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Man’s Clever Tricks Work On Picky Eater Niblings, But Backfire On Him As Sister Demands Free Meals
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Man’s Clever Tricks Work On Picky Eater Niblings, But Backfire On Him As Sister Demands Free Meals

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Kids can be picky eaters and it’s not always easy for parents to find alternatives. Statistics with different samples show that a wide range of children, from 8% to 50%, are picky eaters. So, when this uncle was able to feed the kids veggies, their parents were so happy they asked him to do it every day.

The kicker? Since he’s the mother’s brother, they expected him to do it for free. Because it would be too time-consuming, the man refused, but he checked with the internet: was he a jerk to say ‘no’?

It’s hard to get kids to eat their veggies, but this uncle seemed to crack the code

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The mom then asked if he could cook for the kids every day, but expected him to do it free of charge

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When it comes to picky eating, the fault might be in our genes

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Raising kids is a tough job, and getting them to eat their veggies is just one part of it. Interestingly, whether a kid is a picky eater or not might be the parents’ “fault”. One recent study suggests that it might be in our genes rather than a learned behavior.

The researchers studied identical and non-identical twins and found that the non-identical children had fewer similarities in their picky eating than the identical pairs. One of the study’s authors Moritz Herle told CNN that their findings might alleviate the blame that’s nowadays directed at parents.

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“Our research indicates that differences between children’s fussy eating can be largely attributed to genetic factors,” Herle said. The study’s other lead author, UCL researcher Zeynep Nas, also said: “We hope our finding that fussy eating is largely innate may help to alleviate parental blame. This behavior is not a result of parenting.”

However, they also did find a correlation between a child’s picky eating and their surroundings. When the child is still a toddler, they might be influenced easier. So, if parents notice they’re becoming picky eaters, early intervention can help prevent pickiness in the future.

Previous research from 2020 also shows that not all picky eaters outgrow this behavior. Yet even those who remain picky eaters in adulthood usually do just fine. “While some research suggests that kids may be low in some nutrients as a result of picky eating, overall most of them do just fine — they aren’t underweight or suffering from reduced growth or any serious negative health consequences,” researcher and pediatrician Megan Pesch says.

Parents might worry too much; most kids are getting enough nutrients to support their health

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But how can parents actually deal with their children when they’re picky eaters? Experts say that the most important thing is not to turn mealtime into a power struggle. A child should only eat when they’re hungry, so, forcing them when they’re not will only make things worse.

Experts at the C.S.Mott Children’s Hospital recommend parents set consistent eating times. Children should have two or three meals a day and two or three snacks in between. The ideal time between each should be two or three hours.

The environment is also important. Parents should make sure their children sit down for a meal and remain seated until they finish; the same goes for snacking. If needed, parents can set a timer: a meal should last from 20 to 30 minutes, snacking — about 10 to 15.

In general, experts advise parents to look at things calmly. In a previous interview, pediatric dietician and feeding therapist Lucy Upton told Bored Panda that it’s not the end of the world if a kid doesn’t eat their veggies once in a while.

“I often remind parents that a balanced plate and diet doesn’t need to be overcomplicated. Often, children are getting enough variety to support their health,” she said.

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If parents are really worried, they can write down what their child is eating. “Make sure there is at least something from every food group,” the pediatric dietitian said. “Carbohydrates, fruits, vegetables, dairy or fortified alternatives, and protein-rich foods is a great starting point.”

“If any column looks more sparse, you might want to prioritize plenty of exposure to those foods first.” Fortified foods are also an option: “Ready oats, cereals, bread, and even some milk can be helpful,” Upton told us.

Turns out, the kids aren’t fans of their parents’ cooking in general, not just the veggies

Many people agreed with the uncle that it would be unfair to him

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However, a couple of others pointed out that family members should help each other out

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Michael Fernandez
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta hand it to the YTA trolls who think someone should take on daily parental duties for three children at age 25. How is this ever supposed to end?

DC and S
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were really grasping at straws here. "Umm... YTA because you... Umm... Kids! Kids are our future."

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Littlemiss
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So he did her a favor and it backfired on him. Pfff sister needs to get off her high horse and start saying thank you and be grateful for what he did. Not sit there acting entitled because she won't replicate it.

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The word 'parent' is also a verb and you'll get a lot more practice now that I'm not babysitting anymore.

Kristen Woehlke
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids are the future?!?!? Wow, what a troll! Sure, they may be the future, but if I'm not getting paid to do what SIL wants me to do... They're not getting anything out of me... In the future!

varwenea
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate the YTAs. They are the same people who would look the other way when there are homeless people on the street.

Alexandra
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, no good deed goes unpunished. Your children, your responsibility. It doesn't take a village, it takes the parents. These parents are just off-loading their parental duties.

DC
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't she pay you back by doing something she's good at, normally chargable, but you suck at? So that you exchange service for service, without money involved and without being screwed over? And ... more, teach her how-to? Cooking on a decent level, not necessarily worth some Michelin Stars, isn't that hard, but more or less only systematically NOT messing it up, burning it broken and so forth... Not that hard.

