Your girls are scared of the president elect. I am completely terrified of what he's going to do, but glad you're trying to hold onto your kids!!

It's a hard position for OP to be in, but he's doing the right thing. You can't force a relationship on an adult (and you shouldn't force them on a children).

NTA. All truly political issues aside - we can disagree on a lot of things, civilizedly so, and still be friends, loving relatives and such ... well, some of us can... -, the cult following Donald Trump has opted out of reason. Those most moralizing, virginity-praising people around - evangelicals - support a man who is a convicted sexual predator, who literally fücks around whereever a hole on roughly a crotch's level opens up, basically has proudly and openly committed any and every sin mentioned in the bible, in their vast library of stupid pamphlets and so on - but, as he promised them a few crumbs, he's a most mysterious god's way or something. Yeah, sure - would THEIR son behave so, they'd cut him off. Would THEIR daughter be engaged to a similar man, they'd cut her off. Heartless and without second thoughs - given, god's on their side, so why think again? Why think at all, even? All answers have resided in a little book for about 1900 years or so, and many parts are much older. New answers, logic, even accepting scientific facts that don't have many political implications to them, even more so those that have, but are true nonetheless? They won't, the inability to do that is praised and reinforced among people in those cults. Cutting off these people is just the only option to deal with them currently. Evangelicals need to hit rock bottom, be left alone with their delusion, to finally be able to see. Don't brake their fall, push them! Reason and truth, in their view, have a different meaning. Truth is what feels true to them, and serves their purpose of making the US a christian theocracy, with slightly milder racism - they won't do the hanging of negroes for none, supposed, fabricated or minor offense, but will, without any letter of the law stating it, issue more severe sentences, the darker your skin. They won't openly admit being racist, but act with that casual racism, that often credits a "supreme feel for rhythm" to darker humans (... how generous of them to admit ...), but otherwise, every non-formal racist bigotry is to be expected. And, being credited a superiority in some singled-out niche doesn't really cover or compensate the other side of it. Truth is, in their view, not consisting of proven facts and logically sound principles, but arbitrarily is assumed to whatever they feel is right, was nice and ... serves the purpose. It's a rather practice-oriented definition thereof, and that's about as frightening as it gets - a rational human who, by being given wrong information, has become a racist is, at least in principle, able to return to reason, to correct and to adapt their views, habits, decisions. These people are no longer open to any of this. Lesbians? Hated with a passion they never ever applied to any love they feel for anything. The only thing they love is a made-up Jesus who spreads love with an AR15. I think I should congratulate your daughter on the Dad they have. Uncles, aunts, grandparents - well, you don't get to pick these. They suck, you can't do much about that, but at least, you can decide that they're to do that elsewhere. NTA, a few thousand times so!

What a class act OP's mother is wanting her granddaughters to attend family events through financial coercion and not by choice, no wonder she told her to shove it.

You have two very intelligent daughters.

Voters of He Who Must Not Be Named better start getting used to spending holidays and birthdays alone.

I totally understand where the man's daughters are coming from. After this last election I have no interest in having a relationship with my parents anymore after they voted for Trump. They are voting for things that are motivated by hate - a hate they surely must feel against me and my kids since we are in the demographics they claim are the enemy. We're planning to move away.

I thought for a long time that Trump voters were ignorant and just didn’t realize what he was. But now I understand that I was wrong. They understand what he is and they love it. His true gift is his ability to understand what people want in the dark, sick part of their soul , to bring it out and make it mainstream. The racism, misogyny, transphobia and cruelty is the point and what they voted for. I hope they choke on it because Trump has screwed over everyone who ever sold their soul to him and they are going to find this out. In the meantime, spend your holidays elsewhere.

The adult children are women, one is a lesbian. The "family" voted for the legalization of r@pe, and they whine because the two women and responsible father cut them off. Anyone who has a problem with is decision is likely a r@pist who wants to commit r@pe.

The mouthy morons seem to think that their words/actions have no consequences and nothing can be further from the truth. "Those people" have spent *years* mouthing off about the Biden election and everything that followed while pointing fingers and screaming about a stolen election. They have been bit¢hing and crying and talking $hit for years and the people who were forced to endure them are now just over it. The younger folks chose to absent themselves from the situation because, hey, it's their choice (more power to them!) and the old grumps STILL feel like they can control the behavior of other people cause, apparently, they have more to say. Those young folks need to tell them to FO and establish their own traditions that don't involve a bunch of hateful bigots who feel like their are entitled to order people around. Go screw yourselves you nasty old crones, and anyone else who espouses that agenda. I know I'm gonna get jumped on by the soft-headed sycophants of the orange, but 🤷

It is for these things that the vote is secret... Everyone believes that they have the right to tell you who you should vote for, and if you don't do what they want you become an enemy, that's why I give an apolitical image... I never say who I'm going to support or who I'm going to vote for. , that only concerns me and no one else...

Good for him. The next four years are going to be very hard on his daughters, and the last thing they need is to hear it from their own family.

A simple set of rules that all members of my family are taught from a very young age for any family function: 1) NO POLITICS! At all! end of discussion! 2) Respect religions (most are Catholic, many are atheist, a few Hindo & others). If it's a religious event, you respect traditions/services. You don't have to take part, but you don't spout your mouth off or take the p**s. 3) Sports can be discussed, but you have to respect other teams (I think you have to compliment them or something. IDK I don't like sports). 4) Any so called 'controversial' opinions WILL be met with discussion, because we are such a varied lot, so only bring it up if you won't get upset when asked about or challenged. 5) Meat will be there! Over half of us are fecking farmers, if you are, or are bringing, a vegan or veggie, then there will be options, but beef is in our blood. Follow the rules and the family stays good. Break the rules and you'll be turfed out or likely end up unconscious.

Yeah, my mother had one last chance to choose me over her politics. She didn’t. She and her equally disgusting sisters still haven’t figured out that I am going to live with my biological father’s family in the UK in a few months. I have been moving in the shadows. Egg donor and her sisters will receive a letter after I’ve left the country, because I wouldn’t put it past at least one of the aunts to kidnap me for “reeducation” and/or to murder me, given she has sincerely threatened to murder other democrats.

like a good Chuck {think like 98%} of Reddit has the same IQ as Trump so its no wonder they like that {and i know for a fact most of Reddit {think 99.9%} is made of up people that came from 4Chan back when it was a mess

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What a shame that in today's world that people cannot keep negative comments to theirselves. Listen, everyone has a right to their opinion. However, if it causes problems in a family, politics should be left at the door. What's more important...family or politics?

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NTA, OP is stuck in the middle and shouldn't be chastised for not forcing his adult children to attend family gatherings. If the grandkids are so intolerant that they want to cut people out of their life for marking a box on an election form they are choosing to live a lonely life.

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Oh the maturity of you all. Adults leave politics, sex and religion out of the conversation and simply enjoy the presence of your loved ones. But the attitudes here don't surprise at all.