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Bride Destroys Stepdaughter’s “Provocative” Dress So She Can’t Wear It, The Payback Makes Her Cry
For many brides, picking out a wedding dress is a dream come true. Not only is it important to choose one that will make you feel confident and beautiful on the big day, it’s also wise to keep in mind that you’ll be looking back on photos from the wedding for years to come. In a way, that dress will stay with you for the rest of your life!
But when one woman decided that the dress her fiancé’s daughter chose to wear to their wedding was inappropriate, the teen decided that neither of them could have their dream dress. Below, you’ll find a story that a concerned parent recently shared on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit wondering if they should call off their wedding altogether due to this dress drama, as well as a conversation with Ginger Ogle, Founder and Director of the Berkeley Parents Network.
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This parent was excited to help their daughter find a dress to wear to their upcoming wedding
Image credits: Timur Weber / pexels (not the actual photo)
But their relationship quickly started crumbling after their fiancée decided that the dress wasn’t appropriate
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1,300 new stepfamilies form every day in the United States
Every wedding has complications. No matter how old you are or how supportive your family is, you’ll be unable to keep everyone happy. But when you’re getting a new spouse and stepchildren on the same day, it’s important to try to be on good terms with your partner’s kids. And thankfully, nowadays, anyone who enters into a blended family is far from the first person to do so.
According to the Pew Research Center, 16% of kids in the United States live in blended families today. And the U.S. Census Bureau reports that 1,300 new stepfamilies form every single day. 50% of kids under the age of 13 also live with one of their parents and a stepparent or their parent’s current partner. Over half of American families are remarried or re-coupled, and three quarters of divorcees end up tying the knot again at some point.
But just because it’s common to be in a blended family doesn’t mean that it’s always easy. Navigating a new relationship can be challenging enough, but adding children and the responsibilities of parenting into the mix can make it even harder. Kids may be resistant to change and uncomfortable with the idea of having a stepparent, which can certainly take a toll on their parent’s romantic relationship.
It’s common for stepparents to have rocky relationships with their stepchildren in the beginning
To gain more insight into this situation, we got in touch with Ginger Ogle, Founder and Director of the Berkeley Parents Network. Ginger was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and share that, unfortunately, parents and their stepchildren don’t always get off on the right foot.
“Parents have described their kids being resentful of the time their parent spends with the new partner, because it takes away from the kids’ time with their mom/dad,” she noted. “Kids may be holding out hope their parents will get back together, so the new partner is unwelcome.”
Relationship dynamics can also depend on whether or not the stepparent has children already. “A new partner who doesn’t have kids of their own may not know how to relate to kids, might be awkward around them, or impatient,” Ginger added. “Or if the new partner does have kids of their own, the children may feel they are competing with other kids for their own parent’s attention.”
As far as this specific situation, Ginger says that it sounds very distressing but also really odd. “I’d have a lot of questions for the mom about what’s really going on. The couple has been together for 4 years, but the parent doesn’t know why their daughter dislikes their fiancée? It sounds like there are some communication problems between the parent and their daughter. That’s what the parent should focus on.”
Parenting teens is always a challenge, but it can be even harder for stepparents
Teens are notoriously difficult to parent, period. With their growing sense of independence, hormones raging from puberty and desire to defy authority, their behavior can often be amplified when stepparents enter the picture. And according to Kristen at StepMomming, stepparenting teens can be compared to “surviving a minefield.”
To navigate this delicate situation, Kristen recommends that spouses be on the same page as their partner. Enforce the same rules and consequences, and try to be there for your stepchild in the same ways that their parents would be (if they’ll let you, of course). It’s also important to be realistic and prepare yourself for some uncomfortable moments.
Whether the teen hurls cruel words at you or ignores you completely, try not to take it personally. Another important tip that the woman in this story certainly could have benefitted from is: remain calm. At the end of the day, you’re an adult, and they’re not. Immature behavior can be excused in teens, to a certain extent. But as the stepparent, you should know better.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Would you have called off this wedding too? Then, if you’d like to check out another story from Bored Panda featuring stepparent drama, we recommend reading this article next!
