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“Our Friendship Was Only Worth 25 Dollars”: 35 People Who Cut Ties With Their Friends
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Our friends have a far bigger impact on our lives than many might think. A massive 85-year Harvard study found that positive relationships keep people happier, healthier, and help them live longer. So there are very practical benefits to maintaining deep, strong bonds with an active social circle. However, real friends are quite rare. And in some cases, it can be quite hard to determine who’s only pretending to be your BFF.
We’ve collected some of the most dramatic stories from these two r/AskReddit threads here and here showcasing what finally made people’s friendships fall apart. Scroll down to read about some of the signs of fake pals, and it might help you evaluate your own relationships.
One of the authors of the captivating discussions, redditor u/fusillihair, was kind enough to answer our questions. Check out Bored Panda's interview with them about the most important qualities for a friend to have, as well as what to avoid, below!
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#1
I was in a group of friends who started bullying a person I knew out of nowhere. I told them I was not okay with that. They soon started hanging out without inviting me. I am still very glad I did what I did.
#2
I was living with my best friend. Her boyfriend told me he wanted to show me what he bought her for Christmas and that he wanted my opinion. So he trapped me in the bathroom then attempted to shove his tongue down my throat.
I knee'd him in the balls. Told him I was going to tell her. Then I left to go see my boyfriend. I told my best friend later that night what happened. She believed her boyfriend over me.
End of friendship. Many years later, she tries to friend me on Facebook. Are you f*****g kidding me?! Get bent b***h!
Sapna Sarfare 1 year ago
If you don't believe a good friend, then you do not deserve them at any point of later... i dont understand why they think things would be okay after realisation
According to Reddit user u/fusillihair, what made them create their discussion about friendships going awry on the r/AskReddit online community were real-life examples.
"I was inspired to ask the question after seeing a relative's long-term 'friendship' break down. It made me curious about other people's experiences," the OP shared with us that they sought common ground with others, online.
What someone looks for in a great friend can vary a bit from person to person. We were curious what redditor u/fusillihair prioritizes in their own friendships.
"The things I value the most in a friendship is honesty," they highlighted the importance of openness and transparency.
#4
I lost 100 pounds. She didn't, and "accused" me of deliberately changing. Well, yeah...
#5
After trying for a child for years and years I got pregnant with twins, one of them was in my right fallopian tube and I had to have an abortion to save my life.
Called her to tell her what happened and she informed me that she regretted supporting me through infertility if I was just going to kill the first baby I got pregnant with and that getting the abortion proved to her I never really wanted kids and she couldn't be friends with someone who would kill their child without any questions asked.
I hung up and we haven't spoken for 12 years. I missed her for the first year but not anymore, I just feel bad for her daughters knowing she will do the same thing to them if they are ever faced with that choice, I have heard from mutuals she bad talks me every chance she can and says it was my choice to throw away our friendship over my pregnancy knowing her views on abortion.
Irina Khruleva 1 year ago
This woman is s**t crazy and also stupid who doesn't know basic anatomy. Good riddance.
#6
She let her bf sexually assault me while I was heavily intoxicated, while she pretended to be asleep. She 'wanted to see what he would do', I was basically bait.
"Friends should be able to trust what their friends are saying—without trust, there can be no friendship," the redditor explained just how fundamentally essential trust is between real friends.
"Friends being honest shows they value their relationship with you," they pointed out that this sort of mutual respect shows a proper investment in the relationship.
Meanwhile, Bored Panda wanted to get redditor u/fusillihair's take on some of the signs that someone may not have one's best interests at heart and that it might be time to rethink the 'friendship.'
"The biggest red flag I’ve noticed in friendships is when someone constantly takes advantage of you," the OP shared with us.
"It’s because they’re not scared of losing you and you become a means to an end."
#8
I came out as bisexual and she accused me of having a crush on her (i didn’t) but she said i made her feel uncomfortable.
SuperChicken 1 year ago
Wow, narcissistic and homophobic. Good riddance to your former friend.
#9
He tried to sleep with my wife. Knew him for 30+ yrs when he tried to sleep with my wife.
Steph 1 year ago
That’s the worse you can do to a friend! Even if you knew each other for „just“ one year. It’s the absolute NO-Go to make advances to a friend‘s significant other. I‘ve stopped trusting friends just knowing they would do their moves one Someone I had a crush on. And I find it doesn’t even matter if you are a teenager. NO !
Real friendships, at their very core, are about mutual respect, trust, and empathy. One-sided relationships based on exploitation and manipulation won’t last and can’t really be considered ‘friendships’ in the first place. But the reality is that sometimes folks simply can’t tell whether what they’ve got is the real deal or just a facade until it’s too late.
Fake friends who are in the relationship purely for their benefit will always take more than they give and won’t give a damn about your boundaries. They don’t understand the importance of reciprocity and will milk you for favors and money and emotional support. But when you ask them for the same things, they’ll always find a convenient excuse about how they’re incredibly sorry but they simply can’t help you. And how they’ll totally make it up to you next time… only to come up with another excuse then.
#10
She found Jesus, then lost her mind. In that order.
Mycroft1967 1 year ago
Wife's ex found Jesus, lost all his reason, sent preachers all their money, then remarried a crazy woman. In that order.
Rostit . 1 year ago
I wonder what percentage of those types of people end up having some sort of brain tumor?
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deanna woods 1 year ago
If finding religion makes you go crazy, then you are finding religion for the wrong reasons. Knowing Jesus shouldn't turn you into a douchebag.
A Happy Doggo 1 year ago
Don't know why you were downvoted. Everyone has their own beliefs and religion is not a bad thing
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CHRIS DOMRES 1 year ago
I think everyone has a story to tell about someone who gets into religion, becomes a fanatic, and from that point on the only people those fanatics associate with are other cult members. One that I knew went from being a major jerk on the sinning side to being a major jerk on the righteous side. I guess a jerk is a jerk no matter what their beliefs are.
Steph 1 year ago
Uh, that happens a lot, it seems! And it doesn’t matter what church…. it‘s just radical fanatism! Seems these people were not sane before finding faith, either!
Weasel Wise 1 year ago (edited)
Read Dr. Dean Hammers's book 'The God Gene'. It's really dry and you'll get flashbacks to grade school biology class but it's very informative and explains why and how "faith" happens to some and not to others.
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I had a friend that we'd grown up together. When we became adults, I told him I was atheist when he asked me why I haven't been going to church. He hasn't spoken to me since. Very Christ-like behavior! 👍🏾
Weasel Wise 1 year ago
Read Dr. Dean Hammers's book 'The God Gene'. It's really dry and you'll get flashbacks to grade school biology class but it's very informative and explains why and how "faith" happens to some and not to others.
- 1 year ago (edited)
Possibly. Some people find comfort in religion and support from a congregation, some just become a$$holes. Years back, I watched a documentary about American preachers in Russia (communism had just fallen, they wouldn't be allowed now). One seemed pretty decent and low-key, another a bit dogmatic but at least offered free dental work. The third was a former addict who got high on religion. He basically swapped one addiction for another.
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Eydie Sanders 1 year ago
Same thing happened to me with my best friend. She turned into a right wing crazy "Christian" and is completely brainwashed.
Anne Roberts 1 year ago
My ex did that. Became so very righteous and holier than thou. Oddly enough y, so did the woman he'd been having an affair with.
