Child Of Family Vloggers Of 7 Years Reveals How It Ruined Her Life In A Raw And Honest Post
InterviewRecently, a 17-year-old girl turned to the True Off My Chest subreddit to share how being brought up by family vloggers affected her.
“They started vlogging when I was around 7 and stopped three years ago. I want to hugely avoid speculation as to who my family is so won’t be sharing much more detail. The channel had over 500k subscribers,” the author recounted. The family stopped vlogging due to “a mental health crisis” that happened because of the channel.
However, what remained was the long-lasting trauma the 17-year-old endured back in the vlogging days. In this brutally honest and heartbreaking post, the author listed all the ways it made her life misery in a bid to warn other family vloggers, or anyone considering this career.
A 17-year-old who was brought up by family vloggers shared how it affected her in a heartbreaking post
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To find out whether putting children in front of the camera to create content for one’s social media is a good idea from an expert’s perspective, Bored Panda reached out to Anisa Lewis, a positive parenting and life coach who shared some interesting insights about it.
According to Lewis, it is very much a personal choice where the parents need to have considered the risk to themselves or their family against the gains that they get from letting people into their lives. “Once a child gets to an age where you can ask their opinion and views, then I believe a discussion needs to be had as to how they feel about it and if they are happy to have themselves on social media,” the parenting and life coach explained.
However, “personally,” Lewis said, “I have taken a very measured approach to what I put of my family on social channels, if anything. I am the mum of an only child who is now a teenager so if I am referencing something that is going on with my child, it is pretty obvious who I am talking about,” she said.
As for what potential risks this style of parenting may pose to children, Lewis said that this is an interesting question and that the child protection side for her is huge. “Of people knowing where they live and if not the exact location, the area, possibly where the child(ren) go to school, their names when the child is not of an age where they can be taught the risks of stranger danger, etc. There is most definitely a safety risk, which runs into the teen years where they potentially could be coaxed into a situation they are uncomfortable with because of what has been shared about them.”
Moreover, in terms of parenting style and risk, if content is shared with the permission of the child and the parent is open and upfront about what they are doing, how they are sharing and possibly the motivation behind it, then the family is ‘in it together,’ Lewis argues. “There are some wonderful parent bloggers, creators and influencers who show their family in a real but sympathetic way,” she added.
Lewis said that there are so many positives that can be gained from seeing other people’s struggles, the highs and the lows, knowing you are not alone and your family is ‘normal.’ “Personally, I wouldn’t share images of my child sleeping or in a highly emotional state as this, I believe, is showing their vulnerable side and is something very personal that potentially they have had no say in the sharing of it,” the parenting coach concluded and added that she can reference these moments in words but would withhold the image.
The author later shared more details in response to people’s comments
And this is how people reacted
You are essentially child traffickers if you do this, IMO. Pedos love that stuff according to a shrink friend of mine. Consider that: You think you're getting likes, but it's from *pedophiles*. Let kids be PEOPLE not PROPS
It very much stressed me out to read that there was a bathing video.
Load More Replies...I always thought it was toxic, but to hear the story... it's terrible. It was difficult to read it for me till the end.
I would like to add something. Household cameras. I hate them. I grew up with them, and even when I know that they are not watching me, or even if I'm out of the house I still feel like they are watching me. Those cameras caught every time I made a mistake, and those cameras got me in trouble for those mistakes. I couldn't be mad or sad cause I was afraid those stupid cameras would get me in trouble.Every emotion had to be controlled. The only place I was not watched was in the bathroom. I swore that if my mother put one in the bathroom I would snap. I told my older sister (while on a walk out of the house) that if she did I would snip every cameras cord in the entire house. If she replaced them I would drown them. To make it worse I couldn't even cry in the car cause there was a dash-cam that recorded both in and out of the car (when the car was powered on, and we were not allowed in the car without permission). Another thing was my siblings. They were living cameras.
Load More Replies...I feel like it would to an extent. If you showed the whole top half of a girl (even if she's young) I feel like you could get flagged for that.
Load More Replies...I don't understand how this is even legal. You don't own your children. Don't they have a right to privacy?
