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The “Fight The Patriarchy” Facebook Page Shares 50 Truthful Posts And Memes That Might Make You Laugh Then Cry
Equality, social justice—it’s 2022 and by now, many of us assume that it’d be common sense for more or less everyone to respect their fellow human beings, no matter their gender, race, or creed. However, the reality is very different. If you want justice, it’s a constant struggle, an uphill battle.
Despite progress having been made in the fight for gender equality in recent decades, sadly, there’s a lot of regression happening at the same time. Women’s rights aren’t as protected as they might seem. You only need to take a look at how Roe v. Wade was overturned in the United States to see that your rights are built on far shakier foundations than they would seem.
‘Fight the Patriarchy’ is a Facebook page that touches upon a wide variety of social issues, from sexism and misogyny to toxic masculinity and worker exploitation, and more. We’ve collected some of their most powerful feminist posts to share with you, Pandas. Scroll down and share your thoughts about these issues in the comments. Let us know what you care about the most, what you’re doing to make the world a better place, and what you think needs to happen in the world for there to be more justice.
A representative of 'Fight the Patriarchy' told Bored Panda that the page was started a few years ago "to help my fellow leftist intersectional feminists realize they can support preborn rights alongside the rights of everyone else. We don't have to choose, we can fight against all oppression."
Meanwhile, writer Ariane Sherine was kind enough to share her thoughts about sexism, social justice, and gender equality with Bored Panda. In her opinion, it's the fear of women's power and a resentment that they're growing stronger that lie at the core of sexism and misogyny. "It's not as easy to subjugate us anymore. Of course, men still hold most of the power and wield male privilege, but they're being held to account more and more, and many of them aren't happy about this at all," she said.
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Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
i dont get the problem people have with it my auntie has been with her partner since i was a kid and i just consider her my other auntie just like i would consider a guy my uncle if she was with a guy they are married so she is her wife simple as that
Bender Bending Rodríguez 3 years ago
Allow me to explain in my ESL: OP is protesting to their family by referring to relative's spouses as their friend instead referring to spouses as so and so's husband/wife. This is due to family members referring to lesbian aunt's wife as aunt's friend. Example: Is aunty Sue and her friend(husband) jerry coming? Example: Does cousin Brian will be bringing her friend (wife) Sarah.
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According to the representative of the 'Fight the Patriarchy' project, what lies at the core of social injustice is privileged groups thinking that they're superior to unprivileged groups.
"Each generation of privileged individuals get taught that they are somehow special and they continue on the oppression of the underprivileged," they said.
"Whether we're talking about men acting superior to women, born humans acting superior to preborn humans, cishet individuals acting superior to LGBTQIA+ individuals, white folks acting superior to POC, humans acting superior to nonhuman animals, or able-bodied individuals acting superior to the disabled, what would need to change is each of these privileged groups being open to how they or their ideologies have harmed the underprivileged."
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Kimberley Gayle Thomas 3 years ago
Am I the only one who thinks this should be embroidered on a pillow?
Potato 3 years ago
This comment made no sense. No one mentioned "toxic" feminism. And clearly you see a difference between toxic feminism and regular feminism, if you are going to say toxic masculinity is a problem but men need to go back to being masculine. But here's some truth for you: if a man wants to be "feminine" he has every right to be if it doesn't oppress or otherwise hurt others. You sound EXACTLY like who this guy is talking about, because you are clearly feeling threatened. There is nothing unhealthy about men doing things that are "soft" if that's what they enjoy. You want to be masculine? Go for it. But take the toxic bs elsewhere.
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Nathaniel 3 years ago
Man here. Yes. This is absolutely correct, I cannot applaud this sentiment enough.
Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
i also agree its like saying i dont murder people so im special no its normal behavior
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
It’s sad that the standard for us is so low that by just not hurting someone we’ve done something great.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
This. We’re supposed to praise you because you don’t beat us every day? We’re supposed to praise you because you “babysit” YOUR children for a couple hours ONCE while your wife gets to leave the house and have some fun for the first time since they were born? We’re supposed to praise you for doing the dishes or the laundry or vacuuming ONCE? What f*****g planet are you from? Do 👏 not 👏 expect 👏 us 👏 to 👏 throw 👏 you 👏 a 👏 goddamn 👏 parade 👏 for 👏 just 👏 doing 👏 the 👏 bare 👏 minimum👏. You’re supposed to be doing those things anyway, because sharing responsibilities is what normal mature adults in equitable committed relationships DO.
AwesomeLeoWife 3 years ago
I understand the sentiment but what an awful way to say it. Every good boss/parent/person knows that acknowledging positive actions/behaviors encourages continuation of said behavior. Downplaying the good ones like this is not going to encourage more good.
Jaya 3 years ago
I have to say I disagree. I don't think this is downplaying good men, to me these are not examples of doing something good, but of doing the bare minimum that he should be doing. It's difficult to imagine, but there are plenty of girls who grow up watching their mother get treated so badly by her partner(s), and then get treated badly by their first boyfriend themselves, that they think it's normal to get hit, raped, cheated on. If another woman tells them her man has never done any of that, they are really surprised and think 'wow, you are really lucky to get such a great guy'. It is super important to tell these girls 'no, I did not get lucky, this is actually normal. It is normal behaviour for a man to treat his partner with respect. He is not a special or amazing man for being like this, these are examples of a normal man (and yes of course he is amazing, but not for this reason)'. Saying these are good men, implies that they would still be okay men if they did less than this.
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Duncan Rogers 3 years ago
Sadly based on so many factual accounts to the contrary, the men described are special. We resist the pressure of others who equate sex with power. So, until my gender does a hell of a lot better in its treatment of women and raises the bar significantly, then I fear those men will remain somewhat special.
Xan Maranya 3 years ago (edited)
These days we need to recognize that respect for women Is special... so that it will become normal
Ross Perry 3 years ago
I understand the undertone being communicated here and agree with it. However I do want to take issue with the use of the word special. I believe that every person is special, precious even in the eyes of God. Therefore I believe each person should try to see every other person as in some way special and precious (If not to us personally then to someone). I know that there will be a long list of characters in whom I would struggle to identify the special or the precious. Before people wade in to down vote or to dish out some hate, let me explain: Having been on the receiving end of "you're not special, you're not worth anything, you're useless" I am trying to counteract that by being the change I want to see. I am not by any stretch of the imagination condoning the negative behaviour described, merely commenting on the word special.
Ross Perry 3 years ago
Perhaps instead of "are not special" we could say "should not be unusual".
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Susan Widomski 3 years ago
However, if they traded duties like one is good at cooking and the other isn't - that's ok too.
They told Bored Panda that justice will come when people "can be deprogrammed from the oppression they were raised to believe is 'just how life works.'"
'Fight the Patriarchy' believes that sexism and toxic masculinity are issues that definitely can be solved. "Cismen need to be able to have an open mind and hear people out as well as tackle the prejudices that have been instilled in them by society. Capitalism, religion, white supremacy, patriarchy, born supremacy, and human supremacy are all detrimental power structures that have harmed vulnerable groups, but it doesn't have to be this way. The individuals who these systems benefit have to do the work to unpack that within themselves."
In writer Ariane's opinion, there's generally more social progress and gender equality nowadays than a few decades ago. "I mean, when my mum gave birth to me in 1980, she was expected by society to give up work and look after her kids. As a highly intelligent woman working as a university lecturer, having worked super-hard, prioritized her career and risen up the ranks until this point, this wasn't fair or right," the writer told Bored Panda.
"This wouldn't be an expectation these days—jobs are held open for women and it's illegal to fire someone because they're pregnant," she said, adding that it's also illegal not to hire someone in the first place just because they're pregnant.
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Minath 3 years ago
In my experience old ladies are a lot more badass than we give them credit for.
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
It because their badass is stealthy. You don't think about this lil old lady like that. All you see is the cookie baking, sweater knitting side. Then, when the time is right, the badass side is shown, and Granny drops the savage.
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LittleWombat 3 years ago
This Nathan creature is every red flag 🚩 🚩 🚩 Women, this is exactly what we know to protect ourselves from!!!! He hates women on some deep, deep level. I feel so very sorry for any women in his orbit and hope they get away and get therapy!!!
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Me, an Asexual: "Have you heard the Good News about garlic bread?"
Daniel O'Neal 3 years ago
Seriously. They call liberals "snowflakes" but they absolutely have a breakdown when they see someone who isn't heterosexual on tv.
Mike Price 1 year ago
We should warn all you anti-liberals out there that winter is coming. And with winter, snowflakes. Billions of them. And with snowflakes, blizzards, snowdrifts, avalanches . . . . .
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Kate Jones 3 years ago
This is so true. No one is more about forcing their lifestyle on another person against their will, and even violently, like a religious zealot. Margorie Taylor Greene put out a memo not long ago about how she is trying to create a law forcing all American's to be practicing Christians or else basically get deported or killed (for non-american's, she's this batshit crazy politician here who jokes about killing gay people and is a huge racist. She's also a qanon conspiracy theorist). So someone told her...well what if someone tried to force you to practice the Muslim faith, how would you feel? And she practically had a fit about it. But she can't see the hypocrisy. It's so crazy.
Blarrg 3 years ago
Marjorie is indeed insane, but I can't find any mention of what you're talking about anywhere online. I feel like that would have made the news. Can anyone find this story? I couldn't even find a fact-check on it, implying that not only is it not true, but it's also not really a story that got circultated. Please let me know if I'm mistaken.
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Years ago was dating a guy, hanging out in the living room at his parents house , saw a couple of Jehovah Witnesses walking up the driveway. They rang the bell and when the guy I was seeing opened the door I heard " have you found Jesus ? " reply " no, I didn't hear he was lost".
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
After years of answering the door with "hail satan" they finally stopped coming to my house after we put a Buddha statue in our yard. We're not Buddhist, it was a gift, but for some reason that lovely statue now makes them skip my house
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Paul Mitchell 3 years ago
People who go door to door trying to get converts are tossers no matter what they are peddling. Politicians take note!
Reinaldo Fuentes 3 years ago (edited)
Yes, but, also, this image is the LITERAL opening of SO MANY gay porn vidz. Like I'm squinting hard to see if these are genuine Mormons or porn actors I recognize.
