Just Wow! The nerve of this POS. Who gave her the God given right to demand such things? She is totally insecure in her own life. You should not cut your hair, as it is something you and your Mom bonded . I dont even think you should opt out of heels and fake lashes if that's what you prefer. She has absolutely no right to make such demands. When you married someone with children, you have to accept the children as well just as they are. It's a package deal. Just Wow. I am disgusted by this lady, if you can call her that. Definitely NTA at all. Stand your ground!

Say yes to all her demands and the day of the wedding go with your gorgeous hair free-flowing, in the highest heels that your comfortable with and the make up that you want with the longest lashes! If you're worried about a 15 year old up staging you, clearly you're as beautiful on the outside you are on the inside (none). F*****g psychotic b*Tch! And if your dad isn't putting his foot down, then I'm sorry but do not conform to any of her demands. Being a bride dies not give you permission to be a bitch!

Imagine a grown ass woman worrying about being upstaged by a teenager. Yeah, I don't see this marriage lasting very long. The audacity to just demand that someone cut their hair.

I’m stuck on her being “accused of upstaging” her step-mom-to-be (bride). If the length of her hair is going to divert attention away from the bride, then the bride wants it to be less attractive. She’s, in essence, asking a 15 year-old child to become less attractive. How petty and insecure do you have to be to make a request like that?

I would suggest the young lady takes a long time talking to her dad about this situation and ask him if he's sure about marrying someone who tried to punish his daughter? So I never understood the "perfect day" s**t, you marry to share your whole life with a person you love, not to have one "perfect day"?

Get extensions in your hair for the big day !! make your hair so long Rapunzel would be jealous.

Stepmom trolled her on reddit. I wonder how this plays out.

On previous AITA's, the entire world has decided that brides who want their bridesmaids to cut their hair so they won't upstage the bride are The Asshole, as is any bride who makes outrageous requests because they want "everything to be perfect". However, this bride has managed to beat all the brides who just stick it to the bridal party who volunteered to be there, and so has this girl's indifferent father.

Get out of there as soon as you can. Spend the WEEK of the wedding at your aunt's. Have no part in any of this wedding or the marriage.

At least the Stepdaughter was given some kind of warning. When I was bridesmaid at my sister's wedding I had to have my hair short and in this hideous style that had some kind of bump on the top all just so her equally horrible wish bone style headdress could sit properly on my head. I looked TERRIBLE. It took nearly a year for my hair to grow back to normal but as it had been chopped and layered it took longer again until my hair was long enough where it had been the shortest so I could have cut again and have it all the same length. In the meantime I had the most horrible horrible hair and got bullied mercilessly about it at school. All just because it was what my sister wanted on her wedding day. Even when I was getting it cut for the wedding I said multiple times I didn't want it that way but I may as well have said nothing as neither mum or my sister listened to me. It was my sister's day and I just had to put up with it.

Oh this dear sweet girl. She didn't put her dad in any situation . Her shitty excuse for a stepmother sounds like she's jealous of her beauty honestly . Why would she try to tear you down and make you look bad? No long beautiful hair, light makeup , no lashes, no heels ? Yeah she's got problems and hopefully her father realizes so before they marry

Don't cut your hair. The new wife will not last more than a year

Do. Not. Cut. Your. Hair. If you give into this woman she will make you give in more and more. She isn't even trying to compliment your hair by saying a bun or pony tail would be fine either. I'm sure that you mentioned she didn't make demands on the other bridesmaids, so don't. Life your life. Your mother took care of you and left you cash to get by probably knowing this might happen. You look in that mirror an see your connection to your mother in your hair. Keep it alive. I'm sure you will become a woman your mother would be proud of by standing your ground.

So if someone could just punch that lady in the face and kick that dad in the balls... that'd be great.

First off, when I read that dad started dating his fiancee only eight months after his wife died that annoyed me, but then reading that this selfish bitch is making demands on the OP made me mad. I don't care how perfect you want your wedding to be, you don't make demands on people, especially your fifteen year old stepdaughter. Her mother and she bonded over her hair and if she shouldn't have to cut it. If stepmom is afraid of being upstaged by a child then she has bigger problems. Dad needs to tell stepmom that the girl will be keeping her long hair and that stepmom is to leave her alone. Also this girl should never be in any room alone with this unhinged woman.

Why do people do this? This young lady will be your family. Absolutely dastardly. You don't put your family through that. A wedding isn't some vanity show for you to indulge on being the star. It is a union of two people and families.

Don't worry! They'll get divorced around 1-2 years after their baby is born. Just stay strong until then.

Stick to your guns. Don't cut your hair. Totally NTA. Offering to wear a bun or a braid is going above and beyond the call of duty, as is letting her dictate flats and light makeup. If you are not in the bridal party, then as long as you follow the dress code, and don't wear white, as bride or imminent step-mother, she does not get a say. I would suggest this is a good time to draw some boundries. Tell your Dad you love him, you want him to be happy, and you want to be at his wedding, but you will not be cutting your hair.

I would not cut it, OF COURSE. And I would put a temporary blue rinse in it - or ya know, whatever the color scheme it - and attend the wedding. Yes, I am that immature. :)

WTF, you don't ask people to cut their hair or make any other long-term changes to their appearance to take part in your stupid wedding. Hair takes a lot of time to grow, it simply isn't worth it to do it for the sake of a few hours spent on your wedding reception.

I would never cut my hair for anyone. It took me 12 years to grow it about a foot (extremely slow-growing hair) and I'm not cutting it any time soon.

OP's dad is marrying a woman just 7 years older than his daughter. I'd tell step monster to pound sand. And I'd show up to the wedding in heels and stunning makeup and hair piled high in an updo, just for spite.

Nope...don't cut your hair..You've already said you won't wear heels or false eyelashes. Your stepmother to be is quite young and obviously hasn't matured enough as she's jealous of a fifteen year old offspring. If she loved your dad she would just want you there and it wouldn't matter what you looked like.

OMG WTF is it with bridezillas thinking the control EVERYBODY as well as EVERYTHING ?? NO NO NO she cant tell you what to do with your own hair , even the make up , clothing , she SHOULD want YOU to be happy and comfy at the wedding and THATS IT

you could always take hair clippers to her when she is asleep, say 2 or 3 days before the wedding, Ireland is a lovely country

There is a lot going o here. First, do not be mad at the stepmom for being with your dad too soon after you mom passed. That should be something you discuss with your dad, not the woman he met. Second, what father in their right mind would let their new future wife treat their child like this?! Or anyone treat their child like this. This is so sad.