It feels weird seeing the sentence "you don't own your children" when ur mum actually has said she owns u
Load More Replies...My 9yo keeps asking for a YT channel because he sees other kids on it. So I asked him to write a his description of what he wants to do, how he intends to capture his audience so he can sell "his merch" (his words), and what days he wants to shoot his footage. Turns out that was more work than he wanted to do so I've dodged that bullet for now.
That was a brilliant way to deal with that. Major props to you for coming up with that solution. I think young kids just see these kids on YT playing with all their cool toys, but they don't realize the work that goes into it. I feel bad for the kids who have to perform even when they're not feelin it. Having to act happy when you're having a bad day or just sad would be torture.
Load More Replies...How is this any different from Child Beauty Pageants?? Just because it's in your house it's somehow okay?? You are shilling your kids out to make money! It's the same level of exploitative greed and approval/attention seeking for yourself and no one else. Ugh.
Why would any mentally stable person even be interested in the day to day goings on of another family? Sounds voyeuristic and boring to me.
Maybe some people who can't have children but would love to? Who are alone and crave the feeling of having a family?
Load More Replies...THANK YOU for the lengthy Q&A. All my questions were answered. I never even thought about the “creepy demographic.” Wow. Best post on BP this year. Thank you.
I've always thought those were gross and just reaffirms my belief. Monetizing your children like this is just kind of perverse. No better than kiddie beauty pageants.
It’s worse, I’d say - the vlog kids have the audience even in their own HOME, they are always in the spotlight with no freedom and no personal space.
Load More Replies...I know it's a relatively new thing but they need to release some laws to protect children
This is so toxic and creepy. Parents valued likes and attention from strangers over their kids mental health. I know that making money this "easy" way can be tempting, but really? Didn't they realize what they did to their children? Op said they regret it and they won't start vlogging again, but I find it hard to believe. She mentioned that someone tried to kidnap her sister and parents did not stop then. Hopefully I am wrong.
And also, if someone does do this, how can they be stupid enough to give out their exact address and things like that?
Load More Replies...I hate to be proven right. Seriously, I HATE being proven right about this. Of course it’s damaging; how could it not be? Child exploitation is child exploitation, children are prohibited to work by law but when they do it so mommy and daddy can get likes on a fυcking social media, it’s apparently perfectly ok. Parading your children in front of each and every pedοphile who has internet access is apparently also totally justified, if only mommy and daddy get those all important, holy likes. I wish I’d been wrong, so that people like OP wouldn’t have been hurt by their parents exhibitionism. Now I hope it’s just outlawed, as soon as possible.
I hate Ryan's World for this very reason. Sure the kid is loaded, but I fully believe the only reason they had more kids was because Ryan will grow out of the age where kids want to watch him, so they'll move onto his younger siblings. The mom is so annoying, and I fully expect Ryan to act out a lot worse than someone like Justin Bieber did when he was a certain age.
Fully predictable... This kind of parents, especially mothers, are criminals and sould be prosecuted.
Yeah, of course you're blaming mothers the most. Both parents are evil, and there are some mothers (who are left alone by their great male partners) who do it because of a hard situation they in.
Load More Replies...What do you think of this: I was in a rut for what to pack my kids for lunch for school, so I turned to a YouTube channel called the Family Fudge with a series called "Bunches of Lunches." The beautiful mom packs beautiful, themed lunches with soothing narration, and when she's done with each lunch, she puts it in the themed lunch box, slides it across the table, and says, "And I'm going to hand this lunch off to my daughter, Lily," or whichever kid. Sometimes her children appear in the videos, too, to help choose, pack, or taste test. I think they might appear more often in other videos on the channel, but what do you think about appearing just in the lunch videos? It's not every day, it's not a terribly intimate topic, but it does share their real names and what they look like. Personally, I don't share any pics of my children online, and what OP's parents did was abominable, but lunch videos hover in an area where if it's in those parent's comfort zones, I don't judge them for it.
Personally I'd still go with no. My reasoning: showing faces and revealing names may expose those children to dangers of the (sometimes dark) world we live in. It is not so terribly difficult these days to find someone's home or school address. If they can remain anonymous - I'd let them. That would be my take on this, I guess.
Load More Replies...I can't stand watching family vloggers now because of stuff like this. Everyone has the right to privacy and so do your kids. It doesn't make sense for this to be legal, you are basically exposing your kids. If you think about it, in the future when the kids try to go to college, they might not get accepted because of this. It shouldn't be legal to do this.
