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Man Abandoned By Family On His Wedding Day, Refuses To Allow Them To Meet His Baby
Family dynamics can be like navigating a stormy sea, with waves of emotion crashing from all sides. When differing values and beliefs come into play, it’s like steering through a perfect storm, trying to keep the boat steady. Balancing the high expectations of a religious family while maintaining personal freedom and identity? That might be just like trying to sail through a hurricane.
So, grab your life vests, as this is a story about deep-rooted beliefs and personal boundaries colliding, resulting in a family drama that will keep you on the edge of your seat.
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Overly religious family refuse to attend son’s wedding due to fiancée’s pregnancy, but ask to be involved in the baby’s life months later
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The man has been dating his fiancée for 2 years when they find out she is pregnant but decide to go ahead with the wedding plans
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The man’s family are furious when they find out about the pregnancy and refuse to attend the wedding, demanding they move the event out of town
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The man is left heartbroken but goes ahead with the plans, breaking down in tears after the ceremony as none of his family attends
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The family reaches out to the man, after not speaking to him for 4 months, expecting forgiveness and to be a part of the baby’s life but the man refuses
This story began with a man coming from a deeply conservative Christian family. His family aren’t just regular church-goers, but they are all heavily involved in the church, with jobs and reputations tied to their faith. The OP (original poster) fell in love with a wonderful woman, who the family simply adored. The happy couple dated for 2 years and decided to get engaged. Everything was going smoothly, everyone was happy, that is until the OP’s family discovered his fiancée was pregnant. The couple decided to go ahead with the wedding as planned, with the bride five months pregnant at the time of the ceremony.
Now, you might think a new baby would be a cause for celebration, right? Well, not for this family. They were furious that the bride-to-be got pregnant before the wedding and the news of this pregnancy sent shockwaves through their conservative values. The parents, who saw themselves as pillars of decency and Christian values, viewed this as a stain on their perfect reputation. They demanded the wedding be moved out of town to avoid public shame in their community. But our man wasn’t having any of it and decided to go ahead with the wedding.
One by one, family members dropped out, each with their own ridiculous excuses. The brother didn’t want to be the laughing stock of his church friends, the aunt faked an illness, the cousin invented a business trip, and the uncle dramatically tore up the invitation and kicked the OP out.
With his family boycotting the wedding, the OP was left heartbroken. Can you imagine standing at the altar on the happiest day of your life, missing the people who should be there to support you? It can’t be easy. Our guy broke down after the ceremony, feeling abandoned by his loved ones and betrayed. For months, he didn’t speak to his family, focusing instead on his new role as a husband and dad to a beautiful baby girl, with no intention of reconnecting with his family.
Fast forward a few months, and the OP’s family started reaching out to him, sending gifts for the new baby, but he wasn’t having it and returned everything. His cousin tried to act as the family spokesperson and mend the rift. He pleaded with the OP to allow his family to see the baby, saying they longed to meet her and be involved in her life. But the OP remained unfazed, reminding the cousin that this was the same family that ditched him at his wedding because of the baby.
“Wasn’t my daughter the reason why the entire lot of them abandoned my wedding?” he recalled. The cousin told the OP that he should forgive them and move on, as family bonds should transcend all disputes, but he wasn’t convinced and refused to arrange for his family to meet his new daughter.
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Religious beliefs and practices are key players in shaping family dynamics and values in many countries and cultures around the world. They often bring a strong influence to parenting, serving as valuable tools for parents. However, in ultra-religious communities, kids might face certain risks, like strict biblical interpretations that support corporal punishment.
Interestingly, using religious texts to justify harsh treatment isn’t exclusive to any one faith but something found across various major religions. Plus, youngsters who stray from their community’s teachings might end up feeling isolated or even ostracized by their families and peers. Research shows that “children and adolescents who go against the teachings of their religious community may find themselves shunned by their families and community.” Which is what happened to the OP, the moment his fiancée got pregnant before their wedding.
Things got even more interesting when the OP’s wife suggested they should let the family come and meet their daughter, but he still refused, determined to set some boundaries and keep them away from his new family. After all, how could he ever trust them again after they abandoned him on what was supposed to be one of the best days of his life?
Setting boundaries with people who have caused emotional harm, regardless of whether they are family or not, is crucial to one’s mental health and well-being. According to an article on the best way of setting boundaries with family members, it’s essential to communicate your boundaries calmly and clearly and always act on what you say.
While forgiveness can be healing, it doesn’t mean allowing toxic behavior to continue. When you’re setting boundaries, you’re setting a standard for how you wish to be treated, and you can uphold this commitment by taking action whenever there’s a breach that threatens your well-being.
We’ve all been there, trying to navigate delicate family dynamics, which can often be quite a challenging task. Finding the perfect balance between personal boundaries and familial duty is never easy and our story is the perfect example of it. On one hand, there was a family that acted out of a rigid set of beliefs, and on the other, a man who felt deeply betrayed.
Should the OP allow his family back into his life for the sake of his daughter, or stand firm in his decision to protect his new family from potential future hurt? What do you think? Let us know in the comments.
People in the comments say that the man is not a jerk for not allowing his family to meet his daughter after they said the pregnancy is a “stain” on their reputations
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Ms.GB 6 months ago (edited)
To use his father's words "You only have yourself to blame." They obviously wanted to teach him that actions have consequences but don't want to face the consequences of THEIR actions. Hypocrisy never dies within that crowd.
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nm (he/him) 6 months ago
Keep your child away and safe of these religious abusers, to avoid indoctrination.
Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
Why people are living with values that were outdated centuries ago, I will never understand. People *should* have sex before marriage to ensure compatibility. The demands of the world are very different from 2000 years ago, hanging on to those teachings is just naïve.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago
Actually, if you don't mind my telling you this, the whole point of the betrothal (engagement) was to ensure compatibility. Babies conceived during that period were legally and culturally legitimate.
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Ms.GB 6 months ago (edited)
To use his father's words "You only have yourself to blame." They obviously wanted to teach him that actions have consequences but don't want to face the consequences of THEIR actions. Hypocrisy never dies within that crowd.
Load More Replies... nm (he/him) 6 months ago
Keep your child away and safe of these religious abusers, to avoid indoctrination.
Apatheist Account2 6 months ago
Why people are living with values that were outdated centuries ago, I will never understand. People *should* have sex before marriage to ensure compatibility. The demands of the world are very different from 2000 years ago, hanging on to those teachings is just naïve.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 6 months ago
Actually, if you don't mind my telling you this, the whole point of the betrothal (engagement) was to ensure compatibility. Babies conceived during that period were legally and culturally legitimate.
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