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StrangeOne 3 years ago
If all a dad is doing is focusing on the mom to "take care of her" then is he really taking care of her and the baby? *rhetorical*. Hormones are raging even after birth, and we're f*****g exhausted. Please change the diaper, let us pump out a nights worth of milk, console the crying, rock the baby while we have a nights sleep. It shouldn't be asking for so much. It should be a vital given so we're not endangering the baby and ourselves with extreme fatigue from sleep deprivation. forced sleep deprivation is actually a from of torture. It wasn't 1 person who made a baby. It was 2. It takes 2 people to raise a child healthily. It's not "just for moms", "women's work", "girl stuff". It's parents stuff, and parents includes dads.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
Matt Walsh would never. To him that's a woman's job and he wouldn't deprive her of it because as a good christian woman, his wife knows her place. He is a christian fundamentalist who pretty much hates women, gay people, trans people, anyone who isn't a christian, etc. The point of paternity leave is to bond with your baby and help each other lean how to navigate with this new life. Whether you give birth or not. By the way, do people who adopt children not deserve maternity or paternity leave, either? I despise him so much. he's such a turd.
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RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
Hmm idk maybe as a starting point cook dinner, clean, maybe buy some milk formulas and take the midnight feeding session, feed the baby during the day too, burp it, play with it, take care of your wife, go to the grocery store instead of her, do the laundry give her a night w her friends if she wants. There’s lots to do ur just stupid.
RezFidel 3 years ago
Matt facking Walsh. Goddamn i hate this misogynistic pseudointellectual hairy potter shitposter.
joel_ 3 years ago
Haha. Comments like this is what fuels his passion. Sweet daddy Walsh is our theocratic fascist dictator! Sbg for life!
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zububonsai 3 years ago
I really, really hope Matt Walsh will never find anybody to reciprocate with.
joel_ 3 years ago
Well his wife is pregnant with babies 5&6! SBG for life
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Amber.exe (She/They) 3 years ago
I hate Matt Walsh not only because he is completely useless as a husband and dad,but also very transphobic
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
I think whenever you have to take care of anyone, it gets exhausting. Should caregivers also get a break?
"There are more single women than ever and studies show we're happier than partnered women on average too. Women can have a baby without needing a partner, childcare is more widely available too, and only people stuck in the Dark Ages think less of women who work and put their kids in nursery," Ariane said.
"However, Roe v. Wade being overturned was a devastating blow for women's reproductive rights and I truly feel for women of childbearing age in America right now. It's an incredibly regressive step and I hope they manage to reverse it," she commented on the recent news in the US.
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StrangeOne 3 years ago
My step-mom once told me "Baby fat?! You're kid is 3 years old. No excuse." She's an adult now and I still have round tummy.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
A round tummy is cute. I'm a woman and I find that attractive on other women. We are made /created / evolved to have curves
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For so many years I hated my body becuase my stomach isn’t as flat as a board it has a bulge and rolls when I sit. Like that’s jut bodys. I need room for my organs.
And i was like WTF!! 3 years ago (edited)
I am sorry, but who said that mom bods arent acceptable?? Nowadays people are effing stupid ffs, if you are not ripped or slim af you are ugly or unatractive... We need a new ice age
Randolph Croft 3 years ago
Personally, I prefer mum bods. They're so much more lovely. But I'm a comfort-seeking sort of guy.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Belly (and boobs) and a bum, just like a woman but then on a man and accepted!
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Dirk Daring 3 years ago
OK, but I don't remember us being the ones who decided that dad bods were cool.
Sharron Lindsay 3 years ago
Really? It seems to me that a lot of men believe that dad bods are cool
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Marianne 3 years ago
Exactly! This is why I can't wrap my head around people who oppose same sex marriage. It has no impact on anyone else's life, but a great positive impact on the lives of homosexual people who want to marry their partner. Why would that be a problem to anyone?
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Probably for little reason other than that they want to hurt gay people. :/
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John Smith 3 years ago
My god if we don't pointlessly stand against this thing that doesn't effect me in the slightest, how will be able to control people in ways they shouldn't be controlled. It will be anarchy. At this rate people are going to be happy and free..
Monday 3 years ago
Oh no we can't have that! Best continue to loudly proclaim our irrelevant opinions about situations we have never experienced!
Load More Replies... RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
Fun fact: it’s not choosing. I’m trans, I was born in a female body w a male brain to simplify it. The problem isint that we’re not allowed to choose our gender, it’s that we’re being forced into the wrong gender and no one’s letting us out.
AwesomeLeoWife 3 years ago
What’s the difference between a man’s brain and a woman’s brain?
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
Thing is, they’re not “choosing their own gender”. They always were the gender you say they’re “choosing”, they’re just finally embracing their authentic selves and becoming what they should’ve been all along. And yeah, WTF difference does it really make to some busybody nosing into something that’s none of their business and won’t have any affect on their lives at all? NONE. Just take care of your own totally f****d life, and be happy for—-plus supportive of—-someone else who’s just trying to unfuck theirs.
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Laura Ketteridge 3 years ago
I so wish she was this powerful. Having a healthy population does wonders for a country, as well as the individuals.
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago (edited)
I’m just waiting for AOC to reach the minimum age to run for President. She will be a truly great President, a breath of fresh air, a leader we can all be proud of. Another FDR or JFK—-and is even already easily identified by her initials. I say this as a 61 year old woman who is sick to death of the same old same old wealthy white male senior citizens when it comes to our leaders. Obama’s elections and administration was refreshing, AOC’s will be the same.
According to Ariane, the fight against sexism and toxic masculinity is a never-ending one, but an important one.
"We've taken great progressive strides from where we were in the 1950s when women were expected to be Stepford Wives, so in another 70 years, we may achieve parity with men. At least, that's my hope. And even if the fight against sexism is a constant, never-ending battle, it's one we must never concede."
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I watch an awful lot of true crime and the sheer number of murders which happened because some pathetic a*****e couldn't handle being told no is f*****g insane.
BetterBitterButter 3 years ago
Unfortunately that's true! I also have seen news reports where saying no to a guy ended a girl's life.
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Laika-Mutton 3 years ago
Not just rejection; I've seen way too many books/articles on if a marriage is failing the woman needs to fix it, how to bring up issues with spouse or SO in a tactful manner, even how to be a manager without offending male employees. Every onus is on the woman.
Anne McKinney 3 years ago
I just watched my brother yesterday keep harassing a server when she had already told him she's not interested. I tried to explain to him what he did that is so offensive but he completely blew me off and said she didn't mind at all. He's a jackass and I'm glad he was only visiting from out of town and I don't have to deal with his being an idiot on a regular basis.
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
All you have to do is check out programs that show "real" people breaking up or needing to breakup and you will see the insanity that both partners can inject in the relationship. Perhaps there is just too much emotion involved.
Local foodie 3 years ago
The problem isn’t that men won’t listen, it’s that they’ve been taught that they don’t have to
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Kate 3 years ago
I don't get this -- I mean, I'm 42, and when dad took us someplace or when mom was away, no one ever said dad was babysitting us.
Sandeep Patel 3 years ago
It seems to be a recent thing, ive had people say im babysiting my own kid when my wife went out for the day. I would always say im not babysitting my own child
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Aboredpanda 3 years ago (edited)
I've told both men and women off for this. I won't tolerate someone saying this. When women say it it takes parental power from men. When men say it it absolves them of parental responsibility. Both are unnacceptable.
Kitty Jordan 3 years ago
I also love the, "Who's with the kiddo?" whenever I go out alone. Um, her dad? You know, the other half of her DNA? That guy? No one ever asks him who's with the kid when he goes out alone. Strange!
StrangeOne 3 years ago
When a dad refers to it as "babysitting" then he hasn't accepted he is a dad and still has the mentality of a child.
Maria Veronica 3 years ago
The problem is not only the word, but the mentality behind, my husband think he has done the BIG sacrifice, the ULTIMATE favor when he put an eye on our children and then he needs sleep 12 hours as reward hahaahah
Duncan Rogers 3 years ago
As a SAHD...I can't tell y'all how much it pissed me off when I would take my son to the playground and a sizeable majority of other adults there (mostly moms and nannies) would say that to me. That it was 'soooo nice that you are babysitting' your son. I got so flipped out once I stood on the end of the slide and announced, for all to hear and heed, that men with children on a playground are NOT solely babysitters. However, men around the children on a playground that aren't related to any of them...Now that is a problem.
Ross Perry 3 years ago
Also a SAHD - I'm glad you stood up for yourself. But be glad the Moms engage with you at all. I get blanked (even f2f) by many
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Call Me Mars 3 years ago (edited)
There was a male at my school who came in wearing a shirt that said "Guinness." as is the beer. Nobody said a word. And my sister can't wear short shirts that barely show any skin? My friend with a big chest can't show a tiny bit of bra strap? My curls are "distracting?" WTF?
Call Me Mars 3 years ago
Also, on my curls, I have cut them into a pixie cut, and the nape of my neck shows. I'm not changing anything about my hair. You should be paying attention, not looking at me.
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Helen Waight 3 years ago
I was told that my chest size was ‘inappropriate and distracting’ at school and ordered to wear extra baggy clothing to hide it. Including during a heat wave. Once a boss told me off for wearing a v neck top because it ‘called attention’ and told me to wear a turtleneck. Heck no, if the other women in the office with smaller chests can wear v necks then so can I! Nothing a woman wears should be implied as ‘asking for it’
Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I saw recently a school that banned shorts for girls. So the boys started coming to school in skirts. Oddly enough, the rule was revoked.
Mil 3 years ago
As far as it is equal, I understand dress codes. If nobody is allowed to wear tank tops or shorts then OK. The reason being schools are a controlled environment where there are agreements and conventions, and families often choose a particular school for its conventions. The problem is when the dress code is based on the impact of displaying elbows, shoulders or knees while being female as it encourages sexual impulses and the effort required to suppress those impulses is beyond our expectations for the male members of a community. That's what's wrong.
Ross Perry 3 years ago
Agree! Dress codes should be equivalent. I once got asked to write a dress code by the Head of HR at a company I was contracting at. Nightmare.
