The YTA trolls out in force again. Would it kill them to read properly where she pointed out she hosts thanksgiving every year and the expectation that she would again was ingrained before she made the sensible conditions to protect her child's health? This is family, she was simply assuming they would care enough about the welfare of their niece, nephew, cousin, grandchild etc to just appreciate the heads up to do the right thing. But all they cared about was THEIR thanksgiving. No doubt they are peeved they now have to fork out for their own thanksgiving meal themselves too.

seriously, if I had a child and the doctor said "keep them away from anyone with flu sympoms" during autumn (like rn) and my family would react like THAT, they can go f**k themselves right away. Your every-year returning dinner is not worth my childs safety, go eat your Thanksgiving at a McDonalds then.

"host was overreacting"? in what way is protecting an immuno suppressed child an overreaction? Fam are being selfish kuntz and are now pissy because one of them has got to host and cook instead. Gutz.

It's a reasonable request. You shouldn't go to work or school if you're sick either.

Guilty? In her place I would be f*****g ANGRY. So for years she goes to all the trouble of hosting Thanksgiving and in return they can't be bothered to show some consideration for a sick child? Yeah, eff that bunch. Cook your own meals in the future.

Aurgh! This makes me angry. I am Canadian so our thanksgiving has already passed and we missed it with my partners grandfather because my partner was sick and his grandfather is on a freaking oxygen tank (I’ve also been through this with my own father). It’s common freaking decency!! We just got over a pandemic and this is seriously how people will continue to react?!

I had an anti vax, anti masker sneak attack hug me to prove a point. Not sure what the point was now but I have been sick for 2 years and my life is a living hell. The YTA people are, ironically, AHs. The condition "do not come if you are sick" is in no way a huge ask. It is actually just enforcing common courtesy in a family where it does not exist. Obviously.

Hosts EVERY year, and they kick off when the OP makes a highly valid request. What absolute tossers. This also shows that they EXPECT the OP to do all the work each Thanksgiving, instead of appreciating all her hard work, so they're also 'entitled' tossers. NTA, NTA, NTA. I hope the OP doesn't back down - and ignores the crazy rage-bait/possibly relatives/have-trouble-reading-fully YTAers, who prob also expect other peeps to cater to them.

Cancer patient here, when I was on chemo (im now on targeted treatment, which is different), I had a condition called Neutropenia, which was caused by my chemotherapy, which meant that my body had low neutrophils, a type of white blood cell that that helps fight infection. Basically, I was picking up infections very easily, and my immune system was struggling to fight them. An infection could easily have turned fatal for me. Thankfully, antibiotics helped, and my Neutropenia has (hopefully for good..) resolved, though I still have a lower than average immune system. Anyway, to cut a long story short: if someone has an immune condition, it is absolutely NO JOKE AND YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT.

YTAs ... doing their best to be the worst ... side note: THIS would be a situation where "family comes first" applies ...

NTA for canceling. 100% guaranteed someone would have come with a cold. Then the argument would be on her doorstep, on Thanksgiving Day. And the ones complaining are the same ones who would endanger a child just to get a free feast.

What is wrong with these YTA people? The doctor adviced, you told the family. Better to have someone else to host the party. Your child is more important than a turkey dinner.

Yeah...I'd ask someone else to host. Kid comes first. Maybe it'll be the start of a new tradition--round robin hosting.

They just don't want to pay for, then cook the dinner. Free food can bring out the entitlement in some people.

A******s. "Oh YeAh We CaRe MoRe AbOuT wHeThEr We GeT tHaNkSgIvInG tHaN iF yOuR sOn LiVeS oR dIeS"

Bizarre that they would consider hosting in that situation. I'd just stay home as much as possible. We all learned to self-isolate during the pandemic. My sisters and I had immune problems as kids, our parents ignored it every step of the way, and we definitely paid the price. Don't do the same. And the YTA people need to dial it down

OP isn't an àsshole but I really do think she shouldn't have planned to host family in the first place, asked someone else to host and told them she may or may not be able to go depending on if anyone's sick

YTA for posting such a stupid story where the answer is obvious.

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first sentence in, you are the a*****e. your kid is the sick one, ask someone else to host. simple.

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Gonna have to YTA this one, at first I was going to NTA, but the more I read, the more stupid OP became. Their kid has a medical condition that year, first course of action should've been to tell all family that they can't host dinner this year because of the risk to their kid, if someone else would like to host, OP and their side of the family will stay home this year alone. Colds and Flu's are transmissible even without symptoms showing yet, someone could've come over for dinner and infected the kid without anyone knowing. The safest option all round was to 'bubble' the kid and their side of the family, not ask the rest of the family to miss out on thanksgiving if they have a few sneezes and suspect a cold (also allergies, i'm sneezing on an hourly basis). OP wanted to have their cake and eat it too at others expense, they don't get to bulldoze everyone else's good time.