfway at a service station on a random motorway.

None of us have seen or spoken to her in over 10 years, since she left that morning.

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Final score:

109points

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#29

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends He cheated on his wife and left her and their two kids.

K-Dog7469 , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

108points

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#30

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She snuck around for a whole summer keeping the secret that she was f*****g and had a relationship with my dying father. she was of age but he was in his last months of life, not in his right mind. hard to look past, she still reaches out every now in then trying to reconnect but it’s just too damn weird.

mmolliemae , Marcelo Leal Report

Final score:

107points

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#31

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends I found out through one of their friends she thought wouldn't share. She had slept with my past 3 boyfriends and I was in the same house sleeping one of those times.

Dewdlebawb , Sinitta Leunen Report

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100points

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#32

One of my best friends in high school; he knew I had a massive crush on a girl. He was well aware that I was a bit awkward and not very confident, so he offered to help me out. He invited the young lady in question and me to hang out at his place, to get us in the same place and give me a shot.

Then he had sex with her while I was in the next room. I realized what was happening, and just sat there, unsure how to process what was going on. At some point I left. We never really discussed it.

The friendship puttered along for a short while longer, withering away after that. That event, along with a few other earlier experiences made it so I've never been quite able to trust other guys and form friendships with them as anything more than acquaintances.

To this day (I'm 38) I don't have a single close male friend. One of the few things I dislike about myself.

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Final score:

92points

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#33

I'm not completely sure. Our mothers have been besties since elementary school, and they had us a month apart; while we were night and day, personality-wise, and probably should have been the complete opposite, we were besties, too, closer than sisters, from birth until we were 25. She had gotten married a few years before, moved a couple hours away and had her first baby, so naturally, our dynamic had shifted some, but I was still under the impression that we were as close as ever the night she called and told me that her life had changed, she no longer had time or energy for a friendship like ours, and that she pretty much just didn't want me in her life, anymore. There was no falling out, we hadn't had a fight since we were teenagers, there was nothing that I could pinpoint (then or now) that led to her decision, but it broke my heart and I grieved the loss for years after.

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90points

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#34

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends He became addicted to [drugs] after his father died. It warped his personality, and he was constantly angry and bitter. He was unpredictable, and genuinely scared me because it felt that it would be very easy for him to do something that would ruin his life in an instant. Also refused any help offered. The only thing I could do was move on.

wheresmychin , christopher lemercier Report

Final score:

88points

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#35

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Not being invited to her wedding after being close friends for nearly four years. The other two people in our friend group were bridesmaids.

shark-giraffe , Deepak Khirodwala Report

Final score:

76points

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#36

She turned out to be super f*****g racist. I just had no idea because she’d never had the opportunity to show it until she moved to a city with brown people. I was horrified and I honestly have no idea who or where she is anymore and I do not care at all.

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#37

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Had a “best friend” who always expected everyone to cover for her whenever we go out to eat and would always whine about being “broke.” This one time I had a peak of her looking at her bank account and she had more than enough money to cover for herself. She just didn’t wanna spend any of her money.

minombrevanillamamba , Dan Gold Report

Final score:

25points

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#38

Pre-paid cellphone plan. It's 18 years ago at this point, but my then best friend pocket dialed me, while my phone was laying on the desk in the classroom. I was in a different part of the school working on a project. Some of the guys in class answered the phone but didn't or forgot to hang up when they realized no one was on the other end. The call ended up lasting long enough that his rough 25 dollars on the phone plan was used up. He ended up calling me the day after, calling me all names under the sun and where I could go to f**k myself. I had no f*****g idea what he was on about, and when he explained that his phone plan had been emptied I offered to just pay it back. Got told to f**k off. Never talked to him since. I even met him at a train station a few years later, smiled and waived at him. He literally turned around and walked away, waiting for the next train instead of taking the same train as me. I guess our friendship was only worth 25 dollars to him.

Final score:

22points

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#39

When I realized he and his wife prioritized their failing polycule over their kids’ happiness. The moment you neglect your kids around me, it’s over.

DramaticHumor5363 Report

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21points

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#40

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She was an insufferable narcissist and I was too young to understand

Charlottewhit , Lina Kivaka Report

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18points

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#41

My best friend (well used to be best friend)...we met when we were both 7. She had just moved to my town and from that very first day...we were inseparable.
Fast forward 35 yrs later. My oldest son passed away and after his funeral, she and I spoke maybe a handful of times on the phone and then after that...nothing.
That was a little over 6 yrs ago and if I had to say, or give a reason as to why we don't speak to one another anymore...I guess I'd say it goes back to my son's death. She stopped calling me. A lot of people distanced themselves from me. At first I just wrote it off to people not knowing what to say to me or not knowing how to be around me during the initial grief, but as weeks turned into months....turned into years, I really struggled with loneliness and just wanting our friendship back. I'm sure (and most that grieve the loss of a child can relate) it wasn't just her avoiding a friendship with me but I probably distanced myself quite a bit as well.
It hurts not having that one friend that you used to call and tell everything to and I'm sure the day will come when we may run into each other. But until then...I just miss the old times I guess.

DanaDaynaDane Report

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17points

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#42

They would use me as a vent and treat me very horribly like completely ignore me for a whole day resulting in me thinking what I did wrong then magically talk to me the very next day as if that never happened and when I would question her she would say " sorry I was in a bad mood" . This happened a couple of times she used to publicly ignore me when I initiated convo then proceeded to make a ' You're so annoying face' , isolate me.

I was fine with it , I thought that she might be having a rough time and had no where to vent. My final string broke when she suddenly ignored me again and talked very rudely when I asked her something, the very next second I saw her laughing happily with 'my friends' and rolled her eyes when she saw me.

I stopped talking to her from the next day and my friends all together it was no surprise that none of them ever came to apologize for treating me that way let alone reconcile with me . Although I was disappointed that our friendship only amounted this much to them.

I lost my friends but realized my own worth the hard way, got stepped on and humiliated, it was probably because she saw me as a very convenient person , I was sad but I never regretted cutting them off. Good riddance.

PositionHot3926 Report

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17points

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#43

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends Probably when she was jealous that my boyfriend picked me over her (they had never even spoke she saw him once and said he was hot) and then went around to all of our mutual friends calling me a man stealing wh*re. So yeah we were done at that point. Anyway I ended up marrying the guy and sent her a save the date but no invite.

karotcake , vjapratama Report

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17points

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#44

I was going through a divorce and my father died. Decided partying and alcohol was my new coping mechanism. They went along for a bit. I moved to another country to get rehab and they moved off to Washington and got married. I got right but I never heard from them again and they have a child now.

I miss them still, near daily, 10 years later. Was my best bud. I was a s****y friend.

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16points

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#45

She told me she had cancer and her parents were abusing her. Found out everything was a lie.

PM_meyourdogs Report

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16points

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#46

Just got tired of being ignored when I would try to make plans to get together or hangout. I'm not going to beg someone to be my friend. Friends for over 15 years and now haven't spoken to each other in over 3 years.

Bearded_OBrian Report

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15points

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#47

She cheated on her boyfriend (a very close friend of mine too), broke up with him on his birthday (after he gave her lots of beautiful presents for her graduation), and started a relationship with the lover.
Then, she cheated also on this other guy, and started a relationship with the lover, her current boyfriend (until the next one, I suppose!)