Readers had plenty to say about the story, so the parent provided a bit more information on the situation
Many called out the parent for ever thinking this wedding was a good idea in the first place
However, some thought that the author hadn’t done anything wrong
And others believed that all parties had acted immaturely
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Elizabeth Tayler 4 months ago
Horrible people. He's not teaching his daughter respect for others because he doesn't seem to have any himself. I wonder how he conned 4 women into accepting a marriage proposal. The fact that he is so casual about ending the relationship seems pretty indicative of his lack of genuine love & affection for her (or any of them). Seems like he's just getting married to be married, regardless of the partner. Definitely should have been some better conversations & integration before this stage. Putting your child first is appropriate. Creating a narcissist by having no boundaries or consequences for them, is not.
Ivy at Eve 2 months ago
Four women in 9 years... and he "needs to be married anyway"....????
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Little Wonder 4 months ago
For those wondering, this is the dress (Bored panda states "Not the actual photo" incorrectly here) Screenshot...56-png.jpg 
sturmwesen 4 months ago
That's not a dress for a wedding unless it's a very special crowd.
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Rob Letterly 4 months ago
this 14 year old is SCREAMING for therapy and this guy doesn't think it's necessary? Yes, he's the ahole
Alexandra 4 months ago
This man should come with a warning that he's not marriage material because he's a s****y parent with a toxic daughter and a total disregard for others.
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
I was married to a man exactly like that, and it was a nightmare. He expected me to have zero boundaries because he had none. He bought her alcohol, cigs, and gave her heaps of money for her d**g problem, but my wanting her to save for college was "controlling her money." OP's 4 fiancees got out before they were shackled to that nonsense, good for them.
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Meagan Glaser 4 months ago
the dad thinks that literally nothing is inappropriate because having normal sense of appropriate clothing is "sexualizing children" so he's either an idiot or a smug condescending liar. Money on teh second one
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
That sort of nonsense is straight up Reddit logic. It *only* works in the online world where you don't interact with real people in a real setting. These people would have little children in complete control of their families and homes, with all the adults tiptoeing around on eggshells trying not to "be toxic" to them.
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Roberta Surprenant 4 months ago
Don't call off because of the dress drama, call off because your daughter is determined to make anyone you try to marry miserable.
G R 4 months ago
Blaming a little kid for a man constantly getting engaged to a string of women he barely knows then those relationships quickly going up in smoke is unhinged. The dad needs therapy to figure out why he's obsessed with getting married, not the kid.
Mrs.C 4 months ago
If the child is purposely sabotaging relationships, they both need therapy. But it sounds like dad isn't smart enough to know if that's the case. He sounds like an "everyone else is the problem" kinda guy.
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ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago (edited)
Based on OPs reply to the comments left by reddit users of, "I need to get (at) married eventually." Nope. Just a big nope.
Carole G. 4 months ago
You & your daughter both need therapy. The dress or fact similar to the photo is very inappropriate for a 14 yr old. You are not ready for marriage, your fiance is not ready to be a step-mom & your daughter does not want a new family member. YTA for not seeing this. Go to therapy as I said before, you need it. 4 fiances, really???
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
He's a man, so of course all his fiancees were just crazy. Not one thought to the common denominator in all 4 relationships, lol.
Load More Replies... CK 4 months ago
It's a red flag when people claim that those who consider an item of clothing inappropriate for children are the ones sexualizing children. There are some items of clothing that have sexual or otherwise inappropriate connotations, and children should not be wearing them. And children don't always understand this until they're older, but many grow up to regret having worn such clothing or are grateful that they didn't.
Gen X Feral 4 months ago
And he's saying "there's no inappropriate dress for a kid her age" seriously? Does he know how many 14 y.o. lose their virginity at that age? This guy is delusional and his kid is a bitchh on wheels.
