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Bride Wants Her Stepdaughter To Cut Her Hair For The Wedding, Is Livid When The Stepdaughter Refuses
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'She Accused Me Of Wanting To Upstage Her': Bride Wants Stepdaughter To Cut Off Her Hair For The Wedding, Gets Mad When She Refuses

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We’ve all heard stories about bridezillas running amok during the wedding planning. But when bridezilla is also the future wife of your father, things are quite different. After all, who doesn’t want to see their dad happy?

So this story comes from a 15-year-old teen whose mom passed away 2 years ago, and her dad started dating another woman eight months later. “After they got engaged, Alice approached me and said we needed to talk. She said she has a clear vision of how she wants her wedding to be and that I have to comply so that everything will be perfect,” the author wrote on r/AITA.

But she didn’t expect her stepmom to give her such questionable directions. Turns out, the stepmom not only wanted her hair cut short, she also demanded that she not wear heels nor fake lashes. Let’s see how this whole situation unfolded and make sure to leave your thoughts in the comments below.

A 15-year-old teen has recently shared this complex situation she had with her stepmom who’s about to marry her dad

Image credits: Tatsiana Volkava (not the actual photo)

Turns out, the stepmom asked her to cut her hair short among other things so that ‘everything will be perfect,’ but the author refused

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Bored Panda reached out to the teen who shared this whole story about her dad getting married and the difficult situation that came with it. “When Alice told me her requests I was taken aback,” she told us. “The flats and light makeup sounded reasonable to me but asking me to cut my hair was too much. I thought it was unfair.”

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The author feels like she put her dad in a tight situation, so she asked people if she was right to refuse her stepmom’s request

However, the author is very thankful she posted her situation on Reddit. “Not only did they give me validation, I was also given good pieces of advice. I made my decision not to cut my hair because of the support I received on Reddit,” she said.

Having said that, the author assured us that “Alice is a nice person.” “She never forced me to have a relationship with her and before this situation, we were cordial to each other. I think I can get along with her but it will depend on how she will react to my decision not cutting my hair.”

She later added a couple of edits and the update on her final decision

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To all the daughters and sons who struggle getting along with their step parent, the teen said to learn to accept the situation. “Understand that your parent deserves to be happy.” She also suggested writing “a journal where you can pour all your thoughts and emotions. It has helped me a lot, especially after my mother passed and my dad moved on too soon.”

“Lastly, reflect on your attitude towards your step parent. At least be polite to them even if you don’t get along well,” the teen in the pivot of this complex situation concluded.

And this is what people had to comment on this whole situation

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

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Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Liucija Adomaite

Liucija Adomaite

Writer, Community member

Liucija Adomaite is a creative mind with years of experience in copywriting. She has a dynamic set of experiences from advertising, academia, and journalism. This time, she has set out on a journey to investigate the ways in which we communicate ideas on a large scale. Her current mission is to find a magic formula for how to make ideas, news, and other such things spread like a virus.

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Ilona Baliūnaitė

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I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Ilona Baliūnaitė

Ilona Baliūnaitė

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Lovin' Life
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just Wow! The nerve of this POS. Who gave her the God given right to demand such things? She is totally insecure in her own life. You should not cut your hair, as it is something you and your Mom bonded . I dont even think you should opt out of heels and fake lashes if that's what you prefer. She has absolutely no right to make such demands. When you married someone with children, you have to accept the children as well just as they are. It's a package deal. Just Wow. I am disgusted by this lady, if you can call her that. Definitely NTA at all. Stand your ground!

Aunt Messy
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She has a mental age of about 12. Remember, the father was already 14 years old before his new wife was BORN.

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That poor girl. All the comment aside about the step mum (who is a bitch btw) I really feel for this young lady. She is between the rock and the hard place. I wish I could give her a hug.

Marianne
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. You simply do not decide about your guests' looks, end of the discussion. (Maybe apart from not wanting your guests to wear a white dress...) Stepmom should try to get professional help if she feels so insecure about her looks that a teenager might upstage her on her own wedding.

Anil Anil Sahani
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3 years ago

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I basically make about $6,000-$8,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it….. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐅­𝐮­𝐥­𝐰­𝐨­𝐫­𝐤.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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Lovin' Life
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just Wow! The nerve of this POS. Who gave her the God given right to demand such things? She is totally insecure in her own life. You should not cut your hair, as it is something you and your Mom bonded . I dont even think you should opt out of heels and fake lashes if that's what you prefer. She has absolutely no right to make such demands. When you married someone with children, you have to accept the children as well just as they are. It's a package deal. Just Wow. I am disgusted by this lady, if you can call her that. Definitely NTA at all. Stand your ground!

Aunt Messy
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She has a mental age of about 12. Remember, the father was already 14 years old before his new wife was BORN.

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Caro Caro
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That poor girl. All the comment aside about the step mum (who is a bitch btw) I really feel for this young lady. She is between the rock and the hard place. I wish I could give her a hug.

Marianne
Community Member
3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

NTA. You simply do not decide about your guests' looks, end of the discussion. (Maybe apart from not wanting your guests to wear a white dress...) Stepmom should try to get professional help if she feels so insecure about her looks that a teenager might upstage her on her own wedding.

Anil Anil Sahani
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3 years ago

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I basically make about $6,000-$8,000 a month online. It’s enough to comfortably replace my old jobs income, especially considering I only work about 10-13 hours a week from home. I was amazed how easy it was after I tried it….. ===))> 𝐖­𝐰­𝐰.𝐅­𝐮­𝐥­𝐰­𝐨­𝐫­𝐤.𝐂­𝐨­𝐦

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