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If you're more of an introvert, you know there's a limited number of group photos you can pose for during a weekend before you decide to spend the next one home alone, recharging.

Even though you might feel like you're betraying your family, friends, or whoever it is you're casting aside in favor of a warm bed and snacks, there's nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself.

But if you need a reminder that you're not the only one doing this, check out the Instagram account FOGO, or the Fear of Going Out. It perfectly describes what it's like to embrace your inner loner.

Continue scrolling for a brief summary of FOGO's content and don't miss the chats we had with psychologist and educator Dr. Laurie Helgoe, as well as Jenn Granneman, founder of the award-winning blog Introvert, Dear, and introvert coach and consultant Thea Orozco.

You'll find them spread between the memes.

When you're done, fire up Bored Panda's first publication on this relatable online project, too!

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'in The Unlikely Event...' Jane Knows What's Up!

'in The Unlikely Event...' Jane Knows What's Up!

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Caroline Kimber
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Whenever my Granny was on the phone and wanted to get off, she'd ring the doorbell so that the person on the phone could hear it in the background and know that she had to go.

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Love This Idea As Long As The Canceling Step Is Clearly Spelled Out In A Mutually Agreed To Legal Document

Love This Idea As Long As The Canceling Step Is Clearly Spelled Out In A Mutually Agreed To Legal Document

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The terms introversion and extroversion were introduced by Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung, although both their current understanding and usage vary.

"In general, introverts work things out in their heads, and extroverts work things out in the world," Dr. Laurie Helgoe told Bored Panda. "This has all kinds of implications. When presented with a question, an introvert will bring the query into their private laboratory, work it through and then offer a response. This takes time and focus. By contrast, extroverts will work things out in the interaction, thinking out loud or bouncing ideas back and forth."

"Introvert preferences: writing, one-on-one conversations, solitude for reflection. Extrovert preferences: talking, fast-paced interactions, social feedback."

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*gagging Noises*

*gagging Noises*

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Tor-Arne Hjellen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Finally. Finally someone who understands. You sir, you should be giving a medal and be giving lectures about this.

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*throws All $6.72 Of My Life Savings At This Kickstarter*

*throws All $6.72 Of My Life Savings At This Kickstarter*

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Helgoe said "our current understanding is that introversion and extroversion exist on a continuum, with introversion on one end, extroversion on the other, and 'ambiversion' at the midpoint."

"Most of us are somewhere in the middle, leaning one way or the other. And, yes, there are complex combinations, such as the social introvert who gravitates toward people, but becomes overstimulated and needs to refuel with solitude. Or the shy extrovert, who is self-conscious around people but is oriented to engage externally," the psychologist explained.

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*wins Golden Globe For Performance In “Having A Bubbly, Outgoing Personality”*

*wins Golden Globe For Performance In “Having A Bubbly, Outgoing Personality”*

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Voted “Most Likely To Be Just A Tad Off” Bebe

Voted “Most Likely To Be Just A Tad Off” Bebe

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Robert B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a therapist tell me that instead of weirdo I should call myself unique. I replied with something along the lines of “ I’m not here because I’m a pretentious asswipe”

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Dogs >>>>> Humans

Dogs >>>>> Humans

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Simona M.
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would love that. Fortunately, I get to do this at home every day :), so, until that bar opens, I'm ok.

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Most likely, introverts develop due to a combination of nature and nurture. The way that the human body's physiology responds to the outside environment plays a critical role in determining the level of our extroversion and introversion.

On a physiological level, a network of neurons located in the brainstem known as the reticular activating system (RAS) regulates arousal levels, including wakefulness and transitions between sleeping and waking.

The RAS also plays a role in controlling how much information we take in while we're awake. When confronted by potential threats in the environment, the RAS increases arousal levels so we can be alert and ready to deal with danger.

Each person has a basic set point in terms of arousal level. But while some naturally have a high set point, others have a much lower set point.

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I Hope They Have Parachutes

I Hope They Have Parachutes

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Zee
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just reading that was enough to exhaust me and give me a headache. 😩

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*intentionally Dumps Jar Of Marinara On Carpet* “Sorry Tho, The Mess”

*intentionally Dumps Jar Of Marinara On Carpet* “Sorry Tho, The Mess”

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#12

Canceling All Socializing For The Next 7 Weeks To Save Up Enough Energy For Thanksgiving

Canceling All Socializing For The Next 7 Weeks To Save Up Enough Energy For Thanksgiving

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Yurie
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This makes me think of one particular family. Recently I worked for a client hosting a sales meeting, I loved the client, it was a family business, his family were warm, amazing and super fun. I noticed his son and the client started calling me his daughter-in-law. Before I took my shot at the son, I asked some of the employees what he's like, they told me he was shy. He was NOT shy. Dude was dancing when no one was, talked with everyone, participated in games and was super friendly with a loud voice and a big smile. I told him about how I thought he was going to be shy since I was told so and he said his brother is SO hyper-extroverted that his extroversion comes off as shy. I'm an ambivert and I was struggling to keep up, I finally had to do my feeding cocktail to his mouth kissing trick to get him to socially isolate with just me

Abbyfofabby
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And when your just enjoying being alone and someone from your family walks and has like a 5-minute conversation with you and won't leave but when they finally do they don't even close the door.