Dean Hudson 4 months ago
YTA - Letting your daughter chose whatever she wanted was the first mistake. Whether you like it or not, she's 14 and what she chose was NOT appropriate for a formal wedding. And I mean it seems it was not planned for the courthouse. The dress may have been okay for a school event like prom or homecoming. Fiancee was wrong not to let you handle it, but it seems you were taking your daughter's side no matter what. Proven by you stating the fiancée would be responsible for both dresses when your daughter had no right to destroy the wedding dress. Very childish and I hear of no discipline from you. You seem to think she was old enough to pick out an age/event appropriate dress, but not old enough to not ton damage the wedding dress? YTA and your daughter runs your life. She always will. You'll never be married and live with a decent woman until your daughter and you get therapy. Your daughter and yourself have proven that at least 4 times before. How many times does it take?
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
Why would you want to spend time with, let alone marry, someone with such different views on family and weddings?
Jaime Borris 4 months ago
im a mom of 2. the fashion industry is sexualizing kids younger and younger. i have found more booty shorts for under 10 than knee length, i usually get my daughters shorts from the boy section. if the father is not seeing the problem with his 14yo in this dress he's lying his a*s off. the fact its the 4th fiance says a lot. the girl and her father need major help. where is the girls mom? her daughter is gonna get pregnant before she finishes high school. why did the fiance not go dress shopping with the girl? seems weird it was the dad who took her
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
OP refusing to describe the dress and saying things like "there are no inappropriate dresses on kids" makes me think they live in Redditville and not in reality. There ARE absolutely inappropriate dresses for kids and for weddings. Then he says he's left 4 fiancees because of his daughter, and he's not seeing a pattern? What his fiancee did was wrong, but what he's doing is obviously a failure too. He's also a bad parent, setting his daughter up for failure in life by making her think there are no rules because Reddit says so.
Roberta Surprenant 3 months ago
Has anyone mentioned that Dad went shopping with the teen, SAW the dresss, and still bought it for her? This guy does not need to get married to anyone, he seems to be already married to his daughter.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
I'm still trying to figure out how "enjoys making people hate her" NOT a big red flag?
Another Panda 3 months ago
Is this AI? It seems at first the post is talking about the daughter buying and loving the dress, and the fiance hating it, then it switches to the daughter destroying the dress and the fiance crying because she bought it because she loved it.
Sand Ers 3 months ago
Two dresses. Fiancé irreversibly got rid of 14yo daughter’s dress. 14yo daughter retaliated by utterly destroying fiancé’s wedding dress.
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Aelin Wildfire 3 months ago (edited)
Probably not a popular opinion here, but all things considered, IF this woman were to end up going through with the wedding (which I would advise against), I think not inviting the daughter would be a good idea. BECAUSE the daughter has already completely destroyed the wedding dress once, and I wouldn't put it past her to do something else to sabotage the ceremony somehow... The daughter really seems like the A-hole out of the bunch, but the dad's sure trying to compete...
Cadence Thorne 4 months ago
Dude, your daughter is a sociopath and you're a mouthbreathing moron. The dress was słutty. There absolutely ARE inappropriate clothes for kids, and that's one of them. That dress is meant for an adult flamenco dancer, NOT a child. And yes, 14 is a CHILD.
Mark Childers 4 months ago (edited)
How does someone get engaged four times and not have these issues worked out? Why would he propose to someone who does not get alone with the daughter? He is the issue, not the daughter. He seems to want a warm body more than a partner.
CBolt 4 months ago
"to someone who does not get alone with the daughter?" I can't think who COULD get along with her. He's created a "monster."
Load More Replies... ERpaton 4 months ago
People seem to have the wrong idea about what 'sexualising a child' means. Wearing a form fitting red dress with a thing-high slit is actually what is sexualising the child, not peoples' attitudes. It's not a 'slutty' dress, it is simply an adult dress. Would you say I was disgusting for saying it's not appropriate to dress your 10yr old in a bikini and platform heels? Someone pointing that out isn't sexualising a child, it's almost the opposite. I'd love to have worn that at 14. My parents would have let me wear it at a prom or Christmas party, but not at someone's WEDDING. I had a DD chest and a tiny waist, I would have looked like Jessica Rabbit in it. Physically, I was a fully grown woman at that age.
