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Woman’s Dream Baby Name Gets Lifted By SIL So She Just Picks Another One To SIL’s Rage And Dismay
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Woman’s Dream Baby Name Gets Lifted By SIL So She Just Picks Another One To SIL’s Rage And Dismay

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You’d think picking a baby name would be a simple decision, but in some families, it’s a competitive sport. One minute everyone’s smiling at a baby shower, and the next, people are silently plotting name-related revenge. There’s always that one relative who “accidentally” steals a name you’ve been holding onto for years, setting off a chain reaction of side-eyes, whispers, and full-blown confrontations.

This happened to one Redditor after her sister-in-law stole her number 1 baby name, the one she had been dreaming about since she was a kid.

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Mom-to-be loves the name Seraphina, dreams about giving it to her baby girl, but changes her mind as her sister-in-law decides to steal the name for herself

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The sister-in-law was always a fan of timeless names, like Emily or Katherine, but out of nowhere decided to name her baby Seraphina

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The entire family was surprised to see the woman’s baby name choice, as they expected her to name her girl Emily, as she always talked about that name

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The mom-to-be and her husband decided not to use their favorite girl name for their daughter, as they always wanted, because the sister-in-law decided to use it for her baby

Our story begins with a mom-to-be who had her heart set on naming her baby girl Seraphina. This name wasn’t just a choice—it was a lifelong dream. She and her hubby had spilled the beans to everyone about this perfect name and the entire family knew it was “the one.”

But, fast forward to the big day, and her sister-in-law suddenly pulled a fast one and named her baby Seraphina, surprising everyone. The sister-in-law, who had always been into traditional names like Emily and Katherine, suddenly named her newborn the exact name the OP (original poster) had been planning for years.

The entire family was surprised, as everyone expected her to stick to her usual style and pick a timeless name. But nope, out of nowhere, she went for the very name she knew the OP had been gushing over.

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When the time came for the new parents to introduce their baby girl, they opted for a different name altogether. As expected, this raised some eyebrows, with people wondering why they’d ditched Seraphina. The husband kept it vague, saying they simply changed their minds during the pregnancy. But everyone knew what was up—the sister-in-law’s move was as suspicious as it gets, and the in-laws didn’t hesitate to call her out.

This led to some serious family tension. The sister-in-law got defensive, insisting that baby names aren’t owned and anyone can use whatever name they like. But the criticism from her family didn’t stop, with comments flying that she’d only chosen Seraphina out of spite.

And the drama didn’t end there. Feeling cornered, the sister-in-law took her frustrations straight to the mom, claiming that the name-switch made her look like the villain. She even argued that there could’ve been two Seraphinas in the family and accused the mom of stirring drama just to get back at her. The cherry on top? She let slip that she’d been waiting for a confrontation about the name, practically admitting her guilt.

The mom, staying cool, calmly told her sister-in-law that they had every right to pick a new name, just as she had the right to suddenly fall in love with Seraphina. But the sister-in-law wasn’t buying it—she was convinced the change was all about making her look bad and even went as far as accusing the mom of using their daughters to fuel family drama. Well, names really do carry more weight than we think.

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Naming a baby is probably the first major decision parents have to make, when the little one arrives, and it’s a very personal one. Naming a baby is not just about picking something that sounds nice.

Usually, there’s a lot more thought behind it. While some parents have a long list of names to choose from, for others there is really only one choice, something they had wanted for a long time. Just like the OP knew exactly what name she wanted to give her baby girl, as she had been thinking about it since she was a kid.

Research shows that, for many parents, a name carries emotional significance, reflecting family traditions, cultural heritage, or a meaningful story. Some parents choose names based on their values or qualities they hope their child will embody. Others look for uniqueness, wanting a name that stands out from the crowd.

To find out more on the importance of giving babies the right names, Bored Panda reached out to Sophie Kihm, the editor-in-chief of Nameberry. She told us that, according to their annual reports, parents tend to give their babies names that express their personal values, identities, and aesthetics.

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We wanted to know what are the most important factors parents should consider when choosing a baby name. Kihm explained that, “Parents should choose the name they love, regardless of if it’s ‘unique enough’ or adheres to trends of the moment. But if your goal is to balance all these things, it can be done!”

We asked Kihm how parents can balance personal preferences with cultural trends when it comes to naming their babies. She told us that today’s parents usually consider a few different factors when they name their babies – such as honoring heritage, tradition, or a loved one, and combining that with their own personal style or current trends. However, even if a name feels outdated or doesn’t match modern trends, there are creative ways to keep things fresh.

