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“You’re so mature for your age.”

I remember being told this so many times when I was a teenager. I took it as a compliment from older coworkers who meant that I fit in with the adults, but from my peers, this sentence stung. I knew coming from them it meant, "Lighten up, have some fun.”

While we all aim to be mature, we don’t all fully understand what that means. To a teenager frustrated with the rules and regulations of living with their parents, maturity might mean going to parties, using curse words and beginning to experiment with alcohol. To others, it might mean landing a job with a steady income, so they can fully support themselves and invest in a home. But the thing about maturity is that it does not magically appear with age or children or financial stability. 

Recently, Reddit user CrispP_bacon started a conversation asking people to share things that are often perceived as false signs of maturity, and many readers shared their opinions in the replies. We’ve gathered some of the most honest and thought-provoking responses down below, so you can read them and decide if your idea of “maturity” has shifted. Be sure to upvote the replies you agree with, and feel free to share your own thoughts in the comments below. Keep reading to also find interviews we were lucky enough to receive from Vanessa Frazer, LCSW, of Modern Therapy, and Hanan Parvez, the man behind PsychMechanics, to hear his thoughts on the topic. Then if you’re interested in reading another Bored Panda article examining what it’s really like to be an adult, check out this story next. 

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" As someone who was tormented by parents and bullied at school.

People think that i 'built character ' and got matured due to my sufferings..

All that happened that i lost my childhood and i gained nothing other than PTSD, anxiety, lack of recognising character, being friendless..

No ,you can't become mature just because you had a tough childhood

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Whenever i hear people stating 'What does not kill you makes you stronger', I reply 'tell that to a person who lost a leg in a car accident'... usually gets them thinking.

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To learn more about the idea of maturity, we reached out to Modern Therapist's clinician Vanessa Frazer, LCSW. Modern Therapy is a group mental health practice that offers online talk therapy, coaching, mental health courses, and business services, and Vanessa works there exclusively as a talk therapist. When asked what maturity means to her, she told Bored Panda, “Maturity means being physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually developed. This occurs over the course of one’s lifetime and requires a high level of self-awareness,” Vanessa explained. “Mental, emotional and spiritual maturity is an ongoing process that requires an open mind & a willingness to learn. It involves engaging in a state of deep reflection to understand who you are. We need to continually grow and evolve in all areas of our life in order to gain true maturity.”

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We also asked Vanessa about things that are often falsely perceived as maturity. “Society often dictates what maturity means, in the sense of accomplishing adult goals,” she said. “Therefore, people often falsely equate completing high school or college, becoming established in a career, getting married, having children and becoming financially stable as signs of maturity. Although these are accomplishments to be celebrated, they do not equal maturity.”
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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty, I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.' - C S Lewis

"True adults are secure in their love for whatever they love - be it action figures , fairy tales , video games .Those who ridicule these people for their interests are actually the childish ones

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That last sentence of the CS Lewis quote is one of my favourites. It's also a strange source of pride that it comes from another Belfast man.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" I need folk to understand working 60+ hours, and being proud isn’t the flex they think it is…

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats glorified slavery, lets not celebrate it. Spend time with family, friends, yourselves and be proud of it

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“I always believed that once we hit a certain age, life falls into place & maturity soon follows. What I’ve realized is that age has nothing to do with maturity,” Vanessa shared. "Your own self-awareness, confidence, sound decision making skills, judgment and ability to examine your own inner self is what leads to maturity and growth.”

“People tend to assume that achieving a level of success or behaving in a certain manner is a sign of maturity. This is not necessarily true,” Vanessa went on to say. “Achieving success is an accomplishment, but does not indicate that someone is mentally or emotionally mature. It’s possible that a CEO of a very successful company is immature in nature, but has figured out a way to climb the proverbial ladder to obtain success."

"This can be confusing because the CEO is financially successful, however emotionally, mentally & spiritually they may be lacking," Vanessa noted. "It’s important to remember that career success does not equate to maturity. Real maturity is defined by your relationship with yourself & others, your capacity and willingness to grow and ability to examine yourself to make positive personal changes.”
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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" I was dating a girl recently, and I showed her my PSP. I have it since 2007, original battery and everything, and I play PSX games from time to time. When I showed it to her she said 'What are you, 12?'"