GuyYouMetOnline 1 year ago
Then she didn't truly find Jesus. Because Jesus wouldn't approve of the things a sentence like that usually indicates.
Channo Sagara 1 year ago (edited)
To be fair, religion should never do that. But yeah a lot of people misunderstood religion as some kind of crazy people cult and become crazy. Real religion guide people to become a better social creatures, to interact better with their Maker's other subjects, not worse.
Dre Mosley 1 year ago
Happened to me. She became a "born again" Christian out of the blue and suddenly God was all she wanted to talk about. Pretty much everyone in our circle quietly stopped dealing with her. She has her church buddies now, last I heard.
Cyndielouwhoo 1 year ago
I had a close friend do the same thing. She even started playing religious programs loudly in her car when she went anywhere with anyone ...was kinda weird. Someone broke in her car and stole her radio, I kinda thought that might've been a sign to her...no such luck :/
Raelene Christie 1 year ago
I've been there and my daughter recently experienced it too, so much so that her best friend of 17years told her she could see a demon in her when she requested this person she didn't want her to keep trying to force her beliefs in her. My daughter was there for this person, through social services removing said friends children from her, and an abusive relationship and the thanks she got was being told she had a demon !
Elvira 1 year ago
So she was mentallly ill and you walked out? Hyper-religiosity followed by psychosis is called mania, people can’t control it without help.
A Happy Doggo 1 year ago
Okay? Not up to OP to help her. If people are toxic/abusive/bad people, you are allowed to leave them, mental illness or not.
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I had 3 friends from high school, met up with them again in our late 20s. One was doing well financially, married a well off dude and had 3 kids. She looked down her nose at the rest of us, would insult us, constantly talk about how much money she had and would start arguments in the group chat.
She even told me that the way I dress, I will never get a husband. When I started dating my now fiancé, he'd get sh*tty with me for continuing to talk to her because she'd make me cry. She told me that because I had no kids and wasn't married, I was immature. I tried to explain to her how her behaviour affected me/the group, but she never changed. I cut her off a few times, but the other girls would guilt me back in.
One day, I was just over it. I blocked all three of them and iced them out. They tried contacting my mother, my partner, calling me from different numbers but I blanked them. The main bitch even messaged me and said "You're dead to me!"
Guess what, c*nt, you were already dead to me.
#12
When I realized the friendship was toxic. Whenever I would hang out with her, I would feel drained. I became her therapist.
Not only that but fake friends are also often incorrigible gossips. A rule of thumb is that if someone’s spilling the tea about all of their social connections to you, they’re very likely to be blabbing all about you to their other buddies. Of course, gossip is a natural part of being a human being. But there are limits.
If someone asks you to keep a secret but you end up telling someone else, you’re effectively damaging your friendship. Everyone slips up from time to time, but it’s the bigger picture that matters here. Someone who isn’t able to keep private things private probably doesn’t deserve your trust in the future and likely doesn’t respect you enough. And you can’t have a genuine friendship without a firm foundation of trust and respect.
#13
Ah, it was very simple. He was a MAGA supporter and we often talked politics and such. But that wasn't the cause for ending our friendship. I'm quite tolerant and I know how to separate people from their political beliefs. But come the pandemic, he starts promoting anti-vaccine stuff in his facebook. I lost both my in-laws to COVID and he knew that. I tried to convince him to get vaccinated out of concern for him, appealing to reason and empathy. He called me a shill for the pharmaceutical companies, a murderer and a co-conspirator for genocide.
So, that was the tipping point. I blocked him from all my social networks without any explanation. He can go get lost for all that I care nowadays.
#14
She promised me that she would pay me back if I bought the tickets for a girls trip that she was desperate to go on. We had everything planned. I did all the work of looking and researching because that’s enjoyable to me and she hates it. She has 3 kids and they’re all smaller than mine - so I told her that I didn’t mind the planning as long as when it was done we would just go and enjoy ourselves since it had been 2 years since COVID.
I bought the tickets and wanted to use my new Amex plat for the hotel bonus points. Keep in mind she makes more money than me - 250K per year and her husband makes $150K. So money was not the issue. Multiple times we discussed the trip, her going on the trip, and that our husbands would hang out with the kids together while we were gone for 5 days over a long weekend + Monday & Tuesday.
When it was time to pay me back she went dark. Refused to answer my texts. Ghosted me for weeks. Mind you, I’ve known her for 4+ years and she was always kinda flakey when it came to texting. So her flakiness was not entirely new- but this is not the way you treat people period.
I finally sent a Venmo request for the portion of the trip that was hers along with the message “please pay me back for your portion of the trip since you will not respond to text messages or calls.”
She then proceeded to gaslight me and tried to tell me via text that she never agreed to go and that I was just misremembering (KIM, our husbands had a weekend planned out with the kids for when we were going to be away, so obviously, I wasn’t “making this up”.)
After that I sent her a farewell and f**k you message and didn’t look back.
I took my other best friend on the trip instead. She couldn’t pay me for half - but she paid for the meals and taxis instead. It was super nice and I’m glad this c**t is out of my life.
#15
Me: Rocker chick outcast with purple hair and chain jewelry.
Her: Popular, beautiful, perfect soccer star jock with a new Jeep Wrangler.
We sat next to each other in geometry in 10th grade.
We started with giggling together at a fellow classmate teasing our odd teacher.
I lived far from campus. So one day, I meekly asked her for a ride home in said Jeep in exchange for the day’s homework answers.
We are almost 40 now. She moved to a new city. We became—and stayed—best friends. Real Fox and the Hound situation. I visited her at least annually in her new city. She has a guest room she called “IAlreadyOrderedPizzas’s room.” We’d stay up all night laying in it and talking.
She got into a bad relationship. Not sure if it was that, or her untreated depression, or her slow descent into alcoholism, or a combination. But I quickly became her punching bag when she was having a bad day. Everything from “I was always better than you” to “Well at least I’m not stuck in our home city.”
I recently had to cut her off. It is still the hardest and most painful thing I have ever done.
Yesterday was her birthday.
Happy birthday. I miss you and I love you.
The same goes for promises. We all probably have at least one person somewhere in our social circle who constantly overpromises and underdelivers. Someone who’s constantly offering to help or to meet up, only to cancel the plans at the last possible minute, isn’t someone who can be trusted. Good friends offer us stability and stay true to their word. Poor friends only care about their own pleasure and don’t give a damn about others’ time and feelings.
Finally, an absolutely wonderful way to know for a fact whether someone values your friendship is to see how they behave when life serves a bunch of ups and downs to you at high speed. A great friend will weather any storm by your side, shoulder to shoulder, and will celebrate your successes.
#16
She was toxic and abusive to me for years but I made excuses every time. The last straw was when she was incredibly cruel to one of my other best friends who was actively dying of cancer and then painted herself as the injured party. I put up with being treated like s**t for 20 years, but to treat a dying woman like that? I was immediately done.
#17
She got married and cut all contact with me.
20 year friendship tossed aside like a used napkin.
#18
They became homophobic, started misgendering our trans friend on purpose, and was overall very hateful and homophobic for no reason.
So-called fair-weather friends, on the other hand, will only want to be a part of your life when everything’s sunshine and rainbows. The moment things get tough, they’ll be nowhere to be found… only to pop back up again when you sort your problems out yourself.