She “asked” me for some advice, in both situations I told her to break up first with the boyfriend and then try to think about it with a little bit of emotional distance, but nevermind she decided to follow her “instinct”.

I decided to follow my integrity, I couldn’t stand anymore a friend like her in my life. I just felt very disappointed.

That happened in the last 5 years, we are in our late 20s.

EDIT: now that I opened my memory closet, I remember another red flag of her.

During the early days of Instagram, her profile was plenty of my photos, made by me with my camera, that I only uploaded on Facebook because I wasn’t using Instagram. When I created my profile on IG, I discovered it. I confronted her and she told me that she wanted to “impress” people and said “look at the bright side, they have lots of likes!”

EDIT 2: another resurfaced memory!
One of the last times we hung out together, she bragged about her money and her job, clearly in order to make me jealous. Not an elegant move.

rollerbee Report

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15points

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#48

As a teen I had extremely low self esteem and didn’t care if people were mean to me as long as they called me friend. I spent like 8 years hanging out with this guy who would constantly belittle me in front of people to make himself seem “better”. One day he introduced me to a group of friends that kinda liked him but he still wasn’t technically apart of their group. They all saw how he treated me and the moment my friend was out of ear shot, they all took turns telling me I don’t deserve to be treated that way and that they thought I was super cool and that I should not hang out with him. After that day I stopped hanging out with and talking to him.

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#49

They started making rude an inappropriate comments, made it into a me problem by calling me too sensitive. The whole thing just got exhausting really. I was always the one that was there for her, but it was rarely returned.

It's funny though, how someone who prides themself on their own self awareness can't figure out that when they have conflict with their boss, coworkers, most of their friends, most of their family, that they might be contributing to the problem?

icronicq Report

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14points

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#50

When she forgot my birthday. I know it's silly but her actions spoke volumes. I was there for her when she gave birth to both her kids, supported her. I was her bank and when I lost my job and had to supplement my income doing IC, she didn't HEAR me when hi said I couldn't fund her pockets whenever she needed help. 11 years of friendship down the drain. Completely cut her out my life.

Moanmyname32 Report

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#51

When I was 24 I discovered a good friend of mine had been having sex with minors for the past 3 years. I'm now 35, moved away, and the last I heard he was in prison for heroin possession, theft, arson, and 2 counts of felonious assault with a deadly weapon.

sto_baker Report

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#52

Would “bust my balls” in front of attractive women to make himself look better. I was always confused because there was 0% chance of competition. There’s a point where it gets old and you never look back.

Nismotech_52 Report

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13points

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#53

Never was a great friend, bit fun to hang out with. Then he got a toxic girlfriend. We were roommates for awhile and living with her was hell. They decided to get their own place, and I came to realize how miserable I was living with them. Getting away from it showed me how bad it was. So I made a decision, I didn't want anything to do with his girlfriend. Unfortunately since they were dating, cutting her out meant cutting him out.

I've moved on, met new people and things are starting to pick up.

SirMathias007 Report

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13points

#54

Kind of just snapped into place that she was a terrible person one day.

We went out for coffee and she screamed at the barista for messing up the drink she ordered off the "secret" Starbucks menu. She was all excited because she'd slept with my best friends roommates boyfriend. Was furious over me "choosing sides" because we (me, my best friend, and her roommate) went out to a bar without her.

daabilge Report

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13points

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“This Breaks My Heart”: People Stunned—And Angry—After Woman Buys Lost Luggage From Airport

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#55

She was facing a lot of professional, personal, and financial difficulties due to some really poor decision making on her end. I was thriving, and she was never happy for my success. When I finally got a job promotion I’d worked really hard for, her reaction was one of anger and jealousy, and I decided I no longer needed that energy in my life anymore.

Friends should always celebrate each others victories.

ShopGirl1988 Report

Final score:

13points

#56

Had a friend who fell into the world of “social media micro influencer” and it’s completely destroyed her life. She is now a shell of the person she once was; nothing about her actions are genuine and she only ever participates in activities if they can bring her attention/clout or views. The sad part is, she knows she has no more friends (I’ve heard that she gets drunk and cries about it to anyone who will listen) but can’t understand that she’s responsible for pushing them all away by reducing them to props and background noise for her tiktoks. She thinks Covid destroyed all her friendships but it was actually just her own, selfish behavior. We’re all in our mid to upper 30’s so she’s too old to be acting like this in the first place and it’s just really pathetic watching her try to keep up with people half her age by recycling their content.

Barfignugen Report

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13points

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Guy Divorced 3 Years Ago Drops Off 3 Y.O. With His Ex-Wife Completely Out Of The Blue

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#57

When he had everything going well for him in life and bought cool sh*t while I was living poorly, he'd rub it in my face. When I started being successful and finally made something for myself, he couldn't stand it.

RedSystemDroid Report

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13points

#58

We'd been best friends for 40+ years. I was always the one to run to rescue/help her, even when her husband was holding her and the damn baby at gunpoint.

But she was also very critical and a bit of a snob, like her mom. She would tell me to throw out my shirt because it was too worn out, get a pedicure because my feet look like c**p, wear a different lipstick because the color looked horrible on me, etc.

So one day I just decided that I needed to talk to her about how she treats me, and asked her to meet me at a restaurant near her house. I was SO NERVOUS and upset that I was already crying before I got to the restaurant.

I explained that she really needs to keep her opinions to herself, be more subtle with her comments (offer to pay for pedicures for both of us), or ask if she could give me advice on something, anything was better than what she had been doing.

We left the restaurant after she apologized, gave me a hug, and we went put separate ways. She called me a couple days later and said I was "too negative", never heard from her again.

Chardonnay7791 Report

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12points

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#59

My best friend was cheating on her boyfriend (who was also my friend). I told her she had to stop, tell him, or break up with him. She continued to cheat. One day he asked me if she was seeing someone else, and I couldn’t lie. Years after that we hung out a few times, but obviously it was never the same. Don’t remember that last time we spoke now.

Prudent_Substance638 Report

Final score:

12points

#60

My "best friend" asked me to be her maid of honour. I was planning her wedding, speaking to vendors and etc. On the day of her wedding, she never spoke to me at all or acknowledged my efforts even though I was fixing her makeup and coordinating with her vendors and organising things like bring her family/friends to the right seats etc. I could see from the corner of my eye that she was having fun with her other bridesmaids. I was ok with it and was actually happy that she was happy and I had a part to play in that. Towards the end of the wedding night, she did not thank me for the day and actually told me that I could have done better with the music and other stuff. I was so tired and just left after everything was settled. Then I realised this was how it was through our years as "best friends", that I was always there but she was always too busy for me. She tried to reach out a few times after the wedding by saying she was sorry about what she said and she was truly appreciative. I never replied.

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12points

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#61

After high school ended, he became too busy. I invited him over every weekend, each time he said that he come, but didn't show up. After a year of him not coming, I stopped inviting him.

RedVegeta20 Report

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11points

#62

She was mad at me for something then proceeded to ask her Twitter followers to stalk, harass and send me death threats. Then got mad when I told her she’s a horrible person and didn’t know why I called her that.

hyrulian_princess Report

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11points

#63

Hey boyfriend sent me a d**k pic. She knows and is still with him.

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#64

I had a friend--Blindsey--and we played a lot of league of legends and other videogames with each other for a number of years and grown quite close after meeting on IMVU.

