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Man Is Livid After Fiancée Insists On Inviting His Toxic Parents, Threatens To Cancel Wedding
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Growing up, our parents are our first home. As childhood is a vulnerable period, they help us make sense of the chaotic world and protect us from things that we are not even aware of. And life would be pretty bleak without these pillars of support!
But Reddit user ObjectiveNational517 grew up without the love or support of his mom and dad, who just ignored him. He found a family in his girlfriend’s parents; however, with them soon getting married, she insisted on inviting his toxic parents. He was so furious that he threatened to cancel the wedding.
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The poster’s dad left when he was 4, and after his mom remarried, the stepfather never treated him as his own kid
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Even his mom thought he was a burden and kicked him out when he was in the freshman year of college
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He blocked his family and grew up independently, and 4 years ago, he met a girl whom he decided to marry
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Her family welcomed him with open arms and even she never pushed him about his family as she was aware about how his parents treated him
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However, when they were making a list of wedding guests, she kept on insisting that he invite his parents, at which point he snapped and even threatened to call off the wedding
In today’s tragic story, the original poster (OP) tells us that his dad left his family when he was 4 years of age, and when his mom remarried, the stepdad never treated him like his own son. While OP had never received any paternal love, he also thought that he was a burden to his mom who liked the new family better.
And his fears came true after she kicked him out during his freshman year at college. After that, OP says that he grew up independently, but this abandonment from his parents left deep scars on his mental health. He felt he would live alone forever, till he started dating a girl and then decided to marry her.
His fiancée’s family welcomed him with open arms and she never pushed him about his family as she was well aware of the trauma they had caused him. And all was well for a while till they started inviting people to their wedding. She suddenly started insisting that he invite his parents.
Big shocker, right? Even after he clearly mentioned that they had damaged his mental health, she kept pushing him for it. She even said, “I feel like I might just invite them on my side.” This was probably the last straw for OP because he snapped and said he’d rather cancel the wedding.
Redditors were shocked by the behavior of the fiancée. They said that she was literally hitting him where it hurt. She was constantly bringing back his past and making him remember the horrors he faced when he was abandoned by his parents. And quite honestly, it does sound pretty morbid.
Later, OP gave us an update that his sister was manipulating his fiancée into believing that he wanted to reconcile with the family. Also, his mom and stepdad fought over the fact that he was getting engaged but their 27-year-old was still jobless and living with them.
The sister felt that the family would connect in the wedding, so she lied to the fiancée about OP. He was furious and blocked her. He even claimed that his fiancée also had a lot to work on and they were going to get help and go for couple’s counselling.
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Research suggests that in the United States, more than 7,000 children are abandoned each year. As shocking as this number sounds, we can’t even imagine the pain and suffering that comes attached to abandonment and estrangement from close family. To get expert insights, Bored Panda interviewed Nimisha Katare, a psychologist at The Secret Ingredient.
She said, “Experiencing family estrangement during childhood can deeply affect an individual’s mental health and future relationships. It often leads to diminished self-worth, loneliness, and an increased risk of mood disorders like depression.”
“It can also impair emotional regulation, leading to trust issues and difficulties in managing relationships. These challenges extend beyond personal struggles, affecting overall resilience and coping abilities.”
The Redditors also said that they felt bad for OP as even his stepdad never treated him like his own kids. They said that that must’ve added to his grief as he was already feeling neglected by both his parents. And it does seem like a lot to handle as a teenager.
Nimisha informed us that when a stepparent does not treat a child as their own, it can have significant emotional and psychological impacts on the child. She believes that this situation often disrupts the child’s sense of stability and belonging within the blended family.
“A child who feels excluded or less valued by a stepparent may experience diminished self-esteem and a heightened sense of insecurity. The lack of acceptance from a stepparent can lead to feelings of rejection and unworthiness, which can affect the child’s overall emotional well-being,” she added.
While many criticized the actions of his fiancée, there were a few who tried to look at things from her perspective. They said that as she came from a happy family, she couldn’t understand how a dysfunctional family can impact a kid. They stressed that he should sit her down and explain the importance of developing boundaries even with close family as they have caused harm.
Nimisha also said, “As a psychologist, I often emphasize that boundaries are like the walls of a house; they protect your personal space and prevent others from intruding or causing damage. When boundaries are not set, especially with family members who have been emotionally harmful, you risk perpetuating a cycle of hurt and discomfort. And without clear boundaries, the emotional and psychological toll can be severe.”
Well, it looks like a healthy discussion about boundaries might help the couple overcome their conflict. What do you think? Just scroll down and leave your thoughts in the comments!
The Redditors empathized with him and called out his toxic parents and even his fiancée for pushing him
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JK 4 months ago
OP shared an update: the sister was behind it all, manipulating the fiancée to believe he was "too embarrassed to tell her/admit he wanted to reconcile" and even that OP accepted partial responsibility for the split in his family (yeah, i know, psycho much!). He's gone NC with sister and him and fiancée are undertaking couples counselling to try and work through it. Link here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1embsvo/updates_fiancé_trying_to_invite_my_parents/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1
TribbleThinking 4 months ago
HUGE overstep on her part. I'd be tempted to ditch. However, if you were so inclined, offer couples therapy. Any future bride of yours would need to understand that it's not just a matter of your parents on your wedding day, but also exposing you and your children to people WITH PROVEN ABUSIVE BEHAVIOUR.
JK 4 months ago
OP shared an update: the sister was behind it all, manipulating the fiancée to believe he was "too embarrassed to tell her/admit he wanted to reconcile" and even that OP accepted partial responsibility for the split in his family (yeah, i know, psycho much!). He's gone NC with sister and him and fiancée are undertaking couples counselling to try and work through it. Link here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1embsvo/updates_fiancé_trying_to_invite_my_parents/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=1
TribbleThinking 4 months ago
HUGE overstep on her part. I'd be tempted to ditch. However, if you were so inclined, offer couples therapy. Any future bride of yours would need to understand that it's not just a matter of your parents on your wedding day, but also exposing you and your children to people WITH PROVEN ABUSIVE BEHAVIOUR.
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