It’s also worth noting here that folks who are jealous of you and try to put you down when you achieve some sort of success may not be worth spending much time around. And if you feel utterly drained, irritated, and upset after meeting up with someone, it may be worthwhile focusing on some of your other—healthier—relationships.
#19
After more than 20 years of being besties, she just ghosted me. After a year of not hearing from her, despite reaching out, I asked her husband if she was okay. He was confused because she claimed to be talking to me all the time. Whatever. It hurt for a while, but she honestly brought very little to my life in hindsight.
#20
Pathological liar. Told me he was dying. I was so distraught. Complete utter wreck. Nope. Not dying. Healthy af. He's still alive now 20 years later. Must be the miracle medical intervention he didn't need and didn't get.
#21
My best friend for close to 15 years blocked me. When I got in touch with him I asked what was going on, and he said he was just purging his friends list. Said it was a mistake and unblocked me.
Well I happened to be dealing with the loss of my father (who basically adopted him) and was struggling with alcohol abuse. I reached out to him just seeking a friend cause I was in such a low spot, then he blocked me again.
I totally get cutting off friends who are alcoholics or toxic. But the only time I ever asked him for anything was "Hey man, not sure if you heard but my dad died. I've been drinking too much and could use a friend to talk to."
And he blocked me for that.
AnnaRachelle 1 year ago
No friend at all. I sincerely hope you are doing well. People can be so cold and cruel
#22
She was unvaccinated and refused to take a covid test before seeing me. My mother was terminally ill and severely immuno-compromised, so I was absolutely trying to minimise the risk of getting covid so I could still see my Mum.
She refused to take a test, twice, despite kind and calm requests and explanations, on the basis that she "didn't want to get a sinus infection." (This was in the time of nasal swabs, not mouth swabs, for covid tests. You know, those nasal swabs that are sterile and can't cause infection.)
I'm 100% sure that it wasn't about a sinus infection. It was about control. She had been annoyed because I hadn't validated her anti-vax stance in the past.
Similarly, I know she wanted more validation for her religious views, which she'd acquired in her 30s and which I didn't share. I'd told her that I was happy her faith made her happy, but I think she wanted me to truly share her beliefs. I'd also said that her sister's bisexuality was "fine with me" when she'd stated that a wedding of 2 women was "not what God wants."
I think all of those different views just threatened the way she saw the world, and how she saw herself.
Her last texts thanked me for "sharing my views" re covid and it's potential to kill my Mum, then became pseudo-concerned when I didn't reply. I read the whole situation as "I want to say whatever I want to you, but I want to still feel like a nice person, so please reply and give me that validation."
I didn't reply to her, but I still ask myself whether the mature thing to do would have been to clearly reply and state that I didn't want to stay in contact. It's taken me until now (over a year later) to see through the pain and formulate what I might have said.
We'd been friends since the first days of high school. 20+ years. In essence we just aquired very different views from each other as adults, but I can't pretend her attitude towards my Mum, and towards the horrible journey my family had to take, wasn't devastating.
Life is a bloody painful journey at times, that's for sure.
Steph 1 year ago
COVID cost me a lot of friendships, too. Two died, and a few got in such conspiracy-theories that I had to doubt their sanity. But worst: one was a political official, working in the law department. He and his family (anti-vaxxers) flew around the world with fake vaccination- certificates…. while sueing others for giving false or incomplete references of quotations on dissertation papers. I lost respect for him - such a hypocrite!
#23
She slept with my then boyfriend. The most boring tragedy of my life.
#24
Knew him since elementary school. Always abrasive but, that was just him. He went to Europe to go to college and met some really snooty Europeans and came back a horrible person. Like he used to talk nonstop about debt and how he wanted to start a business and only hire people with debt so that he could mistreat them and they couldn't afford to quit. Not joking.
So I tried my best to get him to come around, but he was so rude to grocery store clerks, etc. that it was almost a story that sounded made up for internet rage bait.
I was straight out of college at the time, and I accepted a night shift job. I compromised my sleep and I'll tell you, the job did not pay well. And he kept pressing me and pressing me to ask me how much I made. I finally gave in, and he lorded it over me.
So one night before I punched in for the night shift, we went for coffee and he casually said something like, "Yeah, anybody who gets out of bed for less than six figures is a sucker," knowing full well what I made.
After about 20 years of friendship, I said I have to go, said goodbye, walked to my car and got in. I turned the ignition and as the car was starting I said, this friendship is over. And I never, ever looked back.
And another friend guilt tripped me about it, said it was awkward that we're not all friends anymore. This bad "friend" walked into another friend's butcher shop, used his friendship with another buddy working there, to run up a tab of several thousand dollars and then never paid.
"Oh sorry that's business," was his reply.
I'll tell you, since cutting him out of my life I live much, much, much happier. Had I never stopped being friends with him, I would have never grown so much as a person.
#25
I was in a horrific auto accident, coma for a week, ICU for a month. The person who was my closest friend never came to see me, when I finally got home, wheelchair bound, when he came over his first question was what kind of drugs did they give me. It was supposed to be a joke but I told him that we’re done being friends and not to come back to my house ever again. That was 17 years ago.
It was very difficult for me to sit there and tell the person that I no longer wanted to be friends and to leave and never come back. I was lucky to have support of close family which help ease the pain of losing a friend. I had a bunch of acquaintances that disappeared after my accident and during my recovery so I took the position of good riddance.
#26
I had a mate that went through some tough times with his partner. I supported him with late-night chats, gave him a place to stay, and even kept my mouth shut when he cheated on her. Fast-forward a couple of years, I ended up going through some tough times myself and was on the verge of bankruptcy. He didn't give a s**t. Whenever we spoke, conversations always pivoted to how well he was doing and how much money he was making. I always got the impression that he was glad I was struggling.
Fast-forward another couple of years, and things have turned around for me. I'm doing well, have a new job, and was able to move to a great location outside of the UK. He came to visit once and spent the whole time slagging off where I lived, how s**t my job was compared to his, and even dropped a couple of hints that he didn't like my girlfriend (who's now my wife). He went back home, and I never contacted him again. Apparently, he posted something snarky on Facebook about not being invited to 'his best mate's wedding,' but I'm not on Facebook, so don't care.
#27
Over 10 years of friendship. We travelled together, worked together, he was the best man at my wedding. We were best friends, the kind of friend you could call any time of day or night and he’d be there to help. I was there for him through difficult times and vice versa. Then he met his now wife…
Suddenly any gatherings at my house they couldn’t attend because she was always sick from “something she ate”…
She was from a wealthy family, the kind that literally owns a small island, and lived in an affluent neighbourhood. It’s not like I was poor or lived in a bad neighbourhood but by comparison, I’m sure the very thought of her being in my part of town made her sick.
Anyway, I moved overseas, received a save the date for their wedding but the invitation never showed up. He reached out asking if I was coming and was shocked I hadn’t got the invitation as he wanted me there but it was too late to make arrangements and a long way to travel.
I received an email from him while he was on his honeymoon telling me how jealous he was of me and my career and new life overseas.
I travelled back to see family and friends a little while later and tried to make arrangements to see him but he was “too busy”… I was literally in the same building as him visiting old colleagues.
I’m convinced his wife is the reason my invitation got lost in the mail and that it all came out on the honeymoon and now he can’t look me in the face.
