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“Black Sheep” Of The Family Has The Best Life Because Of His GF, Siblings And Parents Resent Him
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“Black Sheep” Of The Family Has The Best Life Because Of His GF, Siblings And Parents Resent Him

“Black Sheep” Of The Family Has The Best Life Because Of His GF, Siblings And Parents Resent Him“Black Sheep” Of The Family Has The Best Life Because Of His GF, Gets Hate For ItParents Hate Son For Having Opportunities “He Didn’t Work For”, All Because Of His New GirlfriendWoman Upset About “Family Civil War” Because Youngest Son Got Lucky To Date A Wealthy GFWoman Is Glad The “Black Sheep” Of The Family Is Doing Well, Is Upset Others Hate Him For ItFamily Hates “Black Sheep” Of The Family For Doing Well All Because Of His New GirlfriendWoman Stressed After Being The Only One To Defend Brother The Rest Of The Family Now Hates“My Family Is Resenting Him For That”: Family Hates Son For Opportunities Provided By Wealthy GFFamily Turns Their Back On A Guy After He Finds A Wealthy GF & Lives A Good Life“My Family Hates My Brother For Dating Someone Wealthier Than Us And It’s Tearing Us Apart”
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Family relationships can be complicated. Even if you love your siblings, parents, or other members, you might also experience feelings far less endearing for one reason or another.

For this redditor, family relationships became complex after her younger brother found himself a girlfriend. That’s when the family dynamics changed, as, coming from a wealthier family, the GF opened certain doors for her partner, which his family members weren’t too happy about. Scroll down to find the full story below.

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    This woman found herself torn between standing up for her brother and not burning bridges with the rest of the family

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    Most jealousy-related incidents in families involve a sibling

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    Not all family members tend to be equally happy about one of their kin having something they don’t – it can be difficult to feel this way for someone else if you don’t feel happy yourself. It’s also difficult to be happy for others when jealousy stands in the way.

    Research on jealousy in the family found that just over half of the study’s participants (52% to be exact) experienced a jealousy incident in the family, with the majority of cases involving one family member in particular – you guessed it, the sibling. Roughly 50% of the jealousy incidents involved the respondent’s sibling, and roughly a fifth were related to their mother.

    However, the research also found that the jealousy incidents reported by the participants caused minimal threat to the relationship with the family members involved. This is reportedly not surprising given “the bond, longevity, and loyalty integral to most familial relationships,” the study suggests. The respondents reported that the incidents caused rather intense emotional responses, such as feelings of hurt, anger, and shock.

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    According to the research, the strong ties prevalent among family members tend to result in forgiveness or acceptance of the infraction. But what if the ties aren’t so strong? It’s arguably safe to assume that, in some cases, the relationship might not be strong enough to recover from jealousy-related incidents.

    Parental jealousy can lead to a child experiencing negative emotions, such as guilt, shame, and having a low self-esteem

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    While siblings are often the reason people find themselves in unfortunate jealousy-driven situations, parents can cause and feel such negative emotions, too. In a piece for Psychology Today, an expert on relationships, communication, and personal growth, Dr. Barton Goldsmith, noted that parental jealousy can significantly influence a child’s well-being and success and lead to them experiencing feelings of guilt and shame, as well as lower self-esteem.

    For those who struggle with parents jealous of their success, Dr. Barton Goldsmith suggests taking five proactive steps that might help make the situation better: setting boundaries, communicating clearly, seeking support, practicing self-care, and taking time to celebrate your achievements.

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    A survey of parents of children aged 5 to 18 found that many of them might have reasons to be jealous of their kids: 67% of them believe that their offspring had a childhood much better than theirs, 65% believe that their children have more opportunities in life, 57% point out that they have more access to technology, and 56% think their children receive more affection than they themselves did as kids. But despite feeling this way, far from every parent actually envies their children or resents them for having certain things they didn’t have growing up.

    It’s unclear if the OP’s parents felt resentment towards their son because he didn’t have to do certain things as a child that they might have had to – in her post, the woman noted that they felt negative emotions towards him because he had all sorts of opportunities that “he didn’t work for.” But no matter the reason for their resentment, the family’s views made the OP uncomfortable, as she was torn between standing up for her brother and not wanting to burn bridges between her siblings and parents over it. Fellow netizens in the comments, though, seemed to have clearly taken one side over the other.

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    The sister answered some of the netizens’ questions, providing more details on the situation

    People in the comments couldn’t believe the family’s stance regarding their son and brother

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    Do you think the brother should consider cutting off ties with his family due to their jealousy?

    Yes, for his mental health

    Not yet, try reconciliation first

    Only if they make an ultimatum

    No, family ties are vital

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    Miglė Miliūtė

    Miglė Miliūtė

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    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Miglė Miliūtė

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    A writer here at Bored Panda, I am a lover of good music, good food, and good company, which makes food-related topics and feel-good stories my favorite ones to cover. Passionate about traveling and concerts, I constantly seek occasions to visit places yet personally unexplored. I also enjoy spending free time outdoors, trying out different sports—even if I don’t look too graceful at it—or socializing over a cup of coffee.

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    Gabija Palšytė

    Gabija Palšytė

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    Gabija is a photo editor at Bored Panda. Before joining the team, she achieved a Professional Bachelor degree in Photography and has been working as a freelance photographer since. She also has a special place in her heart for film photography, movies and nature.

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    G A
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What sort of parent hates their kid for life going well for them?

    KatSaidWhat
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Burn those bridges, you don't need toxicity in your life. Maintain that special bond with your brother. Live your best life and let your family stew in their primordial bitterness.

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    G A
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    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What sort of parent hates their kid for life going well for them?

    KatSaidWhat
    Community Member
    4 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Burn those bridges, you don't need toxicity in your life. Maintain that special bond with your brother. Live your best life and let your family stew in their primordial bitterness.

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