Every single time I see a family vlogger I keep scrolling unless it’s obviously a candid moment they just wanted to share bc it was funny or heartwarming. You can definitely tell the difference. I have a 13 month old and I limit how much I share of her online and will continue to as she gets older. Consent is a big thing with me and I don’t want to post anything she can’t consent to.
i dont know i dont understand why youtube considers family vloggers family friendly content....nothing is family friendly filming children without their consent
So much of this content is problematic. My wife spend a lot of time blocking YouTube channels. There are a few that i like to watch with my kids, (crafting and how to videos) and some that i find intolerable (people building stuff in Minecraft), but are otherwise safe. Those are fine, but the family life stuff is terrible. If just for the intense rampant commercialism. These kids spending their time opening toy after toy. It's as bad as porn for teenage boys. It builds these unrealistic views of the world that are just toxic. Then, on top of that, is the exploitation of these kids' lives.
Can't be them as they have millions of subscribers and still upload (don't know them..quick Google check) .. All the family ones I've noticed have millions of subscribers ..so maybe this was a lesser known channel to only have over 500k and not a million plus.(I know 500k is a lot, but typically for a family channel it's not).
Load More Replies...Each and every one of these "family" vlogging channels are all real world versions of TheTruman show but worse again as they are selling their own children x
There’s a great fiction book about this called Girl (in Real Life) by Tamsin Winter. It’s written for children but as a school librarian, I really enjoyed it.
My grandkids love the vloggers the Swedish Family. When it first started both parents had jobs, then she quit as their subscribers increased. They started travelling away from Sweden, India first. Then he quit work and they started going to all the big attractions here in Sweden and always with video cameras recording other people not just themselves and I can see how uncomfortable they are in the background. As the subscribers increased and the money they bought a summer home in the countryside. Then it's they decided to live in Portugal for a year so bought a place there, then sold it and bought bigger and had another baby. Kids even the baby in front of the camera. Sad
When she mentioned her and her sister were filmed in the bath, they have grounds to press child pornography charges on their parents. Rightfully so. I would.
A horror story, that I am sure is repeating itself. However, responsible use of social media can still be realized but it certainly does not include non stop surveillance and intrusive posts.
It's exploitative and not fair to the children who don't have a say. That being said, I don't think all parents who do this are evil with a capital E. Some are horrible and are doing it for attention. But most, I think, are just trying to figure out how not to be poor. How to provide a life to their children that was better than theirs. I think it starts off as well-meaning, "maybe we can make some extra income and move to a better neighborhood. Send kids to a better school," etc. and then the money just sort of warps everything as it always does. Vanlife, boatlife, etc. They try to make a profit off their lives. I wish we could get to a point where regular jobs weren't so horrible that people are not willing to scar their kids in order to not be poor anymore. They made more money in a week than the guy made his entire year. You work so hard just to be poor. You get to a point where you'll do anything to change that so you start overlooking the toll it takes on your family.
Yes and no. When I think back at some of the stuff that was totally ok in the '90s and early 2000s but can get you "canceled" today... Back in the '90s bindis were considered super fashionable. Everyone was wearing these stick-on ones. Nowadays, this would be considered cultural appropriation and highly offensive. Imagine you create a vlog with your kid in it, doing something considered acceptable now, only for them to miss out on a job or get fired for it twenty years down the line. People are getting lynched over tweets they've posted (and have forgotten about) 10-20 years ago.
Load More Replies...You are essentially child traffickers if you do this, IMO. Pedos love that stuff according to a shrink friend of mine. Consider that: You think you're getting likes, but it's from *pedophiles*. Let kids be PEOPLE not PROPS
It very much stressed me out to read that there was a bathing video.
Load More Replies...I always thought it was toxic, but to hear the story... it's terrible. It was difficult to read it for me till the end.