For example, instead of directly using an old-fashioned name like Dolores, Kihm suggests parents could consider variations like Lola or Dolly, explore names that start with the same letter, or draw inspiration from meaningful details about the person being honored.

As names can influence everything from personality traits to career paths, some families find naming their baby quite overwhelming. So, it’s no wonder that any potential “name-stealing” could lead to some serious drama.

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What’s your take on this story? Share your thoughts in the comment section.

People in the comments say that the sister-in-law named her baby like that just to spite the mom-to-be, but doesn’t really like that name

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I am a visual editor here. In my free time I enjoy the vibrant worlds of art galleries, exhibitions, and soulful concerts. Yet, amidst life's hustle and bustle, I find solace in nature's embrace, cherishing tranquil moments with beloved friends. Deep within, I hold a dream close - to embark on a global journey in an RV, accompanied by my faithful canine companion. Together, we'll wander through diverse cultures, weaving precious memories under the starry night sky, fulfilling the wanderlust that stirs my soul.

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Janelle Collard
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why you NEVER tell people the real name you're going to name your baby. There was another post like this + the name stealer found out the name was actually "s**t" in another language. :) (I think Spanish but not sure.)

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't stir the sh1t unless you're willing to lick the spoon ~ Wisdom of the Internet.

LonelyLittleLeafSheep
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe parents should stop telling people what they're going to name their baby, even if they've chosen one for sure. Just say "we haven't decided yet. We thought we'd wait and meet the baby first before we decide."

Traveling Lady Railfan
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a very sweet way to say it... "We haven't decided, we thought we'd wait and meet the baby first."

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R Dennis
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just don't understand the concept of name-stealing. Like, why? If it was a family name, sure. But if I had a name picked out of a hat, why would someone take it? I don't understand the mindset at all.

Monica G
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what would she say if OP named her baby Emily. What an unnecessary drama....

Tabitha
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, maybe using something like Emily Seraphina. SIL didn't give her daughter a middle name, and OP not only using SIL's preferred first name---so SIL can't now change HER baby's name to it---plus OP's favorite name as the middle name, would've really made SIL's spoiled rotten head explode (Ugh, the stench. Yuk). I suspect if you ask OP's husband, he'd tell you his sister was always a petty brat who pulled s**t like this on the regular while they were growing up and the family is sick to death of her, which is why they didn't believe her b******t about the name.

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BookFanatic
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was almost a Catherine. Mom made the mistake of telling her father beforehand and he dumped so much s**t on her choice that I became Janet instead. Which was cool, because Mom had multiple friends named Janet and could tell all of them I was named for whichever particular Janet asked. Lol

Yuki
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of how one of my sisters was almost "Buck James," or B.J. for short. XD My mom quickly vetoed my dad's choice of name

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Woodsie
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only s**t here is the SIL. She's pissed that you are an adult an she's still a child and couldn't throw her little tantrum.

Sunny Day
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ooh - that last commenter gave me an idea. OP now needs to THANK SIL for letting OP name her daughter! Just make sure everyone was handed popcorn beforehand.

Binky Melnik
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“I did something s****y and everyone is mad at me because I stole your name out from under you and you didn’t get angry! How DARE you! Now everyone’s saying I suck! Tell everyone I didn’t steal it, even though everyone’s known you wanted that name since 1776! Make them get off my back and climb onto yours!”

Ben Aziza
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to understand why people act like this. How can you not be self aware that jealousy is driving your actions? Where does spite come from?

Rocky
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, I would love to understand it as well. Moreso, know that the crazy felt guilty over acting so wrong.

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Gwyn
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If OP were wanting to stir up drama she could have used SILs favorite name- Emily! Well that would have been epic, I congratulate OP for having the maturity to just move on. Sounds like SILs family knows exactly what she's like and that she is the one who stole the name in order to cause drama and was hoping that OP would be upset about her taking the name and then also use the same name so that SIL could claim that OP was copying her. What a piece of work!

Ivy at Eve
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally understand that OP didn't want two cousins with the same name. I would however name my dog/cat/gerbil/pet hamster/parakeet/.... Seraphina but I'm petty... OK, maybe not, because I would feel pity for the little girl.

Mandi T.
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy frijoles, your SIL is unhinged. Who tf uses baby names to play stupid familial pot stirring games? She is definitely TAH, not you, OP.

Papa
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the sister-in-law accused OP of stirring up drama? No irony here, folks.

Hope Tirendi
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ignore his bat s**t crazy sister. Just sit back and laugh knowing she will forever HATE her daughters name!