I got into a relationship and disappeared but we kept some talking going sometimes. She got married later which was wonderful, very nice guy.

Well one Thanksgiving I sent her a message saying, "Happy Thanksgiving, love you" and her husband saw this and threw a fit. They slept separately for a week and it ruined the thanksgiving that year. She blocked me everywhere but not before telling me what had happened and why she has to do this.

I understand but I'm hurt. There was never a romantic relationship between us and saying, "I love you" was kind of a normal platonic thing between us. Oh well. I appreciate the time we had before and I love those memories. I miss my friend but we've probably changed so much since that we couldn't be friends today. Miss you Blindsey, hope you're well.

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#65

This just happened to me this week. I realized she only wanted me around to have someone to complain to and go places with her because she hates being alone. We had been friends nearly 3 years but the friendship started to sour back in January when she got back with her alcoholic cheating husband. Slowly I started to realize she didn't care about my interests or how I was doing and that we only ever did things she wanted to do. In fact, a lot of things I like she said she didn't understand and they were dumb to her (fair enough I guess?). My last straw though was her telling me that being called dramatic is bad for her mental health. I called her dramatic because she was being dramatic over a lice situation at work (we work in healthcare, it's not uncommon to get an outbreak of lice every once in a while). Our boss told her if she was going to freak out every time she's definitely not in the right profession. She ended up quitting the very next morning through text.

Well, I had decided to quietly go no contact with her and removed her from all socials. Two days later she realizes this and starts spreading rumors to my coworkers that I was planning to quit with her and that I blocked her on everything. I'm just done with her. If she can talk sh*t behind my back that easily over me just not talking to her, what else has she said about me? That is not the kind of friendship I want.

Sorry for the long rant.

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10points

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#66

My friend let me know they had a major grudge about a small incident that occurred *years* earlier, which they never mentioned to me before.

Then they told me that they didn't like my partner, or the fact that they exist. It was worded very aggressively.

It was just bizarre. I told them I was sorry and that I didn't want to know them anymore.

BornFree2018 Report

Final score:

9points

#67

“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends She was living with our other mutual friend and that friend's long- term significant other (I'm talking like seven or eight years together). They were both unemployed and she would buy them food, weed and was taking care of all the household bills. Turns out they were sleeping together for at least year during this time. I just couldn't after that. There were things she'd done to me personally as well but this was my final straw.

Greenbean_dreams , cottonbro studio Report

Final score:

9points

#68

I had too many dives into depression and all that comes with them for my bff to handle any longer, and this was all before we hit 35. My life is awesome now: great career, good relationships, contentment. But I sure wish he was still here to share it all with him. Our mutual friends never seem to know where he is or how he is doing, and I don't know if that is manufactured or authentic. I sure hope wherever he is that he is living it up because he was a once in a lifetime dude.

Jamaicab Report

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8points

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#69

Him saying "what have you done for me?" in an unprompted call-out. He was holding food I bought him, with a bag with drawings i made for him. The friendship was completely one sided.

Watch out for all-take-no-give people, guys.

Fake-And-Gay-Bot Report

Final score:

8points

#70

Seeing my old friend group constantly post photos to social media of them out doing things and having fun while I’m sitting at home

I brushed it off at first. But after I made it clear when I was off a few times and still got no invites I just stopped contacting them

Background_Income710 Report

Final score:

8points

#71

She gave me shit for wanting to go back to school to complete my degree. She was lonely and she wanted me to move to her small town and rent the other half of the duplex she and her husband owned.

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8points

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#72

We just grew apart. I think I reached out to her once to ask how she was doing and didn’t really get a response, so I just kind of decided that was that.

Final score:

7points

#73

The hardest part when a longtime friend stops talking to you entirely is when you don't know why.

You assume that it may be that a mutual friend said something about you that isn't true but you'll live the rest of your life not ever knowing why.

dasaigaijin Report

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7points

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#74

She was abusive, mean spirited, and just all around terrible to me. She turned our friend group against me and spread rumors about me. She would put me down in front of other people. She was jealous when I hung out with others. Etc etc. We lived together during my junior year of college. After I moved out we never spoke again.

ctrldwrdns Report

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7points

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#75

I was friends with this girl in college. One semester we, my friend group, decide to be in a group for a semester long assignment. There were multiple parts to the assignment, one was going on a class trip, each person taking a section of a paper, and then the last was a display of some sort.

On the day we were compiling the display for class, this girl says she had a doctors appointment but she would hurry back. That would be fine because everyone didn't get out of classes to meet up until a certain time. She didn't show up because she went out on a date and then got her car washed. Which she posted on snapchat.

She showed up 20 minutes before the class started and our other friend who had been helping us, WHO DIDNT EVEN TAKE THE CLASS, had to give her the what-for because we were all so furious.

It was after that that I had looked back and realized it wasn't the first project she jeopardized, and she did some other shady shit like put another friend in a dangerous situation.

After that I cut her out of my life completely.

smith_716 Report

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7points

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#76

Had a friend who was a liar and wanted to be me. One day she even copied and pasted my face onto a pic of herself. Anytime I had something going on, she miraculously had the exact same thing going on as well.

IndependentSure7400 Report

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7points

#77

One of my friends from high school went full on "traditional Christian" as in thinking women should stay in their lane and let men run things. Started acting better than a number of us in our friend group, like he'd been enlightened after reading the Bible for a few weeks and discovering the truth, while trying to convert others into his new line of thinking.

I had grown up with a narcissistic super religious father and had already decided to cut ties with him, so I was fully aware of the type and where he'd be heading. Tried to reason with him about it but he got pulled in too hard and had to let him go.

Sliphatos Report

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7points

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#78

When they "Forgot" to meet up with you for the third time even though you planned those meet ups days in advance.

Careful-Coconut-1366 Report

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7points

#79

She just stopped talking to me in covid. I was in her wedding and we had been roommates. But then she told me weekends were for her husband, which actually meant weekends were only for other couples. A mutual friend got married and didn’t invite me to the wedding, and we never spoke again.

slambamthankyoumamn Report

Final score:

6points

#80

She started seeing my very recent ex while I was still very upset about the breakup, she lied to me about it (“we’re just friends”) and then refused to talk to me about it when they were clearly and openly not just friends. I spoke with him (the ex) about it and he apologized for the way things happened.
She didn’t and still hasn’t, years later. Good riddance.

picklesandmustard Report

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6points

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#81

He became a gaslighting narcissist who attempted to use me any way possible for his own personal gain on the pettiest levels imaginable. It reached a point I would instantly become in a bad mood when he came around, because I had to put my defenses up, or else he would walk all over me. Just to make himself feel superior, for whatever reason. He wasn’t always like that, but grew that way over time. He would even somehow find a way to make my friends, my joy, and my achievements, HIS. Like, it’s honestly amazing someone is capable of that level of manipulation, it’s actually impressive.

Snowfreak25 Report

Final score:

6points

#82

She ruined my 21 birthday, before that she would only come to me for advice or a shoulder to cry on but when i needed it she would redirect the conversation right back to herself and so much more that she would do but the last straw was my birthday.