#28
We booked a group holiday before we all went to University. She picked the place, picked our rooms, who was sharing with who, she planned the whole itinerary, she *told* one of the other girls in the group she was driving the 3+ hours drive as well, didn't ask, just told her to do it.
She then ditched us every night to talk on the phone with her boyfriend for 2 hours, then go to sleep without telling anyone and was generally a controlling, moody b***h the entire trip.
But the reeeaaal stinker: 2nd to last day she suddenly says work has cancelled her next 2 days of holiday and she has to go in. We all knew she was lying. Next thing she says is she can no longer take any of us back home. The other friend who drove there wasn't going home when we were leaving, she was driving onwards to see family elsewhere. B***h friend said best she could do was drop rest of us at a train station. Reminder we were 3+ hours *drive* away from home, which translated to 6+ hour train journey with multiple changes.
Ends up with b***h friend leaving 6am the next morning, without a word, and my other friend had to reschedule her plans to drive the rest of us 2 hours in the wrong direction to meet my poor mum, who drove 2 hours to meet us halfway at a service station on a random motorway.
None of us have seen or spoken to her in over 10 years, since she left that morning.
#30
She snuck around for a whole summer keeping the secret that she was f*****g and had a relationship with my dying father. she was of age but he was in his last months of life, not in his right mind. hard to look past, she still reaches out every now in then trying to reconnect but it’s just too damn weird.
#31
I found out through one of their friends she thought wouldn't share. She had slept with my past 3 boyfriends and I was in the same house sleeping one of those times.
#32
One of my best friends in high school; he knew I had a massive crush on a girl. He was well aware that I was a bit awkward and not very confident, so he offered to help me out. He invited the young lady in question and me to hang out at his place, to get us in the same place and give me a shot.
Then he had sex with her while I was in the next room. I realized what was happening, and just sat there, unsure how to process what was going on. At some point I left. We never really discussed it.
The friendship puttered along for a short while longer, withering away after that. That event, along with a few other earlier experiences made it so I've never been quite able to trust other guys and form friendships with them as anything more than acquaintances.
To this day (I'm 38) I don't have a single close male friend. One of the few things I dislike about myself.
#33
I'm not completely sure. Our mothers have been besties since elementary school, and they had us a month apart; while we were night and day, personality-wise, and probably should have been the complete opposite, we were besties, too, closer than sisters, from birth until we were 25. She had gotten married a few years before, moved a couple hours away and had her first baby, so naturally, our dynamic had shifted some, but I was still under the impression that we were as close as ever the night she called and told me that her life had changed, she no longer had time or energy for a friendship like ours, and that she pretty much just didn't want me in her life, anymore. There was no falling out, we hadn't had a fight since we were teenagers, there was nothing that I could pinpoint (then or now) that led to her decision, but it broke my heart and I grieved the loss for years after.
Azure Adams 1 year ago
She's going to regret that in her 40s but her pride will get in the way and it will destroy her
#34
He became addicted to [drugs] after his father died. It warped his personality, and he was constantly angry and bitter. He was unpredictable, and genuinely scared me because it felt that it would be very easy for him to do something that would ruin his life in an instant. Also refused any help offered. The only thing I could do was move on.
#35
Not being invited to her wedding after being close friends for nearly four years. The other two people in our friend group were bridesmaids.
What do you think ?
Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago
I have a lovely one! Had a friend that would never come to me, I always had to take a train to her or her brothers place. I decided to stop doing that and the friendship cooled off. After almost a year, out of the blue she contacted me. Said she was sorry and that it was all her fault. That we should meet up soon and she would come to me. Sure, sounds legit. Then, through f*****g Instagram of all options, she asked me if I wanted to be her surrogate mother since she wasnt able to get pregnant by herself, and I would be paid 1500 euro. Excuse me?!
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
I realized after therapy that my 2 best friends growing up were sexually assaulting me from a young age. I texted them both that we shouldn't be friends, blocked them on everything, and never looked back.
AK to LV 1 year ago
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you're rid of them! I hope you're in a better place now.
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Jennifer Smith 1 year ago
When I wanted to end it all I sent out a text to my friend group. Almost every one responded and helped me get through it but one ignored me. I was upset but thought there must be a reason why. She didn’t talk to me for two weeks. After two weeks she called and told me I only did it for attention so she didn’t give me any attention to teach me a lesson. I was so hurt by that. If it wasn’t for my friends who did respond I wouldn’t still be here.
Vic 1 year ago
I'm glad you are still with us, and I hope you are doing better!! 🤗
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tee-lena 1 year ago
We worked together at an amusement park. I needed a place to crash and she gave it to me. I did everything for her as a thank you. Including paying rent. Fast forward and we had moved to a 3bedroom apartment yet I'm still in the living room. Paying a third of the rent even though she, her girlfriend and her two kids had two rooms and only paid a third and another roommate paid a third. We (I) set up a surprise birthday party with a nice futon, with bedding as a gift. Someone paid their share late after it was all paid for so I took her kids to get a present for her with the money. Like 10bucks. I got woke up out of a sound sleep after the party with her threatening to choke me to death. That fu*king ten dollars that her kids got to buy her a present. She threatened to kill me over 10bucks. I stopped doing things for her. Full stop. And she hated me for it. As soon as I could I moved out. Ended the "friendship" the day I moved. She's a freaken narcissist. Put me off friendships of any kind. I won't be used like that again. It's been like 15years? People aren't worth the hassle. I don't know what it is about me that I find trash people but I stopped trying and my life is a lot calmer. A whole lot better. She fell back into drugs I'm just glad I got out before that
KrazyChiMama 1 year ago
I lost my two "besties" from school days because we all 3 got married but only they had children. Im unfortunately unable to carry to term and I guess my miscarriages were just too painful for them to remain my friends. I was there for one of them when they had a miscarriage when we were still teenagers. Even went with her to the hospital when she had her surgery for it (D&C)! I felt so alone with no girlfriends to talk to about things. My husband is more than supportive but it still stings when I let myself think about that time in my life. To this day I have no really close girlfriends. (Husband and I have a few couples we're somewhat friendly with) No one will ever hurt me like that again!
Joann Hart 1 year ago
Wow, I am so sorry that happened to you. Sometimes we find out who our true friends are at the worst times. Nobody should feel cast off during such loss.
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Diolla 1 year ago
Had a BFF in my early uni years. We did everything together. She got into an abusive relationship, guy beat her, but she beat him as well. They would break up and make up all the time. One night we met him in the street (at that moment they were not together) and she started to pick a fight with him. I tried to stop her doing that. For some reason the guy started to beat ME up. She just stood there. He stopped because a kind stranger intervened. I don't remember how I got home from there. The following days I did NOT hear from her at all. Mind you, we would spend all our days together. When I finally got hold of her (this was before mobile phones existed) she told me that him beating me up was sus and she thought he'd done it because I had secretly been seeing him behind her back. I mean WTF, I hated the guy because he hurt her and I had been through many situations with them (some of them violent) trying to protect HER. I ended the friendship right then and there.