Load More Replies... RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
No but you guys. You don’t understand… knees and shoulders are distracting. Like how do I work when I can see someone’s shoulders./s
The founders of the ‘Fight the Patriarchy’ Facebook page describe themselves as feminists who are “determined to fight injustice everywhere.”
“We're intersectional, so we fight sexism,” they explain. At the time of writing, the page had 27k followers who react and comment on the latest posts that deal with gender relations, examples of injustice, and screenshots of people tackling sexism in everyday life.
Most recently, many people in the US and around the world have been in an uproar about Roe v. Wade being overturned by the Supreme Court. What this means is that each state in the US now has the ability to decide whether or not abortions are legal. Some have expressed fears that due to this, women’s rights have experienced a huge setback.
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Helen Waight 3 years ago
Every single woman I know has either been a victim of sexual assault or sexual harassment. Where are these mystical women they expect to get on a jury?
Vanja Vidovic 3 years ago
They don't expect women to be on a jury in such cases, I think they even prefer when there are no women!
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Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I've always been heavy and physically unattractive. I've never had a boyfriend, and have never been on a date. I have, however, been sexually assaulted.
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Al Christensen 3 years ago
Conservatives: living their lives the way they want to, which includes demanding everyone everywhere be exactly like them.
FabulousMari 3 years ago
SMALLER GOVERNMENT! STATE'S RIGHTS! THE CONSTITUTION! ***but also, would like to dictate what women are allowed to do with their bodies and control the individual rights of others, and make people adhere to some rando form of pseudo-Christianity that they only sometimes agree with...
Load More Replies... Xan Maranya 3 years ago
I've noticed a great lack of sense of humor among conservatives. Poor things.
David Zumwalt 3 years ago
We don't care what you do. Just leave us alone. I dgaf if you're gay, it's not an accomplishment. Congratulations, you are attracted to another human. Big deal!. Pay you own student debt! Climate change cannot be taxed out of existence. Socialism is another word for marxism. Blm is a domestic terrorist organization. Biden is a pedo. Dems are a train wreck.
Tamra 3 years ago
People asking you to respect their pronouns isn't in the same ballpark as the bigoted Christian nationalists that are trying to take over the US, ffs.
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tabitha knipp 3 years ago
Ok with what exactly? With pointing out that conservatives are constantly and consistently trying to ensure we stay as straight, white and xtian as possible? It's true. If you're offended, I'm gonna guess you're one of them. Conservatives are so fragile. Little snowflakes.
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John Smith 3 years ago
Personally I think the worst thing about the #MeToo is the fact it needs to exist at all. We are, supposedly, evolved enough as a species that this sort of rubbish shouldn't be happening.
Laika-Mutton 3 years ago
I like this. It also reminds me of how often women are seen as a collective ("all women are emotional, all women want to get married, etc., etc.,") , which tees me off to no end and isn't so loudly protested as when the "#notallmen" came about.
doubledutch 3 years ago
Everyone knows this and we're not saying it's not true. Way to miss the point
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Celebrity expert Mike Sington shared with Bored Panda earlier that it’s very important for public figures and stars to denounce the Supreme Court’s decision.
"Celebrities and public figures speaking out against Roe v. Wade being overturned has been very important, especially for young people. Freedom of choice has been a right granted to Americans for 50 years, so younger people don’t know what a world is like without that freedom," Mike said.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
High heels were originally menswear anyway! The heel was for keeping your feet in the stirrups while you were riding around swinging swords and whatnot.
Randolph Croft 3 years ago
For reference, most 'cowboy boots' have 2" heels. To start with.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Also the Vikings, whose culture (or an approximation thereof) white supremacists are so fond of appropriating were a bunch of dandies who loved pretty things and having their hair done up nicely.
Maria Veronica 3 years ago (edited)
I responded something like that to a coworker (an old dude) when he said he hates so much that boys use makeup these days, but he really likes the days when my country was a Spanish colony hahahaha
Cyndielouwhoo 3 years ago
Trevor Noah was just saying in a recent episode that the founding fathers have far more in common with drag queens than "traditonal men".
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
Don't forget the evolution or the skirt or dress for men and women.
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LittleWombat 3 years ago
THIS!!!!!! This is why I could never support those campaigns even though the cause affected my family. Who cares if a woman loses the boobs if it saves her life?! That's one of the hardest things to deal with for a woman with breast cancer and the campaigns are suggesting that saving the breasts themselves is what matters. Save the women!!! Women are fine, whether they have a mastectomy and do or do not have reconstruction surgery. Their survival is the win!
StrangeOne 3 years ago
This is how I feel when I see bras being hung along Main st. in apparently to bring awareness to breast cancer month. It literally looks like a frat house ransacked all the female college dorms and sorority houses and stole all the bras and hung them up downtown as a joke. It doesn't give me any thoughts to cancer at all.
Ansi 3 years ago
Do they hang jockstraps too for prostata cancer? No? Shouldn't that give the same vibe as bras? 🤷♀️
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Lori Harper 3 years ago
Three times, breast cancer tried to kill my mother. In January, breast cancer won and she passed away...
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
People deserve kindness and making their own decisions when it comes to their own health. I have lost too many people in my life to cancer of anything to care about MY choices. Just support them, educate them, love them. If the cancer spreads to other parts of their bodies, do we say - don't lose the part of the liver or the colon or for men - the prostate? Nope. Give them all the attention you and support their decision.
Anne Kilpatrick 3 years ago
My sister and another friend who've had breast cancer send things that say "save the tatas", etc. every October. It doesn't bother them at all. They believe some attention is better than no attention to the problem.
Karen Lyon 3 years ago
Amen to that! One of SILs and my stepnephew's wife are breast cancer survivors. I want them here, being Mom and Grandma to the beautiful kids in their family. Period.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
🙄 Speaking of pronouns, maybe a funny story is in order. I'm part of a queer meetup group, and one of our regulars is gender fluid. Being relatively new to the whole pronouns thing, I of course wanted to be sensitive and polite so when we all got together at a bar I asked "Excuse me but what pronouns should I use?" and the response I got was "Oh I don't care, honey, as long as you love me!". I went back to the other people I'd been talking to and said "Well I asked [name] what pronouns I should use, but I didn't get a (wait for it) *straight* answer!" They all started giggling. 😂
dayedin (he/she/they) 3 years ago
As someone who is genderfluid, I can confirm that I would be okay with literally anything. Some days I may feel a stronger connection to certain pronouns then others, but I am generally okay with everything. You want to call me She? Alright. He? Just as good. They? Yeah, I go by they. Ze/Zir? Sure! Never tried those but why not?
Load More Replies... Mil 3 years ago
If you just stop to consider that you have to accept Kehynnsleigh, Bhuttox and Misheenayah as valid forms of address, how can you argue with "they/them"? It's a waste of language awareness. Let language change and serve a purpose if it helps anyone anywhere even the smallest bit.
Xan Maranya 3 years ago
Pronouns? You mean like we learned in grade school? "I" "you" "we" "us" "he" "she" "it" "they" "them" ?
"I think it’s the sensitive issues like this that celebrities have the most impact on because it tells the public they are not alone in the feeling of despair they are having by a fundamental right being taken away," he told us.
"The impact celebrities have will not be on the Supreme Court itself, and I don’t expect it to change the opinions of politicians either. What celebrities can do is drive people to the polls this November to actually change who the politicians are representing them," the expert said that the political impact of the decision will be felt in the autumn of 2022.
"Other rights granted by the Supreme Court are now in jeopardy, so it will be important to have political representatives in place that can turn those rights into laws," he told Bored Panda.
"I’m on Twitter a lot, and I’ve seen nothing but widespread condemnation of the Court’s opinion. Polling confirms what I’m seeing on Twitter. The vast majority of Americans support a woman’s right to choose."
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Maria Veronica 3 years ago
This is true for everything, thousands of years of abuse and injustice, but men and some women are whining for every tiny sugestion of respond or protest, like "I hate feminism in movies" or "feminism ruin cinema", come on! cine was sexist and chauvinist since... forever, and nobody complains
Xan Maranya 3 years ago
You may say I'm a dreamer, but imagine all the men and women living together in peace.
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TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
Now this i don't get, i don't understand the hatred towards Trans ppl, i mean its not like Trans women are going to schools at tell kids to chop off their d***s, i get the " unlove " for Trans women in sport competitivos, because a Trans woman Will have an unfair advantage Over a cis woman, but a part from that " live and let live "
Nathaniel 3 years ago
There is a thought, not my thought, that boys will pretend to be girls in order get access to locker rooms where they can get their jollies off. Apparently it is "easier" for men to rape women if we allow transgender women into women's spaces. These people are fucktards.
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Xan Maranya 3 years ago
Simply said, we are all better off when people are accepted as they are.
Istax 3 years ago
the thing is, there are a lot of people saying that girls who like the colour blue, play sport, etc, are actually boys. I'm a lesbian and I have short hair and only wear trousers etc, and so many people have told me I'm "probably trans" just because I do stuff typically for men. Being masculine DOESN'T make you trans. what's concerning is that a lot of pretty dodgy people are telling teenage girls that if they prefer stuff typically for boys, or feel uncomfortable with their bodies, then they're "probably a trans boy".
Ozacoter 3 years ago
Indeed. I have been told twice that i must be a closeted trans man because i am gender non conforming. Many trans people just have very sexist notions of whats "femenine" and "masculine". We need to erase gender roles not enforce them.
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Hex Gurls 3 years ago
i’ve gone to public school for several years and then a private christian school. at the public school, where i was apparently, according to right wingers, forced to be trans because of the left agenda. i was not. however, at the christian school, i have been very often told NOT to be trans and that is a sin (i am not trans, even).
Jaya 3 years ago
The fact that you didn't know any at the time, is probably because: Most people who had transitioned only told their closest friends and family, because of the very realistic fear of not being accepted, getting ostracized, ridiculed. And the chance of getting beaten up, raped or even murdered. Some trans people don't look more masculine/feminine than other women/men, so you may have known trans people without knowing it, who were simply in the closet, whereas nowadays it's much safer to be out (in some parts of the world) But yes, lots of trans people didn't transition, they were actually still trans on the inside, they were just way too scared to transition or even tell anyone about their feelings, because it was not accepted. So they were trans, you just didn't know, and they were unhappily stuck in the wrong gender for their whole life. There are a lot of elderly people who have transitioned in the last 10-20 years, who had wanted to transition 50 years ago but were too scared.
