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harpling 2 years ago

The dog isn't the one who'll be picking out their nursing home.

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Harley Lee 2 years ago

Amen. Killing and threatening to kill my pets, loved ones, my animal friends does not motivate me to follow ur rules.

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ForThePeople 2 years ago

Wait, your parents killed your pets for "motivation"?! F**k them!

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Commander Ducky 2 years ago

Bro I thought my parents were the only ones. They literally killed my cat when I was 7 yrs old because I got a C in one of my classes. They're f*****g crazy

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Mokayokok 2 years ago (edited)

Jesus f*****g Chris Almighty, that took a dark f*****g turn! This isn't remotely normal on any scale on any planet in any universe - this is f*****g sick!

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Noah Risgaard Christensen 2 years ago

What the actual f**k, your stupid f*****g parents deserve to f*****g burn in hell, how can two people be so f*****g s**t. F**K THEM. Kindest regards,

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CouchChihuahua 2 years ago

How dare they!!! Indeed **** them, no pets deserve to die. -an angry couchchihuahua

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Lisa H 2 years ago

Threatening to kill a pet is never okay. I know exactly how that feels. I'm so sorry

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Amy 2 years ago

Whoever makes that kind of threat needs to be in jail.

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Snorky The Pig 2 years ago

This is the worst. Animals are defenseless and they didn't do anything to deserve this.

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The Radio Demon 2 years ago

F**k your parents Harley, goddammit, why the f**k would anyone be that messed up to do that s**t. I'm so sorry that you went through that.

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Priscilla Hash 2 years ago

Wow Harley, I hope this isn’t true. Horrendous parenting for one, and the bribe is way over the top

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Susan Thomas 2 years ago

Call Child Protective Services. That is emotional abuse.

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della by the sea 2 years ago

Baby…who is threatening you and killing your pets???? I swear, you can come live with me and I’ll be your mom ♥️

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Pjerrot 2 years ago

My ♥️Is broken for U … and I’m Shamefull as a Parent,that a Parent will do this to the Person They Claim They Love!!! I know that for a Fact that Parents are Super fast to Give Pain with one hand/secund & Love with the other hand/next secund!! Without thinking about it….

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Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago

It can also motivate revenge.

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Bananaramamama 2 years ago (edited)

That's a super extreme interpretation....

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Bri Lancaster 2 years ago

THATS NOT NORMAL!!

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Valerie Johnston 1 year ago

Omg, that is absolutely horrifying!! 😢 I am so sorry, you didn't deserve that!

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Haley Sterne 2 years ago

OMG. I feel you though. Abusive parents suck.

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Megan Fisher 1 year ago

Kill ur parents :3

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DoNotGoGentleIntoThatGoodNight 1 year ago

I relate to this. I have only physically fought back once in my life ; and that was when my father stormed into my room to grab my pet rats so that he could take them away and kill them.

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Idiocy Incarnate (she/her) 1 year ago

Oh don't mind me, just on my way to avenge all the commenters pets

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MusicalNerd 1 year ago

Wa-? This... is not how it's supposed to be.

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bro idk 1 year ago

threatening to kill them is already fvcked up enough but actually killing them????

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Lauren S 8 months ago

Killing your pets?? OMG that's beyond awful. I'm so sorry

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Misty-Dawn Amayi 2 years ago

The only people who think this is a good tactic are control freaks and narcissists.

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Lillian Charter 1 year ago

And funking sociopaths

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Mosheh Wolf 2 years ago

Pets are only to be removed if the kid is unable or unwilling to care for them. Contact with friends and family is only to be limited or eliminated if those friends or family are engaged in risky or dangerous behavior. Access to things like toys can be limited, but there should always be clear rules as to what the kid needs to do to gain access, and those rules should be age appropriate.

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2 years ago

Stripping out their room and stuff and taking their clothes because "You bought them" doesn't motivate anybody.

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Jane Thorne-gutierrez 2 years ago

Some parents should never BE parents.

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Sardonyx_3 2 years ago

Not important, but my parents got rid of my favorite stuffed animal when I was 9 bc of bad grades/school stuff. Had the s.a. since I was 3. They ignored my begging, and just put 'em in the trash... I remember to this day.

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Skater Chick 1 year ago

NOOOO NOT THE STUFFED ANIMAL!!!! F THEM HORRIBLE PARENTS

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Bad Ass69 1 year ago

I was not even allowed to have friends! So I can relate to this kid.

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Ruby 2 years ago

YES

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Lola 1 year ago

My dad used to threaten to send me away on a boat to the middle of the pacific ocean

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Natalia Żółtkiewicz 1 year ago

My mother used to threaten me this way and when i did something she didn't like, she would always say something like 'I was going to let you go to that trip at school but now that you've done this I decided not to'. She knew exactly how much I wanted to go, and I knew pretty well that she wasn't going to let me go anyway - but that still hurt because I had that feeling that I'd lost something I almost had. The worst part was that I didn't even know WHAT I'd done to deserve a punishment.Today I'm an adult and I have an immense fear of abandonment and expect life to take away anything (and anyone) what's important to me, especially in a moment when I'd need it the most.

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Lene 1 year ago

Aww poor kid! I understand why there's a need for therapy... but it should be the parents who got therapy. Not this kid.

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El is so weird (s)t(he)y 1 year ago

Yeah my parents just don’t understand I text my friends so much bc they are my reason for living. When I couldn’t contact them over the summer I tried to kill myself

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Alexandra Sanders 1 year ago

WHY DONT OUR GUARDIANS UNDERSTAND THAT!?!?!?

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Mackenzie Alameda 1 year ago

THIS IS TRUEEEEEE trust me i'm 9 basiccally 10 in 2-3 months

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Reenie Smith Shaw 2 years ago

How heartbreaking!

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sovy marcia 2 years ago

there's a difference between consequences, and straight up plain cruelness towards kids. i have this problem. in my moms mind i believe that she thinks what helps me and my mental or behavioral , is what benefits her 100% as well, when that's not the case

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Sonja Baker 2 years ago

This! 💯

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Pjerrot 2 years ago

How Sad & Brainwashing is it that Parents does ; The Take Away & Threatening of killing animals??!!! I really do understand Why kids grow up with so much anger & hate in their hearts,that They sometimes commit some serious & really crue meaningless crimes …. Caus’ They have learned it from Them Who Should Love & Proect Them. Against Cruelness & Hurtfull People… Against Evil & Pain… Their Own Parents!!!! I’m so Sorry for U Kids! 🙏🏻♥️

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Riley Quinn 2 years ago

I get the occasional grounding, but taking away my hobbies and interests just made me all the more resentful and rebellious.

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Iapetos 2 years ago

My very own mother took my f*****g books and stuffed toys away because idk she felt like she couldn't control me or something.

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Julia Sankaran 2 years ago

Im on the fence about this one. It sounds like the type of thingy son would say when i take his phone for 10 minutes because he was misbehaving. Once I took his screens and he literally stood with his hands out saying "my precious my precious please dont take my precious". Lol.

1point

Appalachian Panda 2 years ago

True. But we don't know the exact situation here. I've heard of parents basically stripping their kid's bedroom bare for fairly minor reasons. No electronics, no toys, no books, sometimes no door -- for weeks, months, or even years. And then there's the situation an earlier commenter brought up with pets, which is just gruesome.

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Kira McPherson 10 months ago

Not to mention it doesn't actually solve any problems... If I'm struggling with homework because I can't understand the problems or concentrate on them, how is taking away my phone at all related to that? I guess some people with kids just don't want to be parents...

