He "started laughing and drove away" while she was crying. And since she's reconsidering her relationship with this person, any educated guess is that he hasn't apologized or shown any remorse.

Re-read it. That IS NOT what she wrote. You could not put "while she was crying" in the quotes because YOU stated that is what happened, but that isn't what OP stated. An equally educated guess is that he made what he thought was a funny joke (it was not), she was upset by it but didn't tell him, and people online decided he was a horrible person based of a story where they failed to follow the sentence structure.

Considering that he had to scope out a house with a For Sale sign that also had Under Contract on it to show her for his “prank”, it was beyond a shadow of a doubt not done on the fly. There was what the legal profession calls Malice Aforethought involved in this, as it was planned to do mental and emotional harm to OP and malicious happiness to her fiancé from causing then witnessing her distress. The fact that he wasn’t immediately and sincerely remorseful is very telling. Even though OP didn’t say it outright, the fact that she’s questioning whether she’s overreacting tells me he has been telling her “it’s just a joke”—-the abuser’s favorite lame excuse when called out—-and trying to gaslight her into questioning her very valid feelings about what he did, so he can walk away scot free and with a cleared (by her questioning herself) conscience, as well as no consequences which will only embolden him to do it again, and maybe even escalate it a bit next time, until his “pranks” turn into mental and emotional—-and eventually physical, they always end up adding physical—-torture for OP. She needs to leave, and leave now. If she gives him a second chance, she’ll end up leaving again and giving him a third chance, until she’s just a shell of her real self.

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My god, you built a huge amount of supposition into that story. What do you know about the guy beyond the fake house story? You created a whole person based off a point in time. I can do that too: For Christmas, he is going to bring her back to the house. But he really did buy it and only took her the first time to be sure she'd like it! (My story contains just as much stated data as yours... and is likely equally wrong.)

Thin edge of the wedge, my friend. If he’ll do something cruel like this as a “prank”, then try hard as he can to gaslight her into doubting her own 100% valid feelings about it—-which is typical behavior for people like him—-what worse “prank” will he pull when he actually means it?

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What make it intentionally cruel and malicious as opposed to just stupid? Does the unfunny funny guy even know it upset OP? I didn't read that.

It literally says she hasn't stopped crying. What makes itcruel and malicious is the forethought he had to put in. Had to find a house under contract, had to come up with a reason to get her there, had to find a route that would take them by that house.

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When you state "it doesn't sound like he had any remorse or apologized at all", where is his response that makes you say that? I didn't see where it says she cried in front of him or let him know in any way how much his "joke" sucked...

R Dennis, If she's crying and he's laughing, he's not showing any remorse. If my husband played a prank (which he wouldn't because he's not 12) and I started crying, he would not start laughing and he would immediately apologize.

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LLLS, It does not say he laughed while she was crying. You are conflating two things. I was raised to assume innocence. If she said that she was crying and he laughed at her, I would agree he is not a good person. That isn't what she said.

Apparently a certain segment of the population has never experienced cruelty at the hands of a so-called "partner" and therefore is unable to recognize abuse and cruelty when it manifests. Perhaps they should shut the f**k up about things of which they know nothing.

So you curse at me based on a story that you built out in your own head? She didn't say she was crying and he laughed at her. She didn't even say he knew she was upset. You just took a couple sentences and built your own fantasy out of them based on your personal experience, not anything that was stated. I merely state that there isn't a clear sign that it was intended to be anything more than a bad joke or prank. But instantly, this person you know nothing about other than he said "started laughing and said "nope"" is this horrible individual. She didn't say "He said nope, I started to cry and he laughed." But that what you created in your mind. Can you imagine me deciding who you are based off your last sentence? The difference though is you actually wrote that profane insult...

"He started laughing and said 'nope'...I haven't stopped crying" is LITERALLY what she wrote! Learn to read, you f*****g moron.