I went all the way to her city bc she lives in the big city and we would celebrate my birthday. so i was gonna stay for two days, we were supposed to go to a restaurant but she had invited some of her own friends to join us. but we never went to a restaurant now did we? no ofc not. she took me to a fkn club. i don’t drink, i told her specifically that i didn’t wanna drink and when i realized it was a club i was so mad that i told her i didn’t want to be there and her other friends would jump in and make me uncomfortable to even have that conversation with her so i just shut up. the next day i told her that was fkdup and she apologized.

She did the same thing that night. i went to her apartment by myself and left her at the club. i am really uncomfortable at clubs i just don’t enjoy it. she knew that. but did this anyway.

It was long overdue to end the friendship, she had been such a negative and toxic impact on my life anyway for years. we haven’t been friends for a year and it only took me a week to feel such a relief and the weights on my shoulders just went away. i didn’t realize how badly she was affecting my own mental health that it felt like paradise only a week after.

foxkillz Report

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6points

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#83

I took my computer out of storage and needed to access some files on it. Took it to my "friend's" flat in London. I couldn't move it right away so he said I could leave it there for one week. Couldn't get back to London in time so he put it out on the street out of spite. Best mate for 30 years until last year. Why would anyone do something like that you might wonder? He told me that would happen if I didn't pick it up. So it was "my choice". Full on high spec machine put out for trash.

jimmykicking Report

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#84

Best I can figure, she got divorced, I didn't. She got new bf, and that was the end of it. Last time I saw her, we ran into each other 7 years ago. We both cried. She said it was all her, she's sorry. I said lets get together for coffee or lunch. She said text me. I did. She wrote back let me check my schedule. That was the last I heard from her.

ImmaCrafty Report

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5points

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#85

Best buddies with a guy. Had some of the best times of my life with him. Went to a party we met this chick they started dating. As soon as we moved from our apartment we never talked again.

They are married now

Use to really be pissed about this but it happens all the time. Sucks cause we were so tight

Ordinary_Distance_57 Report

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#86

Went through quite a bit together but I started to realize it was rather one-sided on multiple levels for a long while, and then I would only hear from them when they needed something. I just faded on it.

MisterPipes Report

Final score:

5points

#87

My friend in high school was kinda creepy and had a face to match. (Poor guy) He was very immature and did a lot of childish things and barely passed classes. I don’t think he has any mental illness but I don’t know for certain. He was a constant distraction in classes.

But what was actually concerning was the fact he constantly made school shooting jokes and even bragged about his family owning an AR-15. He showed pictures of it at school and when anyone would ignore his childlike behavior he would threaten to shoot up the school. To put it simply, I eventually stopped interacting with him much but kept a VERY close tabs on him. I’m glad those years are over.

The_annoying_wall Report

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5points

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#88

One of my old BFFs thought drinking and driving was a competition. No thanks.

BeardeddBombshell Report

Final score:

3points

Jonas Grinevičius

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

Justinas Keturka

I'm the Visual Editor at Bored Panda, responsible for ensuring that everything our audience sees is top-notch and well-researched. What I love most about my job? Discovering new things about the world and immersing myself in exceptional photography and art.

I'm the Visual Editor at Bored Panda, responsible for ensuring that everything our audience sees is top-notch and well-researched. What I love most about my job? Discovering new things about the world and immersing myself in exceptional photography and art.

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Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago

I have a lovely one! Had a friend that would never come to me, I always had to take a train to her or her brothers place. I decided to stop doing that and the friendship cooled off. After almost a year, out of the blue she contacted me. Said she was sorry and that it was all her fault. That we should meet up soon and she would come to me. Sure, sounds legit. Then, through f*****g Instagram of all options, she asked me if I wanted to be her surrogate mother since she wasnt able to get pregnant by herself, and I would be paid 1500 euro. Excuse me?!

20points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

I realized after therapy that my 2 best friends growing up were sexually assaulting me from a young age. I texted them both that we shouldn't be friends, blocked them on everything, and never looked back.

19points

Jennifer Smith 1 year ago

When I wanted to end it all I sent out a text to my friend group. Almost every one responded and helped me get through it but one ignored me. I was upset but thought there must be a reason why. She didn’t talk to me for two weeks. After two weeks she called and told me I only did it for attention so she didn’t give me any attention to teach me a lesson. I was so hurt by that. If it wasn’t for my friends who did respond I wouldn’t still be here.

15points

tee-lena 1 year ago

We worked together at an amusement park. I needed a place to crash and she gave it to me. I did everything for her as a thank you. Including paying rent. Fast forward and we had moved to a 3bedroom apartment yet I'm still in the living room. Paying a third of the rent even though she, her girlfriend and her two kids had two rooms and only paid a third and another roommate paid a third. We (I) set up a surprise birthday party with a nice futon, with bedding as a gift. Someone paid their share late after it was all paid for so I took her kids to get a present for her with the money. Like 10bucks. I got woke up out of a sound sleep after the party with her threatening to choke me to death. That fu*king ten dollars that her kids got to buy her a present. She threatened to kill me over 10bucks. I stopped doing things for her. Full stop. And she hated me for it. As soon as I could I moved out. Ended the "friendship" the day I moved. She's a freaken narcissist. Put me off friendships of any kind. I won't be used like that again. It's been like 15years? People aren't worth the hassle. I don't know what it is about me that I find trash people but I stopped trying and my life is a lot calmer. A whole lot better. She fell back into drugs I'm just glad I got out before that

3points

KrazyChiMama 1 year ago

I lost my two "besties" from school days because we all 3 got married but only they had children. Im unfortunately unable to carry to term and I guess my miscarriages were just too painful for them to remain my friends. I was there for one of them when they had a miscarriage when we were still teenagers. Even went with her to the hospital when she had her surgery for it (D&C)! I felt so alone with no girlfriends to talk to about things. My husband is more than supportive but it still stings when I let myself think about that time in my life. To this day I have no really close girlfriends. (Husband and I have a few couples we're somewhat friendly with) No one will ever hurt me like that again!

3points

Mike Crow 1 year ago

I have no friends other than old military buddies across the country and one from high school who lives very far away. Friendship is impossible now I guess but after reading this list maybe that’s ok.

3points

Diolla 1 year ago

Had a BFF in my early uni years. We did everything together. She got into an abusive relationship, guy beat her, but she beat him as well. They would break up and make up all the time. One night we met him in the street (at that moment they were not together) and she started to pick a fight with him. I tried to stop her doing that. For some reason the guy started to beat ME up. She just stood there. He stopped because a kind stranger intervened. I don't remember how I got home from there. The following days I did NOT hear from her at all. Mind you, we would spend all our days together. When I finally got hold of her (this was before mobile phones existed) she told me that him beating me up was sus and she thought he'd done it because I had secretly been seeing him behind her back. I mean WTF, I hated the guy because he hurt her and I had been through many situations with them (some of them violent) trying to protect HER. I ended the friendship right then and there.

2points

NutellaBananas 1 year ago

I had this really close friend and we were besties. We were super close and we used to share everything. Last years I missed a few weeks of school because I was sick. Then months after I got sick (I was fine after that btw), she randomly started ghosting me. Like 2 MONTHS LATER!! and later she apologized for it and I'm like "omg it's okk, don't worry, I still love u" and we made up. But now she's ghosting me again. Like WTFF. And a few days ago I told her I need to talk to her and she's like "text it" and im like no its a face to face convo. And now she won't text me back. I so wanna forget ab her but then I remember all the good memories and I just can't do it

2points

Magazine 1 year ago (edited)

She basically stole my sister's boyfriend and then blamed me for not being on her (the stealer) side.