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Kim Bush 1 year ago

Its sickening to think about all the helpless children that are trapped in situations like this. With all the electronic eyes in the world now it is disheartening how few people want to get involved and make a difference. Put the phones down and actually look at the people around you. You could be the only one who can help an innocent child.

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Mauricio A.Rivera 2 years ago

Yeah, this ones a little to vague for me , what are the actual circumstances, what is all?Sometimes not taking away let's say a BB gun when misused leads to more serious behaviour.

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O.M.Miki 2 years ago

depends .... if you're playing a game all day and have HW to do...yeah i'm taking it away for a bit.

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Noname 2 years ago

No, little one, you have confused à "right" with a "privelege". Your electronic devices were taken away from you because you won't do what is expected of you in a family, and some day, you'll get a job and refuse to do the least expected of you and you'll get fired, but complain that it was unfair.

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naylene hess 1 year ago

I'm not an expert or anything but the point is its a punishment not a motivator lol still sucks tho

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Julie Arias 2 years ago

I don't know, taking the phone, computer, headphones,, baseball practice-works pretty well here. All of those are distractions from schoolwork. So yes, if you are not doing your best you will lose them. (Two weeks of having to do homework without these at the kitchen table for 2 hours has already brought his grades up). It was that or reduced time for baseball (his choice).

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The counselor notes that her clients all gave her permission to anonymously share what they had told her during their sessions with her.

Combined, the three videos got over half a million likes since being posted. The things the clients told Courtney are absolutely heartbreaking, and they had some TikTok users in tears.

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Winter 2 years ago

for the past year I have been stuggling to make my parents understand this as well.

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Rosesinmyhair 2 years ago

❤

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over it already 2 years ago

Oof... sounds like how I felt with my mom growing up. I try hard now not to be that parent, but should and will actively check in with each of my kids after school today.

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Counselor Courtney told Scary Mommy that there is no such thing “as a perfect parent.”

“We've all been on our phones too much because we've needed to zone out after a long day or were stuck so deep in our own minds that we didn't give our children the attention they needed, or simply bailed out of a tea party because we were too overstimulated. It's okay—learning to take responsibility, showing accountability, and repairing are the ultimate goals,” the expert said.

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ForThePeople 2 years ago

But when the kid gets a phone, the parents will freak out about it whenever he/she/they/ are on it.

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Butterfinger 2 years ago

Hits hard.

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MellonCollie 2 years ago

6 years old and they don't say goodnight anymore ... I don't know why this one in particular stuck out to me, but I find it very telling about how much the parents care. Poor kid :-(

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The trauma counselor mentioned that while it’s perfectly normal to want to know what happened during therapy sessions, “it's equally as important that the relationship between child and counselor remain safe and that means that parents won't always be privy to what is said.”

Good communication is about trust and respecting boundaries. Some of the ways that parents can talk to their kids about their sessions, however, include asking them about their favorite part of therapy that day. If they see that their kids are tense and don’t want to open up, parents ought to point out that they’re not upset about this.

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ForThePeople 2 years ago

Teens should get some independence, it should not be either a whooping whenever the kid has an opinion or helicopter parents.

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Ruby 2 years ago

So true, especially for an oldest or only child

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barn owls ️ 2 years ago

i want to hug this kid and tell them it isn’t their fault. i was raised like this and it’s very detrimental to the rest of your life

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“You can say, ‘I get it, you feel safe talking to [Counselor Name]. I like that, and I am happy that you have them to talk to. I want you to know that I, too, am working hard and when you are ready, I'd love to be a safe place for you where I can listen’—the best thing to do is respect that emotional boundary that's popping up for them,” she told Scary Mommy.

She added that a way for parents to start an honest conversation with their kids is to ask for their permission. Here’s an example of what a parent might say: “I realize that we need to communicate more and I think that starts with me becoming a better listener. Like you, I am still growing and learning new things each day. Thank you for being patient with me. I know sometimes I haven't listened to you. I know how frustrating that is. So, I'd like to ask you a couple of questions. Are you ok with that?”

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Crunchy Chips and Queso Dip 2 years ago

This hots me hard

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Crunchy Chips and Queso Dip 2 years ago

I'm so sorry kid. I can relate

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Eva Kašu 2 years ago

this breaks my heart

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Some other things that parents can ask include: “If there was one thing at home that you could change, what would that be?" and "What is one thing in your life that you'd like to have more control over?”

“The more we know about ourselves, our childhood, and what we need now as adults the better we can heal and the more emotionally present we can be for our children. As parents, we mustn't strive for perfection but for growth. Be gentle with yourself as you grow and keep showing up…it truly takes a village,” Courtney said.

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Meme Lord 2 years ago

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Here's how some internet users reacted to the extremely emotional videos

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Cami 2 years ago

Many people say I'm selfish because I don't want children. Now, to have kids and don't give all the love and attention they need, that's selfishness.

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ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

I love kids, but I don't want to have any myself. But same, @Cami

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Summer Mason 2 years ago

As a mom of four. It's okay to not have kids. I support your decision.

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Nitka Tsar 2 years ago

Mom of three. I too support your decision. It‘s a decision only you can make for yourself. Others should take their nose out of your business.

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Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

You could have a million reasons or no reason at all. You have no moral obligation to have kids. To borrow a song line, it’s better to be a freak than a fake.

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Lace Neil 2 years ago

I'm also childfree. I also have severe mental health issues so in my mind, it would be far more selfish to inflict that on an innocent child.

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Okatango 2 years ago (edited)

Being a parent is both selfish and selfless. Deliberately creating a new life is an act of selfish self-fulfillment to continue own genetics, since there are already millions of children out there needing a loving home. Once the baby arrives, it becomes selfless as parenting ideally becomes a matter of always putting the child's welfare ahead of own

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Lisa 2 years ago

Not having kids is selfless!! Having kids is way more selfish, our planet is exploding and going to sh!t! I have one and he’s exhausting and awesome, but I applaud anyone who doesn’t want them, you can do so many fun things! I don’t know why anyone would want to change your mind, kids are hard work.

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DC 2 years ago

I really like my friends' kids ... one of my favourite features they have is that they leave at some point.

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Illustrious G 1 year ago

Childfree by choice here as well. When I hear this I always want to know: who am I being selfish to? My potential unborn child/ren? 🤨 Cool, thanks, I can live with that!

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Lana Jig-maker 2 years ago

Yeah. I don't see how not wanting kids is selfish. Me getting pregnant to make a person not think I'm selfish is self centered.

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ldao 2 years ago

What you do or don't do, ultimately affects your life not someone else's. People will tell you to have kids... will they help you raise them when you do? Nah of course not, beyond the opinion - there's very little substance. So you do you.

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Happy_Pandalover 2 years ago

This is sad and reminds us to listen to children/teens more. Most of the comments suggest that the parents take them for granted and/or think that they are too young to understand.

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Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago

So many mention parents being on their phones all the time. One wonders what will become of children who get scant attention because Dad is texting all the time and Mom is playing Angry Birds.

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foxgirl158 2 years ago

I cried in my classroom reading this. I relate to a lot of these. My friends have been saying for a while that stuff I thought was normal, isn’t. This just confirms what they’ve been telling me.

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ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

I just reread this with a friend during lunch and I was internally hurting while procrastinating in class.

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Lauren Baker 1 year ago

I can 100% relate. I'm 17 and looking back on my childhood (and even now) I've realized that experiences I thought were normal really aren't. ❤️ I have been to Child Abuse Prevention training for work and boy did it open my eyes.

