i feel this in my bones. my mom thinks like this person’s parents.

The dog isn't the one who'll be picking out their nursing home.

Amen. Killing and threatening to kill my pets, loved ones, my animal friends does not motivate me to follow ur rules.

for the past year I have been stuggling to make my parents understand this as well.

My mom has always assumed that if I want to be alone, it's because I'm mad at her. And then she's mad at me because "I'm mad at her for no reason". This is literally why she and my dad got divorced. My dad and I are just very very introverted.

Introverts vs extroverts, I think schools should actually teach and go into these 2 personalities. Maybe it would help the introverts get understood better and bullied less since in Canada and US it feels like the default is to assume everyone is an extrovert.

I lived in my bedroom as a teen, coming out for meals and bath time. The occasional housework and yard work were awesome if I was alone; couldn’t imagine my parents were worried with me. They loved it. I was also polite, straight-A student, who took in strays to rehabilitate but that time alone is sooo precious!

All I wanted was a Pepsi! Just a Pepsi.

My parents got that, maybe because my mom fought hard for this much needed space in her own youth. I am so thankful for that!

...or that I'm secretly doing drugs and/or talking to an online bf- like what the heck? I have no history of doing anything like that yet my parents are convinced that it's what im doing in my room.

Fun fact im 26 and still prefer my room. Im a private person

Here to say... everyone always tells the quiet/introverted to "step out of their comfort zone" to "put themselves out there". As if damaging your loved ones mental health for their own conceived "normal" is perfectly acceptable. Lately I've started to see the shift, the "what if" the "what if we told you to sit down and shut up?" To "stop doing all the things that make you happy so you fit our normal?". Nobody should have to change for anybody. I'm glad that people are finally understanding this.

I’m glad my parents never got that idea in their heads or my teen years would have been hell for me and I doubt that I would still be in contact with them

like just bc im not talking it doesnt mean im being disrespectful...i just need more time to think than others in most cases

I didn't have a door on my bedroom until I was 16yo. I had younger brothers who also didn't have a door on their bedroom. There was absolutely no privacy.

Parents need to remember how stressful even having a good time was when you're a teen if only because of the intense social pressures and still-developing senses of identity and self-worth. Kids need time alone to decompress too, and having that is a boost to mental health, not the opposite.

Or that I'm avoiding you or mad at you. I just like to be left alone

🥰❤

I'm the youngest of 13 kids, have an insane amount of niece's and nephew's and didn't have a room of my own until I was in my early teens. Growing up you could move without tripping over a kid or a pet and it was always loud, noisy and chaotic between family and friends coming and going. When I finally had a space of my own, I absolutely relished the moments when it was quite and peaceful and I could just enjoy the silence.

And it doesn’t mean that I have no friends or hate exercise or some s**t

We just want you to get fresh air and some exercise. It’s such a broken record but it’s really basic, meaning it’s caring but I’m sure it’s annoying too

I'm an introvert, so I can relate to this.

Yes. But are you?

Some parents DO understand.

how do you know? Are you a psychiatrist?

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Oof... sounds like how I felt with my mom growing up. I try hard now not to be that parent, but should and will actively check in with each of my kids after school today.

But when the kid gets a phone, the parents will freak out about it whenever he/she/they/ are on it.

Hits hard.

6 years old and they don't say goodnight anymore ... I don't know why this one in particular stuck out to me, but I find it very telling about how much the parents care. Poor kid :-(

Teens should get some independence, it should not be either a whooping whenever the kid has an opinion or helicopter parents.

So true, especially for an oldest or only child

i want to hug this kid and tell them it isn’t their fault. i was raised like this and it’s very detrimental to the rest of your life

This hots me hard

I'm so sorry kid. I can relate

this breaks my heart

Danm

not fair

9 years old..... I think I hate this entire post

I know I will get downvoted, but is is a fun relaxing game. No need to prioritize it over a kid though.

this is how it was with my sisters for a lot of my life… it just led them to disliking me and ignoring me even more for a very long time

So heartbreaking

No, they definitely shouldn’t. I have so much respect for my father bc he’s never talked s**t on my alcoholic mother, ever. I called her an idiot once and he said, ‘well I won’t fight with you on that one’…that’s the worst 😝❤️

This is most parents. We don't want to unload our issue(s) onto you, it wouldn't be fair, and we love you too much to do that to you. It is not because we're trying to deceive you, we are actually trying to protect your well being.