Isabel Care
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fortunately my family have now caught up with my "social restrictions". We can do Christmas in 2 1/2 hours. 3 hours if an elderly friend or neighbour needs to be invited. I spent years as the driver for collecting and returning the less sociable non driving family and friends, got there last and left first. We love my brother's cooking, so avoid the place until he says to arrive (he hates "help" cooking) then let him hide while we attack the washing up. Quick hug and rush home to hide

Ciara Jennifer
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find I get so sleepy when I'm at family gatherings. I rarely speak to anyone, but just listening to everyone and watching them sucks the energy out of me.

Brandi Delph
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Mamaw (grandmother) just can't understand why I didn't want to go to 2nd cousin's gathering with her, no matter how I explained that I want comfortable going where I wouldn't know 85% of the guests. She kept saying. "Well, I won't know many people either!" True. But Mamaw, you could talk with anyone and everyone and be happy as a clam. That is not me

Harry Hwt
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm not sure which is worse going and being hastled or not going and everyone hastling me and making sure I'm ok

Chickens are fluffy
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have an extremely extroverted mom, and the rest of the family is introverted

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Ashleigh Jacobs
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My family likes to get together A LOT! It takes a lot of my energy and I need to really re-energise afterwards..

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Psychologist Hans Eysenck suggested that these arousal levels could be thought of as a continuum. According to his arousal theory of extroversion:

  • 15% of people have a minimal set point, meaning they naturally have low arousal levels;
  • 15% of people have a high set point, meaning they naturally tend to be more aroused;
  • 70% of people lie somewhere in the middle of the continuum.

According to Eysenck, introverts have high levels of arousal. Because of that, they tend to seek activities and environments where they can escape from overstimulation. Alone time gives them the opportunity to process and reflect on their experiences.

#14

I Love That Dogs Don’t Ask Me These Questions

I Love That Dogs Don’t Ask Me These Questions

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The Future Is Here And It Is The Worst

The Future Is Here And It Is The Worst

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the quickening
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Boy am I happy video calls haven't become popular in my tiny social circles. Phone calls are bad enough as they are. (Just text like a normal person ;n; )

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"Because introverts go out less frequently than extroverts, they often have higher expectations of social situations," Thea Orozco, the author of The Introvert's Guide to the Workplace, explained to Bored Panda.

However, that doesn't mean introverts have to come out of their shell.

"Oftentimes they feel a need to act like an extrovert at parties, or talk to half the people at a networking event. Instead, introverts should think about what they actually want from socializing. For instance, the goal for going to a party might be to have one interesting conversation, or for a networking event it might be meeting two people you want to keep in touch with."

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Host Of Party: “Can I Get You Anything To Drink?” Me, Thirstier Than I’ve Ever Been In My Entire Life But Also Terrified Of Being An Imposition: “No Thanks!”

Host Of Party: “Can I Get You Anything To Drink?” Me, Thirstier Than I’ve Ever Been In My Entire Life But Also Terrified Of Being An Imposition: “No Thanks!”

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Why Would You Do This To Me? I Thought We Were Friends. Is This What It Means To “Have Beef”?

Why Would You Do This To Me? I Thought We Were Friends. Is This What It Means To “Have Beef”?

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*surprises Fairy Gm By Last Minute Bailing On Ball Entirely Because A Night With The House All To Myself Sounds Way Better Than A Social Outing*

*surprises Fairy Gm By Last Minute Bailing On Ball Entirely Because A Night With The House All To Myself Sounds Way Better Than A Social Outing*

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Orozco highlighted that introversion is neither inferior to extroversion nor a synonym for shyness.

"Shyness is the fear of being judged by others, while introversion describes how a person recharges their energy," she said. "They might look the same on the outside, but they have different motivations on the inside. Shy extroverts do exist!"

#22

Yeah I Said "Generic Excuse", And I'll Continue To Say "Generic Excuse"

Yeah I Said "Generic Excuse", And I'll Continue To Say "Generic Excuse"

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#23

Gold Statue Girl Fall Is On, Y’all #whatareyoudoinginmyswamp

Gold Statue Girl Fall Is On, Y’all #whatareyoudoinginmyswamp

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Fluffy mommy panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That sounds nice then he can be my friend dragon and I will take him everywhere. And behold people far and wide will be in fear and not come near. Or I will tell him to huff and puff until they burn there house down. 😬

