seriously, if I had a child and the doctor said "keep them away from anyone with flu sympoms" during autumn (like rn) and my family would react like THAT, they can go f**k themselves right away. Your every-year returning dinner is not worth my childs safety, go eat your Thanksgiving at a McDonalds then.

"host was overreacting"? in what way is protecting an immuno suppressed child an overreaction? Fam are being selfish kuntz and are now pissy because one of them has got to host and cook instead. Gutz.

My uncle had a heart transplant after 30 years of bad health. Every year my aunt hosts Thanksgiving for her extended family and every year someone comes "not feeling quite right." Every year my uncle ends up sick for weeks after. It drives me insane! I was newly pregnant with our 1st after years of infertility. We were going to my grandmother's for Thanksgiving. A cousin's husband had cancer and was being treated with radioactive seeds implanted in his body. He could not be within 6 feet of a pregnant woman. Grandma called and asked if we would be comfortable with him there if he stayed away from me. Because it made us nervous, he and his wife decided they'd bring their luxury RV and he could hang out there and people could pop in and out (there were 20+ people- he was not going to be left alone ever). We all thought this was a fantastic compromise, except his MIL (grandma's sister). She shot me dirty looks and flat refused to speak to me all day and for nearly a year after.

Guilty? In her place I would be f*****g ANGRY. So for years she goes to all the trouble of hosting Thanksgiving and in return they can't be bothered to show some consideration for a sick child? Yeah, eff that bunch. Cook your own meals in the future.

Aurgh! This makes me angry. I am Canadian so our thanksgiving has already passed and we missed it with my partners grandfather because my partner was sick and his grandfather is on a freaking oxygen tank (I’ve also been through this with my own father). It’s common freaking decency!! We just got over a pandemic and this is seriously how people will continue to react?!

I had an anti vax, anti masker sneak attack hug me to prove a point. Not sure what the point was now but I have been sick for 2 years and my life is a living hell. The YTA people are, ironically, AHs. The condition "do not come if you are sick" is in no way a huge ask. It is actually just enforcing common courtesy in a family where it does not exist. Obviously.

YTAs ... doing their best to be the worst ... side note: THIS would be a situation where "family comes first" applies ...

Hosts EVERY year, and they kick off when the OP makes a highly valid request. What absolute tossers. This also shows that they EXPECT the OP to do all the work each Thanksgiving, instead of appreciating all her hard work, so they're also 'entitled' tossers. NTA, NTA, NTA. I hope the OP doesn't back down - and ignores the crazy rage-bait/possibly relatives/have-trouble-reading-fully YTAers, who prob also expect other peeps to cater to them.

Cancer patient here, when I was on chemo (im now on targeted treatment, which is different), I had a condition called Neutropenia, which was caused by my chemotherapy, which meant that my body had low neutrophils, a type of white blood cell that that helps fight infection. Basically, I was picking up infections very easily, and my immune system was struggling to fight them. An infection could easily have turned fatal for me. Thankfully, antibiotics helped, and my Neutropenia has (hopefully for good..) resolved, though I still have a lower than average immune system. Anyway, to cut a long story short: if someone has an immune condition, it is absolutely NO JOKE AND YOU SHOULD RESPECT THAT.

OP feels guilty WHY?? She owes these people nothing.

NTA for canceling. 100% guaranteed someone would have come with a cold. Then the argument would be on her doorstep, on Thanksgiving Day. And the ones complaining are the same ones who would endanger a child just to get a free feast.

What is wrong with these YTA people? The doctor adviced, you told the family. Better to have someone else to host the party. Your child is more important than a turkey dinner.

She made the right decision and the family is acting like 2 year olds. They are not taking into consideration her child and the doctors advice. Plus, none of them want to cook and host Thanksgiving. She should not dare feel guilty. This is about her child.

I agree with the commenter who says fight dramatic with dramatic!

They just don't want to pay for, then cook the dinner. Free food can bring out the entitlement in some people.

I doubt they would feel responsible if something happened to the kid because of them

Just wear a mask?

Her child is a they?

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Gonna have to YTA this one, at first I was going to NTA, but the more I read, the more stupid OP became. Their kid has a medical condition that year, first course of action should've been to tell all family that they can't host dinner this year because of the risk to their kid, if someone else would like to host, OP and their side of the family will stay home this year alone. Colds and Flu's are transmissible even without symptoms showing yet, someone could've come over for dinner and infected the kid without anyone knowing. The safest option all round was to 'bubble' the kid and their side of the family, not ask the rest of the family to miss out on thanksgiving if they have a few sneezes and suspect a cold (also allergies, i'm sneezing on an hourly basis). OP wanted to have their cake and eat it too at others expense, they don't get to bulldoze everyone else's good time.