NutellaBananas 1 year ago
I had this really close friend and we were besties. We were super close and we used to share everything. Last years I missed a few weeks of school because I was sick. Then months after I got sick (I was fine after that btw), she randomly started ghosting me. Like 2 MONTHS LATER!! and later she apologized for it and I'm like "omg it's okk, don't worry, I still love u" and we made up. But now she's ghosting me again. Like WTFF. And a few days ago I told her I need to talk to her and she's like "text it" and im like no its a face to face convo. And now she won't text me back. I so wanna forget ab her but then I remember all the good memories and I just can't do it
B-b-bird 1 year ago (edited)
We were good friends during college years. She flirted with my date, though she knew the situation, I forgave her. Strike one. Insulted me by saying she has time to meet only her "friends" but not me, when she got back to hometown (we had some minor disagreement). Strike two. Then we met on a plane completely by accident, just as she was coming back to hometown. She completely ignored me pretending she's asleep. And got off the plane from different door to avoid me. And we were not kids for that sort of behaviour! I mean kids even know better. It was strike three. Just though why I need to deal with it. Then after some time she tried reconnecting, several times, but I did not budge. Been 10 years, did not have such or even similar issues with other friends ever.
Looks like an Angel 1 year ago (edited)
I had been friends with him for years and we made arrangements for him to pick me up from work one day, because I had to have some work done on my car. As we were driving down the highway, he kept going FASTER AND FASTER, until he was doing almost 130km/h (about 85 mph) and then started swerving back and forth in traffic. I asked him why he was driving like that and he admitted that he had been drinking for the last 4 hours. Then pulled a beer out from under his seat, opened it and started drinking it WHILE driving me home. I SCREAMED at him to pull over and let me out, but he wouldn't. Once he dropped me off at home, I text him and told him that I can't be friends with someone who doesn't see the error in what he was doing. Then blocked him everywhere he could possibly find me. I moved out of the city 4 months later and never saw him again.
Lene 1 year ago
Wow! Judt wow!!! Just reading this made me almost scream! 😳
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Leah Banks 1 year ago
I had a great friend group all through my teenage years. One of the girls and I had been BFFs since we were young. One was a boy that I crushed on the whole time. And the third was another girl who was my ride or die. The boy cut off contact with all of us as soon as he started university. It's been 15 years and I haven't seen or spoken to him since, despite trying. The ride or die girl turned out to be a toxic friend as we got older, I look back and realize it was basically an abusive relationship. The worst came was when my mom was dying when I was only 22, and she cut off all contact, blocked me, and when I finally just showed up at her door, she said my life was just too depressing for her and we couldn't be friends anymore. The oldest friend was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and then...nothing. We lived close, and we always made plans that she would cancel. One day I realized she deleted all our photos and blocked me on all social media. 25 years of friendship lost for nothing.
siddik sid 1 year ago
I was friends with a guy for more than ten years .One day he asked me why I was hanging out with a lower caste dude straight infront of my other friend .Cut ties with him then and there .
Maria B 1 year ago
My sister's friend moved to my town to go to college. I set her up with a rental - there was a major housing shortage so that by itself was a feat- and helped her get started. She lived two doors down from me. Then, in the middle of the night, the roommate of my then boyfriend showed up at my doorstep. This girl had decided she wanted to sleep with my BF, in HIS room, so they sent his roommate to spend the night at my house. What on EARTH makes you do such a thing? That was the end of that friendship and of course the BF.
sherry powers 1 year ago
I'm autoimmune, I had a friend who worked in a hospital. My husband and I moved several hours away so me and her texted a few times during the pandemic but never talked about the virus. Then one day I asked her how things were going she said she was going to quit because they were mandating vaccines. It was bad enough that my own spouse wasn't taking it seriously when he has a wife who is autoimmune, but now my friend who works at a hospital who is around the vulnerable won't get vaccinated because it's not FDA approved! I went on off on her. I asked her what the treatment was for the virus, because there isn't one, she avoided the question. I told her I was done with all the maga bs, we never let politics and our beliefs get in the way of our friendship, but that was it. I almost wanted to leave my husband too, but I didn't, I still don't know why I didn't. Oh and I haven't spoken to her since 2020.
Joann Hart 1 year ago
Good for you, she sounds like a toxic waste dump. Hospital workers that won't take a shot rme
Load More Replies... Cyndielouwhoo 1 year ago
I had a friend who stopped being my friend because I was having fewer problems and side effects with a medication we both happened to be prescribed...she was mad at me, go figure!?
kansasmagic 1 year ago
I think most people truly need real, deep friendships. That's why there are so many horror stories about "toxic friends" and the s**t people put up with. They put up with it because they need and want a friend, and perhaps believe that they have to take the bad with the good, or think it will be too hard to make new friends (and it might be, especially as we get older!) If we didn't have a need for friendships - if we could just cut anyone out of our life - these stories would lose their impact.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
My last story is the one that kills me the most. We met the first year in college. We were really close. If I could’ve afforded it, I would’ve moved in with her and her now husband when they needed a roommate. 8 years later I helped with her wedding. I wasn’t even a bridesmaid and disappointed since we were BFF’s and the other girls she barely hung out with. She got pregnant, I helped her prepare for the baby. I bought a lot of stuff because I wanted to. Suddenly she stops answering my calls and texts. I always offered to come to her due to her busy home life. I offered babysitting or just stay at her house to hang out. Never would answer and just dropped me completely. She only wanted to hang out with other moms. All these photos on FB going places and hanging out with new ppl. 2 years later she gets free tickets to a show. Her mom friends can’t go. Now suddenly we’re bffs. I went but shouldn’t have. Radio silence for 7 years now.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
Another great friend choice I made was we worked together and worked great together. We both had very similar backgrounds growing up. We really connected on that. Not many people understood what we went through as kids. We even were dating best friends and we were best friends. I was always there for her when she was struggling with current family issues, and when she broke up with her bf that she had been with for a very long time. I really didn’t have too much family drama going on until one day. I had been blamed by a family member for drama that happened when I was young. I was told it was my fault 100% and we wouldn’t have issues in our family if it wasn’t for me. Which was completely false I was bawling my eyes out. I come over to talk to her because I was so upset, she didn’t even look at me. read the paper and went. Oh that sucks. When she had family members say terrible things to her, I was there comforting her. Again my choices, my fault I own them.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
Another I had another close friend from high school in to college. We hung out a lot like I did with my other friend. We became closer when I stopped being friends with my jealous friend. We would hang out and she would want to hang out a lot even though I was dating someone and I always made the time for her. I would invite her places even with my current bf being there, so she was included. When she started dating someone then she would become unavailable. But the relationships didn’t last long so it wasn’t a long period. So I let it go the two times she had done it before. Then she became obsessed with the guy (they never dated he wasn’t into her). We had made plans for winter break, and she literally canceled them all last minute so she could try to get this guy to go out with her. She dropped me like it was no big deal and we could just be friends when she’s ready. I had told people that I couldn’t hang out with them because I had plans with her.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
I have so many stories, and it is my fault for choosing to be friends with these people. My first one is my high school friend that we had been close since sophomore year. Unbeknownst to me she was extremely jealous of all girls, especially me. She wanted all guys to find only her attractive. She would go into my phone back when we didn’t have passcodes. She found all the guys that I had numbers for, including my current BF. She went and reached out to all of them to hang out, claiming I was coming, and she was just helping me by calling. They would show up and let them know that I canceled last minute. I had no idea she was doing this. She started a relationship with my bf behind my back. I wasn’t happy with him and she knew it. When I would talk to her, she would defend him. She told him I was gonna break up with him so he could break up with me and tell everyone he broke it off with me. My friends told me what she was doing and I found out about the cheating.