Joanne Mendonza-Earle 4 months ago
That marriage is over b/f it begins. He's raising a crazy, controlling young woman. I wish I could see a pic of the dress though! Is it that red one in the picture above?
Laura A Ivett 1 day ago
Where are the pics of the dress people keep saying they saw? If they were talking about that red dress that's just a stock photo.. and also, I mean the future stepmother did take the daughter's dress and destroy it and the daughter was only returning the favor...
Raven Greer 3 months ago
There are a few different things going on here. 1 The wife stole a dress that belong to your daughter that you bought and your daughter rightful got revenge on this b***h by ruining her dress. That is fair. If one parent is the bio parent then on any disagreement involving the kid your opinion will count for more. Taking that dress was break up worthy and if you made it clear that either she brought the dress back or the wedding was off your kid never would have needed to protect herself by ruining the wedding dress. 2 You did make dumb choice by both agreeing to marry someone your kid doesn't like and by saying she could have any dress. What if she wanted a white dress? Your wife doesn't have a pure 50% control over your daughter, but she should have at least 50% control of the wedding planning and what guest wear is very much something she has a equal say over. Having her help your daughter pick out a dress would have been a nice bonding moment for them.
Raven Greer 3 months ago
Find a women that wants to be a mother and respects you as a parent! It is possible! Also your kid will feel a lot better about you dating if you let them know their feelings matter. My mom made it super clear if I ever for any reason at all disliked a boyfriend of hers for any reason he was gone. (Think she was worried about someone hurting me) That feeling of safety meant I had no problems with her dating. I was always more important then those men and I wanted her to be happy. I bet anything if you tell your daughter that the first few women you have meet her will be told to f off, but after she learns to trust you she will start giving them chance. Nothing is more important then your future wife's compatibly with your daughter. Although why do you think you need to get married? You can be perfectly happy without wife you know.
Load More Replies... Sand Ers 3 months ago
I never got around to mentioning it here when this was current, but I went to the website and took a look at the dress the daughter chose. It comes in a lot of colors, and none of the others are anywhere as provocative as it is in red. There are a pastel yellow and pastel blue especially that looked “pretty”, not “slútty”, which I think would have been perfectly appropriate for a 14yo to wear to a fancy occasion.
tee-lena 3 months ago
While I've got no opinion on whether or not the dress is appropriate what the bride received as payback is completely understood, honestly. Was is wrong? I'm sorry but I don't think so. She reacted like a 14 yr old girl.
Lyoness 3 months ago
Not downvoting but respectfully disagree that being 14 excuses her behaviour. A child (and yes, she's a child) of that age knows it's wrong to destroy someone else's property. Hell, my kids knew that in pre-school. She deliberately destroyed a dress that was likely worth thousands because she was told her dress wasn't appropriate. Stepmom shouldn't have said it was slutty, but that picture shows a dress designed for an adult going to a nightclub or black tie event. It's not appropriate for a 14 year old to wear to a wedding. When her dress was taken away her reaction was to go scorched earth. At her age she should know better and if she doesn't she needs help.
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Hakitosama 4 months ago
"I need to marry eventually lol" ? I think we touched the core of the problem guys. He doesn't want to marry those women because he loves them and thinks they are compatible....he only marries for social status and his own ego. I bet he made 0 efforts to make it work between his daughter and his fiancées.
Jason K 4 months ago
Do men have a best woman? Anyone consider the possibility that this is a lesbian wedding?
CBolt 4 months ago
Yes, they sometimes do if the groom's best friend happens to be a woman.
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bookbuddy 4 months ago
The daughter's dress is too much for a 14-yr old. When I was 14 I was 5'9" and wore a DD bra, so many things looked too sexy on me, and grown men would hit on me not knowing my age. Could she really handle that? My Mom helped me pick dresses that made me look pretty, not slu**y. Yes, we shouldn't sexualize young women, but men will do that regardless, so don't encourage it by choosing a too sexy dress. Women should also be allowed to walk outside after dark, but would it be smart of me to walk down an alley in a bikini? No.
Austin L 4 months ago
This comment is what being part of the problem looks like. Please look up collections of what victims of SA were wearing...
