seriously, if I had a child and the doctor said "keep them away from anyone with flu sympoms" during autumn (like rn) and my family would react like THAT, they can go f**k themselves right away. Your every-year returning dinner is not worth my childs safety, go eat your Thanksgiving at a McDonalds then.

"host was overreacting"? in what way is protecting an immuno suppressed child an overreaction? Fam are being selfish kuntz and are now pissy because one of them has got to host and cook instead. Gutz.

My uncle had a heart transplant after 30 years of bad health. Every year my aunt hosts Thanksgiving for her extended family and every year someone comes "not feeling quite right." Every year my uncle ends up sick for weeks after. It drives me insane! I was newly pregnant with our 1st after years of infertility. We were going to my grandmother's for Thanksgiving. A cousin's husband had cancer and was being treated with radioactive seeds implanted in his body. He could not be within 6 feet of a pregnant woman. Grandma called and asked if we would be comfortable with him there if he stayed away from me. Because it made us nervous, he and his wife decided they'd bring their luxury RV and he could hang out there and people could pop in and out (there were 20+ people- he was not going to be left alone ever). We all thought this was a fantastic compromise, except his MIL (grandma's sister). She shot me dirty looks and flat refused to speak to me all day and for nearly a year after.

The thousands of deaths from C-19 happened because of selfish ash soles went to events while sick, not telling anyone. Apparently none are smart enough to learn and too selfish to care if they kill a kid, just as long as it's not themselves.

Aurgh! This makes me angry. I am Canadian so our thanksgiving has already passed and we missed it with my partners grandfather because my partner was sick and his grandfather is on a freaking oxygen tank (I’ve also been through this with my own father). It’s common freaking decency!! We just got over a pandemic and this is seriously how people will continue to react?!

I had an anti vax, anti masker sneak attack hug me to prove a point. Not sure what the point was now but I have been sick for 2 years and my life is a living hell. The YTA people are, ironically, AHs. The condition "do not come if you are sick" is in no way a huge ask. It is actually just enforcing common courtesy in a family where it does not exist. Obviously.

Hosts EVERY year, and they kick off when the OP makes a highly valid request. What absolute tossers. This also shows that they EXPECT the OP to do all the work each Thanksgiving, instead of appreciating all her hard work, so they're also 'entitled' tossers. NTA, NTA, NTA. I hope the OP doesn't back down - and ignores the crazy rage-bait/possibly relatives/have-trouble-reading-fully YTAers, who prob also expect other peeps to cater to them.

What part of immunocompromised does this family not understand? The mom was right to cancel hosting dinner.

What is wrong with these YTA people? The doctor adviced, you told the family. Better to have someone else to host the party. Your child is more important than a turkey dinner.

When I was waiting to move house after a divorce (pretty much everything in new house) I ended up celebrating Christmas Day with a Pot Noodle and a gallon of cider. Guess what, I didn't die. If the rest of the family can't live without Thanksgiving then let them organise it.

NTA for cancelling Thanksgiving dinner. I wouldn't want to be around those unkind, uncaring, selfish people anyway.Their reactions to your 1 request, made for the sake of your ill child, are appalling. It's probably best you did cancel - some would show up anyway, even tho they did have a cold, fever, etc. OP says she's hosted Thanksgiving for years & enjoys cooking. But the family must feel it's become her obligation. There's no reason somebody else can't host, even if nobody is a very good cook. They can have a potluck & buy a cooked turkey. Or, who cares what they do? Next year, they'll expect to be back at OP's & if I were OP I'd disabuse them of that notion long before Thanksgiving - "I'm not able to continue to host & do all the cooking every year - maybe we could rotate." Not a family to be thankful for.

Saddly I know how this mom feels. My child has an autoimmune disease and that and the medication made her immune system super weak. Basic flu and stomach bug sent her to the hospital for days…this was before covid. Even my mom didn’t get how important it was to properly wash hands and be truly healthy around her….then covid came and it became even more crucialll. My close family said I was overacting when we used masks and avoided people and tried to protect her. The way my family acted made me feel super lonely.

She made the right decision and the family is acting like 2 year olds. They are not taking into consideration her child and the doctors advice. Plus, none of them want to cook and host Thanksgiving. She should not dare feel guilty. This is about her child.

They just don't want to pay for, then cook the dinner. Free food can bring out the entitlement in some people.

Id love to read the results of a study, that tracked down what kind of brain damage and narcissistic traits thr YTA trash has.

Bizarre that they would consider hosting in that situation. I'd just stay home as much as possible. We all learned to self-isolate during the pandemic. My sisters and I had immune problems as kids, our parents ignored it every step of the way, and we definitely paid the price. Don't do the same. And the YTA people need to dial it down

OP isn't an àsshole but I really do think she shouldn't have planned to host family in the first place, asked someone else to host and told them she may or may not be able to go depending on if anyone's sick

Just wear a mask?

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Her child is a they?

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If the child is still going to school they will be exposed to every cough and cold that's about. Flu and covid is on a different scale, try to get every vaccinations that's available to you.