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Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks “Where Is Our Dinner?” As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

They say you can’t choose your family. But it’s still one of the most important things in a person’s life. There are all kinds of families and the greatest thing is that they are there through thick and thin. And every family lives through a conflict. It doesn’t matter if it’s a casual argument or heated fight, what matters the most is the way how it is handled. Sometimes the best thing to solve a certain problem is to reflect on what was said and ask for advice.

Reddit user Question-56735 asked other users online whether she was right for not apologizing to her mother-in-law after they had a fight. The story starts with the user stating that her husband got in an accident and had to be intensively taken care of at home.

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Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks "Where Is Our Dinner?" As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

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His side of the family also decided to help the woman in this situation. So, his mother and his brother, along with the rest of the family, became frequent guests at their home. The Reddit user also revealed that she is 4 months pregnant, so it’s only natural to assume that she really needs all the help she can get.

This Reddit user asked people online whether she was right for not making dinner for her MIL after taking care of her husband

Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks "Where Is Our Dinner?" As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

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However, the woman reveals that once her MIL and BIL with his family come over, all they do is sit and do nothing helpful while she takes care of the husband and the house. The conflict escalated further after MIL asked her “Hey where’s our dinner?” after she was running back and forth, taking care of her husband. The woman told her to go and help herself out as she just doesn’t have the capacity to do it all.

While the wife was taking care of her husband and their home, her MIL was “helping” by sitting in the living room

Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks "Where Is Our Dinner?" As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

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After the heated argument, the wife asked them all to leave. Now she wonders if she was wrong for not making dinner for her husband’s family and avoiding this conflict. A lot of users online agreed that she was right for standing up for herself and asking them to leave. It was also pointed out that since her husband’s mother is not much of a help, she should suspend her from coming over whenever she wants and have “visiting hours” instead.

What do you think about this situation? Leave your thoughts in the comments down below!

The wife asked others online if she was right for snapping at her MIL

Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks "Where Is Our Dinner?" As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

People in the comments were shocked by MIL’s behavior and advised the wife not to let in such “guests” anymore

Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks "Where Is Our Dinner?" As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

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Beth L 3 years ago

Honestly, the in-laws should be *bringing* dinner, not demanding dinner... A casserole for the oven and one for the freezer.

100points

Otter 3 years ago

Everyone I know reacts to situations like this by saying "How can I help", and trying to help and generally doing it wrong and getting in the way, NOT by expecting to be treated as honored guests as if things were normal. So really, when the husband's family said they were coming over, I'd expect them to act that way because IMHO that's how family acts in a crisis... and I'd politely ask them to bring food and assign them tasks like laundry and cooking dinner. Of course I'd offend the f**k out of that MIL, but maybe the other in-laws would get with the program.

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Honu 3 years ago (edited)

Yep. The usual reason family comes over when a loved one is in a health crisis is to help. Not to sit on their butts and add to the burden. She expected to be taken care of like she'd been invited over for a party. She invited herself to the house in the middle of a crisis.

15points

Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago (edited)

The unofficial rule of the USA's midwest. If someone is hospitalized/hurt/gave birth/etc, you show up with food for today and food for later so the injured person and/or the caregiver only has to microwave. This is a requirement even if you don't like them. In the town where I went to HS, a mean, angry man had a farm accident resulting in a harrow disc go over both his legs. For 9 months, people brought him food every day and he yelled at most of them.

9points

deathrose 3 years ago

I live in the South, I have been here my whole life and I have never encountered a MIL like this. When my husband was hurt we had neighbors and family constantly dropping off food for us so we didn't have to worry about it while he recovered. When my sister was hurt on the job, she a paramedic, the firefighters and other ems would send her food and money so she could recover. When my elderly neighbor had hip surgery I made her breakfast and dinner and my husband mowed her lawn. My grandmother had her cakes. This is not Southern behavior and that MIL should be ashamed. Anytime my mother comes over I have to kick her out of my kitchen and force her to be guest in my home because she doesn't know how not to feed people.

50points

Uncommon Boston Premium 3 years ago

My former mother-in-law, in Virginia, showed up 45 minutes early for family party - 10 days after the wedding. With a cheerful malicious stare she told me she wanted to catch me in a panic, see how poorly I was doing, and make things more difficult. My ex was horrified. My former Texas in-laws, different marriage, visited us in Colorado. They were there for several days, my ex and I had to work during their visit. dinner the first night, the floor under the table was a wreak -- it was a messy dinner. It needed to be vacuumed or it would be ground into the rug. Apologizing first, I vacuumed the area. 5 minutes max. I never heard the end of it. I was the rudest person on the face of the earth. If I left the mess and watched it be ground into the carpet what would she have said? These were simply unkind women. There are dreadful mother-in-laws world wide, not just in one geographic location.

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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago

Yes! I lived in the south for 15 years, and learned very well that you ALWAYS, at the very least, bring a casserole that freezes beautifully and can just be popped in the oven (and clear instructions for time and temp). Otherwise, jump in and help with the housecleaning, or care of the patient, or take some shifts if there’s stuff do be done round the clock (in this case, especially once the baby arrives), or if you don’t have the time but do have the money, at least pay to have food (groceries and/or takeout) sent over, or Merry Maids come in one or two days a week. But you NEVER ever ever have the gall to act like a pampered guest and treat the already overworked caretaker like your f*****g personal servant whose only job is to wait on you hand and foot!

10points

deathrose 3 years ago

This happened in 3 different states, Louisiana, Mississippi and Alabama so it wasn't just one community.

7points

Donna Leske 3 years ago

^ THIS^ family, love, compassion, courtesy, going the extra mile. I'm interested in knowing what the injured husband had to say, he is bedridden and vomiting maybe the wife tried to hide the stress.

5points

Raven DeathShade 3 years ago

My mother was having some issues before my siblings and I were old enough to cook dinner or do the stuff we do now. A friend of hers came over with food for two days or so, and written on the tin foil wrapping were cooking times and temperatures. I believe my father was deployed and my older brother was on a school trip.

4points

Brandy Grote 3 years ago

Yep, change the locks, don't let them in. Gently inform hub of the changes, the BOTH OF YOU need rest, and they were only piling it on, not helping out at all. When HE is well enough to entertain them, HE can invite them, but remember you are his partner, not their maid!

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Beth L 3 years ago

Honestly, the in-laws should be *bringing* dinner, not demanding dinner... A casserole for the oven and one for the freezer.

100points

Otter 3 years ago

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Honu 3 years ago (edited)

15points

Two_rolling_black_eyes 3 years ago (edited)

9points

deathrose 3 years ago

50points

Uncommon Boston Premium 3 years ago

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Kathryn Baylis 3 years ago

10points

deathrose 3 years ago

This happened in 3 different states, Louisiana, Mississippi and Alabama so it wasn't just one community.

7points

Donna Leske 3 years ago

^ THIS^ family, love, compassion, courtesy, going the extra mile. I'm interested in knowing what the injured husband had to say, he is bedridden and vomiting maybe the wife tried to hide the stress.

5points

Raven DeathShade 3 years ago

4points

Brandy Grote 3 years ago

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Woman Points At The Kitchen When Her MIL Asks “Where Is Our Dinner?” As She’s Busy Taking Care Of Her Injured Husband, Gets Called Out For It

This Reddit user asked people online whether she was right for not making dinner for her MIL after taking care of her husband

While the wife was taking care of her husband and their home, her MIL was “helping” by sitting in the living room

The wife asked others online if she was right for snapping at her MIL

People in the comments were shocked by MIL’s behavior and advised the wife not to let in such “guests” anymore

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