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Hazel M 2 years ago

I tell my little girl this every night, even though she is 1 and can't understand yet, I hope it helps you: You are smart. You are strong. You are kind. You have those who love you, you will loved in future and you will draw love to yourself wherever you go. even if it isn't from your parents it is clear you are cared for by your friends

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Calder DeFord 2 years ago

🫂

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CP 2 years ago

The hard part for me as a parent is that I learned from my parents and they weren't the best. I told my seven year old that. I yell too much sometimes and I know it is wrong. I let him know daddy did a wrong thing and that I am trying to unlearn the way I was raised. We are lucky in a sense though. My son gets services because he had a stroke in utero (you can't tell because an infant's brain is pliable and can overcome it). We have a behavioral therapist and I have learned so many positive good ways to parent from the therapist. The therapist even says it is tough to unlearn what your parents taught you about parenting, but the good thing is I realized it and have become a much better parent since. I still have work to do, but everything is getting better.

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Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago

It speaks volumes about you that you have not only listened to the therapist, but have used that to grow as a parent. I've seen way too many parents who instantly react to whatever a therapist says as criticism and being attacked. You are doing a phenomenal job!

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Mari 2 years ago

I am going trough the same struggle. I am trying to be a good mum, but my own mother has a psychic condition and I never saw "normal behavior" when I was little. I have to work and fight every day to unlearn the wrong behavior (shouting, being angry...) and I have still a lot to learn (how to express emotions, how to react calm...) I wish you good luck, I am sure you are a great mum!

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Pandora Pandora 2 years ago

I applaud you and hope the absolute best for your family! Be blessed!

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similarly 2 years ago

Hey, CP, and others going through this: I went through the same thing. I know it's hard. My kids taught me a LOT about parenting, but I made SO many mistakes along the way. I really regret it. I wish you parents the best, and I wish you strenghth, positivity, patience and luck. Just keep loving your kids and letting them know you love them, listen to them, spend positive time with them.

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Lara Verne 2 years ago

Some people shouldn't have kids.

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Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

They are people. Treat them as people, not pets. (My mom on children/teens.)

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Buren 2 years ago

Why pets deserve less? They are family too, I know you meant well, but please don't indicate that pets deserve less, I have to strongly disagree.

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Commander Ducky 2 years ago

This just made me sad

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L Johnson 1 year ago

I once gave advice to a guy at the casino, I know he just didn't want to hear it but I had to. As he was playing slots, his phone rang every 5 minutes, and I heard him say "I'm leaving right now" every single time. I finally asked "who's calling you?". He said his kids. I asked him " how old are they?" And they were pretty young. I told him "I wish I could go back to those days and play with my kids and ask them what's going on in their life". "I am 70 years old and my kids live about 5 hours away. I can drive there without a problem but I can't do it every day. Sometimes I miss them because of that and I can't afford to move closer to them. I just didn't realize when I was younger that we wouldn't see each other as much. ZOOM is not the same as hugging them." He got up and left. A little while later he came back and said he was headed home and that what I said shook him up. I hope so! And I have no kids. I made it up.

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Carol Emory 2 years ago

I was in a Barnes and Noble parking lot one day and a woman was standing there with her 2 year old in her arms, the child was screaming and crying while the mom chose to stand there and shoot the breeze with a friend of hers. Later that day, I saw a woman gossiping on her phone even while her 9 year old daughter tried to get her attention. My son, 22 and autistic, asked why the kids were upset. I told him because the parents were ignoring them. Now my son is blunt, so when we passed by the little girl and her mom, he stopped and told the little girl "I'm sorry your mom is ignoring you." The woman looked shocked and annoyed, but it had the desired effect because she got off the phone. She gave me the stink eye throughout the store, but I've never been so proud of my son as I was at that moment.

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naylene hess 1 year ago

Its a 2year old. They scream when you won't let them do stuff that will literally kill them. They are in the boundary testing stage

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Whitney Anderson 2 years ago

My parents think every wrong thing I do deserves punishment. They take away the car so I can't get to practice, they take away all electronics and T.V, they have a lock on the pantry and they lock it when they are mad so I can't get food out of there. They also lock the treat box and soda fridge. And so many other things. My mom sometimes doesn't talk to me to weeks at a time (like right now) and I am consistently in my room for days (like I am right now) not talking to them, both us of being rude to each other, and I cry every single night, silent crying to the point where I can barely breath, because I know how much they wish they had never had me. My dad is alright but I know my mom truly hates me. I hate it and I feel so sorry for her that I'm in her life but I hate her as well at the same time, its so confusing. I'm 16.

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Lisalisa 1 year ago

Whitney -- withholding food (not sodas or treats, but real food) is abuse categorized as neglect. Tell your.teacher!

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sarah downer 2 years ago

This felt like a knife in my heart. I realize I'm not doing the best for my children. I try to show them I'm proud of them and they're loved, but I think I need to give them more attention than I do. I don't think I'm a bad parent, but I think I can be better and I will be better.

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naylene hess 1 year ago

Hey its Better learned late rather than not all right? Tomorrow is another day and you can always improve ❤️

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Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago

"If you don't believe I'm in pain why would you believe me if I said I was being beaten". I said that to my mom not that long ago about what happened in my childhood, I had horrible headaches since around 3yo and I knew back then she didn't believe it. When I was 6 and my grandmother started beating me she said if I told no one would believe and the memory of my mom not believing my headaches confirmed that for me, so I never told any of the horrible stuff that happened to me to anyone and took it all alone. I'm still heavily hurt and incapacitated by a mix of my trauma and my late diagnosed diseases.

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Melissa 1 year ago

I'm so sorry that you had to experience such disregard from your mother and especially the trauma from your grandmother 🙏 I wish you all the support you need to heal from all of it 💜

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crow_commits_murder 2 years ago

I related to too many of these. I think I might need a therapist as well

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Cheeky chicken 2 years ago

Well, I've saved this page and I'm going to re read periodically. I think I'm a doing ok parent but there's always room for improvements and learning and this list will help me remember how NOT to parent. Each and every one of these broke my heart x

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Ana Gabriela Borbolla 2 years ago

My parents treated me like this. Then they complained about how I was tired all the time, and never interacted with anyone. Please, before you have kids, be honest with yourself. Will you be able to give them the love and attention that they deserve?

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Linziaj 2 years ago

And how many more feel this way. So so sad. So much for the innocence of children. We as adults should take serious notes. Hope they find the help they need

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Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)

I wanted children, but had miscarriages instead, plus can’t afford adoption. Having grown up in a bad home environment myself, I definitely learned what NOT to do. Yet, so many people who could and did have children don’t even act like they wanted them. Tell you what, instead of abusing and/or neglecting your children, just bring them to my house. You can ring my doorbell and run if you’re that much of a coward (and it’s pretty much a sure bet you are a coward), but leave your kids on my front steps. Believe me, they’ll be better off with me, someone who actually wants them and will be good to them, than they ever could be with you. (In other words, either don’t have kids in the first place, or at least find someone who would be a much better parent than you are, and have them raise your kids—-so much better for everyone all around than you keeping, abusing/neglecting, and therefore totally f*****g up, your kids. Admit you can’t do it, and find someone who can step up to the plate and be great at it.)

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Lauren S 2 years ago

I wish you big hugs! What about fostering kids? Is that an option?

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Magda_lena 2 years ago

Okay but.. isn't that info like confidential? Yeah she did not say their names or anything but still.. if I went to a therapist I wouldn't want her to talk about stuff I said to them with someone else (unless they're also professionals in that area)

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setsuriseikou 2 years ago (edited)

On the one hand, I get your point. But on the other... as long as reading what I told my therapist might make people think "oh, I'm not the only one going though that, kinda makes me feel just a little bit better" or "I probably should think about going to therapy too" or "oh, I do that too and apparently it might hurt people, didn't know that, will stop doing that", then please, dear therapist, by all means tell what I told you to as many people as possible. I was hurt and I know how much it hurts and I don't want any more people to get hurt like this.