"I felt very small and childish. But maybe I shouldn't have. Thank fully we are not dating anymore."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What a cruel thing to say! He was obviously proud of that and she ridiculed him. I'm a 41 year old woman that still has a Nintendo ds and my switch is my favourite thing. People that ridicule things that others are proud of are scum and cause those people to be embarrassed to enjoy their hobby / interest

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Having toxic positive outlook towards life.
saying things like “there’s always somebody with a worse problem thans yours”
YES i know that but that doesn’t make my sadness any less painful.
I hate it when people try to compare the depth of issues. If X is drowning in a lake and Y is drowning in an ocean, they’re both still drowning!! stop comparing problems!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My therapist once told me "Just because someone's ankle is broken doesn't mean yours isn't sprained. You should seek help when you need it." That stuck with me because I don't often ask for help because others may need more help for bigger issues.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Boobs. Some girls start developing early and a frightening amount of men think it's fine to hit on "young women" aka girls as young as 9 years old as soon as they show even the tiniest hint of breast development because "she's grown now".

No, boobs are not necessarily a sign of maturity, you are just being a creep towards minors.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask any woman when she was first catcalled or sexually harassed. You will not like the answers you get. (For me, I was 12 when a truck full of adult men hollered and catcalled at me out the windows. And I was very clearly NOT an adult.)

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We also asked Vanessa how people can become more mature without feeling pressured to do the things society perceives as mature. "In order to become more mature, the best thing that anyone can do is learn who they are as a human," Vanessa told Bored Panda. "Find your identity and embrace it! Learn to love yourself so you can share your love with others. Identify your strengths and weaknesses and then use your strengths to your advantage. Learn to be independent but also acknowledge that at certain times in life, you will need help. Become your biggest advocate and act assertively to ensure that your needs are met."

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"Don’t give in to peer pressure, and be aware that social media is a fake reality that you should not compare yourself to. Engage in healthy relationships with boundaries and effective communication skills. Be open to constructive feedback and view it as an opportunity to grow. Learn to understand your emotional triggers so you can process and express feelings in a healthy manner. It’s important to take accountability for yourself, acknowledge mistakes and learn from them. Most of all, live authentically and be true to yourself and maturity will follow."

If you would like to gain more wisdom from Vanessa or any of the team at Modern Therapy, be sure to visit their website right here.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Not acting childish. Sounds so strange but the most mature people usually have no problem tapping into their childish or silly sides. Immature people overdo it trying to be „cool“.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Being too old for something you consider "juvenile". Games, cartoons, toys, whatever. Nothing screams immature to me like ignoring something you love or putting someone else down for what they love because you think it's for kids.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My boss sat me down years ago to tell me that my interest in animation and things like Star Wars, as well as the fun/funny t-shirts I wore (outside of work) did not give our company a good image. At the time, I took it seriously. Changed what I spoke about in public, and what I wore. Since then, I have met and married a fellow nerd, and I came to the realisation that what I wear and what I'm interested in should not be hidden away. Ordered The One Ring last week. Should arrive at the end of this week.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Girls getting their period. A lot of people think girls "become women" when they start their period. I was 10 when I started mine and still a literal child.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No one this side of the Middle Ages think that girls are women from their first period on, right? Right?

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We also reached out to author and blogger Hanan Parvez to hear his thoughts on this topic. Hanan has a MA in Psychology, and explores a wide range of topics on his site PsychMechanics. When asked what maturity means to him, he shared, “Maturity is behaving in an age-appropriate manner. Maturity comes down to being socially smart in the society you find yourself in. That consists of conforming to social norms to some degree,” he explained. “When you behave in ways your society considers mature, you are mature.” He also noted that most societies consider responsibility and wisdom to be mature.

When asked about things that are often mistaken for maturity, Hanan told Bored Panda that there’s not a lot of gray are on the topic. “I don't believe you can falsely see anything as maturity. You're either socially smart, or you're not. Some behaviors are universally seen as mature, and other behaviors are widely seen as immature.”

