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As kids, we don’t really question things. The way our parents or caregivers run our families, we used to take as a given.

Only after growing up and stepping into the adult world, you may come to a realization that some of the things you’d do as a family when you were little weren’t standard for others.

“What kind of behavior did you think was normal because of your family, then grew up to find out it’s definitely not?” someone wondered on Ask Reddit and the childhood memories started flooding in. Below we wrapped up some of the most interesting and sad responses people shared.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life My dad has bipolar disorder and I never knew until I was an adult. That in itself is a full response to this. PSA to any parents with bipolar. Just tell your kids, explain what’s happening, embrace therapy. Do not hide that s**t and pretend it’s normal. It will eff your kids up.

Having your dad get so upset that he screams profanities at you, breaks a door, then gets in the car and disappears for hours, then comes back and won’t talk to anyone for a day, then breaks down crying and then wants to hug everyone and go have a nice dinner like nothing happened… is not normal. And thinking that behavior was because of something I or my siblings did wrong and not because of a disease, really messed us up.

I don’t know how to have a healthy discussion now. This would happen and we would just move on with saying a word about it. No apology from him. My mom just told us to apologize, be on our best behavior, and act like everything was fine.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life I've got a positive one. My mum always threw the best Halloween parties. We had to eat donuts off strings without kicking your lips, throw eggs at each other and attempt to catch them in a net, feed each other blindfolded. Apparently these aren't normal activities for Halloween parties. Especially the one year we played them on the street with random trick or treaters who came past.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life The morbid sense of humor. My nana died on my 18th birthday and my dad came into my room and just said “well. Kid. Looks like you’re fresh outta grandparents” (His mom had just died, mind you. she was my last grandparent to die) and years later my aunt tried to remember how old I am by going “okay. Which year did we lose mom again?” And just went “well f**k you too.” While my dad lost it laughing.

And also My aunt on my moms side (my moms sister in law) lost her mom fairly recently and they were having a sale on urns so she bought an urn for her mom and a new one for my grandmother and texts me with a picture saying “gram got a new apartment!”

And people wonder why my sense of humor is so dark and morbid. I got it on both sides of my family!

I learned that others aren’t quite so caviler about death.

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While many stories shared in the thread recount negative family memories, a Redditor who goes by the nickname Butterfly_cats shared a positive story. We reached out to the author, who said that they knew their family was unique when they were around 10 years old. “We moved house and I moved school so suddenly I was meeting loads of new people who were incredibly surprised at the kind of parties that we threw.”

The typical Halloween for the Redditor was unlike anything that other kids would celebrate. “It would start with some classics. Catching eggs in a net except some of the eggs weren't hardboiled. We used to eat donuts off strings without licking your lips. Musical pumpkins, which is like musical chairs but with pumpkin paper cutouts. Mummy wrapping using toilet roll.”

More fun activities included splitting into 2 teams and having one person wear a onesie: “we’d fill it with as many balloons as possible within the time limit while they were wearing it.”
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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Having to hide our TV in a cupboard whenever someone from church came over; we weren't supposed to have one. Turns out we were in a cult.

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Being embarressed about the normal bodily functions of a female, such as periods, having boobs and sex. My mother was a prude on another level.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Your parents hating each other. I only realised this was not normal after witnessing my first boyfriends parents interacting with each other kindly and respectful.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or that parents will have a messy divorce sometime in the future.

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“Then there were gross ones. Feeding each other while blindfolded. Trying to pull gummy worms out of a tub filled with canned tomatoes using your teeth. Then doing the same in flour so it gets stuck to you. I always needed a towel to blow the custard/flour/sauce mix out of my nose,” Butterfly_cats recounted a typical Halloween when growing up.

The Redditor would describe their childhood as “manic.” Butterfly_cats said: “My mum acted like a child at any given chance but she was also responsible and hardworking. She made games up and always thought of the next crazy thing we could do. Hide and seek in castle ruins at night using torches. Spend 3 weeks handmaking a costume for world book day when I was 13. Building a functional, real size, cardboard car with the kids in her class. Running 200 miles to celebrate her 50th birthday.”