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Tim 2 years ago

Anonymized data is not confidential.

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Jenn C 2 years ago

One of the tags below the video says they gave permission. Also, there are no names or other identifying information.

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Monique Rosewood 1 year ago

It is confidential but to the identity not the content.

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Janine Randall 1 year ago

She didn't day any names and listed ages only. I used to work for therapists. They're very conscientious about confidentiality. Nothing this person said violated that or HIPAA ( which really only covers PT confidentiality from/to others).

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ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

What if the therapist got CONSENT from the kids?

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Autistic apricot 2 years ago

This is really sad, but I related to lots of this without knowing until I read it

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Luuta 2 years ago

Very sad and very identifiable, as a child and as a parent. Kids see and understand a lot more than their parents realise.

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Kylie Mountain 2 years ago

I struggled horrendously with 'executive function' skills all the way through school despite being 'smart.' As an adult looking back at this, I'm pretty sure I'm either on the spectrum or ADD; never actually diagnosed, despite seeing a specialist who told my parents in front of me that I was probably on the spectrum. It's like after they found out I didn't have ADHD, they just gave up and decided it was all intentional. The screaming and punishment did not make me more motivated or more organized. It made me a better sneak and liar, and left me with a permanent fear of my mother.

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

Oh my God, I'm so sorry for you! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤 even though I love my parents i have to deal with my dad not understanding how my autism works and gets angry at me for crying because I'm 'a teenager and should try harder to regulate my emotions normally bc tantrums are for toddlers', which makes me cry harder. I love him dearly and I wouldn't trade him up for any other dad but I wish he'd try harder to understand sometimes

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Miss Frankfurter 2 years ago

I’m just sick to my stomach, which is how I felt most of my childhood. I don’t have kids. I’ve never had a “mom” instinct. I wish I could hug every one of those kids, take them out somewhere and just listen and give them some freedom and joy. “What would YOU like to go do?” Then go do it to the max. But then I’d have to return every single one of them to all I just read. 😔😔😔

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naylene hess 1 year ago

I mean wishing you could hug those kids to make them feel better is definitely a maternal instinct if that makes you feel better. Doesn't have to be your own kids to be mom instinct:)

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Giovanna 2 years ago

These post its are sad and some of them, I am shocked to hear due to their age. However, I believe the younger generation/kids are getting smarter these days. Now, that being said, there are 2 sides to every story. We aren't knowing what is going on with the parents. Kids feel this way all the time, even if it was a perfect household. " The Brady Bunch" household doesn't exsist at all these days. Those times never have existed even back in the gold old days too. The good thing to know, is that these times when these kids feel this way, will pass in due time. Depending on the age, they will go through all different types of emotions. If they don't have these emotions, then that is when we should get worried. I'm not saying that their feelings aren't real or they are invalid, but parents go through a lot too with the different stages of their kids lives. I am a parent myself and I have a 19 year old and a 9.5 year old and I tell you what, they are so different from each other and my younger child's emotions are different than what my older child's emotions was at the same age but we raised them the same.

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similarly 2 years ago

One thing that parents have to understand is that teenagers rebel. It's a NECESSARY part of growing up. We want them to be independent ... but then crush them when they deviate in the slightest from what WE want them to do and be. Kids will go through a time when they will rebel against everything their parents stand for. It's a re-evaluation process as they move from being a child under their parents' control to an adult who has to think and act for themselves. It's a natural part of identifying and defining themselves as an individual, and figuring out what their motivations, goals and foundations are. Most of these kids will actually fall back pretty close to their parents. But at the same time, this rebellion is a kind of social evolution that allows each generation to modify behavior and thinking to adapt to changing circumstances. A lot of good leaders were rebels as kids.

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DancingPanda 2 years ago

I wasn’t ready to cry over this, I wasn’t ready to feel these on a personal level (I’m 16)

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ChocolateCake 2 years ago

this hurt my heart

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Mallory McCartney 2 years ago

I'm an adult and I still feel this way.

3points

2 years ago

How many of us must relate to these kids.... <:(

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Toolkit 2 years ago

These all broke my heart 💔 and made me cry especially because they are so relatable 😓*hugs* to all who need em :)

3points

Deutschland Mädchen 2 years ago

❤

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Buren 2 years ago

I know it's hard to be a parent, rising a human being and trying not to mess up. That is why I am not one. It's a lifetime commitment and shouldn't be done half-heartedly.

3points

Crunchy Chips and Queso Dip 2 years ago

This break my heart like a hammer and glass im so sorry for them😭😭

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lonely miso 1 year ago

Can I, like, go and punch all of these parents? Now?

2points

Lizzy James 1 year ago

I can’t even cry reading these bc my mom is in the room with me while I’m reading and my heart is broken for all of these kids

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UltimateSwiftie 2 years ago

i relate to all of this because when my friends asked me if I was ok when I was emotionally abused, I always lied and said I was fine even though I was hurting horribly because my parents stopped paying for therapy. I didn't know how to confess.

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Little Miss Annie 2 years ago

This saddens me more than I can put into words. I could see myself in so many of these. Please, listen to your kids. Sometimes even the kid who seems to be the happiest kid around, always wearing a smile on their lips, sometimes that kid is the most lonely and saddest of them all. I can't have kids, so if you have them, please check what you're doing and make sure they know you love them no matter what.

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Linda Lee 2 years ago

Even adults want to feel loved by their parents. My mom left when I was 12. Fast forward 35 years and I brought my elderly mother to live with me. I was hoping to have a relationship with her, get to know her, feel what it's like to have a mother. Turns out she didn't like me.

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Chlyri 1 year ago

i second this. at 28 I'm just now getting over my mother's failure to be a mother. now i don't need her, but i still want a relationship. the thing is that she'll never be my mother in anything more than blood. if we have a relationship, it'll be with the same closeness i have with my distant aunts.

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Vishy 2 years ago

Too much freedom can be dangerous.

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago (edited)

Where did this come from? No need for the downvotes. I'm genuinely curious as to where you might've come to this conclusion after reading this post. Was it in the article?

2points

Naima Frueh 2 years ago

Anyone else wants to adopt all of them?! No just me,ok

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gingerbaehner 2 years ago

I left the father of my children because all we did was fight. 20 yrs later tgey still blame me. I keep telling them that I felt tge fighting would set a bad example for them. I wanted tgem to see a loving family but they still blame me.. there is no winning

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

I know an upvote won't ease the pain, but have mine 🖤

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Anon M 2 years ago

These are not actual quotes.

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The Radio Demon 2 years ago

How would you know? I'm asking genuinely.

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Bri Lancaster 2 years ago

It's ridiculous how SOME women like having children because they feel they get a lot of attention when they're pregnant. Really? Such a want or need for attention?, that you bring a new life into this world plus your life changes forever.

1point

naylene hess 1 year ago

I know someone like this and the older kids are treated like janitors. Its b******t and upsets me greatly

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Ely Brettaigne 2 years ago

There is such a lack of context in some of these: taking one thought without any knowledge of how, when, where, frequency etc. is not the ‘truth’. Some of these could be temporary situations. Further, they are clearly interpreted words paraphrased by an adult, particularly those of the very young children. While it’s no doubt true these children are going through something negative, it is not clear at all what real context they are in. Yes, it’s a wake up call to parents, but it’s also inaccurately presented.

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Solidhog 2 years ago

As someone working in primary education and dealing with children with problems I am dubious of some of these answers. A lot of the answers use words and phrase sentences that a child of that age would not. Unless she has reinterpreted what was said to her.