2points

B-b-bird 1 year ago (edited)

We were good friends during college years. She flirted with my date, though she knew the situation, I forgave her. Strike one. Insulted me by saying she has time to meet only her "friends" but not me, when she got back to hometown (we had some minor disagreement). Strike two. Then we met on a plane completely by accident, just as she was coming back to hometown. She completely ignored me pretending she's asleep. And got off the plane from different door to avoid me. And we were not kids for that sort of behaviour! I mean kids even know better. It was strike three. Just though why I need to deal with it. Then after some time she tried reconnecting, several times, but I did not budge. Been 10 years, did not have such or even similar issues with other friends ever.

2points

Looks like an Angel 1 year ago (edited)

I had been friends with him for years and we made arrangements for him to pick me up from work one day, because I had to have some work done on my car. As we were driving down the highway, he kept going FASTER AND FASTER, until he was doing almost 130km/h (about 85 mph) and then started swerving back and forth in traffic. I asked him why he was driving like that and he admitted that he had been drinking for the last 4 hours. Then pulled a beer out from under his seat, opened it and started drinking it WHILE driving me home. I SCREAMED at him to pull over and let me out, but he wouldn't. Once he dropped me off at home, I text him and told him that I can't be friends with someone who doesn't see the error in what he was doing. Then blocked him everywhere he could possibly find me. I moved out of the city 4 months later and never saw him again.

1point

Leah Banks 1 year ago

I had a great friend group all through my teenage years. One of the girls and I had been BFFs since we were young. One was a boy that I crushed on the whole time. And the third was another girl who was my ride or die. The boy cut off contact with all of us as soon as he started university. It's been 15 years and I haven't seen or spoken to him since, despite trying. The ride or die girl turned out to be a toxic friend as we got older, I look back and realize it was basically an abusive relationship. The worst came was when my mom was dying when I was only 22, and she cut off all contact, blocked me, and when I finally just showed up at her door, she said my life was just too depressing for her and we couldn't be friends anymore. The oldest friend was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and then...nothing. We lived close, and we always made plans that she would cancel. One day I realized she deleted all our photos and blocked me on all social media. 25 years of friendship lost for nothing.

1point

siddik sid 1 year ago

I was friends with a guy for more than ten years .One day he asked me why I was hanging out with a lower caste dude straight infront of my other friend .Cut ties with him then and there .

1point

Maria B 1 year ago

My sister's friend moved to my town to go to college. I set her up with a rental - there was a major housing shortage so that by itself was a feat- and helped her get started. She lived two doors down from me. Then, in the middle of the night, the roommate of my then boyfriend showed up at my doorstep. This girl had decided she wanted to sleep with my BF, in HIS room, so they sent his roommate to spend the night at my house. What on EARTH makes you do such a thing? That was the end of that friendship and of course the BF.

1point

sherry powers 1 year ago

I'm autoimmune, I had a friend who worked in a hospital. My husband and I moved several hours away so me and her texted a few times during the pandemic but never talked about the virus. Then one day I asked her how things were going she said she was going to quit because they were mandating vaccines. It was bad enough that my own spouse wasn't taking it seriously when he has a wife who is autoimmune, but now my friend who works at a hospital who is around the vulnerable won't get vaccinated because it's not FDA approved! I went on off on her. I asked her what the treatment was for the virus, because there isn't one, she avoided the question. I told her I was done with all the maga bs, we never let politics and our beliefs get in the way of our friendship, but that was it. I almost wanted to leave my husband too, but I didn't, I still don't know why I didn't. Oh and I haven't spoken to her since 2020.

1point

Cyndielouwhoo 1 year ago

I had a friend who stopped being my friend because I was having fewer problems and side effects with a medication we both happened to be prescribed...she was mad at me, go figure!?

1point

kansasmagic 1 year ago

I think most people truly need real, deep friendships. That's why there are so many horror stories about "toxic friends" and the s**t people put up with. They put up with it because they need and want a friend, and perhaps believe that they have to take the bad with the good, or think it will be too hard to make new friends (and it might be, especially as we get older!) If we didn't have a need for friendships - if we could just cut anyone out of our life - these stories would lose their impact.

1point

Niki Hanley 1 year ago

My last story is the one that kills me the most. We met the first year in college. We were really close. If I could’ve afforded it, I would’ve moved in with her and her now husband when they needed a roommate. 8 years later I helped with her wedding. I wasn’t even a bridesmaid and disappointed since we were BFF’s and the other girls she barely hung out with. She got pregnant, I helped her prepare for the baby. I bought a lot of stuff because I wanted to. Suddenly she stops answering my calls and texts. I always offered to come to her due to her busy home life. I offered babysitting or just stay at her house to hang out. Never would answer and just dropped me completely. She only wanted to hang out with other moms. All these photos on FB going places and hanging out with new ppl. 2 years later she gets free tickets to a show. Her mom friends can’t go. Now suddenly we’re bffs. I went but shouldn’t have. Radio silence for 7 years now.

1point

Niki Hanley 1 year ago

Another great friend choice I made was we worked together and worked great together. We both had very similar backgrounds growing up. We really connected on that. Not many people understood what we went through as kids. We even were dating best friends and we were best friends. I was always there for her when she was struggling with current family issues, and when she broke up with her bf that she had been with for a very long time. I really didn’t have too much family drama going on until one day. I had been blamed by a family member for drama that happened when I was young. I was told it was my fault 100% and we wouldn’t have issues in our family if it wasn’t for me. Which was completely false I was bawling my eyes out. I come over to talk to her because I was so upset, she didn’t even look at me. read the paper and went. Oh that sucks. When she had family members say terrible things to her, I was there comforting her. Again my choices, my fault I own them.

1point

Niki Hanley 1 year ago

Another I had another close friend from high school in to college. We hung out a lot like I did with my other friend. We became closer when I stopped being friends with my jealous friend. We would hang out and she would want to hang out a lot even though I was dating someone and I always made the time for her. I would invite her places even with my current bf being there, so she was included. When she started dating someone then she would become unavailable. But the relationships didn’t last long so it wasn’t a long period. So I let it go the two times she had done it before. Then she became obsessed with the guy (they never dated he wasn’t into her). We had made plans for winter break, and she literally canceled them all last minute so she could try to get this guy to go out with her. She dropped me like it was no big deal and we could just be friends when she’s ready. I had told people that I couldn’t hang out with them because I had plans with her.

1point

Niki Hanley 1 year ago

I have so many stories, and it is my fault for choosing to be friends with these people. My first one is my high school friend that we had been close since sophomore year. Unbeknownst to me she was extremely jealous of all girls, especially me. She wanted all guys to find only her attractive. She would go into my phone back when we didn’t have passcodes. She found all the guys that I had numbers for, including my current BF. She went and reached out to all of them to hang out, claiming I was coming, and she was just helping me by calling. They would show up and let them know that I canceled last minute. I had no idea she was doing this. She started a relationship with my bf behind my back. I wasn’t happy with him and she knew it. When I would talk to her, she would defend him. She told him I was gonna break up with him so he could break up with me and tell everyone he broke it off with me. My friends told me what she was doing and I found out about the cheating.