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TennesseeHomesteadUSA 4 months ago
Too many revenge articles ! We're not voyeurs or have questionable taste.
Karen Bird 4 months ago
I've just seen the screenshot of the dress. He's right that it's not going to sexualise a child. It's just a dress! Every 14yo girl wants to think that they're a woman and should be allowed to dress 'grown up'. The fiancee is probably jealous that the kid is going to look better than her! All these people blaming the kid for him losing 4 women aren't looking at the bigger picture. This man appears to have a revolving door of women through the house none of whom seem willing or able to deal with him having a child! You all think the girl is wrong because wedding dresses are expensive but the fiancee was wrong for calling a 14yo a s**t then stealing her dress! The girl wasn't a part of the bridal party so she gets zero say in the dress his daughter wants to wear. If I was the stepmother I'd have complimented her choice then told her I'd get a red wrist corsage to match for her. Why? So I'd be the first one in this parade of women to respect the child!
Lyoness 3 months ago
Not downvoting, just pointing out that the daughter IS (was?) part of the wedding party - she was supposed to be her Dad's MOH (Miss of honour per se).
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Paul C 4 months ago
I can't for the life of me see what the daughter did wrong here. Her dress for the wedding was destroyed, so she destroyed the dress for the wedding of the person who did that. Actions have consequences. I would damn well do the same. For the rest, who knows. If he daughter is really set on destroying all his relationships, why isn't he dealing with that *before* having more relationships? And did he really find 4 women he wanted to marry in less than 10 years (or more accurately, wanted to marry him and into his family)? All makes it sound a little fake.
Broadredpanda 4 months ago
You as a father are absolutely out of order!!!! You s****y fiancée does this then you blame your daughter? And blame her for all the others as well? Even though the first one she was five and was starved all day for being cheeky?? ITS YOU THATS THE PROBLEM!!!! It's disgusting what you actually say on here and I hope your daughter doesn't see this! She's already f***ed up because you're aren't a good dad!! I don't give a damn what other things you may have done for her, your hostility is absolutely shocking! And aimed at the wrong person fool!
Elizabeth Tayler 4 months ago
Horrible people. He's not teaching his daughter respect for others because he doesn't seem to have any himself. I wonder how he conned 4 women into accepting a marriage proposal. The fact that he is so casual about ending the relationship seems pretty indicative of his lack of genuine love & affection for her (or any of them). Seems like he's just getting married to be married, regardless of the partner. Definitely should have been some better conversations & integration before this stage. Putting your child first is appropriate. Creating a narcissist by having no boundaries or consequences for them, is not.
Ivy at Eve 2 months ago
Four women in 9 years... and he "needs to be married anyway"....????
Load More Replies... Little Wonder 4 months ago
For those wondering, this is the dress (Bored panda states "Not the actual photo" incorrectly here) Screenshot...56-png.jpg
sturmwesen 4 months ago
That's not a dress for a wedding unless it's a very special crowd.
Load More Replies... Rob Letterly 4 months ago
this 14 year old is SCREAMING for therapy and this guy doesn't think it's necessary? Yes, he's the ahole
Alexandra 4 months ago
This man should come with a warning that he's not marriage material because he's a s****y parent with a toxic daughter and a total disregard for others.
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
I was married to a man exactly like that, and it was a nightmare. He expected me to have zero boundaries because he had none. He bought her alcohol, cigs, and gave her heaps of money for her d**g problem, but my wanting her to save for college was "controlling her money." OP's 4 fiancees got out before they were shackled to that nonsense, good for them.
Load More Replies... Meagan Glaser 4 months ago
the dad thinks that literally nothing is inappropriate because having normal sense of appropriate clothing is "sexualizing children" so he's either an idiot or a smug condescending liar. Money on teh second one
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
That sort of nonsense is straight up Reddit logic. It *only* works in the online world where you don't interact with real people in a real setting. These people would have little children in complete control of their families and homes, with all the adults tiptoeing around on eggshells trying not to "be toxic" to them.
Load More Replies... Roberta Surprenant 4 months ago
Don't call off because of the dress drama, call off because your daughter is determined to make anyone you try to marry miserable.