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Moving out of your parents house. Some kids I know moved out so they could just binge drink and smoke weed non-stop without their parents knowing. Other people I know stayed with their parents (seen as a sign of immaturity) because help was needed at home. Moving out doesn't always mean maturity. Sometimes understanding the advantages it may give you long term financially are worth it.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Financial advantage or not, many people are trying to get away from toxicity and abuse, NOT because they want to smoke and drink all day. Though, coincidentally, those are common coping skills.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Having a spouse and kids.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god- here in India, if a man has behaviour issues (just bcos he is an a*s) the common advice is to get him married and if he is marred, force his wife to have kids because that will ‘mature’ him. Have seen many a women’s lives get destroyed because of this.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" The whole "men don't cry" thing is pretty immature as a concept

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Hanan does not necessarily agree with all of the responses on this list. “There are good reasons why society equates certain behaviors (getting a job, getting married, having kids, etc.) to maturity,” Hanan explained. “Careers, relationships, and having kids come with a lot of responsibility. These things can potentially turn anyone into a significantly better human being. That's ultimately what society wants: You becoming better so you can make others better. You becoming a valuable member of society. I'd go as far as to say that wanting to act maturely is what drives human progress,” Hanan added.

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“Developmental and evolutionary theories in psychology tell us that there are different needs that we ought to be meeting at different life stages,” he told Bored Panda. “If you're in your 20s and 30s and ought to be fulfilling the need for intimacy but are doing what children do, your psyche is bound to be distressed.”
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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Putting others down. Acting like you're above it all.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That doesn’t make you seem mature, but it does make someone look like a huge a$$hole.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" "Ridiculing others' interests is the real childishness."

"Love what you love, life's too short for this sh*t."

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Not snickering when someone says 69.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nice chain

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about not getting upset at foul language? Children go Ooooooooo when they hear foul language, adults do not. So, not just 69.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

420, 69, and farting will all get a honk-laugh out of me.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a 41 yo woman. Idc what anyone says when the weather is 69F I laugh and say Nice. And bathroom humor is still hilarious. I got no problem cracking up with my kids over a well timed fart.

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Man! I just can't NOT snicker. I did it before I even realized I was laughing. Guess I'll never grow up!

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We then asked Hanan how people can manage actually becoming more mature without feeling pressured to do the things that society perceives as mature. “It's hard,” he says. “If you're not going to take much responsibility in life, why be mature? Why bother? Why improve yourself? You can only improve yourself for yourself so much.”

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“When you improve yourself for others, your self-improvement can skyrocket. Hang out with people who're wiser and more responsible than you. You'll learn maturity by osmosis. Or simply take up more responsibility,” Hanan added.

“It's interesting how aggressive people can get when deciding what's mature and what's not. Aggression is often a sign of underlying frustration,” he noted. “For instance, they'll do a childish thing and call it mature while bashing others who do another childish thing. Thankfully, you don't get to choose your brand of maturity. Society has already drafted the rules for that.”

If you’d like to hear more from Hanan, be sure to check out his blog PsychMechanics right here. 
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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" I have seen many examples of people mistaking arrogance with confidence. Confidence, of course being a sign of maturity. I have been there myself when I was younger. Incredibly arrogant and I thought I was being confident. But confidence is someone who is secure in themselves and who don't feel the need to prove themselves to others all the time. Arrogance is the opposite of that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Confidence is not knowing that you'll win. Confidence is knowing that you'll be ok if you don't.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Conversely, telling someone they're a stick in the mud because they aren't comfortable acting a certain way. I'm a naturally reserved person. I like quiet music, peaceful settings, and spend a lot of time in quiet contemplation. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with me."
"Not feeling required to 'be a certain way' is probably the best all around for this

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When the eldest child is made to be a third parent and is good at it, it does not mean they’re mature. They’re still children…children forced to raise their siblings.

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What do you consider mature? We hope you enjoy reading through this list and that you’ll keep an open mind as you make your way through it. You might realize that some of these actions are often done by very immature people and that you’re not required to check any of these things off your to-do list to be considered mature. Keep upvoting the responses that resonate with you, and then feel free to share your own thoughts on the topic in the comments. What makes a mature panda? I would love to know! 

