Horrible people. He's not teaching his daughter respect for others because he doesn't seem to have any himself. I wonder how he conned 4 women into accepting a marriage proposal. The fact that he is so casual about ending the relationship seems pretty indicative of his lack of genuine love & affection for her (or any of them). Seems like he's just getting married to be married, regardless of the partner. Definitely should have been some better conversations & integration before this stage. Putting your child first is appropriate. Creating a narcissist by having no boundaries or consequences for them, is not.

For those wondering, this is the dress (Bored panda states "Not the actual photo" incorrectly here) Screenshot...56-png.jpg

This man should come with a warning that he's not marriage material because he's a s****y parent with a toxic daughter and a total disregard for others.

Don't call off because of the dress drama, call off because your daughter is determined to make anyone you try to marry miserable.

Blaming a little kid for a man constantly getting engaged to a string of women he barely knows then those relationships quickly going up in smoke is unhinged. The dad needs therapy to figure out why he's obsessed with getting married, not the kid.

You & your daughter both need therapy. The dress or fact similar to the photo is very inappropriate for a 14 yr old. You are not ready for marriage, your fiance is not ready to be a step-mom & your daughter does not want a new family member. YTA for not seeing this. Go to therapy as I said before, you need it. 4 fiances, really???

And he's saying "there's no inappropriate dress for a kid her age" seriously? Does he know how many 14 y.o. lose their virginity at that age? This guy is delusional and his kid is a bitchh on wheels.

YtA, The dress is the less worrysome, what about him braging is the 4th failed wedding and the kid wanting everybody to hate her....is terrible that a father could say that about his own kid.

Why would you want to spend time with, let alone marry, someone with such different views on family and weddings?

OP refusing to describe the dress and saying things like "there are no inappropriate dresses on kids" makes me think they live in Redditville and not in reality. There ARE absolutely inappropriate dresses for kids and for weddings. Then he says he's left 4 fiancees because of his daughter, and he's not seeing a pattern? What his fiancee did was wrong, but what he's doing is obviously a failure too. He's also a bad parent, setting his daughter up for failure in life by making her think there are no rules because Reddit says so.

I'm still trying to figure out how "enjoys making people hate her" NOT a big red flag?

Probably not a popular opinion here, but all things considered, IF this woman were to end up going through with the wedding (which I would advise against), I think not inviting the daughter would be a good idea. BECAUSE the daughter has already completely destroyed the wedding dress once, and I wouldn't put it past her to do something else to sabotage the ceremony somehow... The daughter really seems like the A-hole out of the bunch, but the dad's sure trying to compete...

No way in hell is this real

How does someone get engaged four times and not have these issues worked out? Why would he propose to someone who does not get alone with the daughter? He is the issue, not the daughter. He seems to want a warm body more than a partner.

That marriage is over b/f it begins. He's raising a crazy, controlling young woman. I wish I could see a pic of the dress though! Is it that red one in the picture above?

Dodged a bullet. People tell you who they are. Believe them.

There are a few different things going on here. 1 The wife stole a dress that belong to your daughter that you bought and your daughter rightful got revenge on this b***h by ruining her dress. That is fair. If one parent is the bio parent then on any disagreement involving the kid your opinion will count for more. Taking that dress was break up worthy and if you made it clear that either she brought the dress back or the wedding was off your kid never would have needed to protect herself by ruining the wedding dress. 2 You did make dumb choice by both agreeing to marry someone your kid doesn't like and by saying she could have any dress. What if she wanted a white dress? Your wife doesn't have a pure 50% control over your daughter, but she should have at least 50% control of the wedding planning and what guest wear is very much something she has a equal say over. Having her help your daughter pick out a dress would have been a nice bonding moment for them.

I never got around to mentioning it here when this was current, but I went to the website and took a look at the dress the daughter chose. It comes in a lot of colors, and none of the others are anywhere as provocative as it is in red. There are a pastel yellow and pastel blue especially that looked “pretty”, not “slútty”, which I think would have been perfectly appropriate for a 14yo to wear to a fancy occasion.

Have tried to post a couple comments on this thread & not only had trouble editing but 1 wouldn't even delete, so just ignore anything that doesn't make much sense & has my name on it.

Do men have a best woman? Anyone consider the possibility that this is a lesbian wedding?

The daughter's dress is too much for a 14-yr old. When I was 14 I was 5'9" and wore a DD bra, so many things looked too sexy on me, and grown men would hit on me not knowing my age. Could she really handle that? My Mom helped me pick dresses that made me look pretty, not slu**y. Yes, we shouldn't sexualize young women, but men will do that regardless, so don't encourage it by choosing a too sexy dress. Women should also be allowed to walk outside after dark, but would it be smart of me to walk down an alley in a bikini? No.

Rage-bait post.

I bet their homelife is never boring.

They all sound s****y. What a world.

OP should marry his daughter. Daughter is mean to fiances, but she is from a very young age, so the parent is responsible. He doesn't really want another woman in his life. Both need therapy, or just live together happily without screwing up others' lives.

You as a father are absolutely out of order!!!! You s****y fiancée does this then you blame your daughter? And blame her for all the others as well? Even though the first one she was five and was starved all day for being cheeky?? ITS YOU THATS THE PROBLEM!!!! It's disgusting what you actually say on here and I hope your daughter doesn't see this! She's already f***ed up because you're aren't a good dad!! I don't give a damn what other things you may have done for her, your hostility is absolutely shocking! And aimed at the wrong person fool!

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The kid is a legend and retaliated in a reasonable way. The fiancee had no right to take the daughter's dress; it didn't belong to her. The daughter responded in an equal and opposite manner. However, the father needs to ensure that this whole idea is going to work before seriously considering getting married. This woman is clearly not right for him if she can't forge a meaningful relationship with his daughter.