G R 4 months ago
Blaming a little kid for a man constantly getting engaged to a string of women he barely knows then those relationships quickly going up in smoke is unhinged. The dad needs therapy to figure out why he's obsessed with getting married, not the kid.
Mrs.C 4 months ago
If the child is purposely sabotaging relationships, they both need therapy. But it sounds like dad isn't smart enough to know if that's the case. He sounds like an "everyone else is the problem" kinda guy.
Load More Replies... ElfVibratorGlitter 4 months ago (edited)
Based on OPs reply to the comments left by reddit users of, "I need to get (at) married eventually." Nope. Just a big nope.
Carole G. 4 months ago
You & your daughter both need therapy. The dress or fact similar to the photo is very inappropriate for a 14 yr old. You are not ready for marriage, your fiance is not ready to be a step-mom & your daughter does not want a new family member. YTA for not seeing this. Go to therapy as I said before, you need it. 4 fiances, really???
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
He's a man, so of course all his fiancees were just crazy. Not one thought to the common denominator in all 4 relationships, lol.
Load More Replies... CK 4 months ago
It's a red flag when people claim that those who consider an item of clothing inappropriate for children are the ones sexualizing children. There are some items of clothing that have sexual or otherwise inappropriate connotations, and children should not be wearing them. And children don't always understand this until they're older, but many grow up to regret having worn such clothing or are grateful that they didn't.
Gen X Feral 4 months ago
And he's saying "there's no inappropriate dress for a kid her age" seriously? Does he know how many 14 y.o. lose their virginity at that age? This guy is delusional and his kid is a bitchh on wheels.
Dean Hudson 4 months ago
YTA - Letting your daughter chose whatever she wanted was the first mistake. Whether you like it or not, she's 14 and what she chose was NOT appropriate for a formal wedding. And I mean it seems it was not planned for the courthouse. The dress may have been okay for a school event like prom or homecoming. Fiancee was wrong not to let you handle it, but it seems you were taking your daughter's side no matter what. Proven by you stating the fiancée would be responsible for both dresses when your daughter had no right to destroy the wedding dress. Very childish and I hear of no discipline from you. You seem to think she was old enough to pick out an age/event appropriate dress, but not old enough to not ton damage the wedding dress? YTA and your daughter runs your life. She always will. You'll never be married and live with a decent woman until your daughter and you get therapy. Your daughter and yourself have proven that at least 4 times before. How many times does it take?
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
Why would you want to spend time with, let alone marry, someone with such different views on family and weddings?
Jaime Borris 4 months ago
im a mom of 2. the fashion industry is sexualizing kids younger and younger. i have found more booty shorts for under 10 than knee length, i usually get my daughters shorts from the boy section. if the father is not seeing the problem with his 14yo in this dress he's lying his a*s off. the fact its the 4th fiance says a lot. the girl and her father need major help. where is the girls mom? her daughter is gonna get pregnant before she finishes high school. why did the fiance not go dress shopping with the girl? seems weird it was the dad who took her
Kitty Cat 3 months ago
OP refusing to describe the dress and saying things like "there are no inappropriate dresses on kids" makes me think they live in Redditville and not in reality. There ARE absolutely inappropriate dresses for kids and for weddings. Then he says he's left 4 fiancees because of his daughter, and he's not seeing a pattern? What his fiancee did was wrong, but what he's doing is obviously a failure too. He's also a bad parent, setting his daughter up for failure in life by making her think there are no rules because Reddit says so.
Roberta Surprenant 3 months ago
Has anyone mentioned that Dad went shopping with the teen, SAW the dresss, and still bought it for her? This guy does not need to get married to anyone, he seems to be already married to his daughter.
Lee Gilliland 3 months ago
I'm still trying to figure out how "enjoys making people hate her" NOT a big red flag?
Another Panda 3 months ago
Is this AI? It seems at first the post is talking about the daughter buying and loving the dress, and the fiance hating it, then it switches to the daughter destroying the dress and the fiance crying because she bought it because she loved it.