Ru Bee
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell her we went with a different name as we decided we didn't really like Sepharina after all.

Sanna Koivula
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why you don't tell the name you want to give your kids before the baby is born. Here where I'm from usually no one gets to know the name before baptism or name-giving party.

Damned_Cat
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So SIL acted like a jerk and then got mad because OP did the adult thing and let her look like a jerk.

Matt
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2 months ago

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Well ESH and her sil did her a favor that name is terrible

Janelle Collard
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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why you NEVER tell people the real name you're going to name your baby. There was another post like this + the name stealer found out the name was actually "s**t" in another language. :) (I think Spanish but not sure.)

UncleJohn3000
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't stir the sh1t unless you're willing to lick the spoon ~ Wisdom of the Internet.

LonelyLittleLeafSheep
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Maybe parents should stop telling people what they're going to name their baby, even if they've chosen one for sure. Just say "we haven't decided yet. We thought we'd wait and meet the baby first before we decide."

Traveling Lady Railfan
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a very sweet way to say it... "We haven't decided, we thought we'd wait and meet the baby first."

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R Dennis
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just don't understand the concept of name-stealing. Like, why? If it was a family name, sure. But if I had a name picked out of a hat, why would someone take it? I don't understand the mindset at all.

Monica G
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder what would she say if OP named her baby Emily. What an unnecessary drama....

Tabitha
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah, maybe using something like Emily Seraphina. SIL didn't give her daughter a middle name, and OP not only using SIL's preferred first name---so SIL can't now change HER baby's name to it---plus OP's favorite name as the middle name, would've really made SIL's spoiled rotten head explode (Ugh, the stench. Yuk). I suspect if you ask OP's husband, he'd tell you his sister was always a petty brat who pulled s**t like this on the regular while they were growing up and the family is sick to death of her, which is why they didn't believe her b******t about the name.

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BookFanatic
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was almost a Catherine. Mom made the mistake of telling her father beforehand and he dumped so much s**t on her choice that I became Janet instead. Which was cool, because Mom had multiple friends named Janet and could tell all of them I was named for whichever particular Janet asked. Lol

Yuki
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of how one of my sisters was almost "Buck James," or B.J. for short. XD My mom quickly vetoed my dad's choice of name

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Woodsie
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The only s**t here is the SIL. She's pissed that you are an adult an she's still a child and couldn't throw her little tantrum.

Sunny Day
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ooh - that last commenter gave me an idea. OP now needs to THANK SIL for letting OP name her daughter! Just make sure everyone was handed popcorn beforehand.

Binky Melnik
Community Member
2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“I did something s****y and everyone is mad at me because I stole your name out from under you and you didn’t get angry! How DARE you! Now everyone’s saying I suck! Tell everyone I didn’t steal it, even though everyone’s known you wanted that name since 1776! Make them get off my back and climb onto yours!”

Ben Aziza
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I want to understand why people act like this. How can you not be self aware that jealousy is driving your actions? Where does spite come from?

Rocky
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree, I would love to understand it as well. Moreso, know that the crazy felt guilty over acting so wrong.

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Gwyn
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If OP were wanting to stir up drama she could have used SILs favorite name- Emily! Well that would have been epic, I congratulate OP for having the maturity to just move on. Sounds like SILs family knows exactly what she's like and that she is the one who stole the name in order to cause drama and was hoping that OP would be upset about her taking the name and then also use the same name so that SIL could claim that OP was copying her. What a piece of work!

Ivy at Eve
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I totally understand that OP didn't want two cousins with the same name. I would however name my dog/cat/gerbil/pet hamster/parakeet/.... Seraphina but I'm petty... OK, maybe not, because I would feel pity for the little girl.

Mandi T.
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy frijoles, your SIL is unhinged. Who tf uses baby names to play stupid familial pot stirring games? She is definitely TAH, not you, OP.

Papa
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the sister-in-law accused OP of stirring up drama? No irony here, folks.

Hope Tirendi
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ignore his bat s**t crazy sister. Just sit back and laugh knowing she will forever HATE her daughters name!

Ru Bee
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd tell her we went with a different name as we decided we didn't really like Sepharina after all.

Sanna Koivula
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's why you don't tell the name you want to give your kids before the baby is born. Here where I'm from usually no one gets to know the name before baptism or name-giving party.

Damned_Cat
Community Member
2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So SIL acted like a jerk and then got mad because OP did the adult thing and let her look like a jerk.

Matt
Community Member
2 months ago

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Well ESH and her sil did her a favor that name is terrible

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