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Karo 3 years ago
You can’t provide your mom or sister with health insurance? Is this standard in US?
Biofish23 3 years ago
Yes! In fact I've never heard of a health insurance plan that would allow you to. Most of us get insurance through our employers and have the option of adding (at a significant cost) coverage for a spouse and minor children. We had legislation just a few years ago though allowed us to insure our children until age 25. Before that it was usually 18 or 21 if we could prove they were a full time student.
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Brian 3 years ago
It would depend on if they are listed as your dependents. If your mom is capable of working, then she should have her own insurance. If your sister is young enough, she should be on your mom's insurance. If they are disabled, or otherwise unable to receive their own insurance, and you serve as their caretaker or guardian, then you would be able to list them as dependents.
Sexism is arguably far more deeply rooted in society than it might first appear. For instance, human rights advocate Elizabeth Arif-Fear explained to Bored Panda that the gender pay gap that exists in workplaces is a gross violation of women’s rights.
“Discrimination includes women being denied work, in preference for men due to maternity leave allowances. Due to the imbalance between caring for children and housework among male/female partnerships—which is still prevalent across the globe—women are left juggling a high amount of childcare and work which places extra demands on women,” she shared her thoughts with us during an earlier interview.
“Practical barriers add an extra burden onto women. Beyond childcare, women in leadership is an area that is evolving but there is still a massive glass ceiling. We need more women in leadership positions,” she shared one of the ways how gender inequality could be reduced.
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Minath 3 years ago
We shouldn't need to but we fear the reaction if we don't and you know what, that really stinks.
The Queen Of Upper Butt Crack 3 years ago
Agreed. Goal is not to escalate but to escape, especially when alone.
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Kitty Jordan 3 years ago
This. 100%. I realized that I have been socialized to ignore *my own safety* if it means that I would make a man feel rejected/uncomfortable. How terrifying is that. How pervasive. Survival is the most basic instinct we have, and women have been taught to suppress it because they must be "polite" at all costs.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Yeah I learned this as a teen; the hard way after polite didnt work. I will most definitely not be polite and I do not fear. I don't have the energy for that but you make me uncomfortable and I have the energy to make it known and I won't back away; I refuse to ever be a victim again.
The Queen Of Upper Butt Crack 3 years ago
I always try to politely talk my way out of a situation, get away from the person, get around other people/crowd/help. I do fear, especially after being grabbed by a guy twice my size who was dragging me into the mangroves.
Load More Replies... Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
Right? Hey, random stranger on the train. See the book I'm reading? That means I have absolutely ZERO interest in having a conversation with you.
Anne McKinney 3 years ago
THIS!!! I wish more younger women would learn this. I watch them be so polite to men that need to be told to back the f*ck off. It makes me crazy!
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
Generally, I just move away and don't say anything - but as I get older, I get a little bolder and educate them about what they are doing. They need to be told when the cross a line. It is more frequent then they know.
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Madzdad the Bard 3 years ago
Let me fix that, "The right RELATIONSHIP can really help someone grow as a person".
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
I kinda think it should work both ways. The folks involved should help each other grow and become better people together. But no one can change another person unless they want to change.
Kate 3 years ago
According to my mom, my grandad once told her, "marriage is not a rehabilitation institution."
Maria Veronica 3 years ago
How much damage made the "telenovelas" for decades, when the protagonist was even an alcoholic ("for good reasons") and the girl have to cure him with her sacrifice
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
We can help each other grow and improve. That is part of a life lesson for couples.
Al Christensen 3 years ago (edited)
I agree, but behind every badly raised man is a Mom who probably did most of the raising.
Tamra 3 years ago
And a father who clearly didn't step up to the plate and model decent behavior.
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Mattewis88 3 years ago (edited)
"Oi c*** (or) a-hole!" is gender neutral... and tbh, 9/10 times accurate anyway.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
As an Irishman who moved to the UK, I learned the word 'Dude' from Teenage mutant ninja turtles'. They often called April 'Dude' So I've always assumed it was any gender and on the occasion I've said it, have meant it to be neutral.
S Mi 3 years ago
Ask a straight guy how many dudes he's slept with....then you'll know for sure if he thinks it's gender neutral
Alhara 3 years ago
But to someone trans or non-binary, it may feel very gendered. Life isn't all about intent, it's also how others perceive your actions.
Monday 3 years ago
Yes but if we spend our time worrying about how others will perceive us then we're never going to get anything done. If people are offended you can always just apologize and explain your reasoning, and if they are reasonable people they will forgive you.
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A while back, human rights advocate Elizabeth said that women are still expected to be responsible for the home just because of their gender. Women are often left to do the lion’s share of the housework, even if they’re working full-time.
“If both partners are working full-time then they should be sharing the housework equally. Sadly, research shows that women still do more housework than men even when working. On a practical level, if a couple is committed to an equal level of partnership, drawing up a chore timetable can be useful, as can designating roles by working out who does what based on their likes and strengths,” she said.
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Minath 3 years ago
Which is nonsense when you remember that marriage was basically the woman's father paying her husband to take her off his hands. Which completely explains why there has always been "spinsters" (god I hate that term) in every generation and why I hate the "who gives this woman to this man" part of a wedding ceremony.
NsG 3 years ago
Don't hate the term spinster - hate it's modern usage. The original spinsters were women of independent means - they spun yarn (hence the name) and earned their own living. A spinster should have been something to be proud of, but of course a woman of independent financial means is a threat to the patriarchy, so the word, and the women became demonised.
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Maria Veronica 3 years ago
I prefere don´t think about millions of girls marry against their will (with all the consecuences) in history and around the world because I couldn´t sleep at night
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
History is meant to teach us something. Part of education is to change the things we think are wrong. In many cultures, there is still the concept of paying a dowry.
Steve Ramaekers 3 years ago
If marriage were as it is designed it would benefit both and harm no one.
Paul Mitchell 3 years ago
I was married to an abuser. It's no fun regardless of gender. There as many abusive women as there are abusive men.
Bored Retsuko 3 years ago
Sorry for you, Paul. But at least you got out. Woman who are abused often DON'T have a chance to get out.
Load More Replies... Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
in what way does it benefit men that it doesn't benefit women and it is usually something women want more than men and how is heterosexual marriage different to if 2 gay men want to get married they might be gay but a re still men this post doesn't make sense to me maybe someone can educate me
Aunt Riarch 3 years ago
Married men live longer than married women, unmarried women live longer than unmarried men.
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Maria Veronica 3 years ago
It´s not a blanket statement if you have a tiny idea of how world was working since forever
Load More Replies... Maria Veronica 3 years ago
Sir, I´m sorry if you were born yesterday, but seems you´re a grown up so... it´s hard to know what part you don´t understand
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Madzdad the Bard 3 years ago
Having children as well. My S-in-L tells my wife (her sister) that my wife doesn't understand love because she never had children. Sigh.
Tamra 3 years ago
That's a terrible thing for one person to say to another, let alone from one woman to another. What bull s**t.
Load More Replies... Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I love my kitten. He allows me to feed him, pet him, clean his box, and get pounced. I'm good, thanks.
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
I realized this recently. Being single is litterallly fine. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a relationship. I want to be w someone who I acctually love, not someone who asked me out and I said yes for the fun of it.
Al Christensen 3 years ago
There are people who feel they're total failures if they aren't constantly surrounded by friends, so of course they're going to feel the same if they aren't married.
Xan Maranya 3 years ago
This belief is part of our long human history. The good news is that we are more aware of it and making changes.
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Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I had an extremely vivid nightmare where I was shoved up against a wall and sexually assaulted by some guy - so vivid I thought it was all real. And you know what the worst part was? My *first thought* other than "oh god please no" was a resigned, miserable, "well, I guess it was bound to happen eventually." :(
Helen Waight 3 years ago
I was actually assaulted once and thought the exact same thing. It’s terrifying to know how quickly you can go into ‘don’t fight back, it’ll make it worse’ mode.
Load More Replies... Susan Widomski 3 years ago
It is true. You look for "safe" surroundings, and ways to escape a situation, and whether the people around you look non-threatening.
Pumpkin Spice 3 years ago
that's...that's not even the point?? go take a break, i think you can't see the actual picture
Load More Replies... Maria Veronica 3 years ago
Exactly, in my country was a big scandal about A TWEET, than the statistics of rape, I mean even was a discipline investigation for write a tweet
“These attitudes go beyond chores. They are a symptom of sexism. In such a relationship, both partners are not equal. No woman should be expected to work two full-time jobs—one paid and one at home—while her able-bodied husband sits back and does nothing at home. In today’s world, looking after the home and/or children is a full-time job in itself and such work needs to be shared. Families often have to rely on two incomes and women have the right to pursue professional goals—something which their spouse should encourage as part of an equal partnership,” the human rights advocate told Bored Panda.
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Local foodie 3 years ago (edited)
“Oh no! My child is being validated! The horror!” Where’s the logic?
Jessica butts 2 years ago
How dare we respect people's wishes and identity!!
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 3 years ago
I get this feeling those who were spanked and say they're fine now are actually damaged inside and don't know how to verbally express their pain and feelings. "Fine" is the only word they know how to describe resentment, betrayal, confusion, suppression, oppression. Also note, they don't mention how they feel about their parents (or anyone who spanked them) or what their relationship with them is now, and they don't really elaborate too much about how healthy their minds are. But others who've been spanked and have mentioned how it's really affected them, they'll say right away how they feel about their spanker, how they are doing mentally now and are able to describe how spanking made them feel.
Mattewis88 3 years ago (edited)
I dig my parents, they are/were my best friends (dad passed). I tell them everything. Losing my dad was the single biggest loss and greatest hurt I've ever experienced. Even as a teen, I got away with a lot more than my friends did as long as it didn't hurt me or anyone else. But when I got up to no good, a tap on the a*s is what I got. Be careful of generalising. Yes, there are those who have damage, but it is usually (see me generalising) coupled with actual abuse (punching, talking down to the child, not listening to them.) There is, believe it or not, a difference between spanking and abuse. As for the pronouns: Knock yourself out, ask all the kids. They can be what they want. I personally don't care what you call me.
