I will forever look at most of my family differently after the pandemic. Non of them were skeptic or anti vaccines, they just had no regard for social distancing and anytime someone got sick, it was some one else's fault.

Growing up, I had a cousin with Cystic Fibrosis. His mom hosted most big holidays (she had the biggest house). Everyone in the extended family was required to have a flu shot at least 2 weeks before Thanksgiving, or you couldn't come. One year, he was sick, so Thanksgiving was canceled. No one complained. We all just had mini Thanksgivings with our respective immediate families that year. What is wrong with this family that they don't care about their family member? And a literal child at that?

This is ***why*** we ended up needing vaccine mandates during the height of the pandemic: because entitled people refused to believe it was ***their*** actions that could put someone's life at risk. It also shows why the Monday-morning quarterbacks (saying "you should have just isolated those at risk, and let the rest of us live our lives") (often the same people) have it so blatantly wrong. The poster is right to be vigilant in the face of all this selfishness.

The thousands of deaths from C-19 happened because of selfish ash soles went to events while sick, not telling anyone. Apparently none are smart enough to learn and too selfish to care if they kill a kid, just as long as it's not themselves.

the YTAs need a smack

Absolutely the right decision. Their initial reaction makes it clear they are the type of people who "test" allergies to prove a point and don't care if they send someone to the hospital. Be thankful you don't have to spend the day with them. OPs child is lucky to have a mother who looks out for them despite social pressure. Not everyone is so fortunate.

What part of immunocompromised does this family not understand? The mom was right to cancel hosting dinner.

Cancer patient here, when I was on chemo (im now on targeted treatment, which is different), I had a condition called Neutropenia, which was caused by my chemotherapy, which meant that my body had low neutrophils, a type of white blood cell that that helps fight infection. Basically, I was picking up infections very easily, and my immune system was struggling to fight them. An infection could easily have turned fatal for me. Thankfully, antibiotics helped, and my Neutropenia has (hopefully for good..) resolved, though I still have a lower than average immune system. Anyway, to cut a long story short: if someone has an immune condition, it is absolutely NO JOKE AND YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT.

Oh my gosh - do we have the same family?!?! Seriously, scenarios just like this and more are why I'm more than 5K miles away from them now.

NTA for cancelling Thanksgiving dinner. I wouldn't want to be around those unkind, uncaring, selfish people anyway.Their reactions to your 1 request, made for the sake of your ill child, are appalling. It's probably best you did cancel - some would show up anyway, even tho they did have a cold, fever, etc. OP says she's hosted Thanksgiving for years & enjoys cooking. But the family must feel it's become her obligation. There's no reason somebody else can't host, even if nobody is a very good cook. They can have a potluck & buy a cooked turkey. Or, who cares what they do? Next year, they'll expect to be back at OP's & if I were OP I'd disabuse them of that notion long before Thanksgiving - "I'm not able to continue to host & do all the cooking every year - maybe we could rotate." Not a family to be thankful for.

Saddly I know how this mom feels. My child has an autoimmune disease and that and the medication made her immune system super weak. Basic flu and stomach bug sent her to the hospital for days…this was before covid. Even my mom didn’t get how important it was to properly wash hands and be truly healthy around her….then covid came and it became even more crucialll. My close family said I was overacting when we used masks and avoided people and tried to protect her. The way my family acted made me feel super lonely.

She made the right decision and the family is acting like 2 year olds. They are not taking into consideration her child and the doctors advice. Plus, none of them want to cook and host Thanksgiving. She should not dare feel guilty. This is about her child.

They just don't want to pay for, then cook the dinner. Free food can bring out the entitlement in some people.

One of the most obvious NTA's I've ever seen and the YTA people are unhinged, as usual lol. I wish sick people would just stay home from events in general... drives me crazy when they don't.

A******s. "Oh YeAh We CaRe MoRe AbOuT wHeThEr We GeT tHaNkSgIvInG tHaN iF yOuR sOn LiVeS oR dIeS"

I agree with the commenter who says fight dramatic with dramatic!

YTA for posting such a stupid story where the answer is obvious.

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first sentence in, you are the a*****e. your kid is the sick one, ask someone else to host. simple.

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Gonna have to YTA this one, at first I was going to NTA, but the more I read, the more stupid OP became. Their kid has a medical condition that year, first course of action should've been to tell all family that they can't host dinner this year because of the risk to their kid, if someone else would like to host, OP and their side of the family will stay home this year alone. Colds and Flu's are transmissible even without symptoms showing yet, someone could've come over for dinner and infected the kid without anyone knowing. The safest option all round was to 'bubble' the kid and their side of the family, not ask the rest of the family to miss out on thanksgiving if they have a few sneezes and suspect a cold (also allergies, i'm sneezing on an hourly basis). OP wanted to have their cake and eat it too at others expense, they don't get to bulldoze everyone else's good time.