I would like to add something. Household cameras. I hate them. I grew up with them, and even when I know that they are not watching me, or even if I'm out of the house I still feel like they are watching me. Those cameras caught every time I made a mistake, and those cameras got me in trouble for those mistakes. I couldn't be mad or sad cause I was afraid those stupid cameras would get me in trouble.Every emotion had to be controlled. The only place I was not watched was in the bathroom. I swore that if my mother put one in the bathroom I would snap. I told my older sister (while on a walk out of the house) that if she did I would snip every cameras cord in the entire house. If she replaced them I would drown them. To make it worse I couldn't even cry in the car cause there was a dash-cam that recorded both in and out of the car (when the car was powered on, and we were not allowed in the car without permission). Another thing was my siblings. They were living cameras.
Load More Replies...I feel like it would to an extent. If you showed the whole top half of a girl (even if she's young) I feel like you could get flagged for that.
Load More Replies...I don't understand how this is even legal. You don't own your children. Don't they have a right to privacy?
It feels weird seeing the sentence "you don't own your children" when ur mum actually has said she owns u
Load More Replies...My 9yo keeps asking for a YT channel because he sees other kids on it. So I asked him to write a his description of what he wants to do, how he intends to capture his audience so he can sell "his merch" (his words), and what days he wants to shoot his footage. Turns out that was more work than he wanted to do so I've dodged that bullet for now.
That was a brilliant way to deal with that. Major props to you for coming up with that solution. I think young kids just see these kids on YT playing with all their cool toys, but they don't realize the work that goes into it. I feel bad for the kids who have to perform even when they're not feelin it. Having to act happy when you're having a bad day or just sad would be torture.
Load More Replies...How is this any different from Child Beauty Pageants?? Just because it's in your house it's somehow okay?? You are shilling your kids out to make money! It's the same level of exploitative greed and approval/attention seeking for yourself and no one else. Ugh.
Why would any mentally stable person even be interested in the day to day goings on of another family? Sounds voyeuristic and boring to me.
Maybe some people who can't have children but would love to? Who are alone and crave the feeling of having a family?
Load More Replies...THANK YOU for the lengthy Q&A. All my questions were answered. I never even thought about the “creepy demographic.” Wow. Best post on BP this year. Thank you.
I've always thought those were gross and just reaffirms my belief. Monetizing your children like this is just kind of perverse. No better than kiddie beauty pageants.
It’s worse, I’d say - the vlog kids have the audience even in their own HOME, they are always in the spotlight with no freedom and no personal space.
Load More Replies...I know it's a relatively new thing but they need to release some laws to protect children
This is so toxic and creepy. Parents valued likes and attention from strangers over their kids mental health. I know that making money this "easy" way can be tempting, but really? Didn't they realize what they did to their children? Op said they regret it and they won't start vlogging again, but I find it hard to believe. She mentioned that someone tried to kidnap her sister and parents did not stop then. Hopefully I am wrong.
And also, if someone does do this, how can they be stupid enough to give out their exact address and things like that?
Load More Replies...I hate to be proven right. Seriously, I HATE being proven right about this. Of course it’s damaging; how could it not be? Child exploitation is child exploitation, children are prohibited to work by law but when they do it so mommy and daddy can get likes on a fυcking social media, it’s apparently perfectly ok. Parading your children in front of each and every pedοphile who has internet access is apparently also totally justified, if only mommy and daddy get those all important, holy likes. I wish I’d been wrong, so that people like OP wouldn’t have been hurt by their parents exhibitionism. Now I hope it’s just outlawed, as soon as possible.
I hate Ryan's World for this very reason. Sure the kid is loaded, but I fully believe the only reason they had more kids was because Ryan will grow out of the age where kids want to watch him, so they'll move onto his younger siblings. The mom is so annoying, and I fully expect Ryan to act out a lot worse than someone like Justin Bieber did when he was a certain age.
Fully predictable... This kind of parents, especially mothers, are criminals and sould be prosecuted.
Yeah, of course you're blaming mothers the most. Both parents are evil, and there are some mothers (who are left alone by their great male partners) who do it because of a hard situation they in.
Load More Replies...What do you think of this: I was in a rut for what to pack my kids for lunch for school, so I turned to a YouTube channel called the Family Fudge with a series called "Bunches of Lunches." The beautiful mom packs beautiful, themed lunches with soothing narration, and when she's done with each lunch, she puts it in the themed lunch box, slides it across the table, and says, "And I'm going to hand this lunch off to my daughter, Lily," or whichever kid. Sometimes her children appear in the videos, too, to help choose, pack, or taste test. I think they might appear more often in other videos on the channel, but what do you think about appearing just in the lunch videos? It's not every day, it's not a terribly intimate topic, but it does share their real names and what they look like. Personally, I don't share any pics of my children online, and what OP's parents did was abominable, but lunch videos hover in an area where if it's in those parent's comfort zones, I don't judge them for it.