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Age

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" My dad in a nutshell. 'Stop being happy with your steady job that pays enough so you can afford whatever you want and leaves you with tons of free time, life and work need to be a grind and a fight or you're not doing it right!.' I guess that's my gift to him, so he can have something to be angry about, the only thing that makes him happy.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of my dad. He was happiest when he was miserable, but ecstatic if he could make everyone else miserable too.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Having a career requiring very specialised expertise.

I know doctors and lawyers who are incredibly emotionally immature.

Their kids are usually good evidence of this “hidden” secret.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Protestant work ethic and its idea that you need to be constantly working, even in your free time, has always been a huge mystery to me, specifically why a lot of people are so stuck up with it

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Taking yourself too seriously.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" It’s more responsible to choose not to take on a responsibility that you don’t want.

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My family thinks its a travesty that I don’t ever want children, my mom always thought I was just being young and angsty and would change my mind. Now that im in my 30s shes given up on that. I truly don’t understand how most people can even afford to have children anymore and provide them anything else except the bare a** minimum to sustain life. Everything is sooooo much more expensive than it was when I was a kid, and the wages are about the same. Money just doesn’t go as far as it used too, and its getting harder and harder to build up and acquire credit to actually own a house or anything like that.

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Both of my sons do not want children, I completely respect THEIR decision

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Trauma.

Too many teenagers think because they had a hard childhood that they’re somehow more mature than every other 18 year old. You aren’t. You’re traumatized and was forced to act like an adult for survival and was never given a chance to actually mature normally.

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Going through trauma and just trying to survive as a child actually stunts your growth in ways. You’re so busy getting by you miss important developmental steps. I spent my teen years trying to keep my mom safe and taking care of my younger sisters. I didn’t have time to cultivate friendships, develop my own interests, and learn how to date and manage romantic relationships. I’m doing fine now, but I’m still socially awkward and feel like I missed out on a lot.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Dating older men in high school and middle school.

In highschool (late 2010s) we used to think that these girls that bragged about having boyfriends in their early 20s-30s were so much more mature than us. I remember being jealous since we had to deal with idiot hs boys instead of older men that seemed like the ideal men for us.

In reality those girls were being manipulated and groomed into thinking that they wanted these relationships. It breaks my heart knowing that so many young women will have to heal from the damage done to them by men that they think love them when really they are just attracted to the control and power they have over these girls who don't know better.

I recently looked up one of the girls and it turns out that she had got married to the same man that had groomed her all those years ago. They met when she was 14 and he was 26. It made me feel phsically ill.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some people never realize this. There was 16 years old girl in my town, who was dating guy in his 30s. Her mother was bragging about it, like it was a great thing, because that guy was apparently really rich and if he married her daughter she would not need to work. Technically, it was legal, because age of consent is 15 here, but it's creepy anyway.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" My family thinks I am skirting responsibility by not having kids. I know a lot of people who had them thinking they were obligated to, and neglect them."

"I remember telling somebody I know from college I don't want them ever, and she said, 'My boyfriend's not afraid to take responsibility and have kids,' as if I wasn't a real man for not having them lol."

"For some, it's a sign of virility and maturity.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Kids deserve to be actually wanted, not only seen as some mandatory life milestone.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Not partying. You can still be an adult and have fun.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Silence. There is a good difference between listening to process and listening mindlessly.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And thank goodness for protection and comfort afforded by the second type!

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Not apologizing to younger people...

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Sourcery, Terry Pratchett said something to the effect of "some adults believe children aren't really people, and therefore don't deserve good manners."

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Giving up things you enjoy because they're childish. Imo giving up or belittling adults for enjoying what they like IS childish!

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As a man, Holding your tears or asking for comfort & company when you feel burdened or sad.

It shouldn't be like that, grownup or not when you need consolation and time-out you should get it.

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How much you travel.

Traveling a lot doesn’t magically make you a well-rounded person with plenty of seasoned perspective. Plenty of trust fund babies and people withdrawing from the First National Bank of Mom and Dad that stay in luxurious hotels and treat locals like zoo animals to be hand fed and photographed. You aren’t better than people who don’t have the time, money, or health to hop on a plane every few months and take pictures of landmarks for Instagram.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Some of the most-travelled people I know are the least mature. One or two were distinctly running away from something, and were extremely predatory.