Yali-girl with weird name 1 year ago
My friend of 3 years randomly starting ghosting me and not talking to me and being rude, when i asked her about it she said i became a rude biatch and a horrible person but I still don't know what i did wrong. I just wish she could tell me so i can fix it and we could be friends again.
Red Reilly 1 year ago
I had a friend I thought was my best friend, almost brother. We had so much fun in our earlier 20's, I used to ignore a lot of his antics because he was younger then me. A few things started to click together and I was just growing up. If he got off with someone I would be supportive and say well done, never bothered me, the one time this really hot guy was interested in me he just started telling me that the guy, wasn't that hot and instead of acting how I did to him he was really bratty towards me. Also if he knew I liked a guy, he would sleep with them and then show off about it. Act really bratty but it was NEVER his fault. .....Why was I friends with this guy?
ThisIsMe 1 year ago
Best friend and neighbor - we did everything together for years. Slowly started to dawn on me (as a people pleaser) that we really only did what SHE wanted to do. Got worse and worse, and then one new year's eve she cussed me in front of everyone for not taking photos at the party (I only knew a few of the people there) so she'd have pictures. Something clicked, and after that I was not available to her any more. She'd plan lunches during the week with our mutual friends far from my office and that would easily take over an hour - I declined every invite like that until she stopped inviting. She's since moved away, and I can honestly say I haven't missed her one bit.
Trish Greene 1 year ago
My ex-husband convince my grand-daughter not to invite me to her wedding because a reunion between he and I would have been awkward. Last time I talked to that SOB.
something to ponder 1 year ago
Had a friend in college who came from a well off family. When we would hang out (ex. Shopping, going to a restaurant ect.) She would make fun of me for getting the cheapest thing on the menu or looking at the clearance wrack. I put myself through college and worked. She would constantly flaunt how her parents paid for everything. I confronted her one day about how I felt she just kept me around so she could feel better about herself. She got defensive and manipulated the situation to seem as if I was accusing her of something horrendous and made herself the victim. She spread rumors about me and my boyfriend (now husband) amongst our friends, tried splitting us up, and tried to set me up with another guy in our friends group. When confronted by everyone she claimed it was a joke and misunderstood. The friendship ended badly after I couldn't take her sick jokes, manipulative friendship, broken trust, and the friends group stopped talking to her. It still hurts.
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago
My childhood best friend went to college, forgot how to use a phone or write letters. Teenage/early 20's best friend got married, moved away, and forgot how to call, write, text or email. 20's to early 30's best friend decided she "no longer care to stay friends" and that was it. I don't make friends anymore.
Darth Kittius 1 year ago
I was in a drama club in high school, and I naively thought that everyone in the club (about 26 of us) was my friend. I went through a lot of hell that year because I'm horrible at setting boundaries with people. This year i returned to see one of their shows, and I decided to only spend my energy on people that wanted to see me. I was much happier this time than I'd ever been before
naksaystheduck 1 year ago
6 years ago, we met at a boring office job and became really close friends even though we are quite different on first sight, but we share many interests, the same kind of dark humour and sadly, some toxic behaviours, too (making bad relationship choices, trying to distract ourselves from our problems by getting wasted together, stuff like that). When I ended up living on the street a few months ago, she always offered to help me out with taking care of my dog in between or letting me crash on her sofa... Never happened. The cherry on the cake was when she told me that I am a piece of s**t and should ask myself why I ended up alone. Then she blocked me on all channels. I still have no idea why she said/did that - I never did anything bad to her, I was always there for her, no matter what. This really hurt me a lot and destroyed my trust in people even more.
JessRS 1 year ago
I had a friend in uni who got in an abusive relationship. When I pointed it out she accused me of being jealous of her and yelled at me in front of everyone in our Cost Analysis classroom. I told her if she wanted to behave like a fishwife and be beaten down like a punching bag it was her prerogative and I wouldn't interfere and I was removing myself from that situation forever. A few months passed and she tried approaching me when she broke up with her boyfriend but I have her the cut direct. She later went back to him, last I knew she had married and divorced him and tried to friend me on Facebook but I rejected the attempt. As Mr Darcy said, "I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself...My good opinion once lost is lost forever."
Soapy Von Soaps 1 year ago
Look BP, if you're going to rip posts from Reddit, can you at least fix the formatting so there aren't massive gaps between the paragraphs please?
Enlee Jones 1 year ago
When I called her out for posting some bullsh*t fake article about how transgender people are going to murder your child in the Target bathrooms. She told me I was the most miserable b*tch she had ever met in her life and blocked me. That was about seven years ago. Good riddance to bad trash.
Super Beast 1 year ago
got in a fight, loved the adrenaline. picked a fight with me for the adrenaline. i overwhelmed him into giving up, told him to f*ck off, never looked back.
Nicky Vermeulen 1 year ago
Was friends with a gay guy for most of my life. We were very close and would talk and play video games for hours. I never had a boyfriend before. when I finally got a boyfriend, My friend wanted to hold his hand and touch his butt. He also got mad that I wasnt spending time with him because I had a boyfriend
Hakunamawhatnow 1 year ago
I have a lovely one! Had a friend that would never come to me, I always had to take a train to her or her brothers place. I decided to stop doing that and the friendship cooled off. After almost a year, out of the blue she contacted me. Said she was sorry and that it was all her fault. That we should meet up soon and she would come to me. Sure, sounds legit. Then, through f*****g Instagram of all options, she asked me if I wanted to be her surrogate mother since she wasnt able to get pregnant by herself, and I would be paid 1500 euro. Excuse me?!
ConstantlyJon 1 year ago
I realized after therapy that my 2 best friends growing up were sexually assaulting me from a young age. I texted them both that we shouldn't be friends, blocked them on everything, and never looked back.
AK to LV 1 year ago
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm glad you're rid of them! I hope you're in a better place now.
Load More Replies... Jennifer Smith 1 year ago
When I wanted to end it all I sent out a text to my friend group. Almost every one responded and helped me get through it but one ignored me. I was upset but thought there must be a reason why. She didn’t talk to me for two weeks. After two weeks she called and told me I only did it for attention so she didn’t give me any attention to teach me a lesson. I was so hurt by that. If it wasn’t for my friends who did respond I wouldn’t still be here.
Vic 1 year ago
I'm glad you are still with us, and I hope you are doing better!! 🤗
Load More Replies... tee-lena 1 year ago
We worked together at an amusement park. I needed a place to crash and she gave it to me. I did everything for her as a thank you. Including paying rent. Fast forward and we had moved to a 3bedroom apartment yet I'm still in the living room. Paying a third of the rent even though she, her girlfriend and her two kids had two rooms and only paid a third and another roommate paid a third. We (I) set up a surprise birthday party with a nice futon, with bedding as a gift. Someone paid their share late after it was all paid for so I took her kids to get a present for her with the money. Like 10bucks. I got woke up out of a sound sleep after the party with her threatening to choke me to death. That fu*king ten dollars that her kids got to buy her a present. She threatened to kill me over 10bucks. I stopped doing things for her. Full stop. And she hated me for it. As soon as I could I moved out. Ended the "friendship" the day I moved. She's a freaken narcissist. Put me off friendships of any kind. I won't be used like that again. It's been like 15years? People aren't worth the hassle. I don't know what it is about me that I find trash people but I stopped trying and my life is a lot calmer. A whole lot better. She fell back into drugs I'm just glad I got out before that
KrazyChiMama 1 year ago
I lost my two "besties" from school days because we all 3 got married but only they had children. Im unfortunately unable to carry to term and I guess my miscarriages were just too painful for them to remain my friends. I was there for one of them when they had a miscarriage when we were still teenagers. Even went with her to the hospital when she had her surgery for it (D&C)! I felt so alone with no girlfriends to talk to about things. My husband is more than supportive but it still stings when I let myself think about that time in my life. To this day I have no really close girlfriends. (Husband and I have a few couples we're somewhat friendly with) No one will ever hurt me like that again!