1point

Yali-girl with weird name 1 year ago

My friend of 3 years randomly starting ghosting me and not talking to me and being rude, when i asked her about it she said i became a rude biatch and a horrible person but I still don't know what i did wrong. I just wish she could tell me so i can fix it and we could be friends again.

1point

Red Reilly 1 year ago

I had a friend I thought was my best friend, almost brother. We had so much fun in our earlier 20's, I used to ignore a lot of his antics because he was younger then me. A few things started to click together and I was just growing up. If he got off with someone I would be supportive and say well done, never bothered me, the one time this really hot guy was interested in me he just started telling me that the guy, wasn't that hot and instead of acting how I did to him he was really bratty towards me. Also if he knew I liked a guy, he would sleep with them and then show off about it. Act really bratty but it was NEVER his fault. .....Why was I friends with this guy?

1point

ThisIsMe 1 year ago

Best friend and neighbor - we did everything together for years. Slowly started to dawn on me (as a people pleaser) that we really only did what SHE wanted to do. Got worse and worse, and then one new year's eve she cussed me in front of everyone for not taking photos at the party (I only knew a few of the people there) so she'd have pictures. Something clicked, and after that I was not available to her any more. She'd plan lunches during the week with our mutual friends far from my office and that would easily take over an hour - I declined every invite like that until she stopped inviting. She's since moved away, and I can honestly say I haven't missed her one bit.

1point

Trish Greene 1 year ago

My ex-husband convince my grand-daughter not to invite me to her wedding because a reunion between he and I would have been awkward. Last time I talked to that SOB.

0points

something to ponder 1 year ago

Had a friend in college who came from a well off family. When we would hang out (ex. Shopping, going to a restaurant ect.) She would make fun of me for getting the cheapest thing on the menu or looking at the clearance wrack. I put myself through college and worked. She would constantly flaunt how her parents paid for everything. I confronted her one day about how I felt she just kept me around so she could feel better about herself. She got defensive and manipulated the situation to seem as if I was accusing her of something horrendous and made herself the victim. She spread rumors about me and my boyfriend (now husband) amongst our friends, tried splitting us up, and tried to set me up with another guy in our friends group. When confronted by everyone she claimed it was a joke and misunderstood. The friendship ended badly after I couldn't take her sick jokes, manipulative friendship, broken trust, and the friends group stopped talking to her. It still hurts.

0points

Dawnieangel76 1 year ago

My childhood best friend went to college, forgot how to use a phone or write letters. Teenage/early 20's best friend got married, moved away, and forgot how to call, write, text or email. 20's to early 30's best friend decided she "no longer care to stay friends" and that was it. I don't make friends anymore.

0points

Darth Kittius 1 year ago

I was in a drama club in high school, and I naively thought that everyone in the club (about 26 of us) was my friend. I went through a lot of hell that year because I'm horrible at setting boundaries with people. This year i returned to see one of their shows, and I decided to only spend my energy on people that wanted to see me. I was much happier this time than I'd ever been before

0points

naksaystheduck 1 year ago

6 years ago, we met at a boring office job and became really close friends even though we are quite different on first sight, but we share many interests, the same kind of dark humour and sadly, some toxic behaviours, too (making bad relationship choices, trying to distract ourselves from our problems by getting wasted together, stuff like that). When I ended up living on the street a few months ago, she always offered to help me out with taking care of my dog in between or letting me crash on her sofa... Never happened. The cherry on the cake was when she told me that I am a piece of s**t and should ask myself why I ended up alone. Then she blocked me on all channels. I still have no idea why she said/did that - I never did anything bad to her, I was always there for her, no matter what. This really hurt me a lot and destroyed my trust in people even more.

0points

JessRS 1 year ago

I had a friend in uni who got in an abusive relationship. When I pointed it out she accused me of being jealous of her and yelled at me in front of everyone in our Cost Analysis classroom. I told her if she wanted to behave like a fishwife and be beaten down like a punching bag it was her prerogative and I wouldn't interfere and I was removing myself from that situation forever. A few months passed and she tried approaching me when she broke up with her boyfriend but I have her the cut direct. She later went back to him, last I knew she had married and divorced him and tried to friend me on Facebook but I rejected the attempt. As Mr Darcy said, "I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself...My good opinion once lost is lost forever."

0points

Lea S. 1 year ago

She called a group of my friends 'prarie ni**ers.' She also did this in front of another good friend of mine, an African-American.

0points

Soapy Von Soaps 1 year ago

Look BP, if you're going to rip posts from Reddit, can you at least fix the formatting so there aren't massive gaps between the paragraphs please?

0points

Enlee Jones 1 year ago

When I called her out for posting some bullsh*t fake article about how transgender people are going to murder your child in the Target bathrooms. She told me I was the most miserable b*tch she had ever met in her life and blocked me. That was about seven years ago. Good riddance to bad trash.

0points

sturmwesen 1 year ago

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0points

Super Beast 1 year ago

got in a fight, loved the adrenaline. picked a fight with me for the adrenaline. i overwhelmed him into giving up, told him to f*ck off, never looked back.

0points

Nicky Vermeulen 1 year ago

Was friends with a gay guy for most of my life. We were very close and would talk and play video games for hours. I never had a boyfriend before. when I finally got a boyfriend, My friend wanted to hold his hand and touch his butt. He also got mad that I wasnt spending time with him because I had a boyfriend

0points

Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago

I have a lovely one! Had a friend that would never come to me, I always had to take a train to her or her brothers place. I decided to stop doing that and the friendship cooled off. After almost a year, out of the blue she contacted me. Said she was sorry and that it was all her fault. That we should meet up soon and she would come to me. Sure, sounds legit. Then, through f*****g Instagram of all options, she asked me if I wanted to be her surrogate mother since she wasnt able to get pregnant by herself, and I would be paid 1500 euro. Excuse me?!

20points

ConstantlyJon 1 year ago

I realized after therapy that my 2 best friends growing up were sexually assaulting me from a young age. I texted them both that we shouldn't be friends, blocked them on everything, and never looked back.

19points

Jennifer Smith 1 year ago

When I wanted to end it all I sent out a text to my friend group. Almost every one responded and helped me get through it but one ignored me. I was upset but thought there must be a reason why. She didn’t talk to me for two weeks. After two weeks she called and told me I only did it for attention so she didn’t give me any attention to teach me a lesson. I was so hurt by that. If it wasn’t for my friends who did respond I wouldn’t still be here.

15points

tee-lena 1 year ago

We worked together at an amusement park. I needed a place to crash and she gave it to me. I did everything for her as a thank you. Including paying rent. Fast forward and we had moved to a 3bedroom apartment yet I'm still in the living room. Paying a third of the rent even though she, her girlfriend and her two kids had two rooms and only paid a third and another roommate paid a third. We (I) set up a surprise birthday party with a nice futon, with bedding as a gift. Someone paid their share late after it was all paid for so I took her kids to get a present for her with the money. Like 10bucks. I got woke up out of a sound sleep after the party with her threatening to choke me to death. That fu*king ten dollars that her kids got to buy her a present. She threatened to kill me over 10bucks. I stopped doing things for her. Full stop. And she hated me for it. As soon as I could I moved out. Ended the "friendship" the day I moved. She's a freaken narcissist. Put me off friendships of any kind. I won't be used like that again. It's been like 15years? People aren't worth the hassle. I don't know what it is about me that I find trash people but I stopped trying and my life is a lot calmer. A whole lot better. She fell back into drugs I'm just glad I got out before that

3points

KrazyChiMama 1 year ago

I lost my two "besties" from school days because we all 3 got married but only they had children. Im unfortunately unable to carry to term and I guess my miscarriages were just too painful for them to remain my friends. I was there for one of them when they had a miscarriage when we were still teenagers. Even went with her to the hospital when she had her surgery for it (D&C)! I felt so alone with no girlfriends to talk to about things. My husband is more than supportive but it still stings when I let myself think about that time in my life. To this day I have no really close girlfriends. (Husband and I have a few couples we're somewhat friendly with) No one will ever hurt me like that again!

