“What Fact Are You Just Tired Of Explaining To People?”: 40 Things These People Wish Others Would Finally Understand

This is a HUGE point to debunk those who thought this was a frivolous case for a quick payday. She did not make a profit here, it was just to recover her losses to medical and missed pay due to her injury alone.

Initially she asked for $20,000 and McDonald's refused the settlement. She sued after they turned her very reasonable request down.

Well, at first she only wanted medical bills etc covered, but when McDonald's refused she officially sued and won more

Did she win the lawsuit?

Good on you, though. Most people wouldn't even bother looking into the whole story.

I know what you mean. I only learned about the truth from reading Bored Panda. This story is a good example of how important it is to get all the facts before making a judgment against someone or something.

I fully understand your point but please do not use the word rape in any context other than what it actually is

I recall reading that the jury came up with 2.7 million because that’s what McDonald’s earned in an average day of coffee sales. Just coffee…they still appealed.

Unfortunately many think that anxiety is "just being scared" and that you can switch it off like a tv when there's a horror movie or something. I wish it was true that it could be switched off. People with this disorder have trouble just getting through the day and need medication. It's sad and I can't imagine what it's like - must be really horrible.

I’ve always been confused as to how people do NOT understand this, somehow. I mean, when you meet someone who lives with this it becomes very clear very fast that it sure as HELL isn’t something anyone does on purpose for shìts and giggles, or something they can control - much less just… stop. Dude. If they could “just stop”, I guaran-fυcking-tee you that they would have. Oh yes, they would have. It seems very, very tough to suffer from conditions like this, crippling and painful; to me that makes it rather obvious that will has nothing to do with it. Nor “discipline”. If I hear ONE more happy αsshole bray about “discipline” in relation to anxiety disorders, someone is going to get hurt. They ARE using discipline, dìckwad, most likely discipline you couldn’t even imagine let alone achieve. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t BE here, doing things outside their usually quite small comfort zone. I don’t know, I’m just saying that to me it’s simple logic.

Yeah I know people who tell me “why are you nervous stop” or “come on just be happy”. Just understand I’m trying, ok? Stop.

I have autism and I agree.

It's so hard to understand and empathize for what other people are thinking or feeling. This holds true to a wide range of mental health issues. Unfortunately (or fortunately) the closest we can understand is what a person tells us about how they are thinking and feeling and often we try to put it into context of how we deal with similar situations which is not always helpful since we simply do not think and feel the same way. Learning about the various conditions can be helpful but it is still hard to understand what another is going through and how to help.

Me too Dan, I've had this shxt for over 10 years and if i had a euro for everyone that says "it"s all in yer head" well i fxkin know that! ffs. I stopped drinking, smoking, started eating healthy, took certain meds that made it worse so now i just drink, smoke and eat what i want but it is a daily struggle. I've decided to say fxk it and just try and deal with it and if it's a problem or is going to be a future problem i tell my brain to fxck off and do something i want to do instead. Peace out to all who have this stupid fxcking disease. x

Yep.

Apparently this also applies to debilitating physical illnesses, if your doctor is a useless asshat who decides that it's easier to use your mental health issues against you; rather than actually try to figure out why you suddenly can't walk, have complete peripheral numbness, aside from your bones feeling like they're on fire 24/7, seizures, TIA's, chronic insomnia, etc; must be psychosomatic, couldn't possibly be due to anything else. Sorry for the run on sentence there.

This is true to a point. I was able to control mine with logic and coping skills until a few years ago when my husband died and I witnessed the accident. My anxiety went to a point that was debilitating, constant, and completely unmanageable. I thank a wonderful doctor and good drugs every day for giving me my life back. I do still use logic and when I'm in a good place I can typically "talk myself down" from most random attacks, but without the drugs doing the heavy lifting there's no way I would have the tools needed to do that.

It's great that you have found ways of coping with your anxiety disorder. Different things work for different people, and everyone processes things differently, so I feel like your advice isn't applicable to everyone, but I am glad it has helped you. I think there are many different factors to consider, and we have to be aware that people often have more than one mental health condition at once. One can greatly impact/ exacerbate the other; then if you add physical health conditions into the mix, it gets even more complicated. I don't agree that normalising anxious reactions leads to avoidance of situations; we know that chronic health conditions are not the 'norm', or what is considered 'average', but normalising it is important in many ways, because that is our own personal 'normal'. Does that make sense?

I just keep reminding myself of a line in Star Trek: Nothing Unreal Exists. Sometimes it helps.

Plus the legalization of gay marriage prevents the problem of child custody, inheritance or medical decisions should the partner become sick or die. In most states, if you are not the spouse, everything stated above goes to the next blood relative....even if that blood relative kicked you out of the house because you came out as gay.

If gays marrying diminishes your marriage, then you are already in a truly weird and lousy marriage.

Well said Sonja

But, but, but....the bible says uh... 🙄

What a marriage is has changed over time. For most of the history of Western society there was a single definition as a religious rite like baptism, bar mitzvah, or communion. You didn't have to love each other to get married - just have a priest. Henry VIII started a new religion over because of it. It developed a second definition as a civil contract that does not have to be associated with a religion. In the state of Colorado, if you live together longer than 1 day and both people announce they are married, the state considers you married even if you never fill out the paperwork. There is still overlap where the same ceremony serves both purposes but that's a choice. Many people who have problems with gay marriage still see it just as the old religious rite and a desecration of their faith. Its trying to explain to someone who thinks cavalry involves horses when its now tanks. Both are right from a point of view but the law only needs one to be right.

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Good old Socratic questioning!

Where I live no one cares if you support gay marriages or not. No one will ask you such a question. I live in one of the smallest villages in Germany. We have like around 500 people living here. There is one gay couple and one black man and apart from the fact that this is a „fun fact“ (if you can call it that) life goes on as usual. I love this mentality and can just shake my head about people who get their panties on fire just because other people are living their lives how they see fit.

B-b-but the BIBLE says- /s

That didn't happen.

Hear, hear.

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Ummm no it is not. Marriage was, always has been and always should be a covenant between two people and God. Now don't get me wrong, i do not judge people that are in a same sex marriage. As a Christian my job is to love everyone unconditionally and not judge anyone, however due to my religious beliefs i do not agree with it but my religious beliefs also command me to love and accept, not judge.

Agree. I'm from denmark over 40 and had a father - equal to my mother - parenthing me my hole childhood. It is more normal in nordic countries. Men ARE parents.

46 year old woman here, and I agree with this! It doesn't help that some men perpetuate this on themselves. I work retail and have tons of nieces(and brother in laws)and the things certain men and women say about childcare in general(I'm in the US) are not acceptable. I'm going to guess that this is patterned behavior, passed down to certain people from their parents, or elders. I would never say that to anyone, men are parents too!

Yep, I'm over 40 and no-one of my generation I know would dare say that