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According to the author, if someone said it was impossible, their mom made it her mission to prove them wrong.
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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Literally, most of my autism symptoms, lmao. I was diagnosed last year. Turns out my parents had no idea because they're autistic themselves and just thought my behaviour was normal because they all acted the same way.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

... living with autism isn't easy... Especially when it's not the most noticeable

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I’m starting to think most of us are on that spectrum, but the world was designed by the few powerful oddballs who aren’t. I also want to know who, specifically, owns a non-divergent brain. Is there such a thing in practice and not just on paper?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Found out I was autistic when I was 25. My parents had no idea what autism was back then, they just thought I was unusual or strange.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you have any questions I am autistic I don’t know how long ago you were diagnosed but I want to be the person I wish had been there to help me since I had supportive but neuro typical parents and I was never taught or helped by a neuro divergent person

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same! I'm í the process of getting diagnosed, but my kid was diagnosed at 17 - and then suggested I get diagnosed as all everything they were told during their diagnosis are things that apply to me as well; and to both of my parents 😂 I wouldn't mind, but I'm trained to recognise Autism/ADHD/ADD and other neurodiverse traits in children, and didn't recognise it in my own child as 'it's just things I do' 😂😂😂

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you were born before the early '60s with autism you would be institutionalized

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

no it depended on how overt it was. ASD people who are 'functional' are just considered 'oddballs' and tolerated.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope to get tested at some point, I feel like that would give me some closure on wether or not I have autism

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We were lucky with getting the process going for my son's eventual diagnosis 2 years later. The health visitor on her final visit, referred us to the paediatrician as she said he was not meeting some milestones. We would have no idea as he is our only child and have no-one else to compare him to. They way he is, is our normal.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I replied a similar comment to silent hill and while I am not an expert or a psychologist I am autistic and I have done a lot of research so if you ever have any questions or want advice I would do my best to help you from an insiders point of view

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh, if only you knew how common that is. People go under the radar in DROVES because of it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've been wondering if autism wasn't 'the old normal' (before the Renaissance maybe?) but I guess being able to read body language and stuff is probably a very ancient trait.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

…Same. Puts a lot of stupid s**t you did and still do in perspective.

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The sci-fi author Martha Wells gave an interview where she said that when she started writing the Murderbot books, she gave the main character some of her own 'quirks...' and then a ton of readers wrote to her saying how great it was that she had a neurodivergent MC. And that was how she discovered she was autistic.

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I used to serve on the board of a local charity. One of the other board members "revealed" to us his doctor had diagnosed him as autistic. He seemed mildly surprised when the general reaction was along the lines of, "Yeah, we figured". He was a nice guy and very helpful but if you have been around functioning autism and knew the signs - his were on full display most of the time. I mean this in a kind way. Like I think maybe he was worried how we would react and instead it was acceptance / we already knew that / next item on the meeting agenda.

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We have an autistic family friend in his early 20s. My daughter was his daycare provider when he was a toddler with severe aphasia. He spoke his first intelligible words to her. Now he works as a security guard and dreams of being a police officer. He thinks he's hiding his autism and that it is his secret despite very obvious behaviors. This is because of family members telling him that getting help was for ret**ds. He refuses to get help with job seeking, social skills, or anything that (to him) smacks of being neuro divergent. It's very sad to see him struggling against walls because of his nasty family.

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I think the editors of BP are autistic too, because we're all here for their memes.

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I am struggling because I am interested in psychology, and then I started looking into it and so many things are adding up it’s crazy I’m kinda scared but 🤷‍♀️ I can’t really do anything my mom would just tell me I’m overreacting if I told her about my suspicions

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That exact thing happened to me. Of all my cousins and stuff I was the one who was most like other children, but I still couldn't communicate with anyone outside my family. Got diagnosed last year and it turns out all my 2nd cousins have the same combo of autism and adhd I have! (My cousins refuse to get tested so I assume they feel satisfied with their lives)

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This one touched home! When I was 37 yo I started researching to figure out what was "wrong" with myself (absolutely nothing wrong, turns out I am in the spectrum), I started reading about traits of Aspergers in women and thought "hmm sounds like my mother". She checked all the boxes. Omg...of course! Then it all made sense. She is 60-ish now. She will NEVER accept that she is in the spectrum.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is wholesome, imo. Seems like you were just being yourself, and that's not so bad.