3points

Mike Crow 1 year ago

I have no friends other than old military buddies across the country and one from high school who lives very far away. Friendship is impossible now I guess but after reading this list maybe that’s ok.

3points

Diolla 1 year ago

Had a BFF in my early uni years. We did everything together. She got into an abusive relationship, guy beat her, but she beat him as well. They would break up and make up all the time. One night we met him in the street (at that moment they were not together) and she started to pick a fight with him. I tried to stop her doing that. For some reason the guy started to beat ME up. She just stood there. He stopped because a kind stranger intervened. I don't remember how I got home from there. The following days I did NOT hear from her at all. Mind you, we would spend all our days together. When I finally got hold of her (this was before mobile phones existed) she told me that him beating me up was sus and she thought he'd done it because I had secretly been seeing him behind her back. I mean WTF, I hated the guy because he hurt her and I had been through many situations with them (some of them violent) trying to protect HER. I ended the friendship right then and there.

2points

NutellaBananas 1 year ago

I had this really close friend and we were besties. We were super close and we used to share everything. Last years I missed a few weeks of school because I was sick. Then months after I got sick (I was fine after that btw), she randomly started ghosting me. Like 2 MONTHS LATER!! and later she apologized for it and I'm like "omg it's okk, don't worry, I still love u" and we made up. But now she's ghosting me again. Like WTFF. And a few days ago I told her I need to talk to her and she's like "text it" and im like no its a face to face convo. And now she won't text me back. I so wanna forget ab her but then I remember all the good memories and I just can't do it

2points

Magazine 1 year ago (edited)

She basically stole my sister's boyfriend and then blamed me for not being on her (the stealer) side.

2points

B-b-bird 1 year ago (edited)

We were good friends during college years. She flirted with my date, though she knew the situation, I forgave her. Strike one. Insulted me by saying she has time to meet only her "friends" but not me, when she got back to hometown (we had some minor disagreement). Strike two. Then we met on a plane completely by accident, just as she was coming back to hometown. She completely ignored me pretending she's asleep. And got off the plane from different door to avoid me. And we were not kids for that sort of behaviour! I mean kids even know better. It was strike three. Just though why I need to deal with it. Then after some time she tried reconnecting, several times, but I did not budge. Been 10 years, did not have such or even similar issues with other friends ever.

2points

Looks like an Angel 1 year ago (edited)

I had been friends with him for years and we made arrangements for him to pick me up from work one day, because I had to have some work done on my car. As we were driving down the highway, he kept going FASTER AND FASTER, until he was doing almost 130km/h (about 85 mph) and then started swerving back and forth in traffic. I asked him why he was driving like that and he admitted that he had been drinking for the last 4 hours. Then pulled a beer out from under his seat, opened it and started drinking it WHILE driving me home. I SCREAMED at him to pull over and let me out, but he wouldn't. Once he dropped me off at home, I text him and told him that I can't be friends with someone who doesn't see the error in what he was doing. Then blocked him everywhere he could possibly find me. I moved out of the city 4 months later and never saw him again.

1point

Leah Banks 1 year ago

I had a great friend group all through my teenage years. One of the girls and I had been BFFs since we were young. One was a boy that I crushed on the whole time. And the third was another girl who was my ride or die. The boy cut off contact with all of us as soon as he started university. It's been 15 years and I haven't seen or spoken to him since, despite trying. The ride or die girl turned out to be a toxic friend as we got older, I look back and realize it was basically an abusive relationship. The worst came was when my mom was dying when I was only 22, and she cut off all contact, blocked me, and when I finally just showed up at her door, she said my life was just too depressing for her and we couldn't be friends anymore. The oldest friend was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and then...nothing. We lived close, and we always made plans that she would cancel. One day I realized she deleted all our photos and blocked me on all social media. 25 years of friendship lost for nothing.

1point

siddik sid 1 year ago

I was friends with a guy for more than ten years .One day he asked me why I was hanging out with a lower caste dude straight infront of my other friend .Cut ties with him then and there .

1point

Maria B 1 year ago

My sister's friend moved to my town to go to college. I set her up with a rental - there was a major housing shortage so that by itself was a feat- and helped her get started. She lived two doors down from me. Then, in the middle of the night, the roommate of my then boyfriend showed up at my doorstep. This girl had decided she wanted to sleep with my BF, in HIS room, so they sent his roommate to spend the night at my house. What on EARTH makes you do such a thing? That was the end of that friendship and of course the BF.

1point

sherry powers 1 year ago

I'm autoimmune, I had a friend who worked in a hospital. My husband and I moved several hours away so me and her texted a few times during the pandemic but never talked about the virus. Then one day I asked her how things were going she said she was going to quit because they were mandating vaccines. It was bad enough that my own spouse wasn't taking it seriously when he has a wife who is autoimmune, but now my friend who works at a hospital who is around the vulnerable won't get vaccinated because it's not FDA approved! I went on off on her. I asked her what the treatment was for the virus, because there isn't one, she avoided the question. I told her I was done with all the maga bs, we never let politics and our beliefs get in the way of our friendship, but that was it. I almost wanted to leave my husband too, but I didn't, I still don't know why I didn't. Oh and I haven't spoken to her since 2020.

1point

Cyndielouwhoo 1 year ago

I had a friend who stopped being my friend because I was having fewer problems and side effects with a medication we both happened to be prescribed...she was mad at me, go figure!?

1point

kansasmagic 1 year ago

I think most people truly need real, deep friendships. That's why there are so many horror stories about "toxic friends" and the s**t people put up with. They put up with it because they need and want a friend, and perhaps believe that they have to take the bad with the good, or think it will be too hard to make new friends (and it might be, especially as we get older!) If we didn't have a need for friendships - if we could just cut anyone out of our life - these stories would lose their impact.

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Niki Hanley 1 year ago

My last story is the one that kills me the most. We met the first year in college. We were really close. If I could’ve afforded it, I would’ve moved in with her and her now husband when they needed a roommate. 8 years later I helped with her wedding. I wasn’t even a bridesmaid and disappointed since we were BFF’s and the other girls she barely hung out with. She got pregnant, I helped her prepare for the baby. I bought a lot of stuff because I wanted to. Suddenly she stops answering my calls and texts. I always offered to come to her due to her busy home life. I offered babysitting or just stay at her house to hang out. Never would answer and just dropped me completely. She only wanted to hang out with other moms. All these photos on FB going places and hanging out with new ppl. 2 years later she gets free tickets to a show. Her mom friends can’t go. Now suddenly we’re bffs. I went but shouldn’t have. Radio silence for 7 years now.