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

She probably did.

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Vishy 2 years ago

I love kids but there should be line that they should not cross. Let them make mistakes, we all do even now. But some of them may be really harmful. Listen to the kids and make them understand why the 'NO' is all about.

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naylene hess 1 year ago

Yes alot can be solved when they know why you say no.

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Gary 2 years ago

Genuinely I think this is a good idea, however, sticking your face at the start of it, destroys any credibility to what you are trying to achieve, Keep your ego out of it then hopefully some people can learn some things without risking those kids that made their points.

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DancingPanda 2 years ago

Whoever is downvoting every single comment under this, please stop, people are opening themselves up and trying to help each other and being supportive, this is helpful and I appreciate this community, don’t downvote posts you disagree with, unless it is genuinely harmful, this is all good stuff, a downvote is not a disagreement, it is a ban

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Natassja Moore 2 years ago

This whole post broke my heart. I recognized myself in a lot of these... evern at those young ages... some people don't deserve to be parents.

1point

Audra 2 years ago

This whole post made me cry. Those poor kids!

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Ramirez rachael 2 years ago

Currently on a positive mental health journey with my 14yo. Its an uphill battle daily but this I was good! I need to listen more and spend more quality time with him before it’s too late

1point

Jay Son 2 years ago

I shouldn't have read these. It really hit me where it hurts. Talk about having a mood swing 😢

1point

LMr 2 years ago

As a forgotten and unloved child by an entire family, while my other two siblings had relationships with the entire family. It still sucks. I feel these words to my core. I tell my son EVERY SINGLE DAY that he is Loved, Needed, wanted, smart, capable and creative and beautiful. It's hard for me to be a parent b/c I only had one who was always working to provide for us. But I'm honest with my son. I've told him this is my first time being a parent

1point

Michelle E Parker 2 years ago

Absolutely heartbreaking- we NEED to do better- they deserve the best lives

1point

KOTLC_Fan 🇺🇦 2 years ago

I just want to talk to the parents 😐🔪

1point

Maya Baggins 2 years ago

This post is heartbreaking, I agree, but she is showing to the world things her patients told her in confidence. I'd be pissed if I saw my therapist using my traumas to get her 15 minutes of fame

1point

Chlyri 1 year ago

it's anonymous, trying to show people what children are saying. it's not about fame.

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Strontium Dog 2 years ago

At least a 3rd of those are b******t. The ages absolutely do not match the way those kids supposedly expressed themselves. 2/3rds however I can believe are near enough true... and that's sad.

1point

Debbie 2 years ago

I doubt kids said it that way, but it was the message that the therpist picked up. I'm not sure if it says anywhere that these are quotes.

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Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

As the mom of an amazing, intelligent, empathetic, creative adult daughter, I wanted to cry reading these notes. Why are you having kids if you don't want to spend time with them, teach them, love them, foster their interests, etc.? I promise that if you do, you'll have a friend for life. Yes, my daughter is still my child, but she's not *a* child...and she is my dear friend. Every single day, I'm incredibly proud of the person she has become. I'm so sorry that some of you have experienced this heartbreak.

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Jay Cox 2 years ago

I couldn't bring myself to upvote any of these. Thank you for sharing. Every single one of these just breaks my heart. Not everyone should be a parent. I just pray these kids get away from all that toxicity as soon as they can. Hopefully they find someone that shows them there self worth and don't repeat the cycle. Break the cycle kids. That's what I was always told by my adolescent counselor. Break the cycle!

1point

Carla Phillips 2 years ago

I feel these so much because I know my daughter feels these things, I just don't know how to fix it

1point

LeilaOdinis 2 years ago

My heart breaks for these kids. I want to give them a hug.

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ForThePeople 2 years ago (edited)

I am so glad I do not have these kinds of parents. I can only imagine what it must be like to be yelled at for every small thing.

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setsuriseikou 2 years ago (edited)

The older I get, the more I appreciate what my Mom and Grandma have done for me. Things haven't always been perfect between us, I made mistakes, they made mistakes, but never in my life have I ever felt neglected, unimportant or unneeded. So let's appreciate all the good, kind and caring people we have in our life and never take them for granted!

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

Another big problem is accepting neurodivergency but not understanding how it works and not being compassionate enough. My dad understands I have autism but he doesn't get that I get upset and frustrated bc that's the way it works, I always get told to stop crying bc I'm a teenager now and don't need to throw tantrums. I'm throwing that tantrum bc I was stressed and you shouted at me for expressing my feelings in a normal way, which upset me.

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Hello_my_name_is_Genevieve 1 year ago

Heartbreaking. Sorry bye, got to go hug my kids.

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Mary Goldie Smith 1 year ago

It is things like this that help me to realize that communication is key and to treat your children better than you were treated and to put them first. That's just me. Not saying it applies to anybody else.

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Wolf_spirit 1 year ago

Man this is just sad to read

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Pixie 1 year ago

owch

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Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

I couldn't read all of these. Too many hit too close to home and I'm crying now. I'm 68 years old and sometimes, things stick with you.

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Urlocal_phyco 1 year ago (edited)

all these children deserve the world and a hug

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CORGI QUEEN 1 year ago

The worst thing is, when my mom just texts me "I love you" Out of nowhere I think something bad happened

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Melfina Bynum-Solis 1 year ago

As a child reading this, I can relate. All of the parents on here say: "I wanna help my son! Oh I have children and i don't do this to them!" Why don't you spend your time helping your kids instead of just commenting on the way others treat their kids! ITS SIMPLE!

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Idiocy Incarnate (she/her) 1 year ago

You know what the worst part is? I relate to every part of this post

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Lemon 1 year ago

im so young i can relate to this im 11 and crying cuz my parents have been divorced for the last 7 years

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RachyLou92 1 year ago

Wow. Single mum to 4 kids. It's made me realise I need to be more present. Going on. Phone ban other than emergencies. No games or messaging. Play with them more and spend quality time.

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flashy 1 year ago

This is just horrible. My mom always wonders why I'm on my computer, but maybe if she paid attention to how I am, she'd know. I'm always on here, just looking away for things to make me feel happy. But no, just no. I can't do that while she's in the room or with me, because she makes it about her. And it's not!

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Unknown 1 year ago

My dad does this and he makes sure to talk to us and even when I am a teen he says good night kiddo and it makes me happy that I have someone who loves me unlike some poor kids how just need a hug

0points

Rachel Smith 1 year ago

Proof that not everyone should have kids. Having a kid doesn't make you a parent, being good to your kids does. Kids are smart, stop treating them like they're dumb.

0points

JustAnotherPanda (she/them) 1 year ago

Jesus Christ this all hits hadd

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Spannermonkey 1 year ago

Once again for the ones up the back: Just because you can breed, it doesn't mean you should. Biological functionality is not a reason to create a person.

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BisexualBaddie 1 year ago

To all these parents....look i just wanna talk

0points

Barbara Vandewalle 1 year ago

Teachers should this to the parents of their students. Lessons on how to improve communication and letting child know how they feel when they are ignored.

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anime girl 1 year ago

When my (adoptive) parents were still together, my family was happy and I didn’t have any mental problems at all. Then they got divorced, and now I have depression, panic attacks, and severe anxiety. My dad thinks that I have this because of the divorce, but it’s actually because when he’s sad, he gets angry when I’m not, and I have developed emotional insecurity due to this. I’m not lying when I say that I’m fine. By a 14 yo

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Pamela Blue 1 year ago

I am SO glad that I raised my children in the 80s, when cellphones weren't a thing yet. We actually communicated with each other.