Load More Replies... Donkey boi 3 years ago
I was beaten regularly and even had my genitals scarred by a teacher, and to be truthful, I did turn out fine! I look at teachers today and I feel sorry for them, they work fecking hard and do the best job they can do with next to no funding, shite pay and parents that give them nothing but aggro. So if a teacher want to show some respect to the students by treating them as human beings, and making them feel comfortable about themselves, I'm not going to complain. I'm going to applaud them!
Luce the Deuce 3 years ago
Just by looking at *them*. It’s really not that hard and is correct grammar.
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Blitzø 3 years ago
They aren't "forcing" anything on anyone, they're making sure students (like me) are comfortable at school. And I agree- boys are boys and girls are girls. However, someone assigned "girl" at birth may not be a girl, and someone assigned "boy" at birth may not be a boy.
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Nathaniel 3 years ago
I laughed at warm pita pocket, now I am going to put a pita pocket in the microwave for 10 seconds or so.
Elliot Fowler 3 years ago
I have heard so many men say they want to marry a younger woman in order to raise her to become what he desires
Kate Jones 3 years ago (edited)
...and because of insecurity. They feel they'll be less judged for their crappy performance in bed if they're with someone who doesn't have as much experience to know better or want more for herself. If you aren't good in bed it's not a big deal; it's not like there's any training other than porn for people the first times they have sex. But just be honest with each other and figure it out. Have a conversation. Talk to each other and say yes this is good or no i don't like that. Everyone's different. But some guys just are so insecure about their penis size and other stupid stuff and they think it's just easier with a girl who has less experience. It's so ridiculous. Young girls need to stop falling for this c**p and recognize there's probably a reason he's dating you. If it's a sugar daddy situation...whatever. But if you're 20 and think dating a 45 year old guy is going to work out for you because it's 'true love' I promise it's going to end badly.
KING ILLEGAL FOREST 3 years ago
If a guy insists on only dating virgins, that's a pretty clear indicator that he is absolutely awful at sex.
Donkey boi 3 years ago
I couldn't think of anything less desirable that a woman who is "inexperienced, tolerant & pliant". Give me a woman that has experience, knows her mind, is gonna speak it, challenge me to be better and teach me new things.
SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
Blasphemy! I would never waste a warm pita pocket like that! Speaking of, I think it's tea time now so see ya later. I'm off to get me a warm pita pocket XP
Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago
The idea that they have no other lovers to compare the old farts to. Joke’s on the old farts. These days, if you’re female and have achieved adulthood, you have enough experience to make that comparison.
AndThenICommented 3 years ago
These men literally using phrases like “not jaded” without think how f**ked that statement really is
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NsG 3 years ago
I'm super impressed that they are even able to walk a mile in those shoes especially while also wearing socks! I'm a woman who has never gotten the hang of any high heel without an ankle strap - I'd make it about 100yards before falling on my bum.
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
Same! I had an inch heel on my boots and after an hour of standing my feet were so sore! I cant imagine doing this!
Load More Replies... FabulousMari 3 years ago
TBF, being needlessly harassed for what you're wearing is totally part of the life experience as a woman and girl.
Brian 3 years ago
Not every woman wears high heels. They should have thought this out more. If the purpose was to "walk a mile in their shoes", they should have had them walk a mile while women yell/say the things they have heard other men yell/say to them. Make them feel uncomfortable like women do. That is more impactful than throwing on some shoes and taking a stroll. If you're going to do it, do it right.
duck 3 years ago
they're raising awareness to sexual assault, do you want them to take a public survey and get "correct" shoes? atleast theyre doing sh/t, while you probably sit on your a$s
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Zedrapazia 3 years ago
And I'm just here wondering where they got so many man sized high heels from. Those things are hard to find!
SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
I tried my mum's heels when I was younger. A mistake I can safely say I have never made again in my life. To those that can actually walk, take the stairs or even basically stand in those, you are all heroes in my book.
William Stewart 3 years ago
I would break every bone in my body falling down. Well done, fellas.
Susan Widomski 3 years ago
Now if you combined this with tight skirts and pushup bras and low cut blouses - would make more sense.
“Being financially dependent on a man is not a healthy or safe option. Spouses must be equal in opportunities and shared duties. As working patterns have shifted with the economy in the past decades, outdated sexist attitudes also need to shift. A women’s role is where she wants to be—just like a man’s. It’s not her job to pick up or look after male relatives/spouses. If she chooses to stay at home as the family is financially able to manage on one wage, that must be the couple’s joint decision. Even then, there must be mutual respect, sharing of responsibility, and a fair equitable division of chores.”
According to Elizabeth, prejudice lives off fear, ignorance, and privilege. “Changing beliefs takes time but is possible. We need to challenge gender-based stereotypes, unequal distributions of power and ensure that legal mechanisms are in place to protect everyone in society.”
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Sasha 3 years ago (edited)
My legal name is Alexandra, we meet, you happen to know my name from paperwork. You call me Alexandra, i correct you and tell you that actually i go by sasha. You call me sasha from the on because youre not an a*****e and we move on with our lives. You meet a person, call them "she" they correct you saying they prefer they/them, if at this point you start complaining about being "abused" and forced to do things, freedom yadda yadda, the situation is exactly the same as the first one. It has the same amount of impact on your life and your conversations with whomever. Theres no issue here of what youre allowed to do or believe, how many genders there are, freedom yadda yadda people are just asking you for basic common courtesy, use the address they prefer and be free to do and think whatever the hell you want and move on with your unchanged life.
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
Yeah i dont get this at all. You want to be called and reffered to by your preference. And if I can't remember your pronoun then I will use your name. Had a friend who kept going back and forth with pronouns so I just said their name so that I wouldn't be insulting whether talking to them, around them or about (not in a negative manner). Just let people be who they are.
Load More Replies... Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
well said i completely agree same as with if someone tells you that you hurt them you dont get to say you didn't
Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I don't understand it at all, but I'm going to call people what they want to be called. It's simple respect. If I'm more comfortable going by Shyla than my given name, it's nobody else's concern. If someone prefers he because he is transitioning, it's not my place to tell him otherwise. If someone feels more comfortable with they, so be it. If someone wants to be referred to as Hartley Fuzzbottom, how does that affect me? If you want to be respected, respect others.
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Daenarys 3 years ago
At least in the USA some doctors still won't do a hysterectomy for medical reasons unless the woman's husband agrees because he might want children. Yet, if a 23-year-old man wants a vasectomy, there are no issues. Imagine if men had to get their wives' permission for any medication or medical procedures relating to their reproductive organs.
tabitha knipp 3 years ago
Dudes would flip if their wife had to sign off for Viagara lol. Could you imagine?
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Rens 3 years ago
I live in the UK and it was only in the 90s that they finally changed the laws where a husband could rape his wife without being prosecuted...
Littlebunnyfufu 3 years ago
Sadly, this is the same in the US until 1993 with different states enacting laws at different times. 1993 was when rape of a spouse was finally illegal in all states. Oregon revised its marital rape laws in 1977 while Oklahoma and North Carolina were the last hold outs. Even then, some states still differentiated (differentiate) rapes by relationship status. Even now, it's still complicated and depends on the state you reside in. Another reason why we need the ERA in the US.
Load More Replies... Honu 3 years ago
If folks haven't reached their outrage quota for the day, all this talk about women needing men's permission for their medical care reminds me of the sad story of Lurleen Wallace, the wife of segregationist Alabama Governor George Wallace. She's mostly known as having served a term as governor as a way for her husband to still run Alabama while getting around a limit on consecutive terms. Lesser known is how she died of cancer. In 1961, her doctor found the growth that would eventually kill her. As was common at the time, the doctor told her husband, not her. He was allowed to make the decision whether or not to tell her. He didn't. This meant she did not get treatment until several years later when she developed other symptoms and finally was told about the diagnosis. By then, it was too late. She died in 1968 at the age of 41 because her husband got the choice as to whether or not she got healthcare, like she was his dog.
Helen Waight 3 years ago
My own mother had to give up her job when she got married. It was basically then her job to ‘raise babies at home’ in the eyes of society.
Honu 3 years ago
Yep. When my mom was a young working woman in the US (1960s), it was perfectly legal for companies to have a policies like that. Some would not hire or retain women if they were married. Some allowed married women but not women with children. The employment ads were separated into men's and women's sections. It was legal to not even consider someone for employment solely on the basis of gender.
Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan 3 years ago
As recently as 2002, a friend had to get her husband's written permission to get her tubes tied.
Caroline Starr 3 years ago
My DIL couldn't get her tubes tied at 26, with 3 children despite her 3rd pregnancy nearly killing her with sepsis because she has a blood problem which affects both her and the fetus and requires heavy duty treatment to carry a healthy baby to near term.
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Jessica Wood 3 years ago
When my religious studies teacher got a mortgage, the bank didn't know how to process it as the law in the UK had only just changed to allow single women to apply for mortgages, and she was their first.
Anne McKinney 3 years ago
Give the republicans enough time and they'll take us right back to those days. Vote blue people!
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Furious George 3 years ago
I have always found this to be profoundly creepy. I definitely had female friends in high school who were dating people in their 20s. It was impossible to get them to see that it wasn't their "maturity" the guys were after.
Stephanie A Mutti 3 years ago
I remember thinking "why can't the 25y/o dude get someone his own age? Is it because he's a loser?" Ans: they were LOSERS
Load More Replies... AndThenICommented 3 years ago
I’ve always found it creepy that the book ‘Lolita’ has been made into films and heralded as some sort of complicated art - it’s a fictional memoir of a pedophile grooming a 12 year old. Not a chapter or side character - the main character, the whole damn book
Mattewis88 3 years ago
My husband is 9 years my junior... we met at 24y/33y. But if I think of myself at 25 being in love with a 16yr old it makes me nauseous.
BluEyedSeoulite 3 years ago
I remember a girl in high school being upset her boyfriend wouldn't be allowed at our prom just because he was 25. She was talking about this in the locker room. How did he not have a restraining order against him by her parents? Made me really sad that this girl is probably so desperate for affection that she ended up in a situation like that. She probably would have punched me if I said anything negative to her so kept my mouth shut.