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Yup. Autism is far from what we see in much mainstream media, especially movies and TV ,as well. Autism has many different manifestations and no one person is going to manifest the varying symptoms of autism quite like anyone else who has it will.

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autism is not bad it just matters what side of the spectrum your in

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life I thought the people closest to you were the ones who were meanest to you because they saw the real you (and the real you was bad). I also thought anger was only expressed as horrible blowout arguments, insults, name calling, and physical aggression. Such sad things to learn and very difficult to unlearn.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can relate to the anger thing. I can't stand when someone raises their voice now, I can also read body language very well.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life My family on my dad’s side all drink beer, and it was very common on long road trips for my dad and uncles to buy a six pack “for the road” and just drink it while driving.

So of course my siblings would do that too once they were old enough to drink. Well one of them got married, and I witnessed a pretty big argument the first time they tried to do it and their spouse freaked out for something that we all thought of as “normal”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Alcohol plus driving is sadly common, but should in no way be considered normal or acceptable.

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Butterfly_cats also said that they took this attitude into their adult life. “My mum never let anything stop her or let anyone tell her what she could do. She's my inspiration every day. She made things that seemed impossible happen. She always fought for what she wanted. That sort of drive is instilled in me, although I could never be quite as strong as her,” the Redditor told us.

When it comes to other people who shared not-so-happy childhood memories in this thread, Butterfly_cats believes that “it's good to remember that you can be memorable for the right reasons as much as for the bad.” According to them, humans are wired to focus on the bad, so it's good to throw something light in there every now and then.
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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life We weren't allowed to laugh loudly or after 7pm. My parents said if we were laughing, it meant we were getting into trouble.

We also weren't ever really taught things, just expected to know them and then kind of shunned by my parents even we failed to perform.

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Drinking and driving, and underage drinking. My dad used to drive around with a mickey of scotch or beers for sipping all.the.time. and by the time I was 13 he was giving me both beer and booze along with him. It wasn't until I was an adult and realized my husband wouldn't even have a drink with dinner and then drive home that it dawned on me. I actually scoffed at him a few times before I f*****g got it. Also - drinking at 13, was an alcoholic by 14 and would sit at the dinner table smoking joints with my dad like it weren't no Thing. I have a 14 year old and that literally makes me so heart sick thinking of it.


So yeah anyways. That stuff.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My bio dad is an alcoholic, when I was younger I just thought it was normal and the smell never really bothered me.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Eggs stacked in between my pancakes, with syrup. Went to college and at breakfast all my new friends looked at me and said, what the f**k are you doing? My entire family ate them that way. I always figured evryone did. Ha!

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life When I was a kid I thought that ALL dads worked a lot and rarely saw the kids.

Until I got older and my friends would tell me things like "my dad took me to a baseball game" or "my dad took me camping."

I was so jealous.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life My family has a bell which is rung when they need to summon us all to dinner. I didn't realise it was that unusual until my friends found out about it. Tbh it's a pretty good system

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well... we have the modern equivalent. Instead of shouting up or down the stairs to get them to come to dinner, we bought two cordless doorbells. Receivers in the rooms, buttons in the kitchen, marked with their names.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Parents interrogating you about your sex life. Everyone made jokes in movies and school about overprotective dads. I didn't realize being woken up at 5AM to be screamed at wasn't normal. Or being told I'm a shame on the family for a tiny hickey wasn't normal. Or assuming every piece of my actions was related to sex.

I grew up in an Evangelical cult.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is it me or do the insanely religious seem to be the ONLY ones who obsess over sex?

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Making a big deal about death. In my family when someone dies, it’s like, “Wow, that sucks, what’s for dinner?”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. Dying sucks but death and dying is a part of life. It's OK to be sad about it, but no need to fuss about it. Why have an expensive funeral? That's money that could have been used for something good rather than throwing it in a hole in the ground. Put me in a sack and throw me in a ditch. Let the animals get me. And for God's sake keep my shoes. They're good shoes. Someone else can wear them..