Sand Ers 3 months ago
Two dresses. Fiancé irreversibly got rid of 14yo daughter’s dress. 14yo daughter retaliated by utterly destroying fiancé’s wedding dress.
Load More Replies... Aelin Wildfire 3 months ago (edited)
Probably not a popular opinion here, but all things considered, IF this woman were to end up going through with the wedding (which I would advise against), I think not inviting the daughter would be a good idea. BECAUSE the daughter has already completely destroyed the wedding dress once, and I wouldn't put it past her to do something else to sabotage the ceremony somehow... The daughter really seems like the A-hole out of the bunch, but the dad's sure trying to compete...
Cadence Thorne 4 months ago
Dude, your daughter is a sociopath and you're a mouthbreathing moron. The dress was słutty. There absolutely ARE inappropriate clothes for kids, and that's one of them. That dress is meant for an adult flamenco dancer, NOT a child. And yes, 14 is a CHILD.
Mark Childers 4 months ago (edited)
How does someone get engaged four times and not have these issues worked out? Why would he propose to someone who does not get alone with the daughter? He is the issue, not the daughter. He seems to want a warm body more than a partner.
CBolt 4 months ago
"to someone who does not get alone with the daughter?" I can't think who COULD get along with her. He's created a "monster."
Load More Replies... ERpaton 4 months ago
People seem to have the wrong idea about what 'sexualising a child' means. Wearing a form fitting red dress with a thing-high slit is actually what is sexualising the child, not peoples' attitudes. It's not a 'slutty' dress, it is simply an adult dress. Would you say I was disgusting for saying it's not appropriate to dress your 10yr old in a bikini and platform heels? Someone pointing that out isn't sexualising a child, it's almost the opposite. I'd love to have worn that at 14. My parents would have let me wear it at a prom or Christmas party, but not at someone's WEDDING. I had a DD chest and a tiny waist, I would have looked like Jessica Rabbit in it. Physically, I was a fully grown woman at that age.
Joanne Mendonza-Earle 4 months ago
That marriage is over b/f it begins. He's raising a crazy, controlling young woman. I wish I could see a pic of the dress though! Is it that red one in the picture above?
Laura A Ivett 1 day ago
Where are the pics of the dress people keep saying they saw? If they were talking about that red dress that's just a stock photo.. and also, I mean the future stepmother did take the daughter's dress and destroy it and the daughter was only returning the favor...
Raven Greer 3 months ago
There are a few different things going on here. 1 The wife stole a dress that belong to your daughter that you bought and your daughter rightful got revenge on this b***h by ruining her dress. That is fair. If one parent is the bio parent then on any disagreement involving the kid your opinion will count for more. Taking that dress was break up worthy and if you made it clear that either she brought the dress back or the wedding was off your kid never would have needed to protect herself by ruining the wedding dress. 2 You did make dumb choice by both agreeing to marry someone your kid doesn't like and by saying she could have any dress. What if she wanted a white dress? Your wife doesn't have a pure 50% control over your daughter, but she should have at least 50% control of the wedding planning and what guest wear is very much something she has a equal say over. Having her help your daughter pick out a dress would have been a nice bonding moment for them.
Raven Greer 3 months ago
Find a women that wants to be a mother and respects you as a parent! It is possible! Also your kid will feel a lot better about you dating if you let them know their feelings matter. My mom made it super clear if I ever for any reason at all disliked a boyfriend of hers for any reason he was gone. (Think she was worried about someone hurting me) That feeling of safety meant I had no problems with her dating. I was always more important then those men and I wanted her to be happy. I bet anything if you tell your daughter that the first few women you have meet her will be told to f off, but after she learns to trust you she will start giving them chance. Nothing is more important then your future wife's compatibly with your daughter. Although why do you think you need to get married? You can be perfectly happy without wife you know.
Load More Replies... Sand Ers 3 months ago
I never got around to mentioning it here when this was current, but I went to the website and took a look at the dress the daughter chose. It comes in a lot of colors, and none of the others are anywhere as provocative as it is in red. There are a pastel yellow and pastel blue especially that looked “pretty”, not “slútty”, which I think would have been perfectly appropriate for a 14yo to wear to a fancy occasion.
tee-lena 3 months ago
While I've got no opinion on whether or not the dress is appropriate what the bride received as payback is completely understood, honestly. Was is wrong? I'm sorry but I don't think so. She reacted like a 14 yr old girl.