Personally I'd still go with no. My reasoning: showing faces and revealing names may expose those children to dangers of the (sometimes dark) world we live in. It is not so terribly difficult these days to find someone's home or school address. If they can remain anonymous - I'd let them. That would be my take on this, I guess.
Load More Replies...I can't stand watching family vloggers now because of stuff like this. Everyone has the right to privacy and so do your kids. It doesn't make sense for this to be legal, you are basically exposing your kids. If you think about it, in the future when the kids try to go to college, they might not get accepted because of this. It shouldn't be legal to do this.
Every single time I see a family vlogger I keep scrolling unless it’s obviously a candid moment they just wanted to share bc it was funny or heartwarming. You can definitely tell the difference. I have a 13 month old and I limit how much I share of her online and will continue to as she gets older. Consent is a big thing with me and I don’t want to post anything she can’t consent to.
i dont know i dont understand why youtube considers family vloggers family friendly content....nothing is family friendly filming children without their consent
So much of this content is problematic. My wife spend a lot of time blocking YouTube channels. There are a few that i like to watch with my kids, (crafting and how to videos) and some that i find intolerable (people building stuff in Minecraft), but are otherwise safe. Those are fine, but the family life stuff is terrible. If just for the intense rampant commercialism. These kids spending their time opening toy after toy. It's as bad as porn for teenage boys. It builds these unrealistic views of the world that are just toxic. Then, on top of that, is the exploitation of these kids' lives.
Can't be them as they have millions of subscribers and still upload (don't know them..quick Google check) .. All the family ones I've noticed have millions of subscribers ..so maybe this was a lesser known channel to only have over 500k and not a million plus.(I know 500k is a lot, but typically for a family channel it's not).
Load More Replies...Each and every one of these "family" vlogging channels are all real world versions of TheTruman show but worse again as they are selling their own children x
There’s a great fiction book about this called Girl (in Real Life) by Tamsin Winter. It’s written for children but as a school librarian, I really enjoyed it.
My grandkids love the vloggers the Swedish Family. When it first started both parents had jobs, then she quit as their subscribers increased. They started travelling away from Sweden, India first. Then he quit work and they started going to all the big attractions here in Sweden and always with video cameras recording other people not just themselves and I can see how uncomfortable they are in the background. As the subscribers increased and the money they bought a summer home in the countryside. Then it's they decided to live in Portugal for a year so bought a place there, then sold it and bought bigger and had another baby. Kids even the baby in front of the camera. Sad
When she mentioned her and her sister were filmed in the bath, they have grounds to press child pornography charges on their parents. Rightfully so. I would.
A horror story, that I am sure is repeating itself. However, responsible use of social media can still be realized but it certainly does not include non stop surveillance and intrusive posts.
It's exploitative and not fair to the children who don't have a say. That being said, I don't think all parents who do this are evil with a capital E. Some are horrible and are doing it for attention. But most, I think, are just trying to figure out how not to be poor. How to provide a life to their children that was better than theirs. I think it starts off as well-meaning, "maybe we can make some extra income and move to a better neighborhood. Send kids to a better school," etc. and then the money just sort of warps everything as it always does. Vanlife, boatlife, etc. They try to make a profit off their lives. I wish we could get to a point where regular jobs weren't so horrible that people are not willing to scar their kids in order to not be poor anymore. They made more money in a week than the guy made his entire year. You work so hard just to be poor. You get to a point where you'll do anything to change that so you start overlooking the toll it takes on your family.
Yes and no. When I think back at some of the stuff that was totally ok in the '90s and early 2000s but can get you "canceled" today... Back in the '90s bindis were considered super fashionable. Everyone was wearing these stick-on ones. Nowadays, this would be considered cultural appropriation and highly offensive. Imagine you create a vlog with your kid in it, doing something considered acceptable now, only for them to miss out on a job or get fired for it twenty years down the line. People are getting lynched over tweets they've posted (and have forgotten about) 10-20 years ago.
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