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When I was young my dad used to make me and my oldest sister( there is three of us) stand on the scale everyday. My middle sister was always very athletic and thin and the pride and joy of what my father pictured for a perfect daughter. Me and my oldest sister where on the heavier side but at 14 and 9 we were not “fat” now looking back. My mother did not know this was going on but I remember she came home when my dad had my sister in the scale criticizing my sister of her weight, my mother flipped out about 6-8 months later my parents were divorced and looking back at these things my dad did and said I think has absolutely affected the type of person I am today especially with my own children. My current real with my dad is a little rocky but we don’t really communicate a whole lot because he’s really done some f**ked up sh*t that I thought everyone’s parents did. Apparently not.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad and sister would make snide jokes about my weight. I was average sized. I can't wear shorts because they made me ashamed of my legs.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Having tantrums because someone showed that you were wrong

Feels weird now seeing my 50+ uncle throwing s**t all over the place because I straight up told him I'm not lazy I have to rest a lot because of a serious heart condition that I'm diagnosed with.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My dad always thinks he's right, won't listen to any other side of the story, and will think you're lying constantly. He wonders why no one told him anything. And on the rare occasion he does realize he's wrong, he won't admit it or apologize.

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Dad playing the piano at 3am because that was his ‘thinking music’. We would all stick our pillows over our heads and try to go back to sleep. I thought it was normal until we got new neighbours who had young kids and after a couple of times asking dad not to play as it was waking up his kids he came over and punched dad’s lights out. Dad just moved the piano to other end of the house and kept playing. He really was a thoughtless arsehole but we all thought it normal.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Like punched your Dad or literally punched the lights out? Because both are equally good punishments I imagine. Especially at 3am in the dark.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life I’m still struggling to describe the way my mom lives the way she does, but the only word I can think of is “tacky”? Unless anyone can think of a better word. For context she grew up in a poor village, but I don’t think it’s commonplace there and maybe it’s because of how her parents raised her.

She is clueless to how things “should” be. Like it’s not normal to use shower curtains as normal curtains in the living room. Or to make a homemade pillow by stuffing it full of old jackets, instead of going out to buy a normal pillow. Or pruning a tree using a butcher knife instead of ACTUAL tree equipment (she exclaimed, “Doesn’t that look nice!”, but to me it just looked like the tree had been demolished by a butcher knife.)

Or when she held my baby brother over the trash can so he could poop in it, except she did this in the living room while my friend was there. My friend didn’t want to come over after that.

Or how we have 1 pair of scissors in the house that we use for EVERYTHING, from cutting food to cutting hair, and she used it to cut a mole from her back instead of going to the doctor. We all still used the scissors afterwards too.

Or how she repurposes stuff in the house to re-gift to other people. Like, it would be okay if she actually put in the effort to make it look nice, but most recently she re-gifted a plate of cookies that a neighbor gave to us, except we ate half already. And twice she gave my brothers supermarket gift cards for their friend’s 12th birthday party.

Everyone in my family, mom included, uses the bathroom with the door wide open, whether it’s pee or poop, though my mom is different in that she doesn’t care if someone walks in to brush their teeth while she’s doing it, and will have conversations with you from the toilet too.

I didn’t know until I was in college that other families don’t share the same bath towel.

And nobody cleans the house except with a broom occasionally. So you can imagine how it looks. My mom hasn’t cleaned her car in 15 years.

She used to be dirt poor in the village, so I guess old habits die hard. I was desensitized to everything since I grew up in it, but even when I was younger I could tell that this was a bit gross.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not her fault, just the way she grew up. I feel more bad than anything

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Emotional and psychological manipulation is not normal. Saying I love you is not weak

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Crying is not weak. Expressing emotions besides anger is not weak. It's okay to be sad and scared. I wish I knew this sooner.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life No privacy. Wasn't allowed to lock any door, even the bathroom....

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yep same in my childhood... and my parents came in the bathroom, when I was on the Toilet or Shower was normal... I hated it!