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#24

*gently Tosses Phone Into Lake*

*gently Tosses Phone Into Lake*

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#25

I Thought You’d Never Ask

I Thought You’d Never Ask

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#26

I Live Every Day In Fear Of Becoming A Meme

I Live Every Day In Fear Of Becoming A Meme

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i like obnoxiously standing in the background of people filming tiktoks & flipping them off or doing something insanely distracting to ruin their video. tiktok sucks & the people who film in public are the absolute worst. i love discouraging them from harassing people just trying to go about their lives

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Awww Sweetie. You Got It All Wrong! “Finally” Has Two Ls And Only One N. But Other Than That, A+

Awww Sweetie. You Got It All Wrong! “Finally” Has Two Ls And Only One N. But Other Than That, A+

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Quite Frankly, Getting Trapped On A Desert Island Sounds *marvelous*

Quite Frankly, Getting Trapped On A Desert Island Sounds *marvelous*

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#32

Talk About Myself?? *gagging Noises* I’d Much Rather Regurgitate Information I Heard On Podcasts. That An Option?

Talk About Myself?? *gagging Noises* I’d Much Rather Regurgitate Information I Heard On Podcasts. That An Option?

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Apatheist 62
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is what the internet is for. Get to know each other via emails - not texts, since people expect immediate responses.

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*camera Cuts To Me Lying In An Email About How I’d Be Happy To “Hop On A Call” Ffs*

*camera Cuts To Me Lying In An Email About How I’d Be Happy To “Hop On A Call” Ffs*

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Just Say No

Just Say No

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Bored_Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well *ahem* it seems like I don't have a deadly flu anymore! I just don't want to go out :P

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#notaphase

#notaphase

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#36

It Was The Worst Of Times, It Was The Airport Of Times

It Was The Worst Of Times, It Was The Airport Of Times

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“Plz Quit Punching My House” I Whisper From Behind The Couch Where I’m Currently Hiding

“Plz Quit Punching My House” I Whisper From Behind The Couch Where I’m Currently Hiding

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Oh You’re A Hugger? That’s Cute. I’m A *please Respect My Bubble-Er*

Oh You’re A Hugger? That’s Cute. I’m A *please Respect My Bubble-Er*

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No I Am Not *gently Boops Interviewer’s Nose*

No I Am Not *gently Boops Interviewer’s Nose*

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Sorry Toots

Sorry Toots

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Honestly I Think I’d Like To Learn This Phrase In Every Language *just In Case*

Honestly I Think I’d Like To Learn This Phrase In Every Language *just In Case*

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#42

I Will Not Be Able To Attend Your Bridal Shower Because I Fear That Some Form Of Weather Will Be Present At That Time

I Will Not Be Able To Attend Your Bridal Shower Because I Fear That Some Form Of Weather Will Be Present At That Time

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#44

Modern Day Friendships Are Held Together By A Fun Mixture Of Cat Videos And Full Emotional Meltdowns

Modern Day Friendships Are Held Together By A Fun Mixture Of Cat Videos And Full Emotional Meltdowns

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Bored_Panda
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me and my friend send each other YT videos with no context at all. It's great!

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#45

Sleepytime Is My Favorite Tea. Not Because I Like The Taste- I Just Appreciate The Relatability In The Branding Of It

Sleepytime Is My Favorite Tea. Not Because I Like The Taste- I Just Appreciate The Relatability In The Branding Of It

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#46

Finish It As Quickly As Possible So That You Have A Valid Excuse (Needing Another Corn Dog) To Stand Up And Walk Away From The Social Situation

Finish It As Quickly As Possible So That You Have A Valid Excuse (Needing Another Corn Dog) To Stand Up And Walk Away From The Social Situation

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Lane Bass
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's really going to depend entirely on how long it's been since your last bite of corn dog. Also, temperature is going to factor heavily.

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*pushes Jesus Away Because Commitment **terrifies** Me*

*pushes Jesus Away Because Commitment **terrifies** Me*

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#48

Can We Raincheck For Summer 2028?

Can We Raincheck For Summer 2028?

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#49

You Mean An Awkward Brunch Where We Try To Cover "What We've Been Up To" Since College Without Making Things Too Depressing

You Mean An Awkward Brunch Where We Try To Cover "What We've Been Up To" Since College Without Making Things Too Depressing

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

my friend from middle school reached out to me to reconnect in my junior year or high school & asked how life has been. i wasn't quite sure how to tell her that i'd attempted suicide & that the cat who was an integral part of my life that i always talked about had passed away... i mean, she'd want to know these things because we were really close, but how the heck do i say it in a way that isn't awkward & depressing?!

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#52

The Timeline We’re On Is A Dumpster Fire In So Many Ways But Technological Advances In The Art Of Avoiding Human Interaction Is A Nice Perk

The Timeline We’re On Is A Dumpster Fire In So Many Ways But Technological Advances In The Art Of Avoiding Human Interaction Is A Nice Perk

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Nathan Pogorzala
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let us be honest, half of it is due to laziness. It took capitalism long enough to take advantage of our desire to do nothing.

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