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Jackie Nettleton 1 year ago

I’m child free and have always been that way because I know that I would be a terrible parent and I will not subject myself on to a defenceless child. I’m a good uncle and love my niece and nephews but I’m never going to be the sort of person that can raise a healthy child and I would hate myself if I had a child that ever felt like these children do even though I don’t know what I would do to stop it. It’s better for everyone that I’m not a parent

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Skittle-chanWan 1 year ago

all of these are so painful. i feel so bad for those kids. i'm not a parent yet, but i will be, and i won't be like those parents. If i ever meet one of those selfish parents, i will say, "You and I are going to have a LITTLE TALK."

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Richard Delmonte 1 year ago

Extremely worthwhile article. Need more like this. Amazing how the smart phone is taking parents attention away from children.

0points

Richard Delmonte 1 year ago

Very worthwhile aricle. Need more articles like this. Amazing how many issues deal with 'smart phones ' and computers.

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Pet_Person 2 years ago

My parents work over eight hours a day. They have not played with me since I was close to five or six.

0points

Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago

It seems to me that most of the kids here are single children. When I was a kid we wanted to get away from our parents!

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Mya Lugar 2 years ago

YOU made the decision to bring them into a family by having unprotected or voluntary sex (and you knew what makes babies) so you asked for responsibility for a baby and chil who is dependent on you for all needs: food, shelter, clothing,, medical, social, emotional etc. If you don't think you can (and want to) do it, use birth control!!

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Magpie 2 years ago (edited)

If you're a teenager relating to a bunch of this, & wondering how you'll get out, save your money. If you have a savings account, do your best to add to it & refrain from spending. Let it accrue interest. When you turn 18, look into something called a certificate of deposit, which has a higher yield, but you agree to not dip into it for a year or more. You might need $500-$1000 to get started. Ask about it at your local credit union. Granted, this is mostly for teens in the US, but if you're not, there may be something similar you can do in your country. It won't be a ton of money, but can help you get out when you're ready.

0points

Lea Panthera 2 years ago

My sister found me sobbing as I was reading this post because I related to so many of these. Hope these children get the love they deserve ❤️.

0points

Pandora Pandora 2 years ago

Really Sad!

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Fairsher 2 years ago

Dam cell phones.

0points

Mel The Axolotl 2 years ago

I wish I felt safe telling them about my identity

0points

Caroline Sinclair 2 years ago

This is the first BP post that actually made me cry.

0points

Bernadine Fraser 2 years ago

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Anna Nilsson 2 years ago

I know a couple that really need to see this - but they won't. We already had this talk with them and they still won't change because in their eyes they're not doing anything wrong. It's so sad and my heart is breaking for the kids.

0points

2picklesinabun 2 years ago

Put down the damn phone!! If you have a loved one in the same room as you, get off the phone. There is nothing more important on this stupid electronic device. Trust me.

0points

Gabby M 2 years ago

When I think of a 7-8 year old, I don't really think of them as full sentient beings. They're "just kids." But kids are a lot more aware and insightful than adults give them credit for. I hope these kids still learn to love and care for themselves, despite how their parents treat them.

0points

Lori w 2 years ago

Listening goes a long way. I hate that parents use cell phones as a babysitter. It's sucks.

0points

Jeremy Oliver 2 years ago

As much a$$ whippings me and my sis received growing up....seeing every argument, being forced to pick sides etc. Our parents did make time for us and still make us feel loved and important. With all of todays distractions the time outs instead of whoopings....without the 1on1 attention being given currently. I'm thankful my parents made us feel important and loved the most. Our upbringing even with different negative aspects was still better overall than what our youths are going through imho.

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

👍🏼

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Isaac Harvey 2 years ago (edited)

I know no one asked for mine, but in reality, I’m hurting much more than I let most people believe. In the future, I want someone/something to end me before either/both of my two diagnoses do it. I don’t know if I’ll be able to afford even just existing at some point in the future, and the side effects of taking levetiracetam and lamotrigine for my epilepsy don’t always seem worth it.

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Lisalisa 1 year ago

I don't know your situation, but some medical issues and the situations they create can cause depression. Please talk to your parents, doctor, or therapist. You are not alone.

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Stephanie 2 years ago

This was so heartbreaking to read. I don't have kids, but I feel like I would never want to screw them up so badly that they feel the way these kids/teens feel. I felt some of these on a personal level.

0points

Lucky2BAlive 2 years ago

Most children, even adults, need not just to be heard but listened to. Adults who experienced a lot of negativity in their early years spread that outwards. That is their current norm. With some added therapy, not just for their kids, can learn meaningful and more over impactful ways of communicating. Or you could try giving them a safe space to express themselves without fear or regret. But, eh, what do I know. I made a few major mistakes of my own so I can’t judge.

0points

Emo Sloth 2 years ago

I relate to these a bit more than I'd like... this is why I'll never have kids. How do I know I won't repeat my parents' mistakes?

0points

Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago

I want to hug and hold all these kids and teens (if they're okay with it) ... And then arrange for their parents to have a chat with me and go into therapy. Relax. I just want to talk to them ⚾ bat

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Okatango 2 years ago

In previous generations, I'm sure many children felt similarly but they also had a greater number of siblings, extended family members and friends, so there was more overall support and parents were more in the background as authority figures. In today's tiny bubbles and total control of every moment of their lives by the parents, any misstep by a parent has amplified repercussions.

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Horst 2 years ago

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Seedy Vine 2 years ago

People should need a license to breed. Or just stop breeding entirely.

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Nea 2 years ago

I know i am inviting downvotes here but as an Indian, i dont relate to either these children or their parents. I had a regular childhood and my parents and i love each other but all of these posts didnt speak to me at all.

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

O...k?

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Dude 2 years ago

Isn't every kid different??? I got "punished" as a kid when I did something I was told not to do or did something I should have known better than to do. I didn't "feel bad" about getting punished. I just remember thinking, "Okay I won't do that again." I learned that every action has consequences. Sometimes unforeseen consequences.

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Rat Of The Swamps 1 year ago

there's a line between punishment and abuse and neglecting them

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Andrew Smith 2 years ago

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The Radio Demon 2 years ago

I call bullshot on your comment. You can't dictate what someone else says/thinks. These could very well all be true. Feel a little pity

5points

Seb Benson 1 year ago

Wow... found a troll... I refuse to believe that anyone is truly that stupid and out of touch.

2points

Rowan/Vin 2 years ago

They will if they've been forced to grow up faster than they should have to.

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Joe smith 1 year ago

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Seb Benson 1 year ago

Wow... found a troll... I refuse to believe that anyone is truly that stupid and out of touch.

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Noname 2 years ago

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Mark and Elmo 2 years ago

She wrote in a way that people can better understand how they feel.

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AwesomeLeoWife 2 years ago

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

So, kids expressing how they feel about themselves and their families is negative? Got it.

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Andrew Smith 2 years ago

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Disgruntled Pelican 2 years ago

Because no parent has EVER treated their kid like s**t? Come on, Andrew. Get a grip.

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Damon 2 years ago

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Disgruntled Pelican 2 years ago

What a disappointing comment. These are children. CHILDREN. A 6/7 year old should not feel neglected or treated like s**t by their parents and the fact that you chose to make such a ridiculous comment on a post like this says a LOT about you.

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Cami 2 years ago

Many people say I'm selfish because I don't want children. Now, to have kids and don't give all the love and attention they need, that's selfishness.

210points

ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

I love kids, but I don't want to have any myself. But same, @Cami

56points

Summer Mason 2 years ago

As a mom of four. It's okay to not have kids. I support your decision.