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago
This. I remember one incident vividly, at 15 years old I was watching a parade with my parents and a man ten years older than me spent nearly an hour flirting with me. I was actually really uncomfortable, I didn't want this kind of attention, but my parents found it a good thing! They laughed about it! Why was that ok?!
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I was 16 and my son's Dad was 28. It never occurred to me that he might be a pedophile, but now I wonder.
Mandy Delaforce (PC Girl) 3 years ago
I had this issue in a theatre company with a 23 year old man who was "friendly" with a 15 year old girl. Her parents approved of it. Sadly, my face is an open book and he knew what I thought of the whole thing, along with a bunch of other people. This was a number of years ago, and he has since groomed another woman and now has 2 kids with her. He's always going to be that pedo slimeball. They are friends of friends that never saw the pedo s**t, so he pops up every now and then.
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Wood Carver 3 years ago
As a construction worker since 19 yes! I am 36 but the average guess is almost 50 when I meet new people. My knees are dead. My back is dying..i sold it to care for my son who turns 15 this year.... that being said, it's your body and you should be allowed to sell it in whatever way works for you. Sex work should be regulated for safety like all jobs, but should otherwise be totally legal... also it's bizarre that in western countries you can make it legal by filming it......
Sasha 3 years ago
If thats selling your body, what are unsolicited d**k pics? Your grocerer pelting you with eggs you didnt want and didnt pay for? I dont even know....
Dirk Daring 3 years ago
I guess it's like how we used to get those free AOL discs in the mail. Abundant, but completely useless.
Load More Replies... Susan Widomski 3 years ago
I think you need to consider the back breaking work it is to care for another person - raising children or caring for an adult loved one is also back breaking work. Anyone that gives their all for their "profession" has the same path to old age. I have bad knees and bad back and I am a female.
#35
Chucky Cheezburger 3 years ago
I never understood why many religions think self loving is wrong. I mean, sex before marriage is bad and wacking it is bad, sooo...I guess ya just gotta exist while climbing the walls horny as a toad? Unless the whole point is to cause suffering...hmmmmm...I may be onto something there.
Michael Largey 3 years ago
Their motto is "If it feels good, don't do it." And most religions aren't about morality - they're about control.
Load More Replies... TheAquarius1978 3 years ago
When i was 13 my cousin ( at the time She was probably 17 or 18 ) lented me a book for me to read " The story of O' " now o dunno if any of you saw the movies or read The book lol, but The Story of O' makes 50 Shades of Gray look like sunday cartoons ( 50 Shades is basicaly a s**t copy of O' )
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
A girl I knew had a jehovah witness family. Her mother did not know women orgasmed until in her 50's; She was married with 4 kids. She was pissed when she found out from my friend (18 i think). My friend introduced her mom to "personal massagers" and she seemed much happier after that. Sad when your children know more because they don't believe in the religion
Sarah 3 years ago
As a middle and high schooler, I was told, more than once, that men would have sex with anyone with a vagina and we shouldn't think we were special if a guy wanted to have sex with us. These lectures all took place at church camp, youth conferences, etc. You know, the kind where they split boys and girls apart for "the talk." It wasn't until my 30s, and feeling insecure, that I had this conversation with my husband. He was shocked and offended and told me that may be true for some 14 year olds, but real men ONLY have sex with people they're attracted to. I've made sure to deliver a better message to my daughters and my son.
Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I honestly think it's because people died so much younger when most scriptures were written/passed down, and because if people had lots of kids, some of them might live to grow up. I think that's why some scripture condemns homosexuality as well -- not because it's evil, but because the couple can't create children. Now, the earth is very overpopulated. Sex isn't just to make babies anymore.
Mattewis88 3 years ago
What churches are people going to? Goodness, I've never come across nonsense like that in any church I've been to and that was loooong before new age inclusive churches.
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Helen Waight 3 years ago
‘These are private areas that nobody should touch without your permission’ is only threatening to those that believe that children are property.
readingthequibbler 3 years ago
YES. My parents explained such things very anatomically when I was a kid. Any questions they answered that way and I grew up knowing the truth in a way that made me more knowledgeable
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Jill Bussey 3 years ago
I had this discussion with my grandson recently. He reacted by saying that he didn't need to dig any deeper into the subject, but I wanted him to have *accurate* information, rather than be told some nonsense by his peers. He made the choice that he had all he needed for the time being.
Kate Jones 3 years ago
A lot of children might have been less confused, scared and/or passive about adults molesting them if they knew more about what was okay and what wasn't earlier in their lives. If girls were better educated on what real grooming is when they're younger, they might not end up having 4 kids by 3 different fathers because they don't understand that they are allowed to say no and are allowed to insist on wearing condoms....even if 'it doesn't feel as good' or 'if you loved me you wouldn't make me wear one" or my favorite "c'mon it's my birthday." They'd have more self-respect if they understood their bodies more. There are girls out there who think you can't get pregnant at night. And it goes for men, too. Men should learn about the fact they have hormones, too. And they should understand how their bodies work. Maybe they wouldn't tell women to 'hold in' their periods if they knew a little bit more about the female body.
Jennifer Norton 3 years ago
YES!!!! I started teaching my kid the medical terms about her body from age 2. I didn't sexualize it, I didn't make it taboo. It was just normal conversations about her body and facts. Fast forward to now... she is almost 16 and understands her body is natural and she also understands how it works. I feel so proud that she knows all I know and didn't have to wait to be in her 30's to find out!
Maria Veronica 3 years ago (edited)
In fact, conservative families never talk about sex to their children, because think only the conversation could wake up sexual behaviour in them, and of course children were vulnerable
Celtic Pirate Queen 3 years ago
I always used the correct term for my kids genitalia. It wasn't a "pee pee" it was a penis. My daughter didn't have a "va jay jay" it was a vagina. But I never spoke down to my kids either. I never asked if she wanted a "ba ba" it was always a bottle. Maybe that's why my kids were always so articulate and well spoken, even as toddlers.
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Yvette Desmarais 3 years ago
I love when I'm dating and state my expectations regarding meeting safely. If the guy gets pissed that's an immediate "I'm out".
#38
Valisbourne Spiritforge 3 years ago
Not sure how that's "Feminism fighting the patriarchy" regardless of how true it may be. (I've not heard the later parts of that before)
InvincibleRodent 3 years ago
Feminism and anti-capitalism actually make very easy and not at all strange bedfellows. The next step after realizing that women are harmed by existing social structures is often recognizing that actually, everyone is harmed by existing social structures, and yeah, the overwhelming majority of those structures stem from either capitalism, a white-knuckled grip on outdated traditions, or both.
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Wood Carver 3 years ago
Too many dudes still act like consent is a mysterious thing like reading a crystal ball.... it's like they act that way all through their lives. Why are you crying while I force you to eat pizza? You didn't say no explicitly so you should be fine with me shoving it in your mouth.... like dude it should be obvious that people want to be there where sex or pizza is involved, people who are into what's happening tend to be like enthusiastic or happy....
Load More Replies... Al Christensen 3 years ago
Saying yes only because I want to please you, or because I'm afraid of what you'll do if I say "No" means no.
Yvette Desmarais 3 years ago
Because they can't reconcile No with what they want. So they invent a reason that No doesn't mean No.
#40
Al Christensen 3 years ago
When the unemployment rate is at historic lows and would-be employers are still whining nobody wants to work, what it really means is nobody want to work for THEM. And it means there isn't a worker shortage but a business excess. Having a business doesn't automatically entitle you to workers.
Mike Price 1 year ago
"Nobody wants to work nowadays" is simply Capitalism-ese for "It's getting harder and harder to exploit workers nowadays."
#41
StrangeOne 3 years ago (edited)
My mom had cancer. Everything was covered under her provincial health card. Yeah, we pay taxes, but it covers us nicely so we don't have to scrounge and worry just to go to the clinic when we need to.
Laura Ketteridge 3 years ago
And the same is true in practically every developed country in the world.
Load More Replies... Sasha 3 years ago
Americans think essentially that free healthcare will cost them more. The irony is that most of them pay more for insurance than their yearly taxes would go up if they had free healthcare, but they think theyre gonna have to pay more, and here's the important bit, that they're paying more so that someone who DOESN'T have insurance can get health care. America is really bizarre in they they litteraly have an anti empathy culture. An yeah trying to convince them that free healthcare for them and those without insurance will actually cost them less is pointless because they hyperfixate on the idea that someone is benefiting off their money, and they will not agree to that even if they actually pay less as a result. So much of their current problems stem from this. No man is an island but they try to act like they are, and society just doesent function like that. The whole point of society is that you do s**t in bulk and therefore it costs less per individual overall.
Laika-Mutton 3 years ago
My opinion but---nailed it. I know people who, because insurance, social security, and Medicare are taken separately from "federal taxes" that they think they pay "12% tax" and not 25% (with everything added up). As to the second issue (paying for others) -big time. I don't have kids but pay for public schools, but if I point this out, they only gaze back vacantly. Because it's not so much that they are " paying for someone else", but that they are paying for someone 'undeserving'. (Insert 'illegals, race, welfare moms' here.) Absolutely infuriates me!
Load More Replies... Furious George 3 years ago
I don't think most Americans can even comprehend of a system where we are not always one bad day away from being destitute.
Kate Jones 3 years ago (edited)
I'm a realists and absolutely for universal health care. You can view any of my previous posts to see that. I'm saying that ahead of time because I don't want people to think I'm shilling for American health care, lol. But this is a little misleading. It doesn't cost that much for *a* pill, for *a* treatment, etc. It cost that for the *first* pill. Pharmaceutical companies spend billions in research and development and grants to scientists who develop lifesaving medications. They aren't doing it out of the goodness of their hearts. They're doing it so that at some point, the money can be recouped once they can begin selling the treatment. And it's not unreasonable. However, why not use taxes from these multibillion dollar companies to help offset the cost rather than pass it on to the consumer? The reason is because so many of these companies are not paying taxes. They are skirting tax liabilities with paperwork. TAX THEM. then Universal Health Care will be something viable.
Jennifer Norton 3 years ago
Can this please be shouted so loudly across America!!! I am American and I can tell you we need to educate ourselves that we are being bled dry by the medical/insurance industry!!!!!!!
Nathan Pogorzala 3 years ago
It costs of tens of thousands of dollars because they have to pay millions of dollars of liability insurance. RIGGED and GREEDY.
RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
I’m sorry what. I’m not against healthcare but I didint know I was being ripped off like this!
Stephanie A Mutti 3 years ago
In the US it's popular to say things like "what the market will bear" and forget that the market may agree to pay $75k for a Benz but that no one chooses to have cancer or a broken foot.
Helen Waight 3 years ago
My library list of meds in the UK? Cost me £10 a month for a prepayment card. I’d absolutely be bankrupt in the US.
#42
Donkey boi 3 years ago
My favourite is 'Most women were against the vote for women's rights!', Yes Derrick, that's because they were brainwashed into thinking what a "woman" was, and that a woman's place was at home, doing needlework and making babies!
Littlebunnyfufu 3 years ago
Same with the idea that men have more dangerous jobs. My dudes, you made it so women weren't even allowed to do those jobs because you claimed we were too weak or some such.
Maria Veronica 3 years ago
Like the further up post, system was create for men (even celibataire men like priests) for ensure their personal servants, and a proof of that was the hundred of ways to punish any kind of woman´s empowerment
Max Irgendwas 2 years ago
Unpaid? They live in the house that has to be paid. When they do mostly housework or something else, they do not contribute to the money.
#43
Laika-Mutton 3 years ago
Maybe a bit off topic but let's be real-do you feel sad, happy, angry? Those are emotions, and we all have them. When I hear "women are emotional", I get the feeling that what they really mean is "women are irrational." Because all humans are emotional in some form or another.
Lorraine R 3 years ago
When men say that women are too emotional, they mean women cry. They don't seem to realize that Billy Martin was being too emotional when he screamed at umpires and kicked dirt on their shoes. But to men, anger is perfectly acceptable, while crying is intolerable.
Load More Replies... Kate Jones 3 years ago (edited)
The thing that drives me nuts is that guys complain all the time about how they are abused and it's not taken seriously. So we start taking it seriously and they turn around and get mad because they're being emasculated. They complain that women are treated better emotionally/physically so we start caring about their psychological/emotional well-being and try to find ways to change things, like with education and trying to take feelings into account and other men call them snowflakes. The problem isn't women; it's other men. Ironically, they're treating you the way they treat women. Women have tried for years to get men to be more sensitive. To be more caring. To stop being violent and to get help but they don't because of other men. There was a guy here just trolling to get people angry, so he was making super-misogynistic comments. He posted a link about something and the site was something like 'menhelpingmen' and the entire site was basically just bashing women. How about a site for men actually helping men and talking about men's health concerns and mental well-being? That site would be bashed by a lot of men for being 'gay'.
Bouche Clay 3 years ago
I wish we could just toss all the labels and treat everybody like people.
#44
Nathaniel 3 years ago
I am going to ask a genuine question here. Women make up at least half of the customers in the clothing industry, there are companies with women in them, companies run by women, and there are women clothing designers. So why is the lack of pockets still a thing?
Jill Bussey 3 years ago
At a guess I would say because designers think pockets spoil the line of clothing and everything we need should be in our handbag (purse). Strange how that doesn't apply to men's clothing, huh?
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FabulousMari 3 years ago
I'm slightly concerned about the need for a pack of trained attack wolves AND three baby owls. I hope these are unrelated issue and they never meet. ;)
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago (edited)
I've never understood the pocket thing. Women want pockets! Men have pockets. My husband constantly asks me if I can carry things in my purse because he doesn't like the weight or possible bulging. So why am I carrying a purse?! I also can't carry a purse at work, put pockets on these pants dammit! Also, I'd like to ask about the baby owls.
Laura Ketteridge 3 years ago
I'm going to be greedy, and add 'pockets in trousers, and in skirts too, and for them to be a decent size'.
Bobetta the DG 3 years ago
Pockets are the most amazing thing ever.But even my joggers don't have them big enough to fit a wallet in while brothers (who is smaller then me) can fit the kitchen sink in his.
Yvette Desmarais 3 years ago
I'd settle for pockets. Levi's used to have good pockets. My new ones have shitty pockets that spill my things when I bend. Grrrrr.
#45
Valisbourne Spiritforge 3 years ago
There's enough gatekeeping and hate outside the community without bringing it from inside as well.
Sasha 3 years ago (edited)
If youre queer and have and issue with discrimination, please dont turn around and do the exact same thing that was done to you, to others. Tribe mentality sucks. You figure we of all people would understand how it feels when people do this. I had a convo once about sexuality with a group (forum) and we were debating and someone legit said "can we at least all agree that cis people dont exist" with utter seriousness. I was speechless, that the exact same hate were fighting against just on the opposite extreme. The thing is people are all s**t generally, and there are just as many queer assholes as there are straight, its just queer people tend to have more learned empathy because theyve been through this s**t.
Load More Replies... Helen Waight 3 years ago
I couldn’t join the LGBTQ forum at work because I’m married to a man. I’m still bisexual you know! Do I have to go down a list of all the women, men, non-binary people I’ve dated to qualify?
tragicaltales 3 years ago
Honestly there’s a ton of phobia in the community. It’s terrible and I’ve experienced it firsthand as an asexual. It really feels like you don’t know where you belong
UselessKnowledgeFont 3 years ago
This is why I hesitate talking about my being asexual and agender
Load More Replies... Furious George 3 years ago
The majority of my straight friends AND my gay friends both believe that bi is just a stop on the way to gas. Bi erasure is very real.
Istax 3 years ago
yep, and the blatant homophobia and lesbian erasure in the community as well when it comes to who lesbians like to date - I've been called "transphobic" and "bigoted", "a fetishist" because I'm a lesbian and I don't want to have sex with men, regardless of how they identify! it's absurd, and essentially a form of conversion therapy, telling lesbians that we have to have sex with people with penises (aka men) if they feel we should be attracted to them.
Felix Grace 3 years ago
I think you've got the concepts of bio sex and gender mixed up. you're not making a statement here other than that you're ignorant. it's alright to not want p-i-v sex with a trans woman or whatever, but full on saying that their transition doesnt count bcuz of bottom surgery is pure ignorance and erasure of the trans community. As for the conversion therapy thing- really? no one is forcing s**t on you. Someone's desire (or lack thereof) to get bottom surgery is not your business nor does it have any impactful effect on you. Get a grip. You are transphobic and any educated trans ally or trans person would have enough sense to see that. Maybe research stuff and get your head out of your a*s. You're no better than a protester at a pride parade if you think that equal rights only applies to a part of our community. Shame on you
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StrangeOne 3 years ago
My daughter was diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay. I learned that is a blanket term used when something specific is undetermined. She was assessed for Autism 3 times, by a psychiatrist who met her for 10 minutes. Both times they said she doesn't have Autism because she wasn't displaying all the same traits as a boy with Autism, and I've been told "girls don't have it. Only boys do." I've learned Autism has different traits in girls than boys and girls are often the most misdiagnosed of other things when they actually do have ASD.
Helen Waight 3 years ago
I offer you major hugs mate. It took till I was 30 for a psychiatric evaluation that I indeed have autism. It was explained that girls and women typically get a LOT better at ‘masking’ or copying others in order to fit in and thus don’t get diagnosed with disorders as easily and, basically, a lot of doctors are too lazy to bother. (Basically the medical profession just said I was ‘weird’ and ‘making it up for attention’ for years)
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Aidan Pite 3 years ago
I was actually diagnosed with aspergers as a kid but they decided 'eh, no point in actually telling them, we'll just let them figure it out when they requisition their medical records TWENTY YEARS LATER'
Aunt Riarch 3 years ago
No disrespect intended by a simpler condition, but I had pityriasis and didn't get a diagnosis for 8 months, because apparently only children and men get it. Meanwhile I nearly scratched my skin off and was covered in nasty looking patches.
AutisticTurtle 3 years ago
I (trans ftm) am fifteen and I was just diagnosed. Fifteen. My male cousin was diagnosed at 2. I was told I was emotional, sensitive, had anxiety, depressed, had BPD, etc. Never once did anyone besides me think that I could be autistic. I had to fight to convince my parents to get me tested, and they still doubt my diagnosis.
Amber.exe (She/They) 3 years ago
My partner is 16(they're Afab) is finally being tested for ADHD,because someone finally believed what they thought
Mara Is Non-binary 🇺🇦 3 years ago
yep, i want a diagnosis, but me being my afab self thh ty at isn’t so easy. my therapist just got assessed! and she thinks i have some autistic traits as well
#47
StrangeOne 3 years ago (edited)
The way women and some men put it on it should just be called that. I find anything labelled "for men" or "for women" laughable. Colour it how they want, name it how they want, what's inside all the same product for everyone.
The Scout 3 years ago
A famous perfume designer was once asked how to turn a women's perfume into a men's one. His iconic answer: "write "for men" on the bottle...".
Load More Replies... Enlee Jones 3 years ago
Women’s deodorant scents: Powder Fresh, Spring Meadow, Lilac, Ocean Breeze; Men’s deodorant scents: Hand Grenade, Arctic Punch, Army Tank, Tornado Apocalypse
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
I use Bulldog Facial Cleanser For Men [Promotes Healthy Beard Growth!] out of sheer spite. (No beard yet, sadly. I want a goatee so I can trim it into a point and dress up in a black robe so I can be an Evil Overlord for Halloween!).
Jennifer Norton 3 years ago
These companies should start labeling women's makeup that way. I am pretty sure it would fly off the shelves even faster.
#48
Nathaniel 3 years ago
BuT i Want aNatuRAl WomAN wITh nO Body HaiR, nO PorES aNd BiG fAKe BooBS thAT doES nOt MenSTrUate oR PooP THat iS DisgUstinG FOr womEN tO dO.
Marla 3 years ago
"i want you to look like my ideal version of a woman but also why does it take you so long to get ready? Why are you spending so much on makeup and haircare products and clothes, etc!? Just be natural!" 5 seconds later. "NOT LIKE THAT!"
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RandomFrog(He/They️️) 3 years ago
My little brother (almost nine) didint know what armpit hair was. I stopped shaving last year cuz covid and I always got razor burn. Anyways he saw I had a lot of hair under my arms and freaked out. Had to explain to him about body hair.
Jill Bussey 3 years ago
I exfoliate/epilate for MY personal preference. No-one else has a say in it.
