Well done to the OP as they managed to draw an epic out of sentence their partner said to some colleagues. Look out for future stories of when they opened the door to a delivery driver one, and the time they waved to a friend across the street.

Lots of judgment here. Male bonding time - necessary as much as female bonding time. Based upon morning breakfast, you determine that they are poor parents? That’s b******t.

Shout out to all the good dads ( most of you). Love what you do for the family - thank you. The same goes for good moms. Shame on the ones that don't... simple as that most of the time.

I always did bath and bed time, it was my time to spend with my son as I was at the office and my wife was a SAHM. Now she works full time as well but I have been working from home since the pandemic, I now get our son ready for school and take him and pick him up. I used to go in early for more practical reasons such a less traffic on the road and I can get stuff done without being interrupted. But I do know some dads who do as little as possible

I didn't use my parental allowance either. Why? Because the £100 (or whatever it was) a week didn't cover the wage I lost. It's OK lambasting people for working, but we do it to pay bills and maintain a roof over our heads. Hell, I held down TWO jobs because my (now ex) didn't want to work (and has never worked since). Ironically her mother shared the same condescending attitude which I read here "BUT YOU'RE MISSING YOUR CHILD GROW UP!" - I know, but what option did I have? You can't have both...

My husband did that and would nap in his work van during the day. Needless to say, I was livid after getting up several times a night for several months with our kid. Sadly, he never really changed.

This was a terrible read and I think the OP is lying or probably an AI bot or something. There's no way this many ppl agreed with her.

Enough with the man-hating already, BP. I get to work early because I drop my son off to school, and it doesn't make sense to drive 20 minutes home, and ten minutes later drive 20 minutes back.

Ok, so anyone referring to their husband as my Honey. Has now become my enemy #1. And now on to the obvious stupidity in the room. The OP, and her nosey 'Honey', can suck it. Every parent has their own way of dealing with the stress, and pride they have in being a parent. I have 6. And it I have the greatest sense of pride. But, any parent, and even a child know some days you need a time out. The breakfast club father's, aren't looking for a way to get out of getting their kids to work, they are getting out of the way. All families have certain tasks that parents split. You don't know what these proud Fathers do in the weekends, or evenings. Does Nosey and Honey even have kids? Do you know the stress? If I didn't get out of my partners way, while doing a chosen parental tasks, I would be knocked down. Mind your business OP. When you are a parent, and Honey understands shared parenting at home. Give your thoughts, until.. maybe you and Honey should get a hobby.

I've gotta assume that the women saying that most men are like this are the type of whingey, cringey Karens that most men prefer to avoid.

Ive worked in manufacturing for over 10 years...ive NEVER met a man who did this. Ever. In fact the general consensus was every wished they could be home more because they felt they were missing out on their kids lives. But then they also felt they had to work more to have money to give their wives breaks. They were miserable missing their families.

"See honey, I'm not so bad... Guess what the guys at work do". OP thought that s**t in his mind & telling his wife stories to make his self look better. Most likely these guys come in early for a little quiet time & are high earners with stay at home wives.

Great Post... A woman mentioning the husband works long hours, doesn't socialize with colleagues just to end up bashing on the possible reason why male colleagues go early. How about get busy with your life and mind your business?!

I like how all there pro mothers posts act like the wife has no input on her situation or even the assumption that mom doesn't work. Until the man asks them why they are in their early this is all just a best guess. My childless self goes in super early to avoid the stress of morning traffic. But unlike above i leave early as well. I would also like to know who gets bigger checks. I'm gonna say the 12 hour guys make more that the 8 hour guys even on commission.

It was the '' Is That Why You Leave Early And Stay Late Every Day'' that was confusing me. Leave the house early or arrive early is what they meant!

What an utterly daft and illogical "Take". Clearly this woman and her beta-husband are so self conscious about not having kids that they are projecting their insecurities onto these other men. Not only that, but the group even tried to bring the husband in and offered to buy him food as a generous offer, but he's so lazy that the thought of actually getting to work early and having a proper work ethic appalled him. I used to arrive at work early in the mornings because my workplace offered a cooked breakfast which I loved and set me up for the day. never once did I come in because I was avoiding anything to do with my kids; quite the opposite - I often made sure I spent time with them before I left, because as anyone who actually HAS kids will know, they are ALWAYS up hours before their parents are so there's plenty of time to spend with them. This woman-child needs to grow up and realise that not every man is "avoiding" their responsibilities just because they promote good ethids.

My old boss volunteered to go on business trips to our overseas office in Asia. Said he doesn't want to stay home. He has two kids.

When my daughter was in High school I got up early every morning and made her some 'breakfast' (high school girls don't eat much) and put together a 'lunch' for her and dropped her off at school on my way to work. My wife wasn't well and needed her rest, but it was some of the best time I had with her. Today she is 33 and she still confides all of her cares and concerns with me. My wife is gone now and I am so grateful for the kind relationship we still have. It's true that lots of men are lousy fathers but they are also loosing out of one of the most precious experiences in life.

My daddy was the primary care giver. Mom worked full time and was the bread winner. Both ways are fine as long as it is agreed on.

omg people need to stop having kids like yesterday

My husband voluntarily stays home with our young children while I go shopping, so not *all* men avoid parental responsibility.

I think a lot of people in the bp comment section probably had the few good dads that didn't treat their family as a trophy. Here's a newsflash for those people as a trophy child: my dad rarely made time for dinner from elementary to middle school. He never came to my volleyball matches because he liked soccer better. I don't have a real relationship with him because he doesn't want real kids, he wants poster children. This post could completely be accurate.

This story doesn't even make any sense. I don't see what's the problem with coming to work early

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Typical behaviour and then they wonder why their partner resents them. No doubt they go home with their same old stories about what a hard time at work they've had too