24points

Nitka Tsar 2 years ago

Mom of three. I too support your decision. It‘s a decision only you can make for yourself. Others should take their nose out of your business.

21points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago

You could have a million reasons or no reason at all. You have no moral obligation to have kids. To borrow a song line, it’s better to be a freak than a fake.

11points

Lace Neil 2 years ago

I'm also childfree. I also have severe mental health issues so in my mind, it would be far more selfish to inflict that on an innocent child.

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Okatango 2 years ago (edited)

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Lisa 2 years ago

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DC 2 years ago

I really like my friends' kids ... one of my favourite features they have is that they leave at some point.

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Illustrious G 1 year ago

Childfree by choice here as well. When I hear this I always want to know: who am I being selfish to? My potential unborn child/ren? 🤨 Cool, thanks, I can live with that!

1point

Lana Jig-maker 2 years ago

Yeah. I don't see how not wanting kids is selfish. Me getting pregnant to make a person not think I'm selfish is self centered.

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ldao 2 years ago

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Happy_Pandalover 2 years ago

This is sad and reminds us to listen to children/teens more. Most of the comments suggest that the parents take them for granted and/or think that they are too young to understand.

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Freya the Wanderer 2 years ago

So many mention parents being on their phones all the time. One wonders what will become of children who get scant attention because Dad is texting all the time and Mom is playing Angry Birds.

14points

foxgirl158 2 years ago

I cried in my classroom reading this. I relate to a lot of these. My friends have been saying for a while that stuff I thought was normal, isn’t. This just confirms what they’ve been telling me.

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ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

I just reread this with a friend during lunch and I was internally hurting while procrastinating in class.

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Lauren Baker 1 year ago

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Hazel M 2 years ago

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Calder DeFord 2 years ago

🫂

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CP 2 years ago

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Powerful Katrinka 2 years ago

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Mari 2 years ago

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Pandora Pandora 2 years ago

I applaud you and hope the absolute best for your family! Be blessed!

0points

similarly 2 years ago

0points

Lara Verne 2 years ago

Some people shouldn't have kids.

14points

Leo Domitrix 2 years ago

They are people. Treat them as people, not pets. (My mom on children/teens.)

14points

Buren 2 years ago

Why pets deserve less? They are family too, I know you meant well, but please don't indicate that pets deserve less, I have to strongly disagree.

5points

Commander Ducky 2 years ago

This just made me sad

8points

L Johnson 1 year ago

6points

Carol Emory 2 years ago

6points

naylene hess 1 year ago

Its a 2year old. They scream when you won't let them do stuff that will literally kill them. They are in the boundary testing stage

1point

Whitney Anderson 2 years ago

6points

Lisalisa 1 year ago

Whitney -- withholding food (not sodas or treats, but real food) is abuse categorized as neglect. Tell your.teacher!

5points

sarah downer 2 years ago

6points

naylene hess 1 year ago

Hey its Better learned late rather than not all right? Tomorrow is another day and you can always improve ❤️

1point

Himory TheDreamer 2 years ago

6points

Melissa 1 year ago

I'm so sorry that you had to experience such disregard from your mother and especially the trauma from your grandmother 🙏 I wish you all the support you need to heal from all of it 💜

1point

crow_commits_murder 2 years ago

I related to too many of these. I think I might need a therapist as well

6points

Cheeky chicken 2 years ago

5points

Ana Gabriela Borbolla 2 years ago

5points

Linziaj 2 years ago

And how many more feel this way. So so sad. So much for the innocence of children. We as adults should take serious notes. Hope they find the help they need

5points

Kathryn Baylis 2 years ago (edited)

4points

Lauren S 2 years ago

I wish you big hugs! What about fostering kids? Is that an option?

3points

Magda_lena 2 years ago

4points

setsuriseikou 2 years ago (edited)

11points

Tim 2 years ago

Anonymized data is not confidential.

5points

Jenn C 2 years ago

One of the tags below the video says they gave permission. Also, there are no names or other identifying information.

4points

Monique Rosewood 1 year ago

It is confidential but to the identity not the content.

2points

Janine Randall 1 year ago

1point

ace lesbian demigirl(she/they) 2 years ago

What if the therapist got CONSENT from the kids?

1point

Autistic apricot 2 years ago

This is really sad, but I related to lots of this without knowing until I read it

4points

Luuta 2 years ago

Very sad and very identifiable, as a child and as a parent. Kids see and understand a lot more than their parents realise.

3points

Kylie Mountain 2 years ago

3points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

0points

Miss Frankfurter 2 years ago

3points

naylene hess 1 year ago

I mean wishing you could hug those kids to make them feel better is definitely a maternal instinct if that makes you feel better. Doesn't have to be your own kids to be mom instinct:)

0points

Giovanna 2 years ago

3points

similarly 2 years ago

3points

DancingPanda 2 years ago

I wasn’t ready to cry over this, I wasn’t ready to feel these on a personal level (I’m 16)

3points

ChocolateCake 2 years ago

this hurt my heart

3points

Mallory McCartney 2 years ago

I'm an adult and I still feel this way.

3points

2 years ago

How many of us must relate to these kids.... <:(

3points

Toolkit 2 years ago

These all broke my heart 💔 and made me cry especially because they are so relatable 😓*hugs* to all who need em :)

3points

Deutschland Mädchen 2 years ago

❤

3points

Buren 2 years ago

I know it's hard to be a parent, rising a human being and trying not to mess up. That is why I am not one. It's a lifetime commitment and shouldn't be done half-heartedly.

3points

Crunchy Chips and Queso Dip 2 years ago

This break my heart like a hammer and glass im so sorry for them😭😭

3points

lonely miso 1 year ago

Can I, like, go and punch all of these parents? Now?

2points

Lizzy James 1 year ago

I can’t even cry reading these bc my mom is in the room with me while I’m reading and my heart is broken for all of these kids

2points

UltimateSwiftie 2 years ago

2points

Little Miss Annie 2 years ago

2points

Linda Lee 2 years ago

2points

Chlyri 1 year ago

1point

Vishy 2 years ago

Too much freedom can be dangerous.

2points

Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago (edited)

Where did this come from? No need for the downvotes. I'm genuinely curious as to where you might've come to this conclusion after reading this post. Was it in the article?

2points

Naima Frueh 2 years ago

Anyone else wants to adopt all of them?! No just me,ok

2points

gingerbaehner 2 years ago

2points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

I know an upvote won't ease the pain, but have mine 🖤

0points

Anon M 2 years ago

These are not actual quotes.

2points

The Radio Demon 2 years ago

How would you know? I'm asking genuinely.

5points

Bri Lancaster 2 years ago

1point

naylene hess 1 year ago

I know someone like this and the older kids are treated like janitors. Its b******t and upsets me greatly

1point

Ely Brettaigne 2 years ago

1point

Solidhog 2 years ago

1point

Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

She probably did.

1point

Vishy 2 years ago

1point

naylene hess 1 year ago

Yes alot can be solved when they know why you say no.

2points

Gary 2 years ago

1point

DancingPanda 2 years ago

1point

Natassja Moore 2 years ago

This whole post broke my heart. I recognized myself in a lot of these... evern at those young ages... some people don't deserve to be parents.

1point

Audra 2 years ago

This whole post made me cry. Those poor kids!