StrangeOne 3 years ago
Ever notice illustrations and cartoon pretty girls never have any hair other than what's on top of their head......Ok now I know what I need to do.
Al Christensen 3 years ago
A few weeks ago I finally noticed the nude women in classical art were almost always depicted without body hair. So the idea isn't new.
LynzCatastrophe 3 years ago (edited)
Yup! I had that argument last summer with my mom and sister when they noticed my legs had hair and I was wearing shorts. I pointed out my uncle, hairy legs in shorts. What was the difference? Because apparently on women, hairy legs look dirty. I wore shorts in every weather for two weeks after that just to annoy them. Though admittedly I do keep my armpits bare because having hair there just makes them itchy.
#49
My True Form, Apparently 3 years ago
I can think of at least one person who doesn’t.
Load More Replies... Bored Retsuko 3 years ago (edited)
Hold on a minute! In one of those red flags threads recently on BP, I was told that traumatized people shouldn't seek love and relationships before they've "worked on themselves" because otherwise they just "drag everyone around them down". 🤔
Caro Caro 3 years ago
I think they mean love as in a relationship. You can be loved by so many people without being in a romantic relationship. I think that's what they meant ...
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Ansi 3 years ago
I don't like the fireman/firewoman. We should call them "the brave water bringers and slayers of fire" 😃😃😉
Benita Valdez 3 years ago
I've stuck with 5-0, popo and the fuzz for cops.
Load More Replies... Nathaniel 3 years ago
I am of and age (I blame TV) where I still automatically trot out the phrase Lady Doctor, if the GP is a woman. I correct myself every time, but it seems to be ingrained.
AndThenICommented 3 years ago
The messed up part in my experience? Most doctors I know are women. In the major health environments I’ve worked, a majority of the execs are women, but somehow business cases are taken more seriously by the board if their from a male.
Load More Replies... Julie Zugz 3 years ago
Just like you don't want all police labeled as one gender, we also should not label all police as enemies. I know there are bad ones out there but i feel that most people enter the police force with good intentions to help people
Patrick Linnen 3 years ago
"Serve and Protect" used to be the bog-standard police slogan and motto. Until the police started viewing the communities they patrolled as a warzone and the rest of the population out to get them. The police should not be another gang, only taxpayer funded. (supplemented with civil forfeiture.) The community certainly did not put them there.
Load More Replies... Stephanie A Mutti 3 years ago
We collectively like to jump on the bandwagon of "otherism". Some police are good. Some are bad. It's the systemic issues that are the problem and not the individuals trapped in that system.
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Donkey boi 3 years ago
They'll always just be the Gardaí, to me. While in England I still call them just 'police'.
radioactivecandy (they/them) 3 years ago
can we stop with this ACAB BS? most cops are just hardworking officers trying to stop crime and sh*t, but the bad cops are the ones who get the media attention
#52
François Carré 3 years ago (edited)
This. And don't let them say religious sexism ("protect yourself by wearing modest outfit") is the answer to capitalistic sexism ("show your body around to sell it"). It's patriarchy all the way, and it is equally oppressive and very old. Just wear what makes YOU comfortable. Sometimes I see women in hijabs casually having fun with their friends in mini-skirts and not giving a f**k if a man is going to judge or sexualize anyone of them, and this is what civilization is supposed to look like in my opinion.
Abha Srivastava 3 years ago
This. Just this. Additionally, the number of times I have been told that my 'liberal/unrealistic views' would get me in trouble as 'when someone is attacking you, you won't have time to lecture them'! Really now? The point is WHY should the need arise?
#53
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Australia: "You don't have to pay back a cent until your income is high enough. If that never happens, then don't worry about it."
Adele Maestranzi 3 years ago
My Republican sister doesn't think her or her taxes should pay for someone to go to college. BTW, she never did.
John Smith 3 years ago
The UK is heading down the US route as well. The gov said that they would let universities charge up to £9000 a term, but no one would charge that right? Well now we have no polys, no college of higher education, they all converted to being uni's and every single one of them charges the absolute maximum for every course. Who could have seen that coming?
Olga Aftyka 3 years ago
Well, you wanted to leave Eu and be independent, right? It's the top of the slippery slope
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Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
would be easier just to not explaining myself that would take to much effort for me
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#56
NsG 3 years ago
At this point people are now *willfully* failing to see the satire in The Four Yorkshiremen sketch. I worry about how we've strayed so far that reality is more ludicrous than Pythonesque humour (I know the Pythons didn't originate the sketch, but they certainly helped popularise it)
#57
John Smith 3 years ago
Missing some text there. "Nobody wants to work anymore, for assholes that exploit them while paying minimum wage (or lower)"
#58
Tobias Reaper 3 years ago
can we not refer to those scum bags as men a real man would never out their hands on a woman
Brenda 3 years ago
My husband tells me he can't understand how some men EVER thought taking advantage of women (or anybody) was/is okay? And why they are upset when they are called out on it? They knew it was wrong, did it anyway, then act surprised when forced to face the consequences for it? He still (at almost 60) defends anyone who needs it, has stepped up to protect friends from abuse, helps whenever he can. And taught our kids to be the same.
#59
Minath 3 years ago
I use they/them unless someone tells me otherwise. I figured that was the most effective way of not causing unintentional offence when I first meet someone.
Monday 3 years ago
and if someone is offended then you know who to avoid in the future!
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Furious George 3 years ago
I also love "millennials are ruining home ownership by opting for tiny homes". People aren't buying tiny homes or living in vans because it's "trendy". It's trendy because it's the only way most people can feel like they're in control.
StrangeOne 3 years ago
I would never co-own a house with a friend. It's risky just co-owning with a spouse.
#61
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
"Young people in Australia would be able to afford housing if they didn't go to cafes and buy smashed avocado on toast!" Said by an actual Australian politician and yes he was serious.
Local foodie 3 years ago
How expensive does he think mashed avocado on toast is?
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Casey McAlister 3 years ago
They say money can't make you happy. The thing is, you don't think much about happiness when your basic needs aren't covered. With money, you can finally stop trying to survive and start looking for ways to make yourself happy and fulfilled.
keighterz 3 years ago
We used a food pantry for several years but we still had iPhones (both still on our parents’ plan cus it’s cheaper for everyone), and I would never take mine out while at the pantry, even if it was a long wait. Also used to purposefully not make myself up before going to get our grocery box because people would give me dirty looks otherwise. Not the people who worked and volunteered at the pantry, other people getting assistance. Sometimes you get all your bills paid and there’s just not enough for food at the end of the month.
Mike Price 1 year ago
The capitalist catechism; "Poor people have too much money, and rich people deserve more."
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Jill Bussey 3 years ago
The clothing in my wardrobe varies by FOUR sizes. Four. Why can't the global economy decide on a standard system?
Me 3 years ago
I have long legs. I've always have been envious of men being able to buy the length of pant they need and given so many choices.
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Charlotte m 3 years ago
I’m 14. I sometimes have to wear size 8, sometimes 12 ( I’m really small) It’s humiliating. It goes both ways.
Julie Zugz 3 years ago
Yes! Why don't we have universal sizes by now?? And stop using sizes that purposely make us feel smaller (Old Navy). They're not helping. They're simply inaccurate.
#63
StrangeOne 3 years ago
Not only that, the amount of tax dollars an individual pays that goes towards social assistance programs is miniscule. Majority of it goes towards infrastructure, public services, emergency and community safety services, community programs, schools, environmental services, corporations, politicians, city administrators, city council, public health services, etc.
#64
radioactivecandy (they/them) 3 years ago
the m&m i can understand. why the heck do m&ms need realistic faces???
StrangeOne 3 years ago
Quite frankly, that's all I see it as. But I do see it from both sides.
#65
SheamusFanFrom1987 3 years ago
You do you, girl, guy or whoever you are! That's your style and you wear it proud! Now if you'll excuse me, I'm off to put on my wrestling tees while people tell me wrestling is the F-word XP
#67
Katie Lutesinger 3 years ago
Yup, it's why there more than one Ace flag. Some of us even get married!
Jellicle bat 3 years ago
"some of us even get married!" Well marriage isn't about sex, is it?
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Psycho Cat 3 years ago
How can you be asexual and hypersexual at the same time? Honnest question.
Bored Retsuko 3 years ago
I was wondering the same. Maybe someone can explain?
Load More Replies... Oki 3 years ago
Honest question: what does it mean to be hypersexual for an asexual person? I really want to know, no disrespect. I just thought asexual ppl aren't interested in sex (or have very little interest), whether they want (or are in) a relationship or not. I think most sexual people's desire for sex fluctuates, so I wouldn't think of someone who is sometimes sexual as asexual. What am I missing here? Would really love an honest explanation.
tragicaltales 3 years ago
It’s not that they don’t have an interest (and some don’t!). It’s just that they don’t feel sexual attraction, like, they won’t look at someone and say “hey, they look nice to have sex with”
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 3 years ago (edited)
I've never seen it described so accurately. ACE can also be in a relationship, be open to sex, but you're not going to necessarily be turned on by seeing your partner's body. In a way, it can make you feel like an imposter, or feeling like there's something wrong with you, or even guilty for not having those feelings. You may even be enticed to lie to your partner so they don't get the wrong impression about you. We do love cuddling and feel attraction to our partner, we'll even have a crush, but we don't have this feeling of jumping on someone we're crushing on and wanting to have sex with them. It's on a platonic feeling, though, either. I could literally walk into a male strip joint and not get turned on at all.
Helen Waight 3 years ago
My best friend became disabled and much like me can’t do sex without pain and discomfort. When her husband said actually that’s fine to do without and they’d still cuddle and be together she felt such relief. Turned out they were both ace! (Just had their 22nd anniversary!)
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Me 3 years ago
When trying to motivate boys, don't say "like a girl". Don't say "you throw like a girl", "you cry like a girl", "you run like a girl", etc. Because the message the boys (and their sisters) learn is that females are inferior and that a male's worth is how he compares to the females around him.
Me 3 years ago
When trying to motivate boys, don't say "like a girl". Don't say "you throw like a girl", "you cry like a girl", "you run like a girl", etc. Because the message the boys (and their sisters) learn is that females are inferior and that a male's worth is how he compares to the females around him.
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