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>"When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

― C.S. Lewis

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Talking about sex, drinking.

I had a coworker who was two years older than me constantly call me a kid because, unlike her, I don't talk about how much I need a good f*****g from my boyfriend while at work.

Bish, we are at the exact same point in our lives, these two years of difference between you and me would've mattered if we were in highschool, but we're at work and I honestly don't care to hear how unsatisfied you were with that f*****g while I'm peeling freaking watermelons.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But dear, watermelons are not meant to be peeled. You cut them in halves, and eat the flesh with spoon.

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working yourself to death for a company that couldn't give less of a s**t about you. okay Tony, glad you put in 6 12s this week. I read my favorite book and ate delicious homecooked meals

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Buying a home or having children would be my top two. Neither require maturity just going through a process.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" "afraid" is a terrible word for it that has been said to me as well.

"I'm not afraid of having kids, I would just prefer to do literally anything, including nothing at all than have kids."

"I would rather sleep all day every day."

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Career position. Met a lot of people in high positions that were just children outside of work

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I guess it depends what kind of child they are... Were they children because they couldn't take care of themselves. Or just enjoying "childish"things, and didn't care that people knew about it?

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Taking s**t to “keep the peace,” to seem “respectful,” or to be “the bigger person.”

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Cynicism.
It's just a defeated, uninspiring way to look at the world.
I get where it's coming from, but it will get you nowhere in life.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"I try to be cynical. But it's so hard to keep up." - Lilly Tomlin

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Constant settling. Yes. It's true that you can't always get what you want, but so many people just accept sh*tty jobs, partners, homes, etc because "Grow up. Step into the real world. This is just how it is." The expectation of constant instant gratification is immature, but it's perfectly fine to pursue the things you want and have a firm, unchanging standard for what you will and won't accept.

On the flip side, the concept of "going for the gold" is also false maturity. Maturity is realizing that it's ok to just want the bronze. The understanding of settling for less vs. having your own standard for achievement is true maturity.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, you posted part of my daily lunchtime soliloquy on existential crises!

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Wearing makeup.

Girls, you’re in 6th grade. You’ve got your whole life to rock the black winged eyeliner. Now is not the time.

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30 Things Immature People Think Are "Signs Of Maturity" Being stiff and ”mature“. Basically putting yourself above others due to their position in comparison to yourself. That just shows insecurity if anything

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Getting up early

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Being above humour and putting others down for joking around.

When you are a true adult - you can also know how to be a child

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"As we journey through life, shedding baggage along the way, we must keep an iron grip, until the very end, on the capacity for silliness. It preserves the soul from desiccation." - Humphrey Lyttleton

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a beard. mine started to be full with 14 but i was still a fkn kid tho.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yup. I worked with slightly older kids in a previous job and some of them had facial hair by the time they were 12 and 13 years old. OK; genetics are genetics and they’re not a reflection of maturity!

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Independence. It's a low bar and just means you can survive if left alone.

Interdependence is key for societies to work. It means other people can rely on you and more importantly you know when you need to rely on other people.

Edit: People, "living independently" and "independence" in the growth stages of dependence → independence → interdependence are two different things. At the same time interdependence and codependence are different as well.

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Smoking or anything of the sort

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The ability to drink alcohol is falsely seen as a sign of maturity.

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Saying you’re mature for your age is pretty f*****g immature.

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Wealth.

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#54

Having a high position in a hierarchical company

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Literally anything that causes people to say 'you aged before your time'

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Sex

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I dated a guy who first had sex when he was something like 11 or 12, with a 13-year-old girl. So, um, yeah.

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Saying the "right" things. It doesn't mean they're speaking the truth, really believe in it, or practice what they preach.

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Saying complex words

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Indeed, an individual can be mature solely by uttering more complicated phrases.

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Using "adult" language

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ah yes, some people think talking about their "hedgefund portfolio with deductable interest rates" somehow mankes them look like they've beaten the game of life.

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It’s more responsible to choose not to take on a responsibility that you don’t want.

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