Joann Hart 1 year ago
Wow, I am so sorry that happened to you. Sometimes we find out who our true friends are at the worst times. Nobody should feel cast off during such loss.
Load More Replies... Diolla 1 year ago
Had a BFF in my early uni years. We did everything together. She got into an abusive relationship, guy beat her, but she beat him as well. They would break up and make up all the time. One night we met him in the street (at that moment they were not together) and she started to pick a fight with him. I tried to stop her doing that. For some reason the guy started to beat ME up. She just stood there. He stopped because a kind stranger intervened. I don't remember how I got home from there. The following days I did NOT hear from her at all. Mind you, we would spend all our days together. When I finally got hold of her (this was before mobile phones existed) she told me that him beating me up was sus and she thought he'd done it because I had secretly been seeing him behind her back. I mean WTF, I hated the guy because he hurt her and I had been through many situations with them (some of them violent) trying to protect HER. I ended the friendship right then and there.
NutellaBananas 1 year ago
I had this really close friend and we were besties. We were super close and we used to share everything. Last years I missed a few weeks of school because I was sick. Then months after I got sick (I was fine after that btw), she randomly started ghosting me. Like 2 MONTHS LATER!! and later she apologized for it and I'm like "omg it's okk, don't worry, I still love u" and we made up. But now she's ghosting me again. Like WTFF. And a few days ago I told her I need to talk to her and she's like "text it" and im like no its a face to face convo. And now she won't text me back. I so wanna forget ab her but then I remember all the good memories and I just can't do it
B-b-bird 1 year ago (edited)
We were good friends during college years. She flirted with my date, though she knew the situation, I forgave her. Strike one. Insulted me by saying she has time to meet only her "friends" but not me, when she got back to hometown (we had some minor disagreement). Strike two. Then we met on a plane completely by accident, just as she was coming back to hometown. She completely ignored me pretending she's asleep. And got off the plane from different door to avoid me. And we were not kids for that sort of behaviour! I mean kids even know better. It was strike three. Just though why I need to deal with it. Then after some time she tried reconnecting, several times, but I did not budge. Been 10 years, did not have such or even similar issues with other friends ever.
Looks like an Angel 1 year ago (edited)
I had been friends with him for years and we made arrangements for him to pick me up from work one day, because I had to have some work done on my car. As we were driving down the highway, he kept going FASTER AND FASTER, until he was doing almost 130km/h (about 85 mph) and then started swerving back and forth in traffic. I asked him why he was driving like that and he admitted that he had been drinking for the last 4 hours. Then pulled a beer out from under his seat, opened it and started drinking it WHILE driving me home. I SCREAMED at him to pull over and let me out, but he wouldn't. Once he dropped me off at home, I text him and told him that I can't be friends with someone who doesn't see the error in what he was doing. Then blocked him everywhere he could possibly find me. I moved out of the city 4 months later and never saw him again.
Lene 1 year ago
Wow! Judt wow!!! Just reading this made me almost scream! 😳
Load More Replies... Leah Banks 1 year ago
I had a great friend group all through my teenage years. One of the girls and I had been BFFs since we were young. One was a boy that I crushed on the whole time. And the third was another girl who was my ride or die. The boy cut off contact with all of us as soon as he started university. It's been 15 years and I haven't seen or spoken to him since, despite trying. The ride or die girl turned out to be a toxic friend as we got older, I look back and realize it was basically an abusive relationship. The worst came was when my mom was dying when I was only 22, and she cut off all contact, blocked me, and when I finally just showed up at her door, she said my life was just too depressing for her and we couldn't be friends anymore. The oldest friend was a bridesmaid at my wedding, and then...nothing. We lived close, and we always made plans that she would cancel. One day I realized she deleted all our photos and blocked me on all social media. 25 years of friendship lost for nothing.
siddik sid 1 year ago
I was friends with a guy for more than ten years .One day he asked me why I was hanging out with a lower caste dude straight infront of my other friend .Cut ties with him then and there .
Maria B 1 year ago
My sister's friend moved to my town to go to college. I set her up with a rental - there was a major housing shortage so that by itself was a feat- and helped her get started. She lived two doors down from me. Then, in the middle of the night, the roommate of my then boyfriend showed up at my doorstep. This girl had decided she wanted to sleep with my BF, in HIS room, so they sent his roommate to spend the night at my house. What on EARTH makes you do such a thing? That was the end of that friendship and of course the BF.
sherry powers 1 year ago
I'm autoimmune, I had a friend who worked in a hospital. My husband and I moved several hours away so me and her texted a few times during the pandemic but never talked about the virus. Then one day I asked her how things were going she said she was going to quit because they were mandating vaccines. It was bad enough that my own spouse wasn't taking it seriously when he has a wife who is autoimmune, but now my friend who works at a hospital who is around the vulnerable won't get vaccinated because it's not FDA approved! I went on off on her. I asked her what the treatment was for the virus, because there isn't one, she avoided the question. I told her I was done with all the maga bs, we never let politics and our beliefs get in the way of our friendship, but that was it. I almost wanted to leave my husband too, but I didn't, I still don't know why I didn't. Oh and I haven't spoken to her since 2020.
Joann Hart 1 year ago
Good for you, she sounds like a toxic waste dump. Hospital workers that won't take a shot rme
Load More Replies... Cyndielouwhoo 1 year ago
I had a friend who stopped being my friend because I was having fewer problems and side effects with a medication we both happened to be prescribed...she was mad at me, go figure!?