Lyoness 3 months ago
Not downvoting but respectfully disagree that being 14 excuses her behaviour. A child (and yes, she's a child) of that age knows it's wrong to destroy someone else's property. Hell, my kids knew that in pre-school. She deliberately destroyed a dress that was likely worth thousands because she was told her dress wasn't appropriate. Stepmom shouldn't have said it was slutty, but that picture shows a dress designed for an adult going to a nightclub or black tie event. It's not appropriate for a 14 year old to wear to a wedding. When her dress was taken away her reaction was to go scorched earth. At her age she should know better and if she doesn't she needs help.
Load More Replies... Hakitosama 4 months ago
"I need to marry eventually lol" ? I think we touched the core of the problem guys. He doesn't want to marry those women because he loves them and thinks they are compatible....he only marries for social status and his own ego. I bet he made 0 efforts to make it work between his daughter and his fiancées.
Jason K 4 months ago
Do men have a best woman? Anyone consider the possibility that this is a lesbian wedding?
CBolt 4 months ago
Yes, they sometimes do if the groom's best friend happens to be a woman.
Load More Replies... bookbuddy 4 months ago
The daughter's dress is too much for a 14-yr old. When I was 14 I was 5'9" and wore a DD bra, so many things looked too sexy on me, and grown men would hit on me not knowing my age. Could she really handle that? My Mom helped me pick dresses that made me look pretty, not slu**y. Yes, we shouldn't sexualize young women, but men will do that regardless, so don't encourage it by choosing a too sexy dress. Women should also be allowed to walk outside after dark, but would it be smart of me to walk down an alley in a bikini? No.
Austin L 4 months ago
This comment is what being part of the problem looks like. Please look up collections of what victims of SA were wearing...
Load More Replies... TennesseeHomesteadUSA 4 months ago
Too many revenge articles ! We're not voyeurs or have questionable taste.
Karen Bird 4 months ago
I've just seen the screenshot of the dress. He's right that it's not going to sexualise a child. It's just a dress! Every 14yo girl wants to think that they're a woman and should be allowed to dress 'grown up'. The fiancee is probably jealous that the kid is going to look better than her! All these people blaming the kid for him losing 4 women aren't looking at the bigger picture. This man appears to have a revolving door of women through the house none of whom seem willing or able to deal with him having a child! You all think the girl is wrong because wedding dresses are expensive but the fiancee was wrong for calling a 14yo a s**t then stealing her dress! The girl wasn't a part of the bridal party so she gets zero say in the dress his daughter wants to wear. If I was the stepmother I'd have complimented her choice then told her I'd get a red wrist corsage to match for her. Why? So I'd be the first one in this parade of women to respect the child!
Lyoness 3 months ago
Not downvoting, just pointing out that the daughter IS (was?) part of the wedding party - she was supposed to be her Dad's MOH (Miss of honour per se).
Load More Replies... Paul C 4 months ago
I can't for the life of me see what the daughter did wrong here. Her dress for the wedding was destroyed, so she destroyed the dress for the wedding of the person who did that. Actions have consequences. I would damn well do the same. For the rest, who knows. If he daughter is really set on destroying all his relationships, why isn't he dealing with that *before* having more relationships? And did he really find 4 women he wanted to marry in less than 10 years (or more accurately, wanted to marry him and into his family)? All makes it sound a little fake.
Broadredpanda 4 months ago
You as a father are absolutely out of order!!!! You s****y fiancée does this then you blame your daughter? And blame her for all the others as well? Even though the first one she was five and was starved all day for being cheeky?? ITS YOU THATS THE PROBLEM!!!! It's disgusting what you actually say on here and I hope your daughter doesn't see this! She's already f***ed up because you're aren't a good dad!! I don't give a damn what other things you may have done for her, your hostility is absolutely shocking! And aimed at the wrong person fool!
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