It all makes me angry. But, that comment from merder kitten? She was so smart and so brave to get her assailant to hand her the inhaler, and to have the doc make such a bullshit comment, my god. Let's face it ,having an un-needed puff of ventolin is not in the same league as doubling up on the days insulin. What a c*unt.

People often say the reactions are "fight or flight." It's not. It's "fight, flight, or freeze". Even if you think that you would turn into a kickpunching fighting machine if you were threatened, you don't really know until you're there. The goal is survival and escaping "unharmed" from a highly dangerous situation. She succeeded.

The man who reprimanded her is assuming that a man who puts his hand in a woman's pants and forces her into his lap and grabs her by the hair can actually take no for an answer and will let go if she punches him. Punching someone is risky - they can retaliate. Keeping a potential attacker calm can allow the person escape without physical harm.

Many years ago, I also found myself in a dangerous situation, being sexually assaulted by someone i believed was a friend. To get out of the situation i complied to half of his wishes, against my will. But i really felt it was the safest thing to do. Felt bad about it for years, until i realised that i had acted wisely, and saved myself from more harm. Darn, he even admitted that himself. Sometimes playing along really is the safest thing to do to avoid more harm, and that is horrible.

WTF Bored Panda? Chage your title - this bar worker was sexually assaulted, not 'creepily hit on'. Stop using euphemisms to cover up a man's criminal offence.

We should absolutely make it a standard part of education, right from primary/grade school, not touching someone without their consent. Start off with, 'Jane hugged John, but he didn't like it. Jane should have said, "is it okay for me to hug you?". Jack asked Jill if he could touch her curly hair, and she said no, so he didn't.' If someone trys to touch you in a way you don't like, say no, loudly, because no one has the right to touch you without your consent. By high school this should include subtleties like sexual harassment, how to recognise when you're creepy, and 'She is only being friendly because customer service is her job, she's not into you, and any advances/sexual remarks/touching from you will most likely be unwelcome and scary, rather than flirtatious.' If you think there's a connection there, write down your number, and give it to her as you leave - 'If you'd like get together sometime when you're not working'. And leave it at that. No pestering her.

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How does someone think it is a smart idea to punch someone who could over power you seemingly easily? Her co-worker is a moron.

Women and men both manipulate. Everyone uses the tools they are given and to speak in cliche, for men that is body strength and intimidation and for women it is empathy and words. Why is the male way still regarded more "honest" than the female? :/

The one who needed punching is the co-worker. It takes a special kind of asshole to tell a woman who saved herself from rape or worse that she was being manipulative. Yes, let's make her harrowing story about the poor nice menz being so confused about women's signals! How dare those tricky bitches pretend to like someone in order to stay safe! What a clueless twat he was, and likely still is.

If I have to be manipulative to save my own ass so be it. Btw how is waiting until a female employee is alone at night to put your hands on her NOT manipulative. He manipulated the situation because he knew he could not have gotten away with that behavior in a bar full of patrons so how about guys take notice of their own manipulative behavior. F that guy that called her manipulative what would he have done if a 300 pound inmate pulled him onto his lap?

I went on a pizza delivery and the guy was really weird and inappropriate. He made me really nervous and when I got back to the store, I told our manager about how perverted and creepy he was and our manager made a note to not let any female drivers go to that house. Another customer was very inappropriate over the phone with our cashier and that scared my sister who was the driver. She had my aunt and I follow her to the location and wait until she was done with delivery to make sure she was safe. In these situations, the best thing that us women can do is just be polite and get the delivery over with. If we start showing that we are nervous or if we become aggressive things can go south fast.

Oh, and it doesn't have to do with what you wear. It doesn't matter if you're dressed provocatively or not. I've been stalked and harassed while wearing a full-length puffer coat with the hood up and a scarf wrapped around my face. I mean honestly...you could see my eyes and that's it! Or when I was walking outside with a mask on because of COVID and a guy at a stoplight yelled at me to smile...dude? How would you even know? And the real irony was...I was smiling!

And you never truly feel safe again.

Hold on people...you just know some male is going to come along and post that "not all men are like this. Stop the reverse misogyny" or something of the sort. Why is it that every single time an article of this sort appears, men come out of the woodwork to somehow (a) justify; (b) defend; (c) criticize or otherwise attack? Yes, we know not all men are like this. Yes, we know, some women are also guilty of sexual assault; blah, blah, blah. WAKE UP! The day when law enforcement, politicians, the media and the public stop blaming women for their own victimization and start holding men accountable for the way they view women...THEN and only then do I give a damn about what some male has to say on this subject. Stop blaming women for what men do and say.

Things like this have happened to me so often that remembering each time would be like remembering how it felt every time I brushed my teeth. If you’re a bartender, if you walk anywhere, if you live in a city, if you got to 7-eleven, if you go to college, etc, all these things are like a daily occurrence and recounting them all would take forever.

It’s so simple guys; unless a woman vocally speaks to you and invites a touch, she’s not “signaling” you to do whatever you like. She’s not interested, and (I’m sure 99.9% of women will agree) the LAST thing on her mind while at work is thinking about sex, or enticing a man to molest her. - Men fear rejection. Women fear men will kill them. I’m not sure that’s ever worked in the reverse. We don’t think like men. Fact. We think in terms of flight & survival. We’re not going to fight the guy without getting killed.. come on. It’s not rocket science. Don’t be so willingly ignorant to fact.

I've had situations like this happen, both when I was underage with young adult men and as an adult more than once at different jobs. When I've retold the story to other men, most have replied with things like, "I can tell you were the kind of girl who developed early.", "well, you are really cute", "well, maybe if you weren't so nice to people" etc. etc. And then they immediately have followed those statements up with, "I'm not victim shaming." But their reactions are straight-up victim shaming.

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The last comment is wrong. Men do need to worry because it isn't always about sex. There's robbery or just plain murder for the heck of it. The bartender did fine to get herself out of a situation. As far as Ozzie's comment, he's wrong. If you flaunt what you have you'll get yourself in trouble. Be it flashy expensive clothes, wallet full of money or provocative clothing. You're not necessarily worried about regular men but those who have a problem and doing a criminal act. Ozzie might as well have said go ahead and show off you $100 bills from your wallet and shouldn't expect to get robbed. Quit thinking what rights you might have because it doesn't go far in the real world out on the streets or wherever.

"Decent bar owners never leave a lone female to close." See, that's a nice sentiment, and meant kindly, but we're trying to point out that that shouldn't even be an issue.

omg. I would have trashed the guy, but I'm a fight person. No. Just no. but, you do what you have to do to get away safe. No judgement for this girl, only sadness that she was victimised like this.

Theoretically, punching him and having everyone support you and him hurt and cowering would be great. The reality of that? Nope. It isn't a man to man punch like her oblivious colleague thinks it should be. She very well could just piss him off and get beaten if she is not super trained in self defense. As equal as we want to be, and should be, and many people are capable of physically defending themselves, not every person is. I say people as this includes men who aren't physically strong and women perps. Men typically are stronger than women. if I was face to face with a person with a gun...I can either relate ("Life dealt you a shitty hand? I get it...") and|or "go along" (take $ from your atm and hand it over) with things to keep them calm, then do something about it when safe again, or I can run my mouth and hit the person, resulting in my death.

Does a man who thinks he's a woman experience this?

This is why carrying a gun is a good idea. She should have shot him in the penis. Or... hear me out. Keep him at gunpoint and make him clean up the whole bar then steal his wallet, then shoot him in the penis.