kansasmagic 1 year ago
I think most people truly need real, deep friendships. That's why there are so many horror stories about "toxic friends" and the s**t people put up with. They put up with it because they need and want a friend, and perhaps believe that they have to take the bad with the good, or think it will be too hard to make new friends (and it might be, especially as we get older!) If we didn't have a need for friendships - if we could just cut anyone out of our life - these stories would lose their impact.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
My last story is the one that kills me the most. We met the first year in college. We were really close. If I could’ve afforded it, I would’ve moved in with her and her now husband when they needed a roommate. 8 years later I helped with her wedding. I wasn’t even a bridesmaid and disappointed since we were BFF’s and the other girls she barely hung out with. She got pregnant, I helped her prepare for the baby. I bought a lot of stuff because I wanted to. Suddenly she stops answering my calls and texts. I always offered to come to her due to her busy home life. I offered babysitting or just stay at her house to hang out. Never would answer and just dropped me completely. She only wanted to hang out with other moms. All these photos on FB going places and hanging out with new ppl. 2 years later she gets free tickets to a show. Her mom friends can’t go. Now suddenly we’re bffs. I went but shouldn’t have. Radio silence for 7 years now.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
Another great friend choice I made was we worked together and worked great together. We both had very similar backgrounds growing up. We really connected on that. Not many people understood what we went through as kids. We even were dating best friends and we were best friends. I was always there for her when she was struggling with current family issues, and when she broke up with her bf that she had been with for a very long time. I really didn’t have too much family drama going on until one day. I had been blamed by a family member for drama that happened when I was young. I was told it was my fault 100% and we wouldn’t have issues in our family if it wasn’t for me. Which was completely false I was bawling my eyes out. I come over to talk to her because I was so upset, she didn’t even look at me. read the paper and went. Oh that sucks. When she had family members say terrible things to her, I was there comforting her. Again my choices, my fault I own them.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
Another I had another close friend from high school in to college. We hung out a lot like I did with my other friend. We became closer when I stopped being friends with my jealous friend. We would hang out and she would want to hang out a lot even though I was dating someone and I always made the time for her. I would invite her places even with my current bf being there, so she was included. When she started dating someone then she would become unavailable. But the relationships didn’t last long so it wasn’t a long period. So I let it go the two times she had done it before. Then she became obsessed with the guy (they never dated he wasn’t into her). We had made plans for winter break, and she literally canceled them all last minute so she could try to get this guy to go out with her. She dropped me like it was no big deal and we could just be friends when she’s ready. I had told people that I couldn’t hang out with them because I had plans with her.
Niki Hanley 1 year ago
I have so many stories, and it is my fault for choosing to be friends with these people. My first one is my high school friend that we had been close since sophomore year. Unbeknownst to me she was extremely jealous of all girls, especially me. She wanted all guys to find only her attractive. She would go into my phone back when we didn’t have passcodes. She found all the guys that I had numbers for, including my current BF. She went and reached out to all of them to hang out, claiming I was coming, and she was just helping me by calling. They would show up and let them know that I canceled last minute. I had no idea she was doing this. She started a relationship with my bf behind my back. I wasn’t happy with him and she knew it. When I would talk to her, she would defend him. She told him I was gonna break up with him so he could break up with me and tell everyone he broke it off with me. My friends told me what she was doing and I found out about the cheating.
Yali-girl with weird name 1 year ago
My friend of 3 years randomly starting ghosting me and not talking to me and being rude, when i asked her about it she said i became a rude biatch and a horrible person but I still don't know what i did wrong. I just wish she could tell me so i can fix it and we could be friends again.
Red Reilly 1 year ago
I had a friend I thought was my best friend, almost brother. We had so much fun in our earlier 20's, I used to ignore a lot of his antics because he was younger then me. A few things started to click together and I was just growing up. If he got off with someone I would be supportive and say well done, never bothered me, the one time this really hot guy was interested in me he just started telling me that the guy, wasn't that hot and instead of acting how I did to him he was really bratty towards me. Also if he knew I liked a guy, he would sleep with them and then show off about it. Act really bratty but it was NEVER his fault. .....Why was I friends with this guy?
ThisIsMe 1 year ago
Best friend and neighbor - we did everything together for years. Slowly started to dawn on me (as a people pleaser) that we really only did what SHE wanted to do. Got worse and worse, and then one new year's eve she cussed me in front of everyone for not taking photos at the party (I only knew a few of the people there) so she'd have pictures. Something clicked, and after that I was not available to her any more. She'd plan lunches during the week with our mutual friends far from my office and that would easily take over an hour - I declined every invite like that until she stopped inviting. She's since moved away, and I can honestly say I haven't missed her one bit.
Trish Greene 1 year ago
My ex-husband convince my grand-daughter not to invite me to her wedding because a reunion between he and I would have been awkward. Last time I talked to that SOB.
something to ponder 1 year ago
Had a friend in college who came from a well off family. When we would hang out (ex. Shopping, going to a restaurant ect.) She would make fun of me for getting the cheapest thing on the menu or looking at the clearance wrack. I put myself through college and worked. She would constantly flaunt how her parents paid for everything. I confronted her one day about how I felt she just kept me around so she could feel better about herself. She got defensive and manipulated the situation to seem as if I was accusing her of something horrendous and made herself the victim. She spread rumors about me and my boyfriend (now husband) amongst our friends, tried splitting us up, and tried to set me up with another guy in our friends group. When confronted by everyone she claimed it was a joke and misunderstood. The friendship ended badly after I couldn't take her sick jokes, manipulative friendship, broken trust, and the friends group stopped talking to her. It still hurts.
Dawnieangel76 1 year ago
My childhood best friend went to college, forgot how to use a phone or write letters. Teenage/early 20's best friend got married, moved away, and forgot how to call, write, text or email. 20's to early 30's best friend decided she "no longer care to stay friends" and that was it. I don't make friends anymore.
Darth Kittius 1 year ago
I was in a drama club in high school, and I naively thought that everyone in the club (about 26 of us) was my friend. I went through a lot of hell that year because I'm horrible at setting boundaries with people. This year i returned to see one of their shows, and I decided to only spend my energy on people that wanted to see me. I was much happier this time than I'd ever been before
naksaystheduck 1 year ago
6 years ago, we met at a boring office job and became really close friends even though we are quite different on first sight, but we share many interests, the same kind of dark humour and sadly, some toxic behaviours, too (making bad relationship choices, trying to distract ourselves from our problems by getting wasted together, stuff like that). When I ended up living on the street a few months ago, she always offered to help me out with taking care of my dog in between or letting me crash on her sofa... Never happened. The cherry on the cake was when she told me that I am a piece of s**t and should ask myself why I ended up alone. Then she blocked me on all channels. I still have no idea why she said/did that - I never did anything bad to her, I was always there for her, no matter what. This really hurt me a lot and destroyed my trust in people even more.
JessRS 1 year ago
I had a friend in uni who got in an abusive relationship. When I pointed it out she accused me of being jealous of her and yelled at me in front of everyone in our Cost Analysis classroom. I told her if she wanted to behave like a fishwife and be beaten down like a punching bag it was her prerogative and I wouldn't interfere and I was removing myself from that situation forever. A few months passed and she tried approaching me when she broke up with her boyfriend but I have her the cut direct. She later went back to him, last I knew she had married and divorced him and tried to friend me on Facebook but I rejected the attempt. As Mr Darcy said, "I cannot forget the follies and vices of others so soon as I ought, nor their offences against myself...My good opinion once lost is lost forever."
Soapy Von Soaps 1 year ago
Look BP, if you're going to rip posts from Reddit, can you at least fix the formatting so there aren't massive gaps between the paragraphs please?
Enlee Jones 1 year ago
When I called her out for posting some bullsh*t fake article about how transgender people are going to murder your child in the Target bathrooms. She told me I was the most miserable b*tch she had ever met in her life and blocked me. That was about seven years ago. Good riddance to bad trash.
Super Beast 1 year ago
got in a fight, loved the adrenaline. picked a fight with me for the adrenaline. i overwhelmed him into giving up, told him to f*ck off, never looked back.
Nicky Vermeulen 1 year ago
Was friends with a gay guy for most of my life. We were very close and would talk and play video games for hours. I never had a boyfriend before. when I finally got a boyfriend, My friend wanted to hold his hand and touch his butt. He also got mad that I wasnt spending time with him because I had a boyfriend
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