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life At least half of what my parents have said I was going to experience in the real world has been proven completely false and/or the complete opposite of reality. Also, it’s not normal to just say yes to literally every option just because “it’s better to have and not need”. Being a people pleaser apparently doesn’t mean you have to set yourself on fire to keep other warm even if they don’t ask you to. It’s apparently not normal to randomly lash out at people who happen to be in the same room just because you’re having a bad day. It’s apparently not normal to live in constant stress about what could’ve happened in a past event. I could go on but I won’t.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm the opposite. I could be dying of thirst, have someone offer me a bottle of water, and I'll say "no, thanks". Idk if my instinct is not to be beholden to someone or what.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Living so strictly under the rule of "everything you do needs to be working towards your career" no friends, no boyfriends or girlfriends, no days to do nothing and no self expression of any kind.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life I thought all married couples eventually grew to hate each other and fight all the time. Apparently I was wrong.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

50% do, unfortunately. My kids are now at least seeing that it's not meant to be like that.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Raking the shag carpet with a garden rake to make it fluffy after vacuuming.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life A complete and utter lack of any and all affection and romance between my parents. Turns out, my mom was cheating on my dad for over a decade.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Grandmother would lead all of us in song at every get-together, like a band. Was 16 before a friend told me it was weird, families don't do this. It wasn't religious but it sure looked cultish. Lss; my therapist loves to hear about the weird s**t my grandmother does/says.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandma's family used to do singalongs whenever they could. I don't think it's particularly strange.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Marrying cousins. This is common in Pakistan. My cousin got married to my other cousins. Even my sister got married to one of my cousins. I thought it was normal until I came to the UK and realised how weird it was.

I’m the only one in my family and my other sibling who could potentially marry outside the family. We have girlfriends but we’re too ashamed to tell them that our own sister married her cousin and so did everyone else.

It is strange though, I don’t really have any genetic defects in my family; no one has a disease as a result to inbreeding.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I assume the extended family with multiple children must have more marrying outside the family, otherwise you just end up with a bramble instead of a tree. First cousin marriages narrow the branches, but second cousins keep the genetic pool clear enough to avoid the expected problems of inbreeding.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life This is gross. We had a large family. Instead of handing out napkins, we used a single dishcloth, and passed it around the dinner table. We weren't poor. Just uncivilized.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would freak out, I can not handle germs and that is just disgusting

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Looking down on people worse off than us. Like it was their fault. My parents kind of conditioned us to think everyone had the same opportunities, some people just didn't take theirs.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

“Pulling yourself up by your bootstraps” is physically impossible and the saying was originally made to show how impossible a feat it was. Income inequality is a big problem and we shouldn’t blame the victims

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Being so negative and constantly making fun of people, apparently most people dont do tht

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life This one is gross, but my mom barely never washes her hands. If she goes number one in the toilet for example, she doesn't wash her hands. Only after number two. She can clean the dogs ears with her finger, wipe them to her trousers and then go toss a salad for the family.

I've had to spend years learning to not disgust people, and now I can't stay at my parents because they disgust me. I love them, but just find them gross.

We're not a family you'd guess doesn't wash hands. Lower middle class academics. Nice house.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wonder if this was written before 2020, and if habits have changed?

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Not giving privacy and sarcastically taunting someone in every way possible

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was actually analyzing this in my life while I was taking a break from scrolling through the list here. Notably, my lips have a natural downcurve and I recall an individual in the house slouching, making a frownie face at me, as if my natural f*****g face was worthy of being mocked. She's dying, I'm uncertain if this particular bout of weakness and not eating is going to be the last bit, or if she'll 'rebound' somewhat again. I'm caregiving for her during the day, but as time goes on it's increasingly just being yelled at in the morning and then she sleeps all day. Death terrifies me, and although I love her, I don't like her, and her derision of me throughout my life is a huge part of that...part of me thinking her passing isn't going to hurt me as bad as it'll hurt Dad. I don't know, truly, until the experience comes to pass. But taunting someone...it's awful. An awful thing to do, way to think.

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35 People Share Behaviors They Thought Were Normal Because Of Their Family But Realized Were Weird Later On In Life Kissing on the lips. Growing up my dad and mom would kiss us on the lips. It wasn’t until I got a little older that my friends started pointing out how weird it was. (To expand, there was never anything sexually inappropriate going on, it was just a peck on the lips)

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Could be cultural. Very seldom where i grew up (France), very common where i live now. (Spain)

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When I'd throw a really bad temper tantrum they'd send me to my room and use a latch on the outside to lock me in until I calmed down. Never thought much of it till recently. My aunt did similar to my cousin.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was my aunt's idea of babysitting us! We survived! but we tattled on her.

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