Ionescu Popa
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

plus, she added, "its a chance for you to get exposure and know the honest opinions of a very exigent public..."

nuberiffic
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Telling someone to feed your kids for you and then calling them a lazy caregiver for saying no is some Olympic level mental gymnastics

Parmeisan
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I the only one who had trouble understanding / wants more details on the tricks? Second day you hid the veggies in plain sight? How does that work? How did it help? And the last day "because they knew they had them they ate them without issue". What does that mean? Is it really just that you cooked them better so when you cook, they like the flavour?

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When someone decides to take advantage of you + you finally say NO: *you're* in the wrong, you're unreasonable, you're a bad uncle/aunt/brother/sister, etc., it's your JOB to support your sibling, etc. F**k that noise. That's why we can block people. :)

notlikeyou1971
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called the world famous " but family " guilt trip card. It's a common weapon pulled out by people who aren't getting their way in an argument or don't like the word NO. They can be both destructive buggers or entertaining ones. Handle at your own risk. I usually laugh at walk away. Avoiding it also works.

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Giraffy Window
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1 week ago

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notlikeyou1971
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guilt tripping your sister is pulling unreasonable and ridiculous. She's acting like an entitled witch. Groceries are very very EXPENSIVE. She's out of her mind if she expects you to pay to feed HER children. They are HER children. Just because you are a chef and are able to get the kids to eat veggies and she is unable doesn't mean that she CAN'T learn how to make the food! She's TOO LAZY to learn. She DOESN'T WANT to spend the money on the food either. These people who are calling him an AH are ridiculous. They are HER children and not his responsibility. She should be grateful and want to take care of HER children. He is not an AH. The mother of the children is a lazy and entitled AH

Janissary35680
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cost issues aside, how would the logistics of this even work in practice?

Vinnie
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Professional kitchens can be fast-paced and busy. "Let me see... cook for a living... or cook freebies at my expense? Tough choice."

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Michael Fernandez
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta hand it to the YTA trolls who think someone should take on daily parental duties for three children at age 25. How is this ever supposed to end?

DC and S
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They were really grasping at straws here. "Umm... YTA because you... Umm... Kids! Kids are our future."

Load More Replies...
Littlemiss
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So he did her a favor and it backfired on him. Pfff sister needs to get off her high horse and start saying thank you and be grateful for what he did. Not sit there acting entitled because she won't replicate it.

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The word 'parent' is also a verb and you'll get a lot more practice now that I'm not babysitting anymore.

Kristen Woehlke
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The kids are the future?!?!? Wow, what a troll! Sure, they may be the future, but if I'm not getting paid to do what SIL wants me to do... They're not getting anything out of me... In the future!

varwenea
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate the YTAs. They are the same people who would look the other way when there are homeless people on the street.

Alexandra
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Once again, no good deed goes unpunished. Your children, your responsibility. It doesn't take a village, it takes the parents. These parents are just off-loading their parental duties.

DC
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't she pay you back by doing something she's good at, normally chargable, but you suck at? So that you exchange service for service, without money involved and without being screwed over? And ... more, teach her how-to? Cooking on a decent level, not necessarily worth some Michelin Stars, isn't that hard, but more or less only systematically NOT messing it up, burning it broken and so forth... Not that hard.

Ionescu Popa
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

plus, she added, "its a chance for you to get exposure and know the honest opinions of a very exigent public..."

nuberiffic
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Telling someone to feed your kids for you and then calling them a lazy caregiver for saying no is some Olympic level mental gymnastics

Parmeisan
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Am I the only one who had trouble understanding / wants more details on the tricks? Second day you hid the veggies in plain sight? How does that work? How did it help? And the last day "because they knew they had them they ate them without issue". What does that mean? Is it really just that you cooked them better so when you cook, they like the flavour?

Janelle Collard
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When someone decides to take advantage of you + you finally say NO: *you're* in the wrong, you're unreasonable, you're a bad uncle/aunt/brother/sister, etc., it's your JOB to support your sibling, etc. F**k that noise. That's why we can block people. :)

notlikeyou1971
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's called the world famous " but family " guilt trip card. It's a common weapon pulled out by people who aren't getting their way in an argument or don't like the word NO. They can be both destructive buggers or entertaining ones. Handle at your own risk. I usually laugh at walk away. Avoiding it also works.

Load More Replies...
Giraffy Window
Community Member
1 week ago

This comment has been deleted.

notlikeyou1971
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The guilt tripping your sister is pulling unreasonable and ridiculous. She's acting like an entitled witch. Groceries are very very EXPENSIVE. She's out of her mind if she expects you to pay to feed HER children. They are HER children. Just because you are a chef and are able to get the kids to eat veggies and she is unable doesn't mean that she CAN'T learn how to make the food! She's TOO LAZY to learn. She DOESN'T WANT to spend the money on the food either. These people who are calling him an AH are ridiculous. They are HER children and not his responsibility. She should be grateful and want to take care of HER children. He is not an AH. The mother of the children is a lazy and entitled AH

Janissary35680
Community Member
Premium
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cost issues aside, how would the logistics of this even work in practice?

Vinnie
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Professional kitchens can be fast-paced and busy. "Let me see... cook for a living... or cook freebies at my expense? Tough choice."

Load More Replies...
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