1point

Ramirez rachael 2 years ago

Currently on a positive mental health journey with my 14yo. Its an uphill battle daily but this I was good! I need to listen more and spend more quality time with him before it’s too late

1point

Jay Son 2 years ago

I shouldn't have read these. It really hit me where it hurts. Talk about having a mood swing 😢

1point

LMr 2 years ago

1point

Michelle E Parker 2 years ago

Absolutely heartbreaking- we NEED to do better- they deserve the best lives

1point

KOTLC_Fan 🇺🇦 2 years ago

I just want to talk to the parents 😐🔪

1point

Maya Baggins 2 years ago

This post is heartbreaking, I agree, but she is showing to the world things her patients told her in confidence. I'd be pissed if I saw my therapist using my traumas to get her 15 minutes of fame

1point

Chlyri 1 year ago

it's anonymous, trying to show people what children are saying. it's not about fame.

1point

Strontium Dog 2 years ago

At least a 3rd of those are b******t. The ages absolutely do not match the way those kids supposedly expressed themselves. 2/3rds however I can believe are near enough true... and that's sad.

1point

Debbie 2 years ago

I doubt kids said it that way, but it was the message that the therpist picked up. I'm not sure if it says anywhere that these are quotes.

2points

Nikki Sevven 2 years ago

1point

Jay Cox 2 years ago

1point

Carla Phillips 2 years ago

I feel these so much because I know my daughter feels these things, I just don't know how to fix it

1point

LeilaOdinis 2 years ago

My heart breaks for these kids. I want to give them a hug.

1point

ForThePeople 2 years ago (edited)

I am so glad I do not have these kinds of parents. I can only imagine what it must be like to be yelled at for every small thing.

1point

setsuriseikou 2 years ago (edited)

4points

That Goth Demon (zey/zem) 1 year ago

0points

Hello_my_name_is_Genevieve 1 year ago

Heartbreaking. Sorry bye, got to go hug my kids.

0points

Mary Goldie Smith 1 year ago

0points

Wolf_spirit 1 year ago

Man this is just sad to read

0points

Pixie 1 year ago

owch

0points

Deborah Rubin 1 year ago

I couldn't read all of these. Too many hit too close to home and I'm crying now. I'm 68 years old and sometimes, things stick with you.

0points

Urlocal_phyco 1 year ago (edited)

all these children deserve the world and a hug

0points

CORGI QUEEN 1 year ago

The worst thing is, when my mom just texts me "I love you" Out of nowhere I think something bad happened

0points

Melfina Bynum-Solis 1 year ago

0points

Idiocy Incarnate (she/her) 1 year ago

You know what the worst part is? I relate to every part of this post

0points

Lemon 1 year ago

im so young i can relate to this im 11 and crying cuz my parents have been divorced for the last 7 years

0points

RachyLou92 1 year ago

Wow. Single mum to 4 kids. It's made me realise I need to be more present. Going on. Phone ban other than emergencies. No games or messaging. Play with them more and spend quality time.

0points

flashy 1 year ago

0points

Unknown 1 year ago

My dad does this and he makes sure to talk to us and even when I am a teen he says good night kiddo and it makes me happy that I have someone who loves me unlike some poor kids how just need a hug

0points

Rachel Smith 1 year ago

Proof that not everyone should have kids. Having a kid doesn't make you a parent, being good to your kids does. Kids are smart, stop treating them like they're dumb.

0points

JustAnotherPanda (she/them) 1 year ago

Jesus Christ this all hits hadd

0points

Spannermonkey 1 year ago

Once again for the ones up the back: Just because you can breed, it doesn't mean you should. Biological functionality is not a reason to create a person.

0points

BisexualBaddie 1 year ago

To all these parents....look i just wanna talk

0points

Barbara Vandewalle 1 year ago

Teachers should this to the parents of their students. Lessons on how to improve communication and letting child know how they feel when they are ignored.

0points

anime girl 1 year ago

0points

Pamela Blue 1 year ago

I am SO glad that I raised my children in the 80s, when cellphones weren't a thing yet. We actually communicated with each other.

0points

Jackie Nettleton 1 year ago

0points

Skittle-chanWan 1 year ago

0points

Richard Delmonte 1 year ago

Extremely worthwhile article. Need more like this. Amazing how the smart phone is taking parents attention away from children.

0points

Richard Delmonte 1 year ago

Very worthwhile aricle. Need more articles like this. Amazing how many issues deal with 'smart phones ' and computers.

0points

Pet_Person 2 years ago

My parents work over eight hours a day. They have not played with me since I was close to five or six.

0points

Evelyn Haskins 2 years ago

It seems to me that most of the kids here are single children. When I was a kid we wanted to get away from our parents!

0points

Mya Lugar 2 years ago

0points

Magpie 2 years ago (edited)

0points

Lea Panthera 2 years ago

My sister found me sobbing as I was reading this post because I related to so many of these. Hope these children get the love they deserve ❤️.

0points

Pandora Pandora 2 years ago

Really Sad!

0points

Fairsher 2 years ago

Dam cell phones.

0points

Mel The Axolotl 2 years ago

I wish I felt safe telling them about my identity

0points

Caroline Sinclair 2 years ago

This is the first BP post that actually made me cry.

0points

Bernadine Fraser 2 years ago

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0points

Anna Nilsson 2 years ago

0points

2picklesinabun 2 years ago

Put down the damn phone!! If you have a loved one in the same room as you, get off the phone. There is nothing more important on this stupid electronic device. Trust me.

0points

Gabby M 2 years ago

0points

Lori w 2 years ago

Listening goes a long way. I hate that parents use cell phones as a babysitter. It's sucks.

0points

Jeremy Oliver 2 years ago

0points

Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

👍🏼

0points

Isaac Harvey 2 years ago (edited)

0points

Lisalisa 1 year ago

I don't know your situation, but some medical issues and the situations they create can cause depression. Please talk to your parents, doctor, or therapist. You are not alone.

0points

Stephanie 2 years ago

0points

Lucky2BAlive 2 years ago

0points

Emo Sloth 2 years ago

I relate to these a bit more than I'd like... this is why I'll never have kids. How do I know I won't repeat my parents' mistakes?

0points

Metalhead Turtle 🇺🇦 2 years ago

I want to hug and hold all these kids and teens (if they're okay with it) ... And then arrange for their parents to have a chat with me and go into therapy. Relax. I just want to talk to them ⚾ bat

0points

Okatango 2 years ago

0points

Horst 2 years ago

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0points

Seedy Vine 2 years ago

People should need a license to breed. Or just stop breeding entirely.

0points

Nea 2 years ago

-3points

Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

O...k?

4points

Dude 2 years ago

-3points

Rat Of The Swamps 1 year ago

there's a line between punishment and abuse and neglecting them

1point

Andrew Smith 2 years ago

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The Radio Demon 2 years ago

I call bullshot on your comment. You can't dictate what someone else says/thinks. These could very well all be true. Feel a little pity

5points

Seb Benson 1 year ago

Wow... found a troll... I refuse to believe that anyone is truly that stupid and out of touch.

2points

Rowan/Vin 2 years ago

They will if they've been forced to grow up faster than they should have to.

1point

Joe smith 1 year ago

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Seb Benson 1 year ago

Wow... found a troll... I refuse to believe that anyone is truly that stupid and out of touch.

2points

Noname 2 years ago

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Iriané Marie Laurentwolff 2 years ago

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Lori Beauchamp 2 years ago

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Mark and Elmo 2 years ago

She wrote in a way that people can better understand how they feel.

3points

AwesomeLeoWife 2 years ago

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Mrs.Pugh 2 years ago

So, kids expressing how they feel about themselves and their families is negative? Got it.

4points

Andrew Smith 2 years ago

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Disgruntled Pelican 2 years ago

Because no parent has EVER treated their kid like s**t? Come on, Andrew. Get a grip.

4points

Damon 2 years ago

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Disgruntled Pelican 2 years ago

5points