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Niki Hanley 1 year ago

Another great friend choice I made was we worked together and worked great together. We both had very similar backgrounds growing up. We really connected on that. Not many people understood what we went through as kids. We even were dating best friends and we were best friends. I was always there for her when she was struggling with current family issues, and when she broke up with her bf that she had been with for a very long time. I really didn’t have too much family drama going on until one day. I had been blamed by a family member for drama that happened when I was young. I was told it was my fault 100% and we wouldn’t have issues in our family if it wasn’t for me. Which was completely false I was bawling my eyes out. I come over to talk to her because I was so upset, she didn’t even look at me. read the paper and went. Oh that sucks. When she had family members say terrible things to her, I was there comforting her. Again my choices, my fault I own them.

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Niki Hanley 1 year ago

Another I had another close friend from high school in to college. We hung out a lot like I did with my other friend. We became closer when I stopped being friends with my jealous friend. We would hang out and she would want to hang out a lot even though I was dating someone and I always made the time for her. I would invite her places even with my current bf being there, so she was included. When she started dating someone then she would become unavailable. But the relationships didn’t last long so it wasn’t a long period. So I let it go the two times she had done it before. Then she became obsessed with the guy (they never dated he wasn’t into her). We had made plans for winter break, and she literally canceled them all last minute so she could try to get this guy to go out with her. She dropped me like it was no big deal and we could just be friends when she’s ready. I had told people that I couldn’t hang out with them because I had plans with her.

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Niki Hanley 1 year ago

I have so many stories, and it is my fault for choosing to be friends with these people. My first one is my high school friend that we had been close since sophomore year. Unbeknownst to me she was extremely jealous of all girls, especially me. She wanted all guys to find only her attractive. She would go into my phone back when we didn’t have passcodes. She found all the guys that I had numbers for, including my current BF. She went and reached out to all of them to hang out, claiming I was coming, and she was just helping me by calling. They would show up and let them know that I canceled last minute. I had no idea she was doing this. She started a relationship with my bf behind my back. I wasn’t happy with him and she knew it. When I would talk to her, she would defend him. She told him I was gonna break up with him so he could break up with me and tell everyone he broke it off with me. My friends told me what she was doing and I found out about the cheating.

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Yali-girl with weird name 1 year ago

My friend of 3 years randomly starting ghosting me and not talking to me and being rude, when i asked her about it she said i became a rude biatch and a horrible person but I still don't know what i did wrong. I just wish she could tell me so i can fix it and we could be friends again.

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Red Reilly 1 year ago

I had a friend I thought was my best friend, almost brother. We had so much fun in our earlier 20's, I used to ignore a lot of his antics because he was younger then me. A few things started to click together and I was just growing up. If he got off with someone I would be supportive and say well done, never bothered me, the one time this really hot guy was interested in me he just started telling me that the guy, wasn't that hot and instead of acting how I did to him he was really bratty towards me. Also if he knew I liked a guy, he would sleep with them and then show off about it. Act really bratty but it was NEVER his fault. .....Why was I friends with this guy?

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ThisIsMe 1 year ago

Best friend and neighbor - we did everything together for years. Slowly started to dawn on me (as a people pleaser) that we really only did what SHE wanted to do. Got worse and worse, and then one new year's eve she cussed me in front of everyone for not taking photos at the party (I only knew a few of the people there) so she'd have pictures. Something clicked, and after that I was not available to her any more. She'd plan lunches during the week with our mutual friends far from my office and that would easily take over an hour - I declined every invite like that until she stopped inviting. She's since moved away, and I can honestly say I haven't missed her one bit.

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Trish Greene 1 year ago

My ex-husband convince my grand-daughter not to invite me to her wedding because a reunion between he and I would have been awkward. Last time I talked to that SOB.

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something to ponder 1 year ago

Had a friend in college who came from a well off family. When we would hang out (ex. Shopping, going to a restaurant ect.) She would make fun of me for getting the cheapest thing on the menu or looking at the clearance wrack. I put myself through college and worked. She would constantly flaunt how her parents paid for everything. I confronted her one day about how I felt she just kept me around so she could feel better about herself. She got defensive and manipulated the situation to seem as if I was accusing her of something horrendous and made herself the victim. She spread rumors about me and my boyfriend (now husband) amongst our friends, tried splitting us up, and tried to set me up with another guy in our friends group. When confronted by everyone she claimed it was a joke and misunderstood. The friendship ended badly after I couldn't take her sick jokes, manipulative friendship, broken trust, and the friends group stopped talking to her. It still hurts.

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Dawnieangel76 1 year ago

My childhood best friend went to college, forgot how to use a phone or write letters. Teenage/early 20's best friend got married, moved away, and forgot how to call, write, text or email. 20's to early 30's best friend decided she "no longer care to stay friends" and that was it. I don't make friends anymore.

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Darth Kittius 1 year ago

I was in a drama club in high school, and I naively thought that everyone in the club (about 26 of us) was my friend. I went through a lot of hell that year because I'm horrible at setting boundaries with people. This year i returned to see one of their shows, and I decided to only spend my energy on people that wanted to see me. I was much happier this time than I'd ever been before

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naksaystheduck 1 year ago

6 years ago, we met at a boring office job and became really close friends even though we are quite different on first sight, but we share many interests, the same kind of dark humour and sadly, some toxic behaviours, too (making bad relationship choices, trying to distract ourselves from our problems by getting wasted together, stuff like that). When I ended up living on the street a few months ago, she always offered to help me out with taking care of my dog in between or letting me crash on her sofa... Never happened. The cherry on the cake was when she told me that I am a piece of s**t and should ask myself why I ended up alone. Then she blocked me on all channels. I still have no idea why she said/did that - I never did anything bad to her, I was always there for her, no matter what. This really hurt me a lot and destroyed my trust in people even more.

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JessRS 1 year ago

I had a friend in uni who got in an abusive relationship. When I pointed it out she accused me of being jealous of her and yelled at me in front of everyone in our Cost Analysis classroom. I told her if she wanted to behave like a fishwife and be beaten down like a punching bag it was her prerogative and I wouldn't interfere and I was removing myself from that situation forever. A few months passed and she tried approaching me when she broke up with her boyfriend but I have her the cut direct. She later went back to him, last I knew she had married and divorced him and tried to friend me on Facebook but I rejected the attempt. As Mr Darcy said, "I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself...My good opinion once lost is lost forever."

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Lea S. 1 year ago

She called a group of my friends 'prarie ni**ers.' She also did this in front of another good friend of mine, an African-American.

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Soapy Von Soaps 1 year ago

Look BP, if you're going to rip posts from Reddit, can you at least fix the formatting so there aren't massive gaps between the paragraphs please?

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Enlee Jones 1 year ago

When I called her out for posting some bullsh*t fake article about how transgender people are going to murder your child in the Target bathrooms. She told me I was the most miserable b*tch she had ever met in her life and blocked me. That was about seven years ago. Good riddance to bad trash.

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sturmwesen 1 year ago

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Super Beast 1 year ago

got in a fight, loved the adrenaline. picked a fight with me for the adrenaline. i overwhelmed him into giving up, told him to f*ck off, never looked back.

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Nicky Vermeulen 1 year ago

Was friends with a gay guy for most of my life. We were very close and would talk and play video games for hours. I never had a boyfriend before. when I finally got a boyfriend, My friend wanted to hold his hand and touch his butt. He also got mad